God gave us two ears and one mouth
so we could listen twice and speak once.

Hello Sunshine!
My name's Jamie..call me what you prefer.
I'm not here to judge, just to help people with their problems.
I love helping people out, it's one of the most satisfying feelings.
When you rate me, I'd prefer if you put a reasoning behind the rating, just so I know how I'm doing/how I can improve.

Feel free to leave me questions!

>> PS. If you plan on asking me a question, please, type grammatically correct and put punctuation marks where necessary...instead of like this: "muh boyfran lefff meh nD eye dunno waddado. halp?" (haha okay maybe that's a little exaggerated.. but you get my point!)


15/ f my boyfriend is my best friend and we are in love. i know that i am going to get him something like a cd that he really wants and sum other things but wanna do something special for him. any ideas??

Well, how long have you two been dating for?
-You could make him a scrapbook with a bunch of cute little pictures and sayings next to them, such as "You're the cheese to my macaroni" or something cute/corny like that.
-Go to YourNovel.com; it has 25 books that you can put him into where you can star in your own personalized novel. How cute!
-Bake him his favorite kind of cookies/cake/brownies in the shape of a heart. Boys always love baked goods. :]

Hope this helps!


my boyfriend lives a state away from me and i would like to send him flowers (corny i know) :) umm but exactly how would i do this from my state and i dont want it too cost too much either.

There's plenty of websites to choose from!

For example, I found this one, and all of these are $35 or less:


How do you know your in love?

"You know you're in love when you don't want to sleep because reality is better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss.

Well, just like your title says, this definitely is on the top list of "hardest questions to answer." There is definitely not an easy way to find the truth behind your feelings.. it's such an intense emotion, and many people get "love" mixed up with "lust."

Well... if you can answer 'YES' to 7 out of 9 of these tell-tale signs, there's a good chance you're in love..
1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

You can also take this quiz: http://teenadvice.about.com/library/teenquiz/14/blisitlovequiz.htm

Hope i helped.


My boyfriend said he likes girls who get physically aggressive about the little things...how do you interpret that? I know he wasn't talking about anything directly sex-related.

Hmm .. that's a good question. The best answer I could come up with is that the aggressiveness may show that the girl is "strong".

Or, it's also possible that he might just think it's cute. :)

Sorry if this doesn't help..it's the best I've got! lol


I'm 14 years old and a girl and i'm having so much trouble deciding whether or not i should tell this guy that i like him. i'm very afraid of rejection and even though i dont like to admit i know that i will care what people think about him and I being together. What should I do?

I've caught myself in the same situation.

What I would do is hang out with him more. Get to know each other a lot, flirt with him CONSTANTLY. Sometimes that's easier than bluntly telling him that you like him. If you catch him flirting with you too, that's when I'd tell him that you like him. ..especially because you're afraid of rejection.

hope this helps, good luck.


okay so i'm 16 and i have never been on a date or even kissed a guy for that matter. it makes me kinda sad because there are freshman who have already had like 3 boyfriends in one year. and i know i shouldn't compare myself to them but it makes me feel like there more mature when i know that there not.
anyways! is this weird that i haven't done anything and i'm already 16?

Nope! That's not weird at all! In fact, I knwo someone who's 17 and has not ever kissed anyone. Be patient- it'll happen when the time's right :)


ive only kissed somone with my mouth open probally like twice and it wasnt even for long.
i liek this boy and if i makout with him i KNOW ill be nervous expacally because he has hooked up with sooo many girls. can someone give me some good tecniques i wanna make it memorable and i want him to just want more and something we wont forget for a while type of kiss.
advice please !

