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Q: I'm getting a tattoo (i'm a girl) and I have an idea in mind of what i'd like.. but I'm having trouble finding the exact one! I'm not much of an artist. i'm trying to draw one myself but its difficult. i'm wondering if anyone is willing to draw me one? or at least find an image of one that i would like?

Here's what I would like it to have-

-2 butterflies (1 big and 1 small)
-a swirly vine with leaves
-1 small heart
-few stars (maybe 4 or 5 stars in a line, starting small and getting bigger)
-small flowers (daisies. preferably on the vine. but anywhere is okay too)

I'm thinking about putting this design on my shoulder blade. Then putting a saying next to the picture that says "Life is what you make it".

Thank you!!!

http://www.tattoos-beauty.com/image-files/butter-flower4.jpg

http://alltattooideas.com/star-butterfly-tattoos

http://www.tattoo.tv/gallery/Your%20Galleries/butterfly,+flowers,+swirls+mod.html

http://s522.photobucket.com/albums/w348/pledge175/?action=view¤t=103_0001.jpg&sort=ascending

http://www.zapadroid.com/droid/id/178631/com.m41m41.tattoos3

http://s494.photobucket.com/albums/rr302/sendriila/flowers/?action=view¤t=Stars_Flower_Butterflies_Color_by_2.jpg¤ttag=flowers

Also, this website allows you to give a full description of the tattoo you want and tattoo artists create one for you (it costs money).
Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: I have really big dimples when I smile. Girls tell me that they are jealous that I have dimples, but do guys actually like them? Please put your opinion on dimples

♥ ♥ ♥

14 year old girl :)

From my experience, the majority of guys love dimples. I think they're adorable and really add character to your face and I've found that they can make a person more attractive :) Hope I helped!

Q: I don't know if I like this guy or not, hes one of my close friends. we were playing around and I ended up on top of him and grinding. I'm haven't had sex and neither has he, but He wants too. I'm not ready yet but I don't want to stop what we are doing. I don't want a relationship, just the action. This sounds slutty, but he is okay with it that way too. Should we keep fooling around or not?

As long as your being safe and know what your getting yourself into, then I don't really see anything wrong with just fooling around. I'm not sure how old you are but you should definitely hold off on giving him your virginity before you're sure whether you like him or not. I honestly don't think it's slutty as long as it's just with this one guy and it stays that way. Just make sure that if you feel yourself getting emotionally attached, you let him know. You don't want to end up getting hurt over this when you were only trying to have fun. Be safe and be aware of the consequences of these types of relations. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: There is this guy I like but he gives a lot of mixed signals and it annoys me a lot. Sometimes he nice to me. He smiles he hugs me and gives me a kiss on the cheek and does stuff to make me laugh like say my name funny. And he also stares at me a lot like really a lot its not even funny. But then there are those days when he ignores me. I try to talk to him and he seems uninterested he doesn't hold the conversation long. It feels like I'm trying really hard. It frustrating I really like him and I wanna get closer to him but I hate this 1 day he's nice and then another he blows me off. Does he like me? What do I do?

There a few possibilities..
He could be trying to play hard to get because he really likes you and doesn't want to scare you off.
Or he has a crush on you but doesn't want to go any further with it so he doesn't want to get your hopes up too much.
Or he just likes to flirt but isn't interested in having a girlfriend.
Regardless of what the situation is, there is one thing that will work. That is giving him a taste of his own medicine. Once you show him that you can live without him and you're not in need of his attention, he will most likely wonder what's going on. The least likely outcome would be that he just doesn't care and moves on, but it doesn't seem like that will happen because he obviously has an interest in you. He will most likely confront you about it and ask you what's wrong. By mimicking exactly the way he acts, you'll show him how confused he's making you and how it's not helping your relationship along. If he really wants to get closer to you, he'll be upset that you're being cold towards him. It's a good way to tell if a guy is really interested or if he's just flirting aimlessly. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: My mom always finds a way to get pissed off with me even when I'm upset. She thinks that i'm too dramatic and vain (which is pretty normal for a teen like me). I try to tone things down around her, but she still finds things that I do wrong. She never even tries to understand me even when her sisters do. Am I being ridiculous about this or should she try to be more sympathetic and understanding?

