God gave us two ears and one mouth
so we could listen twice and speak once.

Hello Sunshine!
My name's Jamie..call me what you prefer.
I'm not here to judge, just to help people with their problems.
I love helping people out, it's one of the most satisfying feelings.
When you rate me, I'd prefer if you put a reasoning behind the rating, just so I know how I'm doing/how I can improve.

Feel free to leave me questions!

>> PS. If you plan on asking me a question, please, type grammatically correct and put punctuation marks where necessary...instead of like this: "muh boyfran lefff meh nD eye dunno waddado. halp?" (haha okay maybe that's a little exaggerated.. but you get my point!)


How can I whiten my teeth?
I know the dentist deal, and all that.
But I mean, different ways, products you can buy.
Things such as that.
Thanks in advance.

I actually just started using the Crest Whitening Strips and they've gotten about a shade whiter in a little more than a week. By using these, brushing regularly, & avoiding teeth-staining foods/beverages, you'll notice a difference in about 5 days. :)


For love we use the symbol a heart usually. For peace its the peace sign. What would be a symbol for trust, loyalty, faithful or honest. Websites help too.

-For LOYALTY, a picture of people giving each other a handshake.
-For LOYALTY, a dog may be a symbol of loyalty.
-For FAITHFUL/HONEST, I would say a handshake as well.

I'm not sure if I answered your question correctly, but I hope this helps anyways. :)


I'm 13, & I'm rather short for my age.

I've had my period already, but I don't seem to be getting any taller.

Just because you've had your period already does not necessarily mean you've stopped growing altogether. You usually stop growing about 2 years after you get your first period, but it varies. Everybody's different! You can stop growing at 13, or as old as 18-19.


saturday night i messed around with a few guys at a party while i was drunk. i made out with 3, like pretty hardcore, cuz when im drunk get really aggressive haha. then there was one guy who i gave a hand job to and he fingered me, and i think i started to give him a bj, but then decided not to. but even if i did, i know i didnt swallow anything. but i really am thinking i didnt at all..haha.

anyways, now my throat is hurting really bad and is dry and hurts to swallow, and i've been having a pretty bad headache and im a little hot. could this possibly be mono? or just a simple cold i caught from one of the guys? its also possible its just a little bug, since some of my friends are feeling sick too..but idk. thanks =]

Here are the symptoms of mono. If you have most/all of these symptoms, I'd definitely recommend going to the doctor as soon as possible.

* a sore throat
* a high fever
* enlarged lymph nodes or glands in the neck, armpit, or groin
* not feeling well and feeling tired
* anorexia (loss of appetite)
* muscle aches
* a rash, especially if your child was taking antibiotics, like ampicillin or amoxicillin
* a headache
* nausea
* abdominal pain

I hope you feel better :)


15/ f my boyfriend is my best friend and we are in love. i know that i am going to get him something like a cd that he really wants and sum other things but wanna do something special for him. any ideas??

Well, how long have you two been dating for?
-You could make him a scrapbook with a bunch of cute little pictures and sayings next to them, such as "You're the cheese to my macaroni" or something cute/corny like that.
-Go to YourNovel.com; it has 25 books that you can put him into where you can star in your own personalized novel. How cute!
-Bake him his favorite kind of cookies/cake/brownies in the shape of a heart. Boys always love baked goods. :]

Hope this helps!


my boyfriend lives a state away from me and i would like to send him flowers (corny i know) :) umm but exactly how would i do this from my state and i dont want it too cost too much either.

There's plenty of websites to choose from!

For example, I found this one, and all of these are $35 or less:


Im trying to loose weight so Im cutting soda and energy drinks out of my diet. Im usually really tired at work and have an energy drink to wake up, are there any other foods or anything i can have before work to get some energy?

I've heard apples are packed with energy.
Peanut butter is as well. So put some PB on an apple! Not only is this healthy, but it's a surefire way to get energy :)

A lot of people drink Green Tea for energy. Although I haven't used it personally, it might just do your body wonders!


I am 15 years old and i was wondering if there were ANY jobs for a 15 year old!!!! I can't find any, and i really want a job. Anything?????

It'd probably help if you said what state you lived in, because some state's rules differ from others..but i'll try to help you as best I can. :)

I want to tell you that at your age, you shouldn't expect too much when finding a job. Do NOT turn down ANY jobs. Fast food restaurants are great - YES they are "real" jobs. In fact, Mcdonald's gives professional training that can really benefit you. Gain the experience, learn from it, put it down on your resume. =) And grow from there my friend. Apply EVERYWHERE. If they're not interested, they won't give you a call. That's just it. If they are, and ask for an interview, do not keep addressing that you're 15. They're not allowed to ask you for your age anyways =)

I guess I can also suggest babysitting, but when I was 15, I know I wanted a "real" job, and not just babysitting, or yard work, or asking Mom and Dad to do chores around the house...& i'm sure you're the same way...or you wouldn't be asking this question lol. ;)

^For information about work permits, hours a minor can work, total number of hours each week, etc


How do you know your in love?

