When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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What he feels for you is not LOVE. And trust me, even though you won't believe me now, but what you feel for him is not LOVE either.
You can't love someone you've never met, or seen in real life or been with in real life, or shared the thick and thin of life together. Love is about being together through hard times and also sharing good times. But being there through a distance, each one of you behind a computer screen, that is not love. It's called longing for someone, you are longing for him to be yours and for him to turn out to be the right one for you and hoping that when you meet him, you will still feel what you feel for him. Him on the other side, just feels like you are someone who he can tell anything to, whether it's true or a lie, whether it's half the truth and he keeps the rest to himself, he can choose to tell you only what he wants to tell you, because you will never actually know if it's true or not, cause you're not physically with him in his life. Now, long distance relationships never work, like when two people meet, fall inlove, live together, and then one of them travels, and they try to pursue the relationship long distance, it never works, cause each partner starts to indulge in a whole new life, away from his/her other partner, and they start keeping secrets, leading two lives, their old life with their partner, and their new life. Now you are not even leading a long distance relationship because there was no point in time when you guys actually met each other, it has always been an online relationship. That is not love, that is not based on honesty or loyalty or any of the things that love must be based on.
I think that you are a very loving and caring person, and you can give all this love and care to someone who actually physically exists with you in the same place. You don't deserve to spend all this time behind a computer screen or on the phone longing and loving someone who you don't even know anything about, because you don't, because you can't even be certain about the things he shares with you. And yes, sometimes he sounds nice to you when you talk, and then sometimes he doesn't reply. Because the times he sounds nice, are the times when he's available or he's bored or he has nothing else to do. So he chats with you like he chats with so many other people at the same time. He's a person who is friendly and likes to talk with people. But then when he's busy or has other engagements, he totally forgets about you.
You deserve so much better. Because if he cared at all about you or felt anything, he would at least suggest you seeing each other, meeting up, getting to know each other more, but he never mentioned it. He wouldn't even give you his address for you to send him a gift, that's how much he didn't want you to have this address just incase one day you wouldn't show up and surprise him.
Let it go. Text him and tell him how you feel, or you already did, and tell him that you are moving on with your life, you want to put yourself out there and meet other people. And tell him that you will still be there for him if he needs anything, and that you guys are just friends. And then move on with your life, cause he has been moving on with his life all this time that you guys have been talking to each other.
And you know what, sometimes, and i said 'sometimes' , this is what guys need, someone to give them a wake up call, like when you tell him that you will move on with your life, only then would he realize that he feels something for you, IF he really ever did feel something for you. But don't settle for anything less than him making a move and saying that he wants to meet you in person and have a relationship with you in person, in one place. This whole online distance thing, that is just...you deserve so much better.
And i'll tell you what, this is my email address abuali.alaa@gmail.com
You can email me if you need to talk more about this, or to update me, and i'll be there for you. Just if you email me, remind me a little about your problem, for me to know that it's you contacting me.
Or you can continue to inbox me, whatever you feel more comfortable with.
I hope you make the right decision, and know how much your worth, and you are worth much more than what you're putting yourself in.
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Okay so me and my bf were dry humping (we are both 16) he was wearing boxers and I was wearing jeans amd underwear. He got too excited and ejaculated and after a few minutes I noticed a wet patch on my jeans about 8 centimeters away from my vagina. Is it possible for the sperm to travel through his boxers through my jeans through my underwear and travel 8 centimeters to my vagina to get me pregnant?? Any help would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Hello there,
I would like to assure you that you are definitely not pregnant. This is 100% positive. If you are also a virgin, that makes it 200% positive.
Pregnancy doesn't work that way, his penis has to be inside of you, all the way inside, and he has to ejaculate up there inside of you.
And to make you feel better, that his ejaculation pretty much dried up on his boxers, and was absorbed by your jeans and underwear, so even if you felt your body a little moist down there, its only because of the heat of dry humping, and sweating down there, and the wet feeling of your jeans when it stuck to your body.
You are most definitely not pregnant. Don't worry about it at all. If you need any other help, or if you have any other questions, please feel free to contact me.
