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how do make new friends in college?
I know there is many people out there in my same situation, and people who have already gone through this, so everyone's advice is welcome. I am graduating my high school in under a month and going straight into one college then in August i am moving out to a college four hours away with no car. I am scared out of my mind and really don't want to leave all my friends I have finally gotten really close to this year. Each of us is going to a different college hours or states away. Transitioning into high school from grade school I lost touch with all my old friends, so how do i prevent that from happening with my high school friends? Also, how do I make new friends? I am extremely shy when I don't know people but I eventually open up, so it will be really hard making friends. I know I don't just walkup to people and BAM were friends, so what do i do? It will also be a big culture shock for me. I come from more of an all white area right on the outskirts of the big city, and I was with all the innocent minded jocks. I am going to a school of 40% white and its in a tiny small semi rural town and I don't want to do sports-not meant to sound mean. What do I do to transition and not be a hermit when i get there?
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I'm just about finishing my first year of college and oh boy it was an experience for me :) some good memories and some bad memories.. but thats life ya know?
To be honest, there isn't much you can do to keep in touch with your high school friends. I only had 2 best friends in high school and I rarely talk to them know. The most you can do is text them (its hard to because of your different schedules) or email them/facebook/skype, and then see them on holidays when everyone goes back home (christmas break, easter, etc.)
As for meeting new people when you go to college, it will all just come naturally. Thats how you know when you made really good friends, is when it just happens naturally. The first day I got here I was so scared and shy, I thought "there's no way I am going to make friends here". Well we were put into groups and had a student leader for the first 2 months of school. After a few days, I got to know this group of students more and more. Eventually I found a few classmates that I had some things in common with and we just talked and hung out most of the time. We would always go to lunch and dinner together. After the first 4 months, we always hung out and I got to meet new people through them. One of the girls started dating an older student that went to the same school, so we hung out with him and his older friends and everything just branched out from there.
I also play a sport in my school so that really helped me out. I made a ton of friends from that because my school is all about unity and stuff like that haha so they make all the sports teams come to everyones games and cheer them on. We get to know each other real well haha. The entire football team knows about my team and my team knows about the hockey team and its all one big party (literally.. on the weekends we all go to parties together).
Which is another thing.. don't be scared to get out of your bubble. The first weekend of school, I stayed in the dorms because I never went to a college party and was a little intimidated. But my friends urged me to come with, which I did and it was really fun! One thing to know.. there will be drinking and drugs at pretty much any college. Even if its a super religious school (i've seen it haha). You just gotta know your limits and be responsible about it. Always stick with a buddy, never go off by yourself. Just be yourself :)
You can always join student organizations to meet new people too. This past spring break, I didn't have any plans, so I signed up for a student volunteering organization. We went to a different state to help volunteer with homeless people and places that were affected by natural disasters. It was actually really fun because I did it with one of my good friends and we got to know more people through that organization (plus it taught me a lot about myself and how volunteering can really have a positive effect)
Don't worry so much and just have fun and be yourself, it will all fall into place naturally :)
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