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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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So I have this problem which seems to be at night usually..my lower back hurts and tightens up along with my leg muscles. I have a problem with a vertebrae on the top of my back but that seems to be different but this is constantly almost everynight in my lower back in the center and the back of my whole legs. In thinking either restless leg syndrome or fibromyalgia maybe? Please help this sucks
My boyfriend has this issue a lot. Most of the time I just give him a gentle back massage on his lower back and he says it feels somewhat better. But lately he has been going to a physical therapist and they crack his back and realign his vertebrae. He says this fixes it. So maybe try going to a physical therapist about it and see what they can do
I am a freshman female in college. I've been moved in for about three months now. Some of my neighbors in my dorm are really rude and clique-y, I've made friends with some of the nice ones and then there's my cute neighbor who is really shy. He plays guitar and talks to people and has friends but he is usually with his roommate or in his room studying. I've realized lately, that he has been branching out and hanging out with some of our other neighbors. He even talked to my roommate. Yet, when he and I cross paths in the hall way or somewhere, he can barely look at me, he looks at the ground after looking at me straight in the eyes for about two seconds. We've never talked either. I don't know why this is. I can't tell if it is just because he's shy or I intimidate him or maybe (hopefully) he has a teensy crush on me. He can talk to his roommate, obviously, he talks to my roommate, he made friends with a good majority of our other neighbors except for a small handful. Why can't he talk to me or even look at me?
That's cute haha.
If I were you, I would initiate the friendship. Make an excuse to talk to him. For example, last year in our dorms around thanksgiving/christmas time we made these goodie bags with candies in them and a little note saying happy holidays. I thought it was just a nice gesture to all our neighbors. Try doing something like that and giving them out personally to your neighbors. Make sure he is in his room when you deliver his. Knock on the door and say "happy holidays! here's a goody bag!" and then introduce yourself. Find a topic starter that will make him interested and want to talk. For example, mention that he has a cool guitar and ask him how long he's played it. Then you just take it from there. Make sure to smile and be friendly because then he knows you're open to a friendship. Next time you see him, make eye contact (very important) smile and say "hey".
okay i know not that long ago i was saying my boyfriend (h.m) was hanging out with jerks and stuff well i tried some of it and it didnt work....hes been avoiding me so tomorrow imma break up with him...but i dontknow how i should do it... help before tuesday
Say you need to talk to him about something and was wondering when you two could meet. Then when you see him face to face, just say that you aren't happy with how the relationship is going and want to see other people. Be honest about it and say how you feel. Also, make sure you give him a chance to speak and make sure you listen to what he has to say.
Okay, it was my freshman year playing volleyball and I made the freshman team. The coach said I had lots of potential, but the girls on the team did think so. They told everyone I was the worst player on the team. The varsity parents ALL told me I had improved a lot over the season. Then a sports banquet the team voted who got what. I didn't get most improved. That was my snapping point. I am going to fight back by working harder and getting on varsity team. I tried looking up information on diets, workout plans, and self training programs for volleyball players but I do not know how to put it all together. Is there an online workout and diet plans for volleyball or a site that will pacifically form to may need? And any tips of motivation would help
Hey there! I'm a student-athlete for a division 3 university and I play volleyball! I'm also a coach for a 16's club volleyball team! So I can definitely help you out.
Here's a little background info about me. I've been playing volleyball since I was 6 years old and currently I'm 20 years old. I still love the sport and have a passion for it :) I'm a setter and have been my whole life, never changed the position. I made varsity for my high school my sophomore year throughout senior year. I played for one of the best club teams in the nation (my team got 5th place in Junior Olympics nationals 5 years ago). I've been named Best Setter in one of the regional tournaments we had 3 years ago.
When I was a sophomore in high school, I made varsity. It was shocking to me.. but I didn't get any playing time. My coach was a hardass and I didn't really get along with my team. After that season, I was really upset and seriously considered quitting volleyball. However, I have amazing parents who always push me to do my best and they motivated me to keep going. I still didn't get much playing time my junior year in high school... that was probably my all time low. Again, my parents told me to keep my head high and to keep working hard because it would pay off. Senior year.. thats when the magic happened. I didn't consider playing college volleyball, so I definitely thought this was my last year to play ever.. So I gave it my all. And to my surprise, I got a lot of playing time and lead my team 2nd place in Sections.