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My fiancé and I have two young daughters (under the age of 3), we've been engaged for a long time (4 years) and have decided to start planning our wedding for next year. My future sister in law just got engaged and already has a wedding date picked. She sent me a text earlier and stated that she hopes her nieces can be flower girls in her wedding. Problem is, I wanted my daughters to have their first flower girl experience in my wedding. Is it rude to tell my future SIL that and decline (and possibly make family upset) or just hate the idea but agree to it anyways?! (link)
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You're not being selfish or rude. I understand your point of view.
Communication is always the best thing to do, I think you should have a calm discussion with your fiance and express how you feel about this. Tell him how you wanted to save the experience for your children of being flower girls for your wedding, because you're afraid that if it wasn't their first experience, that it might be not as special as it could be. But also show him that you would love to do that for his sister, because you know it would mean the world to her. You have to show him how much you care for his sister as well. He might agree with you or disagree with you. If he agrees with you, he will tell his sister himself that he wants his daughters to be flower girls for the first time in your wedding together, and if disagrees with you, he might convince you that it's okay for them to be that at his sister's wedding first, that it doesn't matter.
It is never rude or selfish, you always have to express your opinion, but in a nice calm manner, communication should be the most important thing between you and your fiance, to build the right grounds for your future marriage.
Let me know how it goes, and feel free to contact me if you'd like to talk about it more.
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I feel like sometimes I don't know if I feel emotion to the heart. I want to so bad. Like when I say sorry and I want to mean it but I just can't feel it for some reason. When I say I love you I'm not sure if I'm just saying it as a automated response but I don't feel anything but I do love my family and mean it. When I feel sad or guilty I feel it in my stomach sometimes but I live on. How does it feel to be sorry? I keep a diary and I write things but I think I write how I want to feel. How do I actually feel the way I want to. (link)
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For 20 years of my life, I've felt exactly how you're describing it. Empty. That the more i grew up, or indulged in friendships or relationship, people somehow started to notice, the very close ones to me, they would say 'You don't know love, you don't even know how to love someone,'
And it always upset me, cause I felt like alot of people meant so much to me, and I would do alot for them to show them how much I cared, so it would hurt me that this is how they perceived my feelings, but after time, i found out that they were right, it was like I was cold from inside, I would have someone who I would die for, but at the same time, when I tell this person I love him or her, it's like I don't really feel it.
On the 21st year of my life, I'm 21 years now going on 22, I finally feel something, and its like a rush of emotions suddenly came over me, like everything I ever wanted to feel I could feel it now. And I'm not sure if this is the reason, but it's because I've finally found my place in this world, I've finally found my reason to wake up everyday and love what I go through in my day. I finally found the love of my life that I've always dreamt of, met him, married him, living with him, waking up to him every day.
I also always loved my family, although they never believed it when I said it, but alot of problems happened in my family, mostly because they never really understood me, so one day I travelled across the world from where I lived, to a whole different place, and met that person I love and changed my entire life 180 degrees, and I found my place.
I'm not telling you to give up the life you have. I'm not saying that at all. I'm saying that, look at your life and see what is missing, how can you fill it. Maybe you need your family to be more understanding to you, maybe you need the right friend, maybe you need to really fall head over heels in love with someone who would cherish you, maybe it's your education, something new you want to do or study or get involved in, in your life. Think if you are where you want to be, where you always wanted to be in life, or not? And if you're not, how do you reach this place? And start working towards it.
If I've learnt anything, is that life is too short to feel nothing...you can wake up everyday and see something new, experience something new, and feeling it, all those emotions, is just priceless. You can't put a price tag on that.
So what's missing in your life?
Feel free to inbox me if you need to talk more about this.
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How do you revamp yourself? Last year I made a bad decision and I was friends with a mean girl and fell into that group though eventually I left and one person from the group wants to still be friends which is great but al so with her which is okay but me and the mean girl had a major falling out. I'm scared when I go back that I will be alone or that she will turn everyone I try to befriend against me because that's what she did at the end of last year. I'm tired of all this fighting. But I refuse to give in for her to step all over me and give the satisfaction. I want to change my reputation and possibly find a new group of friends. In school I was shy but loud and spastic and funny with the people I knew and always made them laugh. How do I find the balance? How do I walk in on the first day and be nice to everyone but also look for a new group? At my school I'm in all enriched classes so I'm mainly always with the same people. (link)
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Learn to be the better person. Always. In your life.