You're not being ridiculous at all. As a teenager, you're expected to have mood swings and be a bit self-indulgent. As a mother, she should be the adult and deal with that. Maybe you should have her sisters talk with her about being more patient and understanding with you. After all, it is her job to help you through the difficult teenage years. You should tell her how you feel and maybe she'll realize she's been being a little too harsh on you. If not, just know that you're only doing what most other teenagers do, you aren't doing anything wrong. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: so i like this guy and he said he liked me but not that much. i texted him and we talked,and i got a message from him at 1:00 am saying "hey why r u ignoring me?" so i tried to get ahold of him and he told me that i was getting annoying, so i told him i would stop talking to him, and he said that he still wanted to talk to me, just not all the time. so i want to know, could this guy have feelings for me?

He's definitely giving you mixed messages.. if he thinks you're getting annoying than why would he message you asking you why you're ignoring him? It sounds like he's messing with you head and your feelings. He has some sort of feelings for you, perhaps a crush that he isn't willing to take to the next level. To be honest, he seems like a bit of a jerk so I would say back off for a little while and see what happens. If he pursues you then I would say talk to him. But other than that, you shouldn't waste your time on someone who only wants to talk some of the time. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: i'm 19/f, and i've been dating my boyfriend joe for 9 months. my boyfriend and i met at work and we still work at the same place together.

i've never had a problem with our relationship until i met nick. he also works with us and just got hired about 2 months ago. i hate to admit this, but.. for the past month, i've been having feelings for this new guy nick, even though i've been dating joe the whole time.

ever since i met nick, i've been really confused about my relationship with joe. i've seriously considered breaking up with him and i almost did, but i reconsidered at the last minute. i decided that i want to keep dating joe because i still have feelings for him and i love spending time with him...but at the same time i'm starting to realize that i truly want freedom in my life, and i just can't have that if i have a boyfriend, no matter how good of a boyfriend joe is. that's another reason why i feel like i should break up with him - i feel like i'm taking him for granted. he treats me like a princess, and i don't think i deserve to be spoiled like that, especially when my mind is wandering elsewhere.

i don't know what nick wants from me. i have a feeling he's just a player, but i can't tell. i realize that he's not the most eligible bachelor: he has a one-year-old son with his girlfriend, and i haven't heard much about her, except he's remarked that he doesn't want to marry her, and that he wants to take her to court to get custody of his son. but she also lives with him and his parents, so i mean obviously she's in his life for good, whether he wants her there or not.

nick started flirting with me at work about a month ago. he asked me for my number (in a joking way at first) and in response i said, "no, joe's my man!" and gave joe a hug right in front of him. (which joe loved.) that was the moment when nick found out that joe and i were dating.

but since then, nick continues to flirt with me at work. for example, he pokes me in passing and has hugged me, and after a few weeks of that stuff he asked me to hang out one day, so we exchanged numbers. i didn't know what he intended for us to do when we hung out, (i didn't want to put myself in a position where i could cheat on joe. i wouldn't EVER cheat on him, but i didn't want to be put in that position.) so i invited nick's cousin chris (who also works with us) to hang out with us. i tried to make it a friend thing. chris agreed, and nick&chris decided that we should go to chris's house and go swimming.

so nick called me that night like he said he would, and i walked to meet up with him..and me and him drove in his truck to his chris's house.

it was kind of an awkward hang out: i show up with nick at his aunt and uncle's house..and then we all go swimming in their pool: me, nick, his aunt and uncle and his cousin... very weird for the first time hanging out with two teenage guys outside of work..but i lived.

