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Am I too mature?
So I've always been really mature for my age, and sometimes I feel like I'm one of the only people in my school who actually is mature. But now it's really starting to get to me. I mean, I'm sitting there in English class trying to get work done while all of the obnoxious people in my class are yelling and talking about how drunk or high they were last weekend and I just get so angry! I want to turn around and scream "shut the hell up" to them but I know this will just make matters worse and I'd probably just get picked on or something.
Also, when i was in middle school, I was really excited to go to high school to get a nice, unannoying boyfriend, but in fact, all of the guys seem to go after all of the ditzy, slutty, obnoxious girls that crave attention in high school. Well, I always used to think that in high school, people would be more mature, but in reality, they are just as obnoxious. I sometimes think that things are going to be so much better when I'm in college, but I really dont know, college could actually turn out with even more immature people who are even more obssesed with getting drunk.
So, my question is, will I, a person whose felt like she was too old for her age, fit in more in college? Or am I just too mature and serious, and I'll have to be less responsible and less mature to ever really fit in? I know this is really long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it.
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Maybe you just have to loosen up and be less uptight.
I can tell from your writings that you have a big idea for yourself. You reminded us at 72 times how mature and serious you are.
Whats wrong with people that have fun? People that act stupid? Girls that like to giggle and dance? People who get drunk.
My personal opinion is, that it is all in your mind and people will not change unless you change first. Too old for your age...you are no better than your school mates. You are not more experienced and your soul hasn t been scared through your experiences more than your school mates. Everybody has been through shit. Everybody is a bit of a closet freak (learned this expresion from Advicenators).
There is nothing wrong with people who type ,u r, u should b @ home, lol, roflmaozzzz, hahahahahah
Life is not about waiting for the rain to pass.Its about getting out there and dancing.
Dont be a schnob, try dancing to a type of music you dont like listening to, I pretty much do it all the time since I have way different taste in music than all my friends.
There is no reason for you to be making enemies in this world. All people have soul and are willing to offer you a beautifull part of themselves to you. I am trying to say that you should not consider other people immature or stupid. Personally the most mature people I have ever met happen to act in the most immature way in their daily activities. Just coz someone is willing to do crazy stuff between his daily activities for no aparent reason but make himself and other people laugh does not mean he cannot face heavy situations. On the contruary, it is a great strength to make fun out of all the situations in your life including the shittiest ones. You dont have to change yourself, just your perception. Make all people your friends. Popular, unpopular, shy or not, trade parts of yourself with them.
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I have nothing brilliant to add. Everyone else has said it all.
I just want to say good for you for being mature and responsible enough to actually care about your future. Those others in class? They are out for a fun time right now, and not so much out for succeeding in life later. Don't change- you are on the right track.
Don't worry about that boyfriend. Have patience. The guy for you doesn't lie in the group of obnoxious guys you speak of. The guy for you will enter your life at the right moment, if you are willing to be patient.
If your college ends up being chalk full of immature people, then keep in mind why you are there, unlike them.
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just because your much more mutrue then the others around you doesn't mean you need to stoop to their level just to fit in. and really if you find that most if not all of the guys in your school are too imature then your looking in the wrong place. try joining a few good clubs thats your intrested in( like for me it would be cooking class) and you might meet people more like you and mature. and don't every stoop to being one of those girl, your to good for that. and if your worryed about fiting in at collage, don't worry it about it, don't pay attention to them, you need to be the better person and don't go off on them. and if you feel like your not fitting in then suround your self with people you do fit in with, ok.
so thats my advice to you
your well come
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Whoa there slow down. Don't ever change yourself for anybody by being less mature. It really depends on what college you go to. You have to visit and get a feel for the environment.
If it seems like they will drink and get high and just do as they please, then it might not be the best choice for you. There are plenty of great colleges that have a more studious, and work-friendly environment - do some research and visit for yourself whenever you get the chance.
Stay mature as you are and don't ever lower yourself to fit in. Also, nobody says you have to have a boyfriend right away either. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet other people and spend time with friends. I would concentrate more on making good friends, because from that you can try to build relationships. Don't give into the misconception that older guys = more mature. In some cases yeah, but not always. If you block out or stop giving anybody your age a chance, then that isn't fun and it isn't very mature of you to do in the first place either. Good things come to those who wait, so don't rush with things either. You'll always find people to be friends with and associate with at college - its a pretty big place. Hope that helped and good luck.
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i can relate to your situation. to start, i have alot of respect for myself, more then anyone in my school. people start to call me prude and stupid names like that but honestly i can care less. i have never smoked before or gotten drunk and im 16. to me, all the outcomes and possiblities of what can happen, is NO WHERE near fun. i get the same feeling when i hear someone saying how " high " they were or how " fxcked uhp " they got over the weekend. theres no point really ? what fun do they get out of it ? we are very mature and we can thank every outcome of sitautions like that. we learned from other peoples` mistakes and thats why have the knowledge we have. just dont EVER think for a second that you need to be doing what everyone else is doing. im sure sooner or later you will meet someone just like you. so you are no where " too " mature or serious. there are other people like you and your not alot. it`ll just take time to find someone as special as you and who sees views like you. keep your head up!
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