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So I started hanging out with a guy last October. We talked all the time (actual talk not text) and spent a lot of time together. He bought me an expensive watch and everything for Christmas. He is a pretty tough guy so he isn't always expressive about his feelings. But I digress. He was always comfortable when I was around and I pride myself on being attentive and loving. I even mentioned that I liked that he was so relaxed with me. It was almost as if it scared him to care so much because he just stopped calling and answering my calls. When I tried to find out what was wrong he said nothing was wrong and that there was nothing wrong with me. He pops up at my house to surprise me and if I say I'm done trying to figure him out he gets mad. I feel like a fool because I care so much about him and he acts like he cares about me but he is so hot and cold. Should I just give up on a real relationship with him? And if not how do I fix things? (link)
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Wow, it seems like you really like him. He does act very hot and cold. If I were you, I would definitely talk to him about his behavior towards you. The only way a relationship would thrive is if there is good communication and that you two nourish and support each other. I don't think you should feel like a fool because you are acting totally normal.
Before giving up on the relationship, just talk to him like I said before and see where things go from there and if you see that nothing is changing then unfortunately something is wrong. I guess your guy friend does like you but is not those types of guys that like to cuddle with girls or be super touchy. I guess you scared him when you told him that you were so relaxed with him. Never tell guys exactly how you feel until they tell you how they feel first. Some guys may feel a bit uncomfortable for whatever reason. Trust me, I have gone through this and any girl would come off as a tease just by saying something so innocent yet the opposite sex, (some, not all) would take it in a different direction. Good luck!
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does he like me (link)
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Hello,
You need to elaborate more on your problem. You gave us your problem, but what is the background information? We need such significant information so we can have an understanding of your problem and actually help you find a solution.
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Theres this guy i meet last year and we started being friends and i started liking him. after a couple of months we started being best friends and i trusted him with my life and later on i told him i told him i liked him but nothing changed for good it just got worse.he started talking bad about me. but then he would make up for it . during the summer he left the city but before he left we hung out and it seemed like if he also felt something and when he left we talked several times on the phone and it seemed like if he actually wanted a relationship but when he came back we became distant and we act like strangers towards each other and i tell everyone i don't care but i do and he knows i do. a few days ago he started flirting with my cousin she talks bad about him and that she ignores everything he says but that's not true she flirts with him too and i just don't know what to do can anyone helpp please!!!!!!!!!!!!!:( (link)
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Hello,
What a compelling story! I do not think you should trust anyone with your life because unfortunately, humans are traitors, most of the time. Anyway, I suggest you talk to him to know what is really going on between you and him. I think he does like you, but he feels bad for what he did that he wants to forget you by flirting with someone who is close to you like your cousin. Remember this is only an assumption. You should try to talk to your cousin and your friend to know where you really stand. Remember communication is the only way to solve any problem unless the person refuses to reason and start a fight or argument which is not understandable. Good luck!
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What do i call my boyfriend instead of babe, baby, or hun? (link)
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Ask your boyfriend for his preference.
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there is 1 girl nandini i love her very much but she do not love me what can i do?i am from india. I am male my age is 14. (link)
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Hello,
I think you should accept her rejection. If she definitely does not love you, then you should move on, find another girl who will value you for who you are. The girl that you love is missing out on a nice, heartbroken guy like you. Rejection is a part of life and will always be experiences that we will encounter. If it does not bother you much, you should be friends with her so that at least you will have her friendship. Good luck!
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I'm a 15 year old freshman in high school .. I kinda like this guy named zach but I don't talk to him .. I need help with like what to say and do to see if i have a chance with him .. I'm used to the guys coming to me first so im nervous .. Anything would be helpful(: Thanks (link)
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Hello,
I think all of us have gone through feeling nervous with guys who we like. The question is how to start a conversation with them. You can have a casual conversation about class and talk about school like you can say do you like your classes? Who's your favorite teacher? Just have a casual conversation. Who knows, maybe you guys will have something in common! Good luck!
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i am not here to put my question but to share i am in my 23rd and doing my studies and so happy about my life and my friends and family too. i have lots of friends and each of them in different characters i love them and they too love me much from that i learnt one thing that is nothing but ALWAYS LOOK POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE AND LEARN FROM NEGATIVE SIDE OF LIFE TO BUILD FUTURE LIFE- this what i learnt from my life now and planning for new way of life now. thank you to all (link)
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Thank you for sharing your happiness with all of us! I hope you will always carry this optimism with you all of the time.
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im currently in a relationship with my girlfriend for around a year 3months now, due to my past e.g parents spliting up etc, im worried my girlfriend will do the same and its now putting pressure on our relationship. how can i stop the past in my head. (link)
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Hello,
Don't worry about the past. Things happen for a reason; good or bad as they only serve as experiences. Don't worry about your girlfriend either, if she loves you she will be with you. Just don't get obsessed in thinking about the past because it will ruin your relationship and it will eventually ruin yourself. Try to think in an optimistic way and enjoy your life and important people who make you happy. Good luck!