when we got out of the pool i suggested we have a bonfire, and they liked that idea. so nick's aunt and uncle went inside and the guys made a fire. i sat there while they got some beers and smoked a bowl. i don't really drink or smoke, so that was kind of awkward once again, but thought it was fine. i don't know what nick was thinking.

at this point, joe is texting me asking what i'm doing, so i told him i was hanging out with nick and his cousin. joe flipped out, because he has seen nick flirting with me at work and obviously wasn't happy that i decided to hang out with him outside of work. so, i told joe that the hang out was no big deal and that their parents were even joining us for some of it, and that nick wasn't even flirting with me or anything. (which was true.)

joe was still upset though, so i told nick and chris that joe was upset, and they said "hey why don't you invite him over? we never said he couldn't come." so i texted joe their address and then he came over.

once joe got there, we just sat around the fire for another hour or so. by then, it was around 11 P.M. nick said he was hungry and wanted to go to burger king. i was kinda hungry too but i didn't want joe to think i was going to run off with nick so i said nothing and we continued to sit there for another half hour.

another girl from work called chris and asked if he wanted to hang out, so she was invited over and came over. but it was getting late and i needed a ride home (since nick had brought me there.) nick continuously offered to drive me home since he had brought me to his cousin's house in the first place, but joe said he would drive me home too, and i obviously couldn't take a ride from another guy right in front of my boyfriend. so joe took me home that night and that was the end of that.

i haven't seen nick or chris outside of work since then. i'm really confused as to what nick wants from me, because even though he has a girlfriend, he flirts with me.

what do you think nick wants from me? do you think he wants me in his life as a friend, or something more? i feel like if we were both single, we would have hooked up or would have talked about liking each other by now, but maybe nick just treats every girl this way - i can't tell.

i've been a good girl my whole life, and i've always done the right thing. i can't forgive myself for having feelings for another guy while having a boyfriend. i feel so guilty about it, but i would never take it any further than the emotions in my head - i'd never cheat on joe.

what should i do about my relationship with joe? the less i analyze my relationship (or lack thereof) with nick, the easier it is for me to ease back into my relationship with joe, but i don't know if i'm in a relationship for the right reasons. i know nick is probably not the right guy for me - i mean, he comes with a lot of baggage for one thing, and he's also not even single - but i can't stop thinking about him. and i know i shouldn't, because i already have a good boyfriend.

does having feelings for another guy mean i should break up with my boyfriend? does it mean that i subconsciously don't really like my boyfriend that much? i'm so lost.

I think you should definitely stay with your boyfriend. If he treats you right and you like being with him then this guy who just recently walked into your life with a child and a girlfriend shouldn't affect your relationship of nine months. Sometimes when you've been with a guy for such a long time you can get bored, you're probably craving something spontaneous and exciting since you've been so tied down. The truth is, Nick will always have relations with his girlfriend because of his child, and the fact that he's trying to flirt with you while you have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend with a kid proves that he's not that great of a guy. You're better off staying with Joe who cares about you than ending things with him to hook up with a guy, causing him to cheat on his child's mother. I'm sure you don't want to deal with that guilt. Maybe there's some way you can talk to Joe and let him know that you want to spice your relationship up a bit. And in the meantime, it might not hurt if you just get a new job to keep the temptation of Nick out of the way until it disappears all together (it will, I promise). I think every girl who's been with their boyfriend a while gets a small crush on another guy for a short amount of time. It doesn't mean you lost feelings for your boyfriend, it just means that you might be experiencing some boredom with your relationship and maybe need to switch things up. It isn't a crime to have small feelings for a cute new guy while you're dating someone else, but don't let it ruin the relationship you have! Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: 21 female

I've known this guy whose 18 for a long time. I haven't always been close with him. Just recently we've started "talking"

But now it freaks me out. I'm the kind of girl that when someone likes you, you run away. But he treats me sooo good. I still live with my parents but they went out of town last weekend and so he came and stayed with me because I don't like being alone. Well he made the bed, he did the dishes and took out the trash even when I told him not to. He bought me dinner. He doesn't try to hook up with me, he knows that's not what I want. He respects me. He's everything a girl could ever want.