That when you start this new year, what you should do, is be diplomatic with that mean girl you had a fall out with, in order not to cause future problems for yourself. I'm not telling you to be friends with her again, I'm not tell you that at all. I'm telling you BE DIPLOMATIC. That if she steps up and talks to you, you talk politely and smile, and just walk away,but don't ignore her if she comes to talk to you, and don't be mean to her, don't start a fight.
And actually, if it happens that she leaves you completely alone and doesn't talk to you or doesn't turn people against you, and it happens that there comes a situation where you cross path, you can be the better person by smiling or saying something nice. Let her see how better you are, and mature you are, and you might even find her trying to be friends with you again, but don't go back being friends with her, just be diplomatic from a distance. You don't want to win enemies, no one does. Just learn to never make enemies, even with the people you have a fallout with.
And about making new friends, when you grow up more, you'll understand, and always remember that, that you don't just walk into schools and make new friends, friends don't come that way. You don't have to secure a new group of friends on your very first day, and if you're lonely on your first day, it doesn't mean that you'll be lonely for the rest of the year. Friends come when they come, out of the blue, you meet them randomly, sometimes when least expected. You just have to learn to be your friendly self, your funny self, get along with everyone, be nice to everyone, don't get into any fights even if someone gets you mad or angry, don't fight back, just smile politely and be diplomatic. And after some time, you'll find people coming to YOU, wanting your friendship, asking for it indirectly. This is how to make friends. It's never about having one group that you're with all the time, it's about making everyone fall inlove with your personality, and attracted to being friends with you. And then later on, maybe a few of those people you would feel that you are the closest to, and those are who you can call your 'group' of friends.
Let me know how the first day of school went, feel free to inbox me if you would like to talk some more.
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My husband left my children and I July 2013. He walked out took the car. Junked it so neither of us could have it. During the marriage he stole from my father and from my son. For money. He'd lie about it. During the time we have been separated he meet a girl lived with her and her 2 toddlers and 1 infant. They didn't work out. I ended up having to move up north for support. I didn't have any family were we lived. I filed for divorce. Recently the last 2 to 3 weeks he wants to get back together he loves me and the kids he wants to be a family he'll go to church counseling find a job and keep it work hard. He says he's changed he's sorry I ask why he did the things he did he says he was stupid. He says I won't regret taking him back he wants to prove to me how much he loves me how much he's changed I don't know what to do. (link)
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I can't tell you what to do. Because some people DO change, and they only appreciate what they had when they lose it. But then again, some people do not change, and as soon as they are given a second chance, and they go back to their place, they get too comfortable again, and misuse the chance you gave them, and they go back to doing exactly what they used to do and even worse. A person who could once lay his hands on your son's money, and your father's as well, can definitely do it again. It's the idea that his heart and mind actually told him at one point that it was okay to do that, it is very likely for him to do it again. A relationship, especially marriage, MUST be built on trust,and with trust comes honesty and loyalty and faithfulness. If your marriage was lacking that, then it was built initially on wrong grounds.
I think that he did you wrong, really wrong, and that you deserve much better. I can't tell you what to do, because only YOU know him, and you know how you feel about him, and only you can help yourself and tell yourself what decision to make. I can only tell you that if i were in your shoes, I would let him learn his lesson, continue to learn it, and if he really is sincere about counseling and working, then he'll continue to do that, and he will keep trying to make things right with you. I mean, if you tell him that you don't want to get back with him, you might find him giving up on the job idea and the counseling, because he wasn't actually sincere about that, if he really wants to change, he'll change for himself, not just for you. He will want to be a better person for himself, not just to make things right with you.