I got offered to play at numerous colleges, some were even Division 2. I found the perfect university for me and committed to playing Division 3 there. My freshman year there, I had no playing time at all... Again.. I was extremely disappointed and thought about quitting. But this time, instead of feeling sad or upset, I got angry.. I thought to myself "how can this be happening to me? I am such a great player and I deserve better!
So I worked my butt off. I had to deal with a (excuse my language) bitchy teammate who was also competing with me for the same starting position. Now I'm in my sophomore year and it turns out that other girl quit and I'm next in line. This past season I got to play the ENTIRE time without any breaks. THIS was my all time HIGH! I felt so accomplished and amazing after this season ended. All of my family and fans who supported me throughout the past 5 years congratulated me and told me they were proud.
Sorry if that's a long story but it really motivates me to keep working hard in life because when things seem like they couldn't get better... well think again. They can! You just have to keep your head high and know that hard work will pay off, trust me on that one.
So even though you didn't get the "most improved" award this year.. what makes you think you can't get it next year? I admire that you are willing to put in effort to get better :)
Now to answer your question- there is no "plan" for volleyball players to get better. Its all just a mix of things. There are some "okay" volleyball players who just put in half effort.. and then there are "great" volleyball players who put in more than enough effort. It all just depends on how much effort you want to put in this. One time we had practice at 3pm but I woke myself up at 5:30am to workout and practice on my own at 6am for at least 2 hours each week. That is considered more effort than most other players, and thats how winners win.
I will help you by breaking each section down bit by bit
Diet-
You are what you eat. Carbs, Protein, and water are your friends. Carbs will give you energy. Protein gives back what you took out. When you workout excessively you lose a lot of sweat and muscle protein, protein in meat and protein shakes helps build all of that back. I think you're old enough to know what's considered healthy food and whats not.. stay away from those doughnuts and grab a carrot instead :) By the way: yes it is okay to eat some junk food once in a while. Just be careful how much and how often. Drink a lot of water to keep you hydrated and fit.
Workout plans-
Volleyball players are special because they need to be fit and toned in almost all areas of the body. Legs (calves and thighs) will enhance your ability to jump. Arms (biceps and triceps) will enhance your arm strength to hit the ball and serving. Abdominal muscles help you stay strong during blocking and hitting. I can't give you exact workouts right now but if you message me later I can definitely describe a few for you. Look online on youtube for more options. Also, try going to a local gym and finding a personal trainer. I've had one of those and she really helped me.
Also be sure to do some plyometrics, which will help you strengthen your agility, speed, balance, ankle strength, etc.
Try going to your volleyball gym and see if there's anyone who can help you with skills. If your coach is around, see if him/her will do one-on-one lessons with you. Also, don't be afraid of older players. Ask one of the senior girls to help you out before/after practice. Captains are always a good option because they put other teammates before themselves.
If you need any more help with volleyball, you can inbox me :) Good luck and keep your head high because I believe in you and soon you will too :)
I know there is many people out there in my same situation, and people who have already gone through this, so everyone's advice is welcome. I am graduating my high school in under a month and going straight into one college then in August i am moving out to a college four hours away with no car. I am scared out of my mind and really don't want to leave all my friends I have finally gotten really close to this year. Each of us is going to a different college hours or states away. Transitioning into high school from grade school I lost touch with all my old friends, so how do i prevent that from happening with my high school friends? Also, how do I make new friends? I am extremely shy when I don't know people but I eventually open up, so it will be really hard making friends. I know I don't just walkup to people and BAM were friends, so what do i do? It will also be a big culture shock for me. I come from more of an all white area right on the outskirts of the big city, and I was with all the innocent minded jocks. I am going to a school of 40% white and its in a tiny small semi rural town and I don't want to do sports-not meant to sound mean. What do I do to transition and not be a hermit when i get there?
I'm just about finishing my first year of college and oh boy it was an experience for me :) some good memories and some bad memories.. but thats life ya know?
To be honest, there isn't much you can do to keep in touch with your high school friends. I only had 2 best friends in high school and I rarely talk to them know. The most you can do is text them (its hard to because of your different schedules) or email them/facebook/skype, and then see them on holidays when everyone goes back home (christmas break, easter, etc.)