But why is it that I am losing feelings for him now? Is he too nice to me? He tells me I'm beautiful at least 20 times a day and for some reason that freaks me out. He tells me all the time he likes me. So why am I suddenly feeling annoyed by him? And now I seem to start thinking he's not even cute anymore. What's wrong with me!!! I couldn't ask for a better guy, so why am I so afraid?

I don't know what to do. I know if I told him I wasn't interested and let him go, I'd miss him to death and probably wouldn't come across another guy who treats me like he does. I'd be letting go of a great thing. But if I continue to be with him, I don't want to hurt him if things don't work out and my feelings for him go away.

Any advice? :\

I think you definitely need to talk to him and explain as nicely as you can that you are a very independent person and it's hard for you to get close to someone. Tell him that you appreciate his affection and kindness but you're going to need a little more space before you get too serious. I know exactly how you feel.. when someone is showing you too much attention you pull away but when they're ignoring you, you tend to be more interested. Let him know that if he pulls back a little you'll feel more comfortable getting close to him. Sometimes the chase is the best part of a relationship, so tell him to keep you on your feet. But throughout all of that make sure you express to him what a sweet guy he is and how lucky you are to have him around so that he doesn't think you're dropping him. I don't think you should give up on this just yet, this could be your chance to find out what it's like to open up and let someone in. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: OKay so I wont take long I am senior and in the 12th grade and there is this new admission in my school he is in the 11th grade
he is cute and i kinda want to get to know him
but the problem is i am a senior.. and it would be really weird just walking upto him and saying HIIII and conversing
that sort of stuff cant happen
i mean you know i am fairly popular in school and my friends notice. and i know the 11th grade people quite well
and i dont want stupid stuff going around school
but
this guy is really cute and i really think he might just turn out to be my type
but i dont know how i get to know him!!!!!!!

I think you should start of just introducing yourself and then gradually start talking to him. The age difference isn't huge, however it does give you an advantage. The fact that you're older than him will more than likely cause him to be more interested. Just give it a shot, ask him where he's from and let him know that if he wants you to show him around you'd be more than happy to. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: how do i prove to someone i want to be with them and show her shes evrythin ive ever wanted when shes with someone else?

One of the most important things you can do is show the girl that you are willing to do anything to make her happy, even if that means not being with her. However if you think you can make her happier than the other person, you should prove that. If there are things the other person is lacking, show her how you could make up for that. For instance, if she doesn't like how the person she is with argues a lot, show her how easy going you can be and how much smoother her life would be if she was with you instead. A good way to show her how much you care is to write her a sweet poem or a letter expressing how you feel. Or you could take her out to a place that she really likes and tell her how much you care about her. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: heythere! btw, imma 14yearold girl. So, there's this 18year old guy who claims that he likes me, but i dont know how true is it :/ , i've read from the internet that if a guy likes you, he'll give you a call at least once a day.or drop a random text asking how was your day and so on. I dont know how true, but im going with that concept. Yeahhh,so he doesnt even call me or text me! :o what does this show? Or is he afraid of disturbing me? :/ , im really confused about this! Please help me! Thanks a million(: !

In my opinion, he guy wouldn't say he likes you if he wasn't at all interested. But you have to be careful with a guy who is so much older than you and at that age when he could only be hoping for one thing. It could definitely be true that he likes you a lot but he doesn't want to seem annoying by calling or texting you. It's not always true that if a guy likes you than he will contact you every day, it really depends on the guy and most wouldn't think to do that. I think you should help him out and try texting him and see if he answers. If he doesn't answer a call or text than it's likely that he is no longer interested. Good luck and I hope I helped!