If you DO decide to get back with him, I suggest you take it slow and gradually, let him find a job first and secure it, and actually have a source of financial funding for himself, be self-dependent. And just don't rush into this again, don't trust him, don't believe everything he says. And think that it's not only your decision, it could also be your children's decision, I'm not sure how old they are, but if they are grown up enough, you should talk to them, listen to their opinion, their opinion matters, because he is a father figure to them.
Let me know if you would like to talk about this more, feel free to inbox me.
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I am a 33 year old man and I have been having an affair regretfully with someone for 2 years. I have tried to break it off with her twice and she always threatens to tell my wife. As long as I am having sex with her she doesn't care about my marriage. I am continuing with the affair for the sake of my marriage and I don't know what to do. (link)
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Unfortunately you can continue with the affair for the sake of your marriage,for another year or two, maybe even 5 years, BUT it will always come to the same point, that every time you try to break it off, she would threaten you, and when you decide to just come clean and tell your wife after another year or two or five, that will make it even worse and less possible for your wife to forgive you.
I'm pretty sure you did not get into this affair to be threatened or blackmailed, or to be unpleasant and increase your burdens, I'm sure you were looking for pleasure or a good time, or someone who would understand you, but then that's not how it turned out. It would be miserable for you to continue in this affair, when you probably no longer feel the same sexual way towards her, because you are just now sleeping with her because you're afraid and she's holding something against you.
I've been down that road, blackmail. And believe me, in my shoes, I had so many things I could hold against that person, much stronger than what he was holding against me, things to destroy his life, his home, his family, his marriage, BUT, because I was the better person, I chose not to hurt that person although this person wanted to hurted me. I could have blackmailed him back, so we would be even, and none would tell about the other, but in the end, he told on me and destroyed my own life, and I still did not hurt him by saying a word about things I knew about him.
She doesn't deserve that you be a better person than her, but again, right now, what you should think about is yourself and saving your marriage, you made a mistake, I'm not judging about having an affair, I'm saying you made a mistake by having an affair with the wrong person, so unfortunately and sadly you have to deal with it. You have to tell your wife, better it comes from you, than from the one you're having an affair with. Apologize, cry, beg for forgiveness, give excuses, but when you do come clean to your wife, DO NOT tell her that now your mistress is blackmailing you, cause she will only think that you came clean to her ONLY cause you were being blackmailed, and that otherwise, you would have continued in your affair and not bothered to tell her. Tell her in a way that shows that you woke up one day with regrets and just wanted to make everything right, and no matter what, it's always the truth that is best than anything else, because if we keep on lying, all the lies will pile up on one another and we will end up with an even bigger mess than how it started.
You might need more advice and support if you do choose to tell your wife, or if you do choose to continue with your affair, so let me know, feel free to contact me, if you need to talk more about it.
And by the way, you might think that your entire life will fall apart and things will be bad if you tell your wife, that's why you don't wanna tell her, but also, the feeling of living in constant fear of 'when is she gonna tell my wife?', this feeling is unbearable, there is nothing worse than the feeling of being blackmailed and threatened and living on edge.
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My mom always finds a way to get pissed off with me even when I'm upset. She thinks that i'm too dramatic and vain (which is pretty normal for a teen like me). I try to tone things down around her, but she still finds things that I do wrong. She never even tries to understand me even when her sisters do. Am I being ridiculous about this or should she try to be more sympathetic and understanding?
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I do not think that you are being ridiculous. I do think that your mom should be a little more understanding when you feel upset or when you're not at your best mood. But it's something very common in our parents, how there is this generation gap, and they always fail to overcome it, to be able to understand us and how we think and what we're going through. They always think that we're just young and especially in that teenager phase, they think that we exaggerate things and create problems out of nothing, when they don't know, that everyone deals with the same problem in different ways, according to your age, and how much you can take. So she might see that these problems are nothing in comparison to the problems that she faces in her age, but for you, it seems really big and upsets you, and yes she should be sympathetic and she should be there for you and she should help you go through whatever you're going through. I can understand where you're coming from and how you feel about her being that way with you, and I'm sure a lot of people can relate to your situation. The only thing you can do is to talk to her about it, in a very nice and respectful manner, without fighting or getting angry or storming off, just tell her that you wish that she could be there for you more and she could listen to you and give you a chance and be more understanding, and how you understand that sometimes she might think that the problems you're facing are simple, but they're really hard on you and you need her to guide you. And even if she gets mad at first or defensive, just know that she will take what you say into consideration between her and herself, and when she does think about it, she will find that you are true in what you say, and over time, you will find her making the effort to change in that department. And after all, at the end of the day, she's still your mother and she loves you, it's impossible that she doesn't like you and that's why she's treating you that way, ofcourse not, but parents always want to see their children in the best way, even if they try to do that by controlling you or fighting with you or acting in a way that you can't explain or not understanding you, they think in their own minds that they're doing this for the best, for your best.
