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i dont know if i love my girlfriend
if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh?
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alright.. well i think that if you're debating with yourself, then you MIGHT love them, but not like, trueeeeee looveeee. like for the first few months of my relationship, my boyfriend and i both said i love you and all that.. and i did love him. but back then, it was more of a 'i care very very deeply about you' love. but i remember one day, i was cleaning my room, and it was an ordinary day. and all of a sudden, i felt really strange and had that butterflies in my stomach kinda thing and was very light on my feet.. it was almost as though i felt sick but i liked it and i never wanted the feeling to go away. that day i just knew that i was truely IN LOVE with him. and not 'i care very very deeply about you' love.. it was 'i can't be without you, i need you and i want all of you all to myself forever until i die and i love you more than anything' love. i just felt it and one day, it will hit you for sure. i believe there are a few stages of falling in love.. the first one is friend love, the next one is caring very deeply about someone love, the next one is the confused stage, and it develops from that into either not love, or true head over heels absolutely crazzzzzyyyyy loveeee. trust me, one day you'll know for sure =) ♥
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In my oppinion, you could very well be in love with some one and be debating with yourself. A few words of wisdom: Feeling love comes from your heart, when your not sure if your in love, that is your mind talking. It probably means your afraid of love or want to make sure your love is true. But you would know if you really loved some one, there aren't really symptoms, you just have your own way of thinking. You know the saying: "Follow your heart?" Well, thats much more true then follow your mind. HOPE THIS HELPS:)
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not neccesarily. people question themseleves all the time to see if thats what they really want or looking for. theres nothing wrong with debating with yourself. Sometimes we have to think things through to prevent heartbreak or something were not really ready for. Love is complicated but if at times there all you think about, then there is something special there.
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Love is a lot of things, but it isn't perfect. In any relationship, there will be times that you question your feelings and when they change. Love isn't constant; love takes many forms. Your feelings for the same person can change dramatically over time, and yet still be covered under the word "Love".
How can we expect something so complex to just come naturally? It would be unrealistic to think that we ALWAYS "just know" when we're in love (for one thing, that assumes that people are always right about emotional matters, which is bull).
I think that occasional examination of one's feelings, even putting them under a microscope, is healthy and intelligent behavior. Introspection is how we get to know ourselves, and since you'll spend more time with you than anyone else, it's a worthwhile thing to do.
Those who refuse to examine their own feelings and who are afraid to hold them up for self-inspection are usually living in denial. I've quoted a line from Shakespeare many times on this column, because I think it's among the best all-purpose pieces of advice ever given: "This above all things, to thine own self be true." You can't be true to yourself if you refuse to think about your feelings.
Enough abstraction, though - here's something practical. Falling in love is an incredible rush, but you can't fall forever; eventually you land, and the rush goes away. If you don't take a moment then to think about your feelings, then you might imagine that the love is gone too, when in reality it's just changed its form. Maybe you still love your girlfriend, but it's become a less urgent, quieter kind of feeling. The good news is that with real love, the rush revisits you from time to time. Of course, it's also possible that the love really is no longer there, in which case the relationship may not last for the long term; but doesn't it make sense to THINK about that and not just break up because there's a spark lacking?
So hold your internal debates and dissect your feelings. It's romantic to imagine that we can always be guided by our hearts, but sometimes your heart doesn't know Jack.
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If you're questions yourself about loving someone, or debating about it, then no, you're not in love. You know when you are, it's not a maybe thing.
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Honestly, i believe with all of my heart that if you love somebody you just know. There is not a single question about it.
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This site has some good questions to ask yourself to help you decide. Hope it helps. :)
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