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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm pretty sure this isn't normal. It's usually every morning I wake up with soaked underwear, it doesn't smell that nice either. During the day it's nit so bad but it's still happening, it's very uncomftable. I find that whenever I need to pee I all of a sudden become very desperate to go and I can't hold it in for that long and if I don't go I can't hold it in. I don't want to have to wear a panty liner or something like that, any ideas on what this could be?
I'm too scared to tell my parents about it as I would be embarrassed and I really don't want to have to go and see a doctor unless I really have to.
Thanks. (link)
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It sounds like you are having excessive discharge. Discharge, in itself, is very normal and it's good for the body. However, it is important to keep an eye out for any different smells, especially fishy ones. It could be a sign of an infection -- but remember, those are normal as well, they just need to be treated.
I think you should talk to your mom about this, as it would most likely be less embarrassing for you -- truly, there is no need to be embarrassed at all. All of us girls have and continue to experience something like that, it is very normal. She would be able to offer some insight, and get you to a doctor if need be. I know pantyliners can be uncomfortable, but it is truly your best bet until you talk to your mom/see a doctor.
Don't be worried, remember that all of this is something normal that we all experience and there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about! Best of luck to you friend, and please feel free to inbox me with any questions and/or updates!
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I want to get a puppy to surprise my boyfriend so what are the absolute cutest puppies? I know he doesn't want pets, but if I get the most adorable puppy EVER he won't be able to say no, right? (link)
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Simply put: no. I can understand that you want a cute puppy, and I love them as well, however; he has already expressed to you that he doesn't want any pets and I'm sure that he has trusted you to understand that and not "surprise" him with a cute puppy. I think these things, as minor as they may seem, are always good to discuss with your significant other and those things are to be respected even if we may not like the answer -- unfortunately, he's already told you that he doesn't want any animals, so you should respect his decision and not buy any cute puppies.
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is it ture that if you eat 5 suger free gumydears youll lose wight? (link)
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No, it's merely a myth that people have passed around. If anything, you could even gain weight if you continued this habit on an ongoing basis. Even if you could eliminate the sugar, they are severely unhealthy for you -- however, they do make a great treat every now and then (just not to lose weight).
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I'm a junior in highschool and there's this boy in my history class. He sits two seats to my right and there's another kid that sits between us. Is there a way I can start a conversation without it being weird or awkward? I don't really know him, but I would like to.. any ideas?? (link)
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Sometimes it is awkward to start a conversation with someone, especially if that someone is a person you really like -- understandably so. Thus, you just need to make a small effort in talking to him to break the ice, and then you two will become more acquainted with one another and I'm sure will become fast friends. I would try to talk to him as you are entering class, or leaving class and mention something about what you're learning -- this class is already something you have in common.
This will not only give you an excuse to talk to him while you're in class, but will also allow you two to become more familiar with each other and it will be so much easier to have other conversations.
Best of luck to you, my friend, I know that you can do it and I'm excited to hear how it goes!
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I know google makes android phones so I don't know if there is even a chance, but is there a gmail app for iPhone by any chance? (link)
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After doing some research, I found that you are able to get Gmail through the IOS Mail App on your iPhone -- in addition to an actual app that Google created just for the iPhone.
Here is the website that gives you more information on how to set up Gmail in either scenario -- have a wonderful day!
http://www.hongkiat.com/blog/gmail-on-iphone/
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I need help on my application, please. In my application is says "Subject of special study or research work", but i don't know what to write... please help thank you very much (link)
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I'm pretty sure that it is just asking you what your preferred subject is to study, such as business or health management, etc. I'm not sure what type of job you are applying for, but I do believe that they are just asking the area of your studies. If you have any info to add, just inbox me again and I'll get right back to you.
P.S. Good luck on your application -- you'll do great!
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iam a very tired from my life.with in few days i will definitely accepted suicide.acccutally i am very intelligent boy in my studies .i got 1st division in my all studies..i have done b.ed.and still don't got government Job .all my juniours are enjoying rich and health life ...iam loser...i can't do any thing..sorry sir i am going to suicide (link)
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Oh dear, please do not feel this way. Life is so worth living and all those juniors who are "enjoying rich and healthy lives," well that doesn't mean that they are as happy as it seems. People always think that money brings happiness and clearly, at times, it does -- however, it will not bring you the joy that you so richly deserve. There are so many things to live for -- if you keep working hard, I can assure you that you will be even richer and healthier than they are...not because of the money, but because you have worked hard for everything you have and that is very commendable.
In fact, I think it's super commendable even now that you are asking for help and you know that there is some ounce of life worth living or you would have never mentioned anything. Please realize that your life is not only important to your friends and family, but to us -- the people who want to give you great advice and want you to live a happy life.
I know you can do this, and I will pray for you that things will get better -- and I can assure you if you pray, you will feel so much better and will realize just how much life is worth life and how valuable you are to the world.
