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the name is lindsay, but call me lu. i'm crazy, calm, happy, optimistic and spoiled. i've got my best friends. yes i've made mistakes but who hasn't. i've gained some of the most amazing people but also lost a few great ones. the past is the past, i'm over it. the future scares me but i'm ready. i am very independent, i need my space. my family is definately one of my number one priorities, they never let me down and always work hard to make me happy. i look up to my brother shane, he is one of my best friends. i try my hardest not to judge others. i refuse to settle for less. i finally figured out who i really am and ive never ever been happier. i want to become successful, and someday i know i will. i'm the blonde one, thats me :) probably the biggest sweetheart, and one of the most understanding people you'll ever meet. just don't piss me off. i make the best out of every situation. i don't trust easily but i'm a strong ass girl. smiling is something i'm good at. i never give up. i keep my chin up. i stand up for myself and don't let people walk all over me. i don't get mad, i get even. i believe in myself, and in who i am. i live life to the fullest which also means taking risks and chances. i probably don't care what you think, because right now i've got everyone i need. being in love is one of the greatest things i've ever experienced. everything is meant to happen for a reason. live life with no regrets and have fun. change is something thats necessary, even though it's not always good. get to know me, i promise you won't regret it. i live my life for myself and not others. i love the life i was given, and i'll never stop being me.

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My boyfriend loves sex! I do to, don't get me wrong, but it's hard to enjoy it when it's so painful, and sadly my boyfriend loves the painful stuff. We did anal one time and I was practically screaming in pain and crying the moment it started. Not once, even when I was crying and trying to hold in the screams of pain did he stop or ask if I was alright. After that he promised he wouldn't put me through that again, but we've done it twice since then and it was the same everytime.
Then there's the "Blowjob"... I throw up every time. After he's finished I run to the bathroom to throw up what he's done to me, and he just watches me throw up from the bedroom like he's watching tv and my pain is nothing to him. I love him so so much but I don't want to have to be in pain to please him.

I've had a similar situation when it comes to pain during sex ...

Just recently when my boyfriend and I would have sex it would be so painful. I would try to hold it back just to please him. The last time we did it though I started crying because the pain was so bad. My boyfriend immediately stopped and said 'I can't do it anymore, hearing you cry kills me, I'm not having sex w/you again until we can figure out why you're having pain'

That's what a good boyfriend would say. Now, I'm not saying your boyfriend isn't necessarily good because I don't know him, but this does concern me. If he loved you and cared, I believe he would stop instantly and try to comfort you after the pain you've went through.

Also, how come you're throwing up after giving a blow job? Are you letting him cum in your mouth? If you are, YOU DON'T NEED TO!! Don't let a man force you to do anything. I don't know if he is forcing you to do something, but it's not healthy at all if he is. Put yourself first, I've been in your situation. Have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him how you're feeling. If he still doesn't care and still wants to have sex and wants you to give him BJ's ... there's a red flag right there ...

Think about what I've said. If you need anything else just inbox me! Remember, you come first.


So, me and my boyfriend are deciding to take it to the next step. and we were talking about fingering and handjob but the thing is i get really wet when we do stuff and i feel like he will be grossed out how to i stop myslef from getting really wet or aviding it when it comes to the moment.

I felt the same way before. But, when the time came I couldn't do anything and I wanted to see what his reaction would be. He kept saying 'your so wet' which got me a little embarrassed but then after he told me it actually turns him on because it makes him feel like he's doing a good job. Guys love it, trust me ! :)


Okay well let me start off to say im 16 years old and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years after I broke up with a guy after a year relationship. The guy he was and usually what I go after is I guess like a jock you can say, but they always end up being a asshole. However, that's the kind of guys my dad like to see me with too. One whose out going, athletic, and all of that kind of traits. I been told that I'm really pretty not trying to sound concieted, but this goes on with my story. Anyhow there's this guy I went out with a few times. His totally not what I'm use too what so ever his more like the nerdy side I guess you can say. He met my parents today and of course I can tell my dad didn't like him so much. I have fun when I'm with him though and maybe being different is a good thing, but at the same time I feel like I can do better. I don't want to lead this kid on though thinking he has a chance which I don't even know if he might. It's kind of like the movie she's out of my league and that's what I keep telling myself. Maybe I should give him a chance, or what?

Let me give you an insight on this.

I'm now 21. I've always dated the jocks too, mostly the hockey players. I've dated college hockey player and even been together with a few pro hockey players. The thing is, they were assholes like you said. I would always be worried if they were cheating on me and wondered if they really liked me or were in it for other reasons. But, I kept going for them because that's my type.