And you can also try to not be upset infront of her or complain to her a lot about anything, try to keep that to yourself or talk to someone else about it, maybe a friend or a sibling or another family member. Try to always be cheerful around her, and even if you sometimes do get upset, and she starts getting pissed off, try to change the subject around and laugh it off, show her that you're not serious about it, that you're not exaggerating things like she thinks you are.
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my boyfriend is acting wierd...... Is he cheating? (link)
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No not necessarily, don't blame him or make such bad assumptions, and even if he is unfaithful, which we don't know at all now for sure, you should trust him, because it's important that a relationship is built on trust.
Maybe he just has something on his mind, and he doesn't really want to talk about it, that's why he hasn't told you, and it's upsetting him or taking up his time and thinking, so I think that you should sit with him and talk, and tell him that you've noticed that he's been acting weird, and if there is anything that has been going on in his life that he needs to talk to someone about it, and tell him that you're there for him, and ask him if you've done something wrong. Maybe he's upset at you for something you did or said, but you're not aware of it, so ask him, and tell him if it's something about the both you, your relationship, is something upsetting him about it. Talk to him. Communication is very important in any relationship.But don't tell him are you cheating on me, because if he's not, then that could cause a problem alone, a big fight where he'd get mad at you for not trusting him, and he has all the right, if you did ask him if he's cheating, he has the right to get mad at you, you should trust him. And even if you're right, don't blame yourself for trusting him, on the contrary, you should praise yourself for trusting him, because you're doing your part of the relationship, but if he's unfaithful and couldn't do his part, then that's his problem.
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I like this guy at work and he said he thinks I'm cute. I'm 20 and he's 21. I know that he used to drink, but I don't think he does much anymore.I don't really know how he is outside of work. I am Christian and I'm not suppose to date a nonbeliever. I don't know if he believes in God or not. If he were to ask me out what should I say? Would it be ok if I said I had to think about it? (link)
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In my opinion, I think that you should go out together, but tell him, 'Just as friends', but not as an actual date, so that it wouldn't be like going out with a non believer or someone whom you may be incompatible with. And when you go out as friends, you can ask him all those questions about himself and you can know then, if you can really go out with him and date him or not, and if you can't, and if you do find out that you're incompatible together, then there is no problem if you backed out, because you're not really committed to him, it was just a normal outing as two friends getting to know each other.
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i am a 20 year old female that is in love with my highschool sweetheart and when i met hiim he was the sweet shy guy and even though we are 3 years apart we are still together after 7 years. unfortunatly all we do is fight. and it is over stupid stuff he tells me all the time "i love you to death but god you drive me insane and sometimes i really hate you" it makes me feel ugly and not worthy of anything. i completley ignore the words "i love you" when after that he tells me he hates me. :( HELP!! (link)
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Sometimes when you love someone so much, there are certain things about you that you have to change inorder to please this person or satisfy this person. Ofcourse in reality, you should never change who you are for anyone, but sometimes you find yourself obliged, or you do it out of love, like when you sacrifice something you really love to do, or your career, or whatever it is, to be with the person you love. So in your case, maybe there is a certain thing about you or about him, in the personality, or a certain action or behaviour that triggers the fighting, usually there is a source which the reason behind the continuous fighting and tension and that lets you get on each others' nerves. So try to find that, and maybe change it. And if there isn't anything, then try to follow a different strategy, try to not fight back when he fights, and like smile or laugh out loud, not in a way to piss him more, but to just laugh it off, you know how you laugh something off, to make it seem of a lesser problem than it really is? Do that. Or like reply back in a low tone and quiet tone, to make him realize how bad and foolish he looks like shouting out at you, so he'll lower his tone. Or simply tell him, I don't want to fight anymore, and just like you know, kiss him or hug him, or talk sweet talk to him, because in the very end, I'm sure that he loves you, and that you love him, and you've been through alot together, so don't throw that away, I don't want to have to tell you to throw that away, because beneath all that fighting, it means so much to you, and to him, so don't lose it, fight for it.