Sincerely,
LagunaBabe
P.S. Please feel free to write me back and keep me updated on your life, friend. I know that the days will get better for you, just take it one day at a time and I will be praying for you -- please know that.
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So I started my last period on april 27th. I think it ended on the 5th or 6th of May. I still haven't gottn my period for this month, should I be worried and what should I do. I feel bloated and I feel like its right there but it just hasn't came (link)
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My apologies for getting back to you so late, my friend -- if you have yet to get your period, I think it is a very good idea to see a doctor. They are always ready to help you in any way that they can, and I'm sure they can tell you exactly what is going on. At times, it is just from stress that we get our periods later than usual and can even skip a month because of this. Best of luck, my friend, I am sure that everything is fine. :)
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iam postgraduate and also B.ed.
a always got 1st division in my all studies,but till not get any government job,while many of my clasmates,who were week in studies enjoying life easliy.beside this iam just married six months ago underpressure of my widower mummmy .but i still loved the girlfriend ,she also love me very very very much,she is very honest with me,although se know about marriage.but we can't live without each other.i maaried underpressure of my parennts bezoce i don't got job,if i got before my maarriage i surely married with my girlfirend,who is my first love...plz tell me easyiest way to suicide..i want to die..thats all. (link)
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Suicide is not the answer, my friend. I can promise you this -- life is so worth living. I understand that you are going through some problems with your love life, which unfortunately, many of us have -- however, that does not mean that you cannot fix things. You were pressured into getting married and that is something your parents shouldn't have done to you, but you should talk to your wife and be open and honest with her. That is super important, believe me, I think she will surprise you with her understanding nature.
If you do find that your girlfriend is the love of your life, which I do think you must indefinitely choose your girlfriend or wife (it is not fair to yourself, neither to the ladies if you continue this way), then you must talk to her and make sure that she is ready for the kind of commitment you are looking for. You would not want to leave your marriage unless you are sure that you two really love each other and it is not just a matter of lust, so to speak.
Please realize that though these are difficult issues -- they are not unfixable. You can fix this and make your life better, and others can benefit from your life as well. Though I do not know you personally, I can truly guarantee that you would be so missed because you must be truly loved. You have not just one, but two women who love you and want to be in your life. As nasty as that situation is, you should take it as a compliment.
I hope that I can inspire you to live your life to the fullest and enjoy every second of it -- you deserve a happy, healthy life and that is my wish for you. I do not know whether you are religious, but if you believe in God (I do), I encourage you to pray and seek God because He can help you much more than I can. He knows your every need in the situations you are facing in life. He can help you with those, he can perform a miracle in your life -- I will say a prayer for you, my friend.
To add, I have not been on this site in quite some time, but as soon as I read your question -- I could not help but come back in order to help you. I want to inspire you to live -- please write me back and let me know how you are feeling.
I'll be praying for you, my friend.
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When a shampoo says "For thin, fine hair." Does that mean it will make the hair thicker, or what? (link)
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Yes, it will give you a great boost of volume and is made for your specific hair type.
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Do you know if it is true that if you wash your hair in cold water it will make it shinier?
Have YOU tried it and does cold water make your hair shiny for real?
Thank you!
I rate! (link)
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"Rinsing hair with cold water closes the cuticle, leaving a smooth, shiny surface. Blasting with cold air after a blow-dry has a similar smoothing effect, and most dryers have a cold setting for this purpose." - Bazaar Magazine.
This is true, the cold water is less drying than hot water. It's best to wash your hair with hot water, in order to get it nice and clean, then do a quick cold rinse on your hair to boost shine.
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I have been on birth control pills for 3 months now. However in the last 2 weeks I have been unable to take them due to some medication I have been on. I am not currently having sex so this isn't a problem, but I think it may have messed up my periods as I am due on my period now and I haven't started. Should I start taking my pill again as usual?
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I would recommend calling your gynocologist and asking the nurse what you should do. In my opinion, you should be able to go ahead and begin taking them as usual and in about a month you should see your period getting back on track, but be sure to ask the nurse (or any nurse at a gynocologists office, incase you do not have one).
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13/f
and i like a
13/m
BEWARE: this might be long.
OK. So i have posted so many questions on the same topic. But i haven't gotten any real good advice. All of my answers usually say "just go with what you think is right" or "its better to do it and say you did the to not and regret it later." so i hope you can give me better advice. like what i should specifically do.
So i have like this guy for a long time. Ive known him since elementary school and he lives two houses away from me. I think I'm IN LOVE with him. now don't say "i think your too young to be IN LOVE" or "you need to wait and see if these feelings leave. if they don't then....." because I've heard it all before. I know for a fact that I'm IN LOVE with him. so i know that he likes me because he asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. I said no because my mom doesn't approve of neighbors dating. because if we ever break up then it'll be awkward because i see him all over the place. but i like him so much that i am willing to hide it from my mom. But another reason why i know that he likes me is because, not too long ago, we were walking home together and he touched my ass. on purpose. so if that's not flirting than i don't know what flirting is. lol. so i have no idea what to do. do i ask him out myself or just wait for him to ask me out? please help me. and im sorry that this was so long. thank you in advance. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that you haven't received the advice that you need. However, hopefully, I can give you some good advice, friend. Thanks for inboxing me! :)
Not to worry, I will not tell you that you are too young because I too was in love at thirteen. For most teenagers, it's not really love, but I know that it was for me and it seems to be for you also. It seems that you have already established that you both have feelings for one another, which is the first step. Now, you need to go to step two: Establishing a Relationship.