Well this summer, some guys that is NOT my type came along. I wouldn't say he's a nerd, but he's more of a country boy. Right away I thought, definitely not for me. How can we possibly be together when he's not my type and we don't have much in common? Well, little did I know he was the guy that every girl dreams of; everything I've ever wanted in a guy. At first, I was still hesitant but then I knew he was what I deserved. We've been together for 6 months now and I'm honestly the happiest I've ever been. You may be worried what other people think of you because you may be dating a 'nerd' but all that matters is how YOU feel. With that being said, I'd say you should give him a chance. He could be your prince charming.


Hey...I need a way to be able to make my boobs bigger..I don't want them just to LOOK bigger I want them to BE bigger. I'm tired of seeing all the other girls with B or C cups and I'm still in A. I mean yeah I guess they are pretty "big" now because my boyfriend seen mine and I guess he told his friend he thought I stuffed before he seen them. But anyways..any advice? Thanks!( :

I don't believe there is a way without plastic surgery. But I would like to share with you my story :) Hopefully it makes you feel better.

I've always had small breasts. I'm 21 and I can fit into an A or B cup. I've always been self-conscious. I wouldn't want any guy to see me naked because I thought my breasts were so small. Well now I found a guy who loves me for me and EVERYTHING about me. He loves my boobs! I always say 'ugh there so small!' and he says no there perfect. Not all guys are going to care if you have small breasts or big breasts. If a guy really cares that you have small boobs, think about it, is he really in it for the right reasons? I really never thought anything about it in middle school or high school but now that I'm 21, things change. Find a guy that loves everything about you. There are guys like that out there! :-)


Hey(: im 14/f 8th grade. Well for some reason I like boys younger then me and all shorter. I don;t know why. I kinda feel stalkerish or like its wrong but every boy i have dated except for one has been younger than me and shorter. Also today in my class there where these six graders int there for some reason and one was really cute! like attractive, and I just feel odd about liking someone that young. Even with this litle fifth grade boy who is like my best friend rhianons little brother is cute but you know just little boy cute, but people make fun of me saying aww Jenna your gonna marry michael and they make fun of me. I just wonder do you think im wrong for liking boys younger than me not like the little 5th grader i was talking about but likt 2 years younger? Please help Thanks!(:

Hi sweetie! I have always felt this way too. I'm 21 and have always went for the younger guys. People will always judge you, especially going for a guy younger than you. But that's OK :) It's completely fine. I'm dating a guy who is 18 and he's completely perfect for me. You have to ignore what other people say, if you're happy that's all that matters. Find a guy who will treat you right! Xo!


I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I'm sorry you're going through this. Tell him you know about the facebook page, and see if he confesses then. If he still lies about having it, then you might want to re-think about dating this guy because obviously he is not telling the truth and would be lying right to your face. Give him a chance to confess when you bring it up and if he lies, in my eyes two would be done!! You'd deserve better then that. I hope this helped you come to a conclusion, if you need any other help don't be shy!


Ok well i'm thinking of having sex with my boyfriend this weekend. I just finished my period yesterday. Im wondering how you get in the mood to have sex. And also, isnt itkind of akward when a guy has to stop to but on a condom? I just need advice on how to get in the mood and stay in the mood. This is pretty urgent.

I get in the mood by being alone with the guy, especially somewhere dark ;) Wear something sexy, to feel sexy. And then, once you two are alone start making out and touching each other. One thing will definitely lead to another and I know this will put you in the mood for sex. Have him take his shirt off and touch all over his body, I know this helps get me in the mood. And I'm glad you're not the only one who thought it would be awkward to stop when he was putting a condom on. I always thought, what would I do you just sit there and watch do I do something myself..all this was running through my mind BUT to ease you're mind, it wasn't awkward at all! When we were getting in the mood, I said in a flirty voice, do you have a condom and just smiled? He said yea, and then he got off while he was on top of me so we were laying side by side in the bed and I just layed there, rubbed his arm/started kissing his body ..and then we got to it. You have to keep yourself occupied with him so it won't be awkward when he's putting it on. If you just sit there and stare at him, it may be a bit awkward. But it will only be awkward if you make it and really, it doesn't take all that long to put it on!

Hope this helped you be more comfortable, it's never as bad or awkward as you picture it could be :) Just have fun and relax! If you need anything else, don't be a stranger. Inbox!