Just stay calm! The best kind of kisses are the ones that come naturally, so just don't worry and enjoy it! Follow his lead, and i'm sure you'll get the hang of it. :)


I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. Our 1 year is in October... anyway earlier in the relationship my boyfriend did some really messed up things that I almost broke up with him over. I still have thoughts about the things he did that really bothered me. None the less I forgave him for all the stuff that he did even though i feel like i let him off the hook way to easy. Recently I have been hanging out with this guy and he is really amazing. He knows how to treat a girl.. he's like the definition of a perfect boyfriend. Anyway he now knows that I like him and he likes me to. If i want to be with him I have to break up with my boyfriend. The problem is of course my boyfriend and I have been dating for a while and I still love him but it's like ever since I met this guy all I can do is think about him and how great he is. I want to break up with my boyfriend to be with him but at the same time a don't. I really don't want to hurt my boyfriend but it's like I want someone new like I'm sick of him. It's going to be so hard for my boyfriend because I know he loves me and cares about me a lot that's why I don't want to break up with him because I don't want to find out that I messed up our relationship and moved on to this new guy when it wont work. I know that i will get over it but I see him in school everyday so it's kind of hard. What do you think I should do?

I would definitely look at the pro's/con's of the previous answer.

What I honestly would do if I were in your shoes though?
BREAK UP WITH YOUR CURRENT BOYFRIEND. I know, he'll probably hurt in the beginning, but personally, if my significant other was seeing someone else while they were WITH me, I'd probably be more hurt than if they broke up with me and then went out with that person [that they were seeing]. This way here, you don't have to lie, or feel guilty.


school starts in two days and open house was today and i saw this guy and he is new. my dads the principle and his dad is accually the son of one of the teachers(hes new too)i accually would have his dad as a teacher but i was put in advanced classes. well anyway i saw him before that day cause his dad also coaches the boys soccer team and he plays and i play volleyball and he went through the gym during are practice.its really cool cause hes adopted and so am i. i think hes hawaiian!but hes really cute and he seems like a nice guy-not like the guys that think there the stuff or anything like that. im not shy but when it comes to boys i kinda get a lil shy.im not sure if i should make it known that i like him before school cause im afraid of how he will take it cause i really dont know him at all and he doesnt know me ethier.should i wait to get to know a lil more about him. i meen im afraid that girls will be all over him when school starts cause we have more girls then boys so cute guys are scarce.im afraid he will find someone he likes and i wont even have a chance!i just want to go with a new guy that doesnt know anything about me so i can kinda start over.thanx to anyone who answeres!!

Get to know him first. You said you JUST met him.
Ask him for his phone number, give him yours, etc. Or, if the phone isn't for you, give him your screen name, or MySpace URL. Then, ask him questions, and have him ask you questions. :)


My best guy mate is called phil. He's really nice and sweet and i know he would never hurt anyone on purpose. But over the past couple of weeks he's been acting weirdly with me. For example, if we're talking on msn and he has to go, he used to just say g2g cya xx then go offline before i even reply. But now he doesn't go offline untill i answer and he says g2g cya with loads and loads of kisses and sometimes with a heart and allways with a sad smiley face.
We made up this joke a couple of weeks ago, like we would call each my lovly or something, and now he starts calling me babe and baby and everything.
He told me he likes someone and apprantly everyone knows. But, i wanted to know why he wouldn't tell me, we tell each other everything, and i mean everything, everyone was saying it's me but i kept saying we're only friends. Well, i finally got it out of him and he said ''well, i'm not sure yet but it might be storme [this other girl at my school], but i'm not sure yet'' and i asked him why he wouldn't tell me before and he said i didn't want to :(.

Arghh it's pissing me off! Does he like me or is he messing around with me?!


Honestly? .. I think he likes you.

If he's typing loads and loads of kisses to you, calling you 'babe' or 'baby', he's obviously trying to tell you something.

If he wouldn't tell you at first (that he likes you), then clearly he was trying to keep it a secret from you at first. Like you said, you guys tell eachother everything..so wouldn't he tell you? Maybe he was embarassed. And he said he likes Storme, ..but come on now!


Let me know how everything works out.
Inbox me if you need anymore help.


Ok so, im going out with this guy right? Ive realized that i basically cant stand him anymore!I mean sure, he's sweet,nice,and there for me but i dont know, its getting old. I have another guy in mind who i really like, and i cant get off of my mind! but...this guy is mad at me right now for going out with this guy in the first place...anyway i can convince him to not be mad? and if so, how am i supposed to break up with this guy as well?HELP!!