As for meeting new people when you go to college, it will all just come naturally. Thats how you know when you made really good friends, is when it just happens naturally. The first day I got here I was so scared and shy, I thought "there's no way I am going to make friends here". Well we were put into groups and had a student leader for the first 2 months of school. After a few days, I got to know this group of students more and more. Eventually I found a few classmates that I had some things in common with and we just talked and hung out most of the time. We would always go to lunch and dinner together. After the first 4 months, we always hung out and I got to meet new people through them. One of the girls started dating an older student that went to the same school, so we hung out with him and his older friends and everything just branched out from there.
I also play a sport in my school so that really helped me out. I made a ton of friends from that because my school is all about unity and stuff like that haha so they make all the sports teams come to everyones games and cheer them on. We get to know each other real well haha. The entire football team knows about my team and my team knows about the hockey team and its all one big party (literally.. on the weekends we all go to parties together).
Which is another thing.. don't be scared to get out of your bubble. The first weekend of school, I stayed in the dorms because I never went to a college party and was a little intimidated. But my friends urged me to come with, which I did and it was really fun! One thing to know.. there will be drinking and drugs at pretty much any college. Even if its a super religious school (i've seen it haha). You just gotta know your limits and be responsible about it. Always stick with a buddy, never go off by yourself. Just be yourself :)
You can always join student organizations to meet new people too. This past spring break, I didn't have any plans, so I signed up for a student volunteering organization. We went to a different state to help volunteer with homeless people and places that were affected by natural disasters. It was actually really fun because I did it with one of my good friends and we got to know more people through that organization (plus it taught me a lot about myself and how volunteering can really have a positive effect)
Don't worry so much and just have fun and be yourself, it will all fall into place naturally :)
I hear facebook is really fun and it is just amazing.
I was thinking about making one, but...
I have a problem.
Well, i'm in high school. I'm bullied and I don't have friends, really. I only have a few because most moved away or began to hate me.
I'm afraid they'll bring it up at school or my family might, too. Facebook is like what my whole school talks about.
I need advice fast. Should I create a Facebook?
I think its a great idea.
Facebook is a great way to keep in contact with friends! I know you said you don't have very many friends, but its a good way to meet people too. There is something called mutual friends on there. So if you add one of your friends, you can find a mutual friend between you 2 and then you can add them as a friend. When you add them as a friend you can easily start a conversation with them and its a great way to make new friends.
Facebook ideally is a social network.. meaning social life. You said you don't have many friends, well the way to get friends is to have a social life. If you have a Facebook then you can start a social life. post pics and make comments on other peoples statuses or photos, that way people will recognize you more (rather than just being alone and nobody hearing of you)
Sorry for the length in advance. I'm 16/f and over the past few months I keep catching my ex boyfriend looking at me. when we walk past eachother we always have awkward eye contact and when I walk into a class he always looks up really quickly, realises its me then and realises I'm looking at him, then looks down again. We did have a 'thing' going on some months before but he stopped talking to me. He always used to text me first and when he stopped I didn't text him because I thought he'd gone off me. Then a few months later he tweeted that he hates texting girls first because it makes him feel unwanted and I wondered if that's what he felt with me or whether he did actually want to stop talking to me? If he doesnt want to talk to me anymore, what is with all this eye contact!? I'm so confused!
He probably feels just as confused as you. Imagine if you were in his shoes.. still interested in your ex, so you text them all the time, but then you get confused because maybe it seems like he doesn't want you back.
I'm guessing that's what he felt. He probably wanted you back but wasn't sure how you'd feel about it.
There's that saying that goes "if you love something, set it free. if it comes back to you then it was supposed to be".. well maybe he "set you free" by stop talking to you. If you text him back, you "came back to him" because you made the effort to talk to him.
I'm 16/f and I have a younger sister who is 14 but she is really mature and is a spitting image of my mum.. I know this will sound horrid but sometimes I can't help feeling jelous of them both:( my sister gets so much attention off boys and my mum was a model- it just makes me feel really ugly. My mum and sister are tall and blonde and I'm just average height and have brown hair that always goes frizzy, I never tan and my skin looks horrible next to my sisters. My mum is so so so so skinny and makes me look fat.. really, I need advice to stop comparing myself with them?
I know its hard because I have the same issue. I tend to compare myself to my friends and its really hard to accept myself because of this. But eventually you learn that it doesn't help in ANY WAY to compare yourself to other people like that. It will not help you in life, so why bother doing it? Life is about accepting yourself as you are.