I'm turning 18 in a few months and I'll be a senior, but I've never had a boyfriend or a real kiss... Does that make me lame? I feel stupid sometimes cause my friends that are juniors have gone way further, and I've never done anything...

hey sweetie! :) that definitely doesn't make you lame don't ever think that about yourself! don't worry about what everyone else has done, do what you want to do. so many people look up to me and say they wish they could be more like me because i'm still a virgin, and i'm so proud of that. if your friends ever make fun of you for never having a boyfriend, or not doing anything with a guy they're not real friends. real friends understand. be happy with yourself, a guy will come along ..hey i know it's hard to wait .. because i'm still waiting for a good guy too but the time will come girlie!! if you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask because i've been through it all!!


there is a girl at school named bethan,beautiful,intelligent and funny.I really think we could go far into a deep relationship....the thing is im not sure if she likes me to well,i mean we flirt alot all day but doesnt every girl do that.If there is anyway you guys could tell me how to tell if a girl likes you or not that'd be GREAT

I'm not gonna lie .. you're right .. bascially all girls flirt with every guy because it's fun .. right? :)

Sucks for the guys though .. but I think I can help you with this one since I flirt a lot but I can be pretty different around the guy I like.

First off .. if a girl comes off as a bit shy around you and like she doesn't know what to say it can mean she likes you.

If she touches you a lot .. like touches your arm when you two are talking, or always gives you hugs and holds you really tight .. could mean she likes you.

If she avoids eye contact with you .. could mean she likes you :) i do this a lot .. we don't want to seem like we're staring at you & this is an obvious sign. OR she could use a lot of eye contact w/you which could also mean she likes you. If she does one or another ALOT, its a good sign.

If she asks you about what type of girls you like, she likes you. When a girl likes a guy, she wants to know what her chances are and how she stacks up against other girls.

If she asks you for help alot, no matter the situation, could mean she likes you.

All these things are good indications that she could like you, unfortunately all girls are different but I think you have a pretty good chance!

If you need anything else, ask! ♥ LU


hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on???

Hey sweetie, it all depends on if your dating this girl or not. I say this because I find it a bit awkward if a guy were to do this if we were not dating, or if I didn't even have feelings for him. I've had guys where they would buy me dinner when we went out with a group, or would do all these sweet things for me .. but it was pretty awkward for me because I had no feelings for the guy. So it was like ohhkay .. well thanks ... you know?

It also may not be a turn on because the girl may think you're being nice just to get in her pants .. trust me us girls think that alot. She may think you're being nice so later she'll hook up with you, which is what you DON'T want us thinking. Because then it's sort of like .. well thanks for being nice .. but what do you want in return now??

IF you're in a relationship, I definitely think this is acceptable and really sweet :) I would love to find a guy who would do that for me, because nowadays there aren't many out there. Has a girl told you she didn't like it for you to be thinking this? If she isn't appreciating this and you two are in a relationship boooy I don't know about her ..

Have any other questions .. let me know! Good luck ♥ LU


For about three weeks my vagina has been very itchy and irritated. I figured it was just irritated from sex so I would often use this cream that I had used from a previous yeast infection. Well, the irritation contiued and then I discovered I had a light greenish discharge, but not all the time. I used a yeast infection test and it said I had a yeast infection. I inserted the medicine for the yeast infection on two days ago but today I noticed the greenish discharge.

Is this just from the yeast infection or is it something that I should be worried about?

Thank you!

weird .. i had the same thing happen to me. i would get a light green discharge but it wouldn't happen all the time and i went in to the doctors for a physical and i asked about having a yeast infection because i thought it may be one but i've never had one before. she took a test and it turns out i had a yeast AND bacterial infection. she gave me 2 different medications. one was a pill for the yeast infection - just one pill and the other was a pill i had to take two times a day for a week.

i'd go to the doctor, have them test you and see what they say because it could be something more than a yeast infection as mine was. i was also tested for chlamydia and ghonorrhea (sp?) and they both came back negative. it sounds like we have the same thing so you're best bet would be to go to a doctor so they can prescribe you with the right medication.

if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!


Hey I was wondering did your brackets ever turn like white????

Weird, how did you know I had braces? Are you talking about the actual brackets or my did the brackets leave white stains on my teeth after getting them off? Either way, I never had any brackets turn white, sorry don't know exactly what your asking hope this is right..