"You know you're in love when you don't want to sleep because reality is better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss.

Well, just like your title says, this definitely is on the top list of "hardest questions to answer." There is definitely not an easy way to find the truth behind your feelings.. it's such an intense emotion, and many people get "love" mixed up with "lust."

Well... if you can answer 'YES' to 7 out of 9 of these tell-tale signs, there's a good chance you're in love..
1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

You can also take this quiz: http://teenadvice.about.com/library/teenquiz/14/blisitlovequiz.htm

Hope i helped.


Is there any medication, gel/pills, I can take (preferrably gel) that i can use to take away scars. I don't want any laser treatment for that is ridiculously expensive!

Well, there's no way to completely remove scars. You can only minimize the appearance of it.

When I had to get stitches, my dermatologist told me to rub Vitamin E on the scar every day...it definitely minimized the appearance of it.

I also found home remedies, such as:
* A mixture of sandalwood paste and black gram paste helps reduce the intensity of scars if started early. This is effective Home Remedy for Scars
* Rubbing your skin with ice cubes helps to tighten the skin.

* You can use cucumber and lemon juice on your scars. This is another good Home Remedy for Scars

* Vitamin E oil when applied on the scarred skin may do wonders for your skin.

* To prevent deepening of the scars, apply aloe vera gel, cod liver oil or vitamin E oil.

* Applying cocoa butter is also a good remedy in getting rid of the scars. This is also effective Home Remedy for Scars

on this website: http://www.articlealley.com/article_200488_23.html

(Notice they also tell you to use Vitamin E.)

*** I've heard Mederma works well, but I've never tried it.


What is scene? I know what "scene hair" is, and I even know how to get scene hair, but what does the word "scene" actually refer to? I've even heard people referring to themselves as a "scene kid" as well.

I know what preppy, goth, and punk mean so what does scene mean? Does scene have an entire wardrobe style like the above mentioned or is it just the hair?

I got this from


So if you want more perspectives, click that lol.
I think this is a fairly good definition. (I didn't write it.)

The term "Scene" usually deals with Hardcore/Fashioncore kids. Guys and Girls who are usually (almost ALWAYS) Egotistic, Self-Centered, Narcissistic. Loves taking pictures of themselves. The pictures usually consist of the scene he/she throwing a peace sign and making a sassy facial expression. The scene he/she with big glasses. The scene he/she with their hand almost covering their mouth and the eyes to the side as if they were saying "uh oh". Finally, the scene he/she with his or her crew. Many pictures are photoshopped to make them look as "Sex" as can be. They spend hours on their myspace making it look as trendy as possible. Talk to people they will never meet for hours on end. A simple scene kid to scene kid conversation is shown below. These kids are cocky. They will tell you they think they're ugly and show you the 1,000 pictures proving it. They are better then you according to them. They love to "bring the hang out" with all of their scene friends. Many will call themselves straight edge yet share nude pictures and drink because "they are sad". Scene kids make fun of others who aren't like them. Many scene kids think they are non-conformist, although you take a look through myspace and you'll see a million others just like them. They quote movie lines over and over showing the lack of originality they actually have. They LOVE using slang and talking like a "thug". Scene kids also love to write notes to others and take pictures of themselves with the note in hand. The Vegan scenesters are usually vegans because it's "cool" not because they have a love for animals. They love throwing their sassy ass into the pit and giving everyone a taste of their hardcore dance. I've seen many kids at shows watch the "Hardcore pit" and not the band. I could honestly go on for a while but I'm sick of thinking about it.


i'm looking for a new phone. which is better? any reviews?
my only worry about the blackjack is that the keys are smal. yet, the blackberry has 2 letters assigned to each key.

I'd personally go with the blackjack. The blackberry is too basic in my opinion. I found the blackjack much more appealing because of increased multimedia capabilities. Also, that whole half qwerty that blackberry pearl has isn't so great in my eyes. I do not believe the pearl is 3g compatible either. On the other hand, the blackjack does have a bit of a battery "problem". Although this can be avoided in several ways such as using the bigger extended battery or just turning off 3g when you don't need it. If it were up to me, I'd definitely go with the blackjack over the blackberry pearl. They do not really compare. My friend has the blackjack, and she swears by it.


Hi I want to know some new styles. I always blow Dry or straighten my hair. I do not like putting it in a ponytail unless I have a gwen stefani bump or something to make it look less boring. What else can i do to my hair I hate having the same style. I do not have a curling iron and my hair is naturally frizzy and a little wavy (not in a nice way) also if you have any pointers on how to get the bump like perfect cause I struggle with it often. Thnx

1.] Scrunching is always a possibility!
I use Aussie Sprunch Spray instead of the gel/mousse. It works wonders. =)
-As for styling the scrunched hair...you can put it:
* up in a pony-tail [with a bump, if you prefer]
* half up, half down
* all down
* pig tails
-For a how-to, click this: http://www.wikihow.com/Scrunch-Hair

2.] Straightening with a flat iron (if you prefer using just a blow drier, then that's your preference. However, I like to use a flat iron because mine makes my hair soft and shiny)
-As for styling the STRAIGHT hair,
* half up half down
* all the way down [as you do it]
* pig tails

3.] You can always just put your hair in a messy bun, or even braid it.

