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Why do I want to let go of the best thing that has happened to me
21 female
I've known this guy whose 18 for a long time. I haven't always been close with him. Just recently we've started "talking"
But now it freaks me out. I'm the kind of girl that when someone likes you, you run away. But he treats me sooo good. I still live with my parents but they went out of town last weekend and so he came and stayed with me because I don't like being alone. Well he made the bed, he did the dishes and took out the trash even when I told him not to. He bought me dinner. He doesn't try to hook up with me, he knows that's not what I want. He respects me. He's everything a girl could ever want.
But why is it that I am losing feelings for him now? Is he too nice to me? He tells me I'm beautiful at least 20 times a day and for some reason that freaks me out. He tells me all the time he likes me. So why am I suddenly feeling annoyed by him? And now I seem to start thinking he's not even cute anymore. What's wrong with me!!! I couldn't ask for a better guy, so why am I so afraid?
I don't know what to do. I know if I told him I wasn't interested and let him go, I'd miss him to death and probably wouldn't come across another guy who treats me like he does. I'd be letting go of a great thing. But if I continue to be with him, I don't want to hurt him if things don't work out and my feelings for him go away.
Any advice? :\
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Talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. You dont want to lose him but you are afraid. You are so use to doing things on your own and just having to worry about you and being by yourself, and this relationship means you arent alone, its not just worrying about you anymore its him too... Youre right he is a great guy and you dont want to just throw it away unless you are truely unhappy, but keeping everything bottled up is going to make things worse so let him in good luck and best wishes
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I think you definitely need to talk to him and explain as nicely as you can that you are a very independent person and it's hard for you to get close to someone. Tell him that you appreciate his affection and kindness but you're going to need a little more space before you get too serious. I know exactly how you feel.. when someone is showing you too much attention you pull away but when they're ignoring you, you tend to be more interested. Let him know that if he pulls back a little you'll feel more comfortable getting close to him. Sometimes the chase is the best part of a relationship, so tell him to keep you on your feet. But throughout all of that make sure you express to him what a sweet guy he is and how lucky you are to have him around so that he doesn't think you're dropping him. I don't think you should give up on this just yet, this could be your chance to find out what it's like to open up and let someone in. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Well.......
Tell him that him expressing his feelings ALL THE TIME is kinda freaking you out ( but say it in a gentle NICE way )
Then if all goes well continue your friendship with him. Maybe if he quiets down onthe love everyday you won't be as freaked out bye him.
Hope this helps :)
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I really think you should talk to him about this.
Tell him your problem and that you feel scared.
To be honest, I think its because you're not used to being with someone so close. Maybe he is being a little too clingy, so when you talk to him, ask him if he can tone it down a notch and give you some space.
If I were you, I wouldn't stay with him, but I wouldn't just let go of him either. Try being in the middle of those 2. Tell him you want a little space, but you still want to be in contact. Maybe you are seeing him too much, and maybe a little space will make you realize how you truly feel about him. For example, you either miss him or you dont.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions!
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