Hello im 18/f and i recently got engaged! I'm so in love and happy its ridiculous. I was trying to find the perfect song to relate to my situation. Just the excitment of planning a wedding and everything. He is going to be gone for a year in afghanistan though but we plan on getting married when he comes back. Any kind of music really, country, pop, hip-hop i like anything :)




I know that depressed victims are, well, depressed- but do they undergo some sort of high- when people don't know this about them?
do they take pride in others not knowing?
is this a symptom?

i can relate to this. bascially i was diagnosed with a depression/anxiety disorder. depression is definately something i DON'T take pride in, ever. it's actually quite an embarassing subject for me because i don't want to believe i am, i feel like a failure that i am. i'm on medication, but it still does get to me. i remember going to the doctor and them asking me all these questions and i just ended up balling and i didn't want that to happen at all. i was ashamed of myself. of course i don't want anyone to know i'm depressed. i try to put on a happy front for everyone and unfortunately, everyone believes it. my depression arose from my anxiety disorder though, basically from stress. if you're going through this, please please please feel free to talk to me! ♥ LU



mm i was just wondering what scents do guys like on girls??I know odd question but i just wonder what would my bf like lol thanks!

all the perfumes i wear .. i literally have like 50! .. all the guys love :)

the ones they like the most are:

hope this helps. have a good thanksgiving! ♥ LU


any good songs about love sick ?
or even about loving someone who dont love you back ?


♥ LU


So I'm 17, and I was just wondering if there's a certain way to kiss a boy or a certain place that would drive him crazy ?

i've found a couple things to drive a guy crazy. :)

1. slightly tease him a bit when your kissing which will make him want more. you can start by giving him a little peck kiss and then look at him and smile and then you can start slowly making out with him and then move down his body to his neck .. which is a very sensitive spot for a guy .. and if you want you can go to his stomach .. and so on. it just depends on where you want to go with it.

2. when you really want to make him go crazy; touch the back of his neck, run your hands through his hair and also touch/rub the inside of his thigh.

i hope this was useful. :) if you have any more questions or you need more help; INBOX!! ♥ LU


i usually don't have a lot of discharge, and its always clear. well today after school i went to the bathroom and i had soo much it was like creamy and wet and disgusting. nothing hurts down there and i'm not having sex but i do get fingered, but ive been getting fingered by the same guy for awhilee. so i dont think thats it. so heres the embarrasing part, i'm like farting out of my vagina alot...if that makes any sense, and i feel it all wet and gross so has this happened to anyone before? and what is it what does it mean?

the discharge ... ooooh its crappy isn't it? i have the same thing, alot of it and i actually went to the doctor to see if it was normal to have that much and she said yes and then i asked if there was anything i could do to prevent from having SO much, and unfortunately there is nothing :( it's basically just your body cleaning itself and us girls just have to deal with it. ♥ LU


I'm 16 years old and I'm female.
My best friend introduced me to this really cute guy and I think I might like him. But the thing is, he's hooked up a few times and I've never kissed anyone. I'm afraid that if something happens between us and he tries kissing me, I'll look stupid and not know what to do. help please !

hey sweetie:) first, you need to calm down! i know how you're feeling. everyone feels like this the first time their about to kiss someone who is more experienced than them. bascially, you can't mess up just kissing someone! now if you're talking about making out, thats a different story. there's really no way to tell you how to make out with someone, it just happens! i remember the first time i made out with a guy .. he was three years older than me. i was a nervous wreck. before i knew it, it was all over and done with and i didn't even think about anything that people had told me about making out. i don't know if your talking about just kissing or making out! but for a peck kiss, it's just like kissing your mom or dad! nothing too hard about that right? now if your talking about an "open mouth" kiss all you had to do is basically suck on his lower lip a little bit, don't be a leech but enough for him to love it ;) you COULD always tell him that you've never kiss anyone before, and he could teach you! honestly, i'm sure he wouldn't care! he'd probably love teaching you .. that way he doesn't have to be worried if you think he's a bad kisser or not because it's your first time! see where i'm getting at? it's all up to you. i hope this helps, if not .. inbox me again! good luck, you'll be alright :) ♥ LU


I know it isn't really sex but I didn't know what else to put it under.
OKay this is mad embarrasing but i figured I'd ask here. I'm 17 years old and I still can't get a friggen tampon to "work". I try to use em but they hurt so friggen bad. I tried the little OB mini ones which kinda work but I'm always afraid i'll bleed through them. It's really embarrassing ... any advice anyone?

which ones have you tried putting in? i hope your not using the cardboard ones! the first time i tried putting one in was when i was in Hawaii because i got my period.. ohhhhgod it was horrible. my mom bought the carboard applicator at the store and i couldn't get the dang thing in for the life of me. then my mom bought me the tampax pearl's.. the regular no super or super plus and it went right in. you have to relax. if your all worked up your basically pushing the tampon out, making it impossible to put in. if you have any more questions; inbox! ♥LU


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