4.] As for the "Gwen Stefani bump" help, click this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OlNmiLjOaGI


see i need a new outlook on life so can anyone give me their ides or values on life?

Well, I don't know what your outlook on life before was, but I'm assuming it was negative. You can't think that way!

I look at it this way: Life is beautiful. Sure, it has its downs, but just think of all the positives. You only live once, and it's a short life, so you have to know that every day needs to be live to its fullest!

I'm sure this sounds SO cliche, but it's very true, and I hope this helps you. :)


Hi! I'm 13/F and i am very avtive. I play basketball, cheerleading, softball, and tennis. I also ride horses.. I strongly believe in being a virgin when I get married.. But that isn't the question here!!! :-) Will being active and riding horses pop my cherry or stretch my hymen or something? Cause I want my husband to believe me when I tell him I'm a virgin... Also, what exactly is masturbation and how and why do people do it? Thanks!!!

So your "cherry" question was answered by the columnist below me, so I'll just tell you about masturbation.

It's basically when people "pleasure" themselves by rubbing their genitals or any other touch-sensitive areas. People do it because they think it feels good. (For more information go to: http://www.livestrong.com/article/12461-masturbation/ ---OR--- www.coolnurse.com)



what phones do you recommend from verizon?

DEFINITELY the env2, I just purchased it last month, and I love it. It's so stable, (I'm very rough on phones, so it doesn't seem like it'll break easily), the front buttons are nice and big, and the keyboard is beautiful. I love everything about this phone, except for 2 minor things (I.E. the external screen is small, but the large internal screen tooootally makes up for it).

There are other phones that I heard are wonderful, such as the Alias. This also has a keyboard, but it's a lot smaller and more difficult to type on than the env2's.

I disagree with the Advicenator below me; I do NOT suggest the Glyde, I've heard the touch screen is horrible.

Other than that.. if you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer! :)


OK so im a 13/f. Im about 5'6. Im a soccer player and im really active. And i weigh about 158 pound. And i wear like a size 13 in jeans. Well people say i look about 120 and people think i wear a size like 6 or 7 jeans. And i mean i dont look fat or anything. but i do weigh alot. and its because my legs are huge. And there only alittle fat. and i havent lost my babyfta on my tummy area. What can i do to get ride of it fast.

P.S. I also have a big butt and umm a full chest i guess you could say. So not all my weigh is like fat. Thank ya!

I have the same problem, actually.

I've been searching for Youtube videos that help me tone up (FOR WHAT TONING UP MEANS, CLICK HERE: http://exercise.about.com/cs/weightloss/a/toning.htm) my legs. It doesn't make your legs smaller than their original shape, but it certainly makes them look a lot better. I finally came across this video, and after doing it a month, I've noticed much improvement. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnYYqmoRI9k&feature=related
^ This should tighten up the skin on your legs.

Pilates does wonders for your body.. so I'm sure you can find a pilates video for your abs as well =)

Good luck!


Hey thanks so much for reading this. well as everyone knows school is coming up. and my straightner is MY life. ive had a CHI before.
i loved it but it died out so fast, i was like what the heck!!. so i really need a to buy one before thursday. i have very stubborn wavy hair [like a little longer than shoulder lenght]. and it frizzes real fast. can someone PLEASE tell me a real good straightner that would be good for my hair. thats around $40-50.
please.!! i would SOOO greatly appreciate it.
thanks soo much

I use the Corioliss, and it's just like the Chi, only I find it better :)

I don't know if you use E-Bay, but that's where I
found my Corioliss for $40.

good luck!


15/f does anyone have the env2 phone and how do you like it? does the camera work okay, not having a flash? also - i havn't seen the phone in person, only online, which color looks better in person; the maroon or black? thank you!

I have the env2.. and I absolutely adore it. The camera does work very well when you're in lighted areas, but if not, then the camera obviously doesn't work so well.

I have the phone in maroon, and my sister has the black, and personally.. I like the maroon. The black is just..blah, and the maroon gives it a little flair =)

The keyboard is by far my favorite part of the whole phone. I have fat fingers and, usually, I have difficulties typing on the keyboards on phones, but this one is easy, EVEN FOR ME! to type on. :)

I would DEFINITELY recommend this cell to anyone, it's amazing. :)


what are the best good saying to say to people when you let them know not to worry or when they having a bad or maybe sad day.

Don't worry, Be Happy!

Or just tell them that you're there for them, and always will be, etc.


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