I'm not really happy about you not telling your mother, however, I'm assuming that you will not tell you no matter what I tell you. :) So I'll go ahead and give you my best advice, friend. He lives a couple of doors down, therefore, it's very convienent for you to see him and talk to him. You need to, when you see him or you may go to his house (whichever you are more comfortable with), talk to him and explain to him how you feel and listen to how he feels as well. If he tells you that he likes you back, which you've already established this (you should still ask though for communication purposes), and let him know that you would like to be more than friends.
I wish you the very best of luck, I'm sure everything will work out just fine. However, I hope that maybe if things do work out, you will tell your mom sometime and maybe she will understand if you two are very serious and it is love.
P.S. I do want to say that you should keep your eyes open at all times for any behaviors that may signal that he's only with you for sexual things. I only mentioned this because he touched your butt, which may not be too big of a deal, just want you to keep an eye out because boys can be very pushy sometimes and you don't want to rush into anything.
Sincerely, LagunaBabe
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How much do u think i would lose if i stoped eating for awhile, and drunk nouthing but water? (link)
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Your life.
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Can u tell me any good love songs for falling for your best guy friend. And it had to be pop r&b or hip-hop. Hope this helps thanks your very much.
f/14 (link)
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"You Belong With Me" by Taylor Swift.
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hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not? (link)
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It means she cares, this is what my mom told me as well. It means she loves you enough to know that one day you may not plan to have sex, but things do happen, so she would rather give you birth control pills than not and maybe you would get pregnant, which would be very difficult at a young age.
She cares and loves you very much with this, be thankful you have a mom that is so caring -- because many are not.
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I am looking for Godly advice please. My husband got violent today, threatening both me and my daughter, breaking things and hurting us... I went to the police, which I have never done with him, and now he is in jail. I dont know that he will even try to come back, it may be that he just lashes out, or never contacts me again. But what if he does, what do I do if he wants to get help and come home? How do I handle this? Im scared, and trying not to fall apart. I dont think that what he did is ok at all, but does anyone know if the Bible says anything about how to handle this? (link)
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I am a Christian and honey, I can tell you that God would not want you to stay with this man. Others may tell you that you should stay, or your shouldn't get a divorce, however, God does not want us to be abused. Many Christians point to the bible verse "submit to your husband" however, that does not mean submmit to your husband if you are being beaten.
I'm glad that you put him in jail, that was the very best thing for you and your daughter. Do not go back with him because he may do it again, and if you really feel the urge to go back with him then you must be sure that he is taking steps to get real help (but i really recommend not going back). God will not think badly of you for not going back to him because husbands are also supposed to be kind to their wives, also mentiond in the Bible.
I wish you the best of luck with your situation, friend. You did the right thing by callig the police. Even if you feel as though you need to get a divorce, after what your husband has done, God will understand. Separating is also an option without divoring, if you would feel more comfortable. Pray and God will lead you in the right direction, he wouldn't want you or your daughter to be beaten and your husband will be held accountable for what he did.
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Everytime I pee lately, my bladder stings afterwards, and twice a tiny bit of blood has come out. Also, sometimes it feels like I have to pee a lot more than I actually do. Whats wrong! (link)
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This may be a UTI, however, since I am not a doctor (yet), I recommend going to the doctor and getting checked out. If it is a UTI, it is easily taken care of, and I'm sure you can get it taken care of easily. Good luck, friend. :)
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the other night I was with my boyfriend and we were laying on his couch watching a movie when this came to mind: we have been going out for around 6 months and haven't made out yet and we hardly ever kiss. I am the kind of girl that likes the guy to make the first move, and what I am wondering is; why is he being so cautious or as my friends say "like a freezer"? (link)
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He's probably nervous and doesn't want to offend you in any way or make you feel like you have to rush things. So maybe try to talk to him and let him know that you'd like to kiss more, and that he doesn't have to be as cautious as he has been.
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Ok, so i'm 15 and I just started my period about 4 months ago? lately i've been using pads because i'm waaaaay to scared to use a tampon.
But, pads are really starting to get on my nerves i'm constantly having to check to make sure I didn't bleed through, and they're really uncomfortable I feel like i'm a diaper.
soo here's my question, i've never had sex and i'm really tight so will putting in a tampon hurt for me? (link)
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No, most generally, it's fairly simple to insert a tampon and if anything, it may just be a little uncomfortable inserting it until you get used to it. But you should be just fine, friend.
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