You said your sister attracts more guys than you? Have you ever thought that your sister and you don't have the same interest in similar guys? Maybe she likes those guys, but you don't. Why would you be jealous of her having guys that aren't even your type? Think about it this way. What is she doing that gets all this attention? is she more outgoing and social? Try getting out a little more. Go do some fun things with your girl friends and maybe you'll get to meet some new guys on the way. Just be yourself, but don't be too shy.
Studies prove that when you compare yourself to others, you get negative about yourself and that can cause serious disorders such as depression or even suicide. Not trying to scare you haha but just saying look on the bright side :) I suggest writing a list of good positive things about you. Eventually you can smile and be proud of those things. Maybe some of those things are something that your mom or sister doesn't have, and you can be proud of that because they should be jealous of you, not the other way around.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Embrace it :)
-lovealways1221
What are good questions or comments a waitress should make?
waiters/waitresses need to be outgoing and talkative to customers. They usually ask how the people are doing, how was their day, what they would like to drink or eat. They sometimes usually make small talk such as the weather or any events going on around town. At the end they usually give a nice comment such as have a great day or take care.
Anyone know any good drinking music? Something that sounds like Sublime.
Thanks!!!
weezer, incubus, rancid, queens of the stone age, atmosphere, brother ali, the submarines, chairlift, the hush sound.
most of these groups are indie pop, which is one of my favorite types of music haha.
If you need more you can always go on pandora, type in sublime, and songs/artists like sublime will play
I really want to enter into this contest it's super important to me and you have to design a tshirt I kind of already know what I want to do for the design but plz can someone help me find a website or something online where you can do all kind of tshirt designs even upload your own photos and things
I usually make custom tshirts on this website
http://www.customink.com/
I got invited to meet in town next weekend with a bunch of friends to play comando, but I don't know what that is, or how to play..
hahahah... commando means "no underwear". People usually say it like "I'm going commando tonight" meaning they aren't going to wear underwear that night.
I'm guessing these "friends" wanted to just mess around with you and joke around. basically they were asking you to get naked with them.
OKay well there is this guy that may be coming over this weeekend and he is 1 grade older than me and he is going to be in my room and i hvae some childish stuff in there but want to know what guys think is acceptable in a girls room? BTW 8 grade/f
honestly, just leave your stuff there. if you love your room and decorations.. thats who you are. if he doesn't approve of them, then thats his problem. A guy should like you for who you are. If he stops having interest in you just because of what your room looks like, then he wasn't worth it anyways. You can find a guy who won't care what your room looks like, and won't judge you because of it.
but to answer your question.. guys are grossed out by sloppy girls. so maybe vacuum your room and make the bed. get rid of any garbage thats laying around like dishes and stuff. oh and guys love it when they walk into a room and it smells nice, so spray some air freshener or light some good smelling candles.
my parents are treating me like im a 5 year old because my boyfriends step aunt called and said i was acting like a child and now i am no longer to be with my boyfriend and im 24 and i love him a lot and he loves me to. i dont think that they are being very fair! my question is how do i tell them i want to stay with im no matter what?
well you are 24... in the united states you are legally an adult when you turn 18. so since you're an adult, you control your own life. you make your own decisions for yourself. if you're 24 and you still have your parents telling you what to do.. then its time to act like an adult and stand up for yourself. Talk to your parents and tell them you're an adult and you can do whatever you want, without having them tell you what to do, how to do it etc.
if they don't like it, then thats their problem. when you're an adult, you live your OWN INDEPENDENT life.. yeah sure your parents are still a part of your life, but they don't have a say in what you can do anymore.
ask them, "did your parents still control you when you were 24?"
if you don't have the courage to say those things, then say you want to improve your lifestyle by making your own independent choices, and you feel that your relationship with this guy is a decision that YOU need to make, not them.
good luck!
Hey...I need a way to be able to make my boobs bigger..I don't want them just to LOOK bigger I want them to BE bigger. I'm tired of seeing all the other girls with B or C cups and I'm still in A. I mean yeah I guess they are pretty "big" now because my boyfriend seen mine and I guess he told his friend he thought I stuffed before he seen them. But anyways..any advice? Thanks!( :
If you've ever heard of the store Aerie, buy the double whoa bra :) I bought one recently and it adds 2 cup sizes.. its seriously the best bra i've ever had haha and I wear it when i go out
I'd give you a whole speech about how boob sizes don't matter in a healthy relationship, but I see 2 other people said similar things :)
So my eyes are really weird. When im outside in the sun they're a pretty blue color but when im indoors they look like a greenish color. So i don't know what color my eyes are. But, i've wore grey eye shadow and people say it looks good, but im wondering other people's opinions on what would go good with weird eyes like mine :P
try a smokey eye with silver and black :) soo classy and it will make the color pop :)
If you're going out, trying using a more sparkly silver eyeshadow on the top lid and on lower lashes.