Q: Just as a survey, how would you guys rate/handle a situation with:
A girl and guy (18 years both almost 19)
Guy doesnt pay for girl, girl always drives guy around because the guy doesnt have a car. They both say they love each other, talk about marriage, and kids. Guy doesnt have a job yet but aspires to have one; girl is going away to college, guy is going to a community college and they both plan to stay together.
What if you were the boy or girl, would you guys say this is a good realtionship?

There are definitely some great aspects to the relationship, however it seems as though the guy is reaping the benefits from the relationship more than the girl. I'm sure the guy is insecure about the girl having her stuff together more than he does, but it is a very positive thing that he is at least going to college. In my opinion, the girl should gently push her boyfriend in the right direction (helping him get a job and a car ect.) if that is how she wants to go with this. It all depends on if the guy is worth all the trouble of helping him get on his feet. This girl deserves her boyfriend to take her out and pay for her, so she shouldn't settle for less. I would say stay together for sure if they really love each other and if the relationship is worth the effort. Good luck and hope I helped!

Q: okay so me and this guy have a love hate relationship, i hate that i love him; like the song i hate that i love you by rihanna... what are some other songs like that?

thanks
kaaitlyn

Broken-Hearted Girl by Beyonce
7 Things by Miley Cyrus
The Little Voice by Hilary Duff
Addicted by Kelly Clarkson
Hope this helps :)

Q: My boyfriend of 1 and half years was confused about what he wanted, and all he kept saying was "Im confused, i love you and thats why we cant be together :/" No, not a long distance relationship, No,both our families know and are completely okay, he just doesnt want me and doesnt know how to end it basically right? im not an idiot, im just wondering. thanks. =/

I've been in similar situations, and I've found that the best thing to do is wait it out. He probably needs a little time to figure out what he wants, if what he wants is you, he'll tell you. Otherwise, you're better off just moving on. After a year and a half I don't believe that he just simply "doesn't want you" but maybe just can't handle the strong feelings he has and needs to sort them out. Give him some time and if he doesn't contact you, contact him and let him know that you still care about him but you can't just sit around and wait for a straight answer. Tell him to be honest with you and suggest ways to better your relationship for the both of you! Best of luck :)

Q: I know most people would think that it is a bad idea to be friends with your ex right away, but neither me or him want to stop being friends. The thing is that even though I broke up with him, I still have some feelings for him and he still does too. But I'm dealing with them and trying to make them go away. But he told me that he is scared of us hating eachother one day. I would never want that to happen. Does anyone know how we can stay friends without risking ruining the friendship altogether? Thanks.

That's a good thing that you want to stay friends. It sounds like the both of you need to try and put your focus on a different interest. If you want to be friends, avoid talking about how you care about each other for a while and be a buddy to him. Helping each other find hot guys/girls could be a fun friend thing to do if you want those feelings to go away. Instead of spending a bunch of time alone with him, do group things together that way you won't feel like the relationship is intimate. If the both of you have feelings for each other and don't want to end up hating each other than chances are you won't. Eventually you guys will either find that you can be great friends or that you have the potential to be something more.

Q: so i just turned 16 and i have only ever pecked a guy and been felt up. thats it! some of my friends have had sex and ALL of them have atleast made out. I always get the chance to kiss some guy and its perfect but I find a way to get out of it because im sooo nervous. I dont know how the hell to kiss like that! I once pecked a guy and he like opened my lips with him tongue i was like wtf is he doing so I pulled away, then realized he was trying to make out later on haha. It felt so awkward, and I wasn't even involved, which means it will be way way awkward when I am actually kissing back.

I feel so freakin prude and I have to turn down SOOOO many sweet guys because I am too scared to kiss, and theres NO way Im telling anyone I havent before, all my friends think i have because its annoying when they always talk about it. Once when i was drunk I was laying in bed with this guy and we kissed and he tried to make out with me, but i cant remember if we actually did or if i just pushed him away hah. so i consider him my first, but im not sure, i know its sad =/ all i can remember was that it lasted for like 5 secs and it was awkward =p

I know to just go with the flow, but any advice at all?! and also, what if you dont know when to stop since your eyes are closed or what if you miss his mouth should you wait to close them til your kissing? haha any personal experiences or stories are much appreciated! thanks!!

