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am i being ridiculous?
My mom always finds a way to get pissed off with me even when I'm upset. She thinks that i'm too dramatic and vain (which is pretty normal for a teen like me). I try to tone things down around her, but she still finds things that I do wrong. She never even tries to understand me even when her sisters do. Am I being ridiculous about this or should she try to be more sympathetic and understanding?
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I know exactly how you feel. My guardian says everything to make me mad. Your mother should be the one who's understanding. There's nothing i've been able to do except try an ignore it... Which is hard, but it might work for you
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The most basic answer to this is that your mother should be more sympathetic and understanding. You should tell her the only reason she thinks your too dramatic and vain is because mostly of her trying to get you mad and angry for stupid things. If she honestly doesn't try to understand you , what's the point? Dont let her get in your way and dont be vain and dramatic dont let her find a reason to pick a fight with you.
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you are not being redic
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I do not think that you are being ridiculous. I do think that your mom should be a little more understanding when you feel upset or when you're not at your best mood. But it's something very common in our parents, how there is this generation gap, and they always fail to overcome it, to be able to understand us and how we think and what we're going through. They always think that we're just young and especially in that teenager phase, they think that we exaggerate things and create problems out of nothing, when they don't know, that everyone deals with the same problem in different ways, according to your age, and how much you can take. So she might see that these problems are nothing in comparison to the problems that she faces in her age, but for you, it seems really big and upsets you, and yes she should be sympathetic and she should be there for you and she should help you go through whatever you're going through. I can understand where you're coming from and how you feel about her being that way with you, and I'm sure a lot of people can relate to your situation. The only thing you can do is to talk to her about it, in a very nice and respectful manner, without fighting or getting angry or storming off, just tell her that you wish that she could be there for you more and she could listen to you and give you a chance and be more understanding, and how you understand that sometimes she might think that the problems you're facing are simple, but they're really hard on you and you need her to guide you. And even if she gets mad at first or defensive, just know that she will take what you say into consideration between her and herself, and when she does think about it, she will find that you are true in what you say, and over time, you will find her making the effort to change in that department. And after all, at the end of the day, she's still your mother and she loves you, it's impossible that she doesn't like you and that's why she's treating you that way, ofcourse not, but parents always want to see their children in the best way, even if they try to do that by controlling you or fighting with you or acting in a way that you can't explain or not understanding you, they think in their own minds that they're doing this for the best, for your best.
And you can also try to not be upset infront of her or complain to her a lot about anything, try to keep that to yourself or talk to someone else about it, maybe a friend or a sibling or another family member. Try to always be cheerful around her, and even if you sometimes do get upset, and she starts getting pissed off, try to change the subject around and laugh it off, show her that you're not serious about it, that you're not exaggerating things like she thinks you are.
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It's a little bit of both
Being a teenager you go through a lot of changes, You are going from a child to an adult, Puberty etc. Hormones are out of whack and all hell lets loose. You are entitled to being a typical teenager but lets also keep in mind that maybe Mom doesn't know how to handle the mood swings. It isn't easy being a parent of a rebellious teenager. I'm not saying you are rebellious but teenagers are very difficult to deal with it at times.
Mom might not understand how you feel and what you are going through as not every parent gets the whole teen years. Sure, We were all teenagers once but things were different when your Mother was a teenager as everything changes as years pass. All you can do is try to see where Mom may be coming from. If you know you get pissed off and dramatic then try and work on it. It will help both situations
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You're not being ridiculous at all. As a teenager, you're expected to have mood swings and be a bit self-indulgent. As a mother, she should be the adult and deal with that. Maybe you should have her sisters talk with her about being more patient and understanding with you. After all, it is her job to help you through the difficult teenage years. You should tell her how you feel and maybe she'll realize she's been being a little too harsh on you. If not, just know that you're only doing what most other teenagers do, you aren't doing anything wrong. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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