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well they is a guy that i like and he is always giving me hug when he hugs me it doesn't feel like they mean anything what should i do and is they anything to help me please (link)
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Well there are some type of guys who do that, it seems kind of girly though, because that's usually something your girl friend would do, but some guys act that way. I can't really tell you if it means that he likes you or not, because you didn't provide any kind of information about the kind of relationship going on between you, like how long have you known each other, and if there are any other signals that show you that he likes you, or is he just friends. I'm not sure. But my advice to you, is to not to do anything about it, and to just go with the flow, and if he does like you, and if it means anything, then you'll see more signals than just a hug, because no one impresses someone or tries to express their love by just hugging, there has to be more to it. But don't rush into anything, or confess that you like him or anything, because you have to be sure first that it's a two sided relationship, and that he does really have feelings for you. So for now, just look out for signals I guess.
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So after I broke up with my boyfriend I forgot one little detail that still connected us. When we were together we got two hamsters together and now after this break up we don't know what to do. I mean I still love our hamsters and want to keep them and see them so we talked and we found a solution. My ex said that we can each keep them for 1 month...so my month is coming up but I don't know if its okay for me to see my ex having a new boyfriend myself. I mean I asked him if he was okay with it but he keeps telling me no comment so I ask if this solution I have with my ex is a good idea or should I just let him keep the hamsters???? (link)
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I honestly don't think that it's any of his business that you have a new boyfriend. You broke up, for whatever reason, and now you're separated and each one of you can do whatever they want. Like if he dates someone, it's not your concern who it is or you don't even have the right to get upset about it, ofcourse you could be upset about it between yourself and you, but infront of him, you can't judge him ,or disapprove or tell him anything about it. I actually love how you're both diplomatic about this, enough to come up with such a good and understanding solution. So if those hamsters really mean alot to you, then I think that he couldn't have given you a better chance, and it's a really good idea, so take advantage of it, and don't keep telling him that it's not a good idea, in case he changes his mind and then you don't get to see the hamsters again.
But if you don't care that much about the hamsters anyways, then just let him have them, and you can buy yourself a new pet or something. But this has completely nothing to do with your boyfriend, or him being upset about it. And you should stop asking him if he's okay with it, because you shouldn't care if he's okay with it or not, because ofcourse he's not, you broke up, and now he's alone, and you're with someone, it'll take him time to move on and find someone else, so stop asking him if he's okay, because obviously he's not, but yet he's doing a pretty good job in holding up and actually being very very decent and diplomatic about it to be able to talk to you and reach such a decision with you about the hamsters.
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what does im mean (link)
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It either means I'm, but someone was too lazy to type the ' lol
Or it means instant message, and this is an internet slang, usually used in chatrooms, blogs, SMS and internet forums. It means to text someone, or send a message to someone.
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hi, im fourteen and i need to go to illinios to see the girl of my dreams and i need to no the easiest way to do it....i take all suggestions and i have tried to get family to take me but they wont so help me plz (link)
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You want to run away? That's wrong. Did your family allow you to go see her on your own? I doubt that.
Running away to see her is not the right way to be with her. You can contact her in many other ways. You can talk online via video chat or talk on the phone, or even visit each other but on holidays and occasions. But you can't run away and leave your life and family behind to be with her. Besides, why isn't SHE running away to be with you? Why isn't she thinking the same? You think it's because you are the guy, so you are the one who should run away to be with her? That's not necessarily, if she was inlove with you as much as you were in love with her, you would be running away together, and not only you running to her.