Kissing really isn't as difficult as it seems, i promise. The first thing is you have to make sure you have chemistry with the guy, if your not feeling it, it'll show.
Once your about to kiss, instead of closing your eyes(which can lead to you missing each other), look down at his lips, it'll look as if your closing your eyes. Once you start kissing, it's safe to close them.
Before really getting into the kiss, though, start with some slow kisses, no tongue involved. Ease your way into it.
The most important thing to remember is to keep it slow and sexy. There's nothing sexy about a girl slobbering a guys face off:]It's very easy to just follow his lead, until you develop your own technique. Trust me, you'll understand once it gets going.
As for the ending, it naturally happens. It isn't awkward slowly pulling away, and sometimes its even better. Leave him wanting more;]
Good Luck! Hope I helped:]

Q: -you dating someone you don't like
-someone liking you when you don't like them
-not wanting to hurt someone but you think you will

something along those lines

There's a new song by Vanessa Hudgens called "Don't Ask Why", which is about not wanting to hurt some one you care about, but not feeling the same way they do.
Also, "Mouth Shut", by The Veronicas is a perfect song for your situation.
Hope I helped!

Q: so okay. me and my boyfriend were making out. and i was straddling him while he was sitting. we were both getting really into it and blah blah blah but then suddenly he was like i have to go to the bathroom. and like ran upstairs. i just kinna sat there like ummm okay..? now i really doubt that he really just had to go to the bathroom. but maybe.. and i told this to my friend's boyfriend and he just laughed. what do you all think?
thanks!

There are three possible answers to this questions, none are a bad sign.
1. He may have just really had to go to the bathroom, and he didn't want to get into things when really had to go.
2. He felt a little strange or uncomfortable getting into things, maybe he felt the place and time wasn't right.
3. It's very possible he had to.. um, how do I say this.. jack off. That, in my oppinion is pretty much the most likely!
BEST OF LUCK! Hope I helped!:)

Q: Hey im 16/f. Well my parents just recently found out about me dating my brothers friend who is my age. He was spending the night "for my brother" and we were like sneaking around my parents back cuz they didnt know and they made us break up. (his mom doesn't like me) So i've been a reck lately and we still really love each other and what-not but he goes to a different school but he'll be here next year so we're gonna date next year. But i try to write notes but he doesn't want to get caught cuz his dad like beats him. (not bad) So are there any songs/quotes that describe sort of this situation it doesnt have to be exact! Just how i want him back and its just hard.. Thanks a bunch!!!!!

First off, I'm really sorry that happened to you! I'm more then happy to give you some songs!
I hope you like Katherine Mcphee!
I thought of this song right away when I read your situation!
There is a song called "Ordinary World" by her. It's about being upset that he's not around anymore and that the world isn't the same without him. It's not a song saying "Oh I'm so sad you broke up with me and I hate you". It's more like, "I wish you weren't far away, I wish I could see you". It even says that she's gonna come and see him because she misses him so much! It's realy beautiful. If you go on www.youtube.com- and type in Katherine Mcphee - Ordinary World you can listen to it.
Another song thats a little more upbeat, if you haven't heard it before "Here in your arms" by Hellogoodbye. Again its about missing some one and how great it feels to be in their arms. If you go on youtube you can listen to it as well.
I really hope this helps! And good luck with him! :)

Q: if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh?

In my oppinion, you could very well be in love with some one and be debating with yourself. A few words of wisdom: Feeling love comes from your heart, when your not sure if your in love, that is your mind talking. It probably means your afraid of love or want to make sure your love is true. But you would know if you really loved some one, there aren't really symptoms, you just have your own way of thinking. You know the saying: "Follow your heart?" Well, thats much more true then follow your mind. HOPE THIS HELPS:)