If you don't like him any more, then break it off with him. There's no point in leading him on; you're going to break his heart eventually. While breaking up with him, make sure you include the fact that he is a smart, sweet, and nice. Just tell him the truth. Preferably, you should say "I'm really sorry [name], I can't lead you on any more. I like this other kid. It's really not something that I want you to be upset about, I didn't want to hurt you. I still really want to be friends with you... You were a great boyfriend"-etc., etc. Obviously you don't have to write that word for word, but I'd include the details in it.

If you need any more help, feel free to Inbox


well this happened a long time ago, but it suddenly came to my mind the other night.

i was in school and the teacher was doing some stuff, and so everybody was talking to their friends. well i wasn't and i was just in my desk when the group of popular guys came to my desk and so they started chatting amongst themselves. then when some of the guys went to their seat, it was just Mark (the popular guy) and his 2 buddies. well all of a sudden Mark says to me "what's up?" and nodds at me. (nodd is when he takes his head and kind lifts it up in the sky and then brings his head back down)

well you're probably wondering what my quesiton is.. well my quesiton is what was i supposed to say in return??? he's popular and well... i'm not. I'm not saying that i'm in the nerdy crowd, i'm more in the middle of popular.

I think i said something like "good." and then i looked away.

well yeah what was i supposed to say? i get really shy around guys, so how do i get more comfortable around them? oh and was he flirting with me?? i highly doubt it but i just wanna make sure.

thanks to those who answer!!

I agree with the columnist under me; he was probably just trying to start up a conversation.

(It talks about GUYS getting nervous. Just think of YOU getting nervous. - It should help.)


how do i show my boyfriend that i really care about him, like if we're talking what can i do or say that lets him know that he means alot to me?

We can show this through our actions. Lending a ear when they wish to speak, a shoulder to cry on, offering them assistance when you see that they need help, hold them close, cook something special, lots of affirmation by smiling at them to show them your approval when they do something nice for you.

Bake him cookies (or his favorite food) every now & then. All guys love food!



well im a 16/f and i im indian which means im not allowed to date. but i decided to get a boyfriend and i've been dating this guy for like a little over a month. and im not sure if i should tell my parents because my mom always says they'll find out eventually the things i do. so yah should i tell them?

Personally, I'd tell the parent you're closest to first. Yes, parents do usually find out the things you don't want them to. While dating this guy, did you feel like, while around your parents, that you were hiding something? I know this feeling, and it's not a good one. Muster up the confidence that you have, & tell them, before they find out themselves.

Best wishes! :)


theres two girls i realy like one cant have a boyfreind till shes sixteen but the other one can but i dont dont know who to go out with because there both best Freinds so i dont know what to do?i like them both alot...

Stay single. If you did end up going out with one of them, you'll start thinking about the other one, which will create conflicts, and you'll get heartbroken. This way, you can flirt with both of them & not have to worry about cheating on the other girl. :)


heeyy! i reallyyyy need to know how to say "i want you" or better yet "no one will ever want you like i do" in spanish! can anyone help me! /cause babelfish messes it up/ thx"

so basically, to sum it up:
how do you say "baby, no one else can ever want you like i do" in CORRECT spanish?

el bebé, ninguno otro puede desearte siempre como

I used Google Translate. If you need to translate anything else, feel free to use that. :)


I am 14 and i have never had a Boyfriend or my first kiss!!! i want one so bad, but no one likes me!!!

You have PLENTY of time. Don't rush these things!


if my boyfriend tries to put his arm around me at the movies, how do i react? do i put my arm around his shoulder or do i just sit there or do i look at him? ahhh, im so scared.

Don't be scared!

You simply put your head on his shoulder. :)


Could someone PLEASE tell me what a douche is? (What is does, how you use it, everything) and what does 'THO' mean?

...Everything is explained on that site.

"Titty hard-on"-having hard or pointy nipples that can be seen through clothing


Lemme hear all the ideas u have =)

Yes he likes me but how do I make him jealous??

Hang out with other guys, and pretend you're not really interested in him [not so much that you leave him in the dust..]
...But I wouldn't really suggest this.


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