i am 16 years old and my cousin is 15 almost 16. we were at my other cousins birthday party, who had turned 16. and we were drinking and things, and my cousin was talking to his guy justin. justin is 18 years old and has a gf who is away at college. my cousin really likes him, my family and i do not!! but she was completely ossified to the point where she was starting to black out, and they were kissing and things and i kept my eye on them. i went into the garage for about 10 mins without checking on them, so i finally decided to check on them, and they walked out the gate, i grabbed my friend john and chased after them because they were heading towards his truck. and my cousin was telling my younger cousin that she wanted to have sex with him. so obviously they went to go have sex. but we chased after them and i freaked out on justin. i promised my cousin if he came back id take her to talk to him. i also promised my brother that if he came back i would call him. justin came back i called my bro, i took my cuz to talk him. my brother and i freaked out on him and kicked him out of the party. my cousin was hysterically crying and was so mad at me. but shes almost over it now. but i was wrong to make him leave when noone wanted him there except for her? he has a girlfriend..and he always uses girls for sex. he tried talking to me in september and i was like no. not happening, i dont/didnt like him at all. plus, shes only had sex once in her life. just tell me...was i wrong? everyone i ask tells me i had every right too to do what i did because i dont want her getting hurt, or pregnant, or being a slut, or getting a profile.
you were very smart to do that :) One of these days i'm sure your cousin will thank you for doing that, it shows that you care :) I'd be worried if you hadn't done anything. Don't worry about it :)
The other day I got my first period, but i'm to scared to tell my step mum? We're kind of close but I don't like really talking to her about that stuff. I sent her a message on her mobile not that long ago saying that I got my period, but she just ignored it :( Someone please tell me what to do because i'm really scared to tell her, seeings she's my 'step' mum.
hey don't worry about it haha. its even more embarrassing when you have to tell your dad instead.. haha
She probably didn't get your text, or is in the middle of something important and can't reply right away. Maybe you should try writing a note and leave it somewhere you're sure she will see. Include in the note how you feel such as, I am embarrassed to tell you but I hope you can understand and help me.
GOod luck!
Hi, my bf and i are planning to have sex and we are both very cautions about our decision and hence decided to take this safely. I wanted to know:
1) which birth pills should i take - the best quality ones?
2) How often should i take the birth pills?
3) Do birth pills affect the periods?
4) Is it safe - are there any side affects?
Any information on the birth control pills would be great!
Thx
1) the type of birth control pill depends on how your body reacts to the drug. I know that when i get my period, I am very moody and break out with acne.. so my doctor prescribed me a birth control brand specifically for that :) Ask your doctor and they should ask you some questions and they will prescribe you the right kind for your body.
2) Depends on what type of birth control you have. For the pill.. most of them you have to take every day. Other forms of birth control is the depo shot which is a shot (is painful) and protects you for 5 or 10 years i think. There's the patch, which you have to wear and change it every week.
3) Yes birth control pills affect your period. In my opinion, it affects it in a positive way. I noticed that my period was a lot lighter, I had less symptoms of PMS, and now I know the exact day I'm getting my period :)
4) yes it is safe.. but not 100%. there are always side effects.. it does not protect you against pregnancy 100% which is why most people use condoms too. If birth control wasn't "safe" they wouldn't be available to us today.
If you have more questions, feel free to ask me or your doctor :)
hey im so sorry for getting back at you so late! everything you said its so true. guess what? that kid does have a girl. I just cant believe it after all the things he told me that he didn't have a girl well he actually did. I feel more bad for her because he denies her. but oh well life goes on and im happy. the last time we talked was on December 25,2011 and today he called me, I dont know why. im still curious but i didn't picked up because i was showering. Im not going to call him back because im not going to hurt myself again.!
good for you :) it sounds like you know exactly what you want and you don't need him or anyone else to stop you :) keep on living life and have a blast.. let love find you. in other words, don't go looking for another guy. just let it happen and he will come to you :)
Have fun and be happy :) you're only young once so liveee itt uppppp