You are still fourteen, you are not IN love, you are only overwhelmed by a sensation of admiration and excitement, a new feeling that you feel, but it's not love, you don't know love yet, and you may not believe me, but whether you continue to be with her or not, one day you WILL be in love, and you'll know that what you felt now was nothing in comparison.
So for now, don't rush things, be with her, but in a long distance relationship, till after a couple of years, when you join college, maybe you could move to illinois and go to college there, and then you could be with her, and if she's the same age as you, maybe you could even join the same university. This is how things work, but it's not by you running away and leaving your family and education and life and going all the way there, just so you'd realize that you have no money or place there, and it's not like she'll take you into her home and her family would agree. What are you going to do then? How would you support yourself? Are you going to get a job at 14 years, you won't find a job at your age.
So always in life, when you want to do something, you have to put out a plan, and see if it'll work, you have to plan ahead and work out all the different possibilities for your plan, but right now, for your plan, there is 0 success that it will work.
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I'm 15 years old, and still thought i was a virgin it' hurts me to read other people's stuff saying they thought they were too but it turned out that im not one , i've been with that guy 1 year and about to be 3 months. .. and right now.. i dont know what to do or think... My mom is like a bestfriend, how should i tell her how things happend'? that im not, and what me n him were doing . it breaks my heart lying to her :'( i neeed advice . ALOT. (link)
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There is no easy way to tell your mom about it, but there is the fact that she's your mom and she's your best friend, and no matter what you do, a mother's love is unconditional and she will always love you. Even if she gets really mad at you at first, and maybe even stop talking to you for a while, and that's usually, because she'll be hit by the fact that you've grown up, and how soon that happened, because parent's usually always see their children as children, as the little babies they once were, but they always expect that one day you'll grow up and move past this stage, but it differs when you grow up too soon or too late. This is what hurts them the most, growing up too soon, it's like time has passed and you've already had sex and lost your virginity. Your mom will be hurt at first, but she'll accept the fact soon enough, and she'll be there for you.
And believe me telling her is better than not telling her, and like you said, she's like a best friend to you, and tell her that, tell her that you are so close to each other and that you never want to lie to her or keep secrets from her, so you are being honest with her and telling her that you lost your virginity, she will respect that and love that you opened up to her and trusted her and was honest with her, even if she'll be upset at first.
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need something to occupy me during break! what do you guys enjoy? (link)
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Gossip Girl
One tree hill
Desperate housewives
The Vampire Diaries
Dexter
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Could you please tell me what my friend is saying to me.He said, "Catie,Bahibek ad el-sama wo arad.Bahibek ya hilwa.ma3a 7oby men moshkeltak el lazeeza." I keep asking you questions and you so gratiously keep answering them. Tank you. Maybe I should buy a dictionary to help me since I feel like I shouldn't bother you so much. Thank you again for all your help.
Catie (link)
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No its okay, feel free to ask me at any time, I'm glad to be of help.
what your friend said exactly translates into 'Catie, I love you as much as the sky and earth, I love you beautiful. With my love from your sweet problem'
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Thank you for all the help so far. One more question, if I want to say "Abubakar, my love" how would I say it spelling it out in English? If he says it back to me would he say it the same way? I really appreciate the fact that you take the time to answer my questions. (link)
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If you say it to him, you will say, ' Abubakar, 7oby' where the 7 is an h. 7oby means my love.
If he says it to you, he'll say it the same way, but using your name ofcourse, like '(your name), 7oby'
Feel free to ask any questions.
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How would I say "I still love you" to a man spelling it out in English?Someone told me it was" Ana ba'ad ahib anta or anti". Is this correct and would I use anta or anti since I am a woman saying it to a man? (link)
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The sentence you said is incorrect, I don't even know how to pronounce it, it doesn't make since. When you spell an arabic word in English, we use the english letters along with numbers, so you should say ' Ana lesa ba7ebak' , and that '7' means an 'h' but by pronouncing it heavily. This is exactly the correct thing to say if its a woman saying it to a man. You keep asking me this same question lool, but don't worry, I'm positive about my answer, cause dude my first language is arabic, I don't think any one will tell you a more correct answer than mine loool
Feel free to ask me at any time :D
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