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hi in 13f cuttter wore bracelts last year covered in cuts start gym in december must wear tee shirt marroon shorts makeup tricks help me please they made fun of me last year when they showed
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Hello,
Your situation is pretty difficult to answer. I think you should put bandages on a few cuts although you should not be cutting yourself. You could use another strategy to deal with your emotions such as developing a past time. In addition, make-up would not work on cuts unless it is waterproof. You might want to ask your teacher if you could wear pants just because you have sensitive skin. I get random bruises all the time on my legs not because I get beaten up, but because I naturally get them which is not a good thing. I hope I was of some help.
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Okay, so I currently starting talking to this guy, his 17 and im 16, his name is Ben but I call him by his middle name. We've been talking for a while, his already came up with a nickname for me, "lovebug". He currently just told me his in love with me, I'M in shock still, I want to make this work and last. So to make him extremely happy I want to come up with cute nickname for him. I need help. (link)
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Hello,
What does he like? In other words, what does he like to do? His favorite food? Out of those endless possibilities, you should be able to choose a nickname. Honey, sweetheart and dear are definitely overrated.
Good Luck!
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i m indian. aurangabad - maharashtra
last 1 years i have stop to drinking a alhocole.
treatment is start. so please advice about my health. lazyness, not interested to any work.
anixetyness etc.
thanking yoy. (link)
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Hello,
I would suggest for you to try to find a hobby or something to do that will motivate you to feel less lazy and to think about your future. Remember that whatever you do know will determine your future.
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Hi I am 13 and I am not emo, but i do write all over myself. I think that it is a good way to express myself, but my mom/dad says that it is not good to do that and it is a sickness! When I write on myself it is not out of depression or anger it is just to do it. But when my parents say that it is a sickness it makes me feel like i am not normal. I know that I am normal but some part of me says that im not.
I hope that you can help me out. Thnx :) (link)
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I do not think that it is a sickness. I think that if that makes you feel comfortable then go ahead. However, I think there are other ways of expressing yourself like painting, writing,etc. Find something that you can actually learn from and maybe you will develop a talent that will help you in the future. Good luck!
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I'm staying with people like family at the moment and I have been having trouble living with the deviant 12 year old. She's been spoiled and is never really punished. She has been diagnosed with defiant disorder, adhd, and etc. She never takes her meds according to what she tells me. I often feel like I'm walknig on eggshells when I'm around her. To me, she exbits behavior similar to one with narcissism and antisocial disorder. She was adopted at 4mnths and her natural mother was into drugs and alcohal according to what I've heard and had given up several babies from different men. It seems to me she tries often to dehumanize people so that she can put herself in higher jurisdiction. She has no regard to how she appears to anyone. She lies, manipulates, and sometimes borrows without asking if she knows she won't get in trouble for it. She often tries to seek weaknesses in others to use for her manipulation. She often displays little or no expressions when I speak to her and she acts unaffected when her mother grounds her. I rarely see genuine actions except when she's upset or lonely. She is very cut throat when her parents or even me tell her she's doing wrong behavior. She uses the distraction technique when her mother approaches her in not minding her. She often tries to win in those situations and to me, it seems she really does most of the times because she's untangible. She doesn't care about getting in trouble... it's "no big deal." She doesn't fear authority and does not feel punishment. She also has no regard for one's privacy and often infringes another's space without care. ShIn conversation, when it comes to getting what she wants, she will say anything whether it works or not doesnt matter to her. She would quickly move into another approach and goes off the emotion of whom she's asking until she has reached them and they give her what she asked. I've known her her whole life. She's always been a trouble maker and she use to throw extreme tantrums every morning. She has also fetal alcohal syndrome, it's apparent in her features. I find it difficult some days when she's her worst. Know of any solutions to help her straighten up? I really can't do much about it because I'm not her mother and her mother is very stubborn. I need to know some techniques for myself so I do not get so frustrated to the point I feel out of control. (link)
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The only thing that I can say is that the whole family has to go see a psychologist to help the girl and also for the whole family to know how to deal with the issue. I can't say much since your issue is a fragile one and needs very close attention. I hope that everything works out because for one person to help another person who has very serious mental or psychological problems is extremely difficult to work with.
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I have a boyfriend but i still like my ex! i see my ex every day at school and well my boyfriend every other day! i know its not right to still like your ex is it?? and well maybe i could get some advice from u on this! I do love my boyfriend but my ex is still in part of my heart to! :( (link)
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Right, it's not right to like your ex if you have a boyfriend. You have to analyze the whole situation because you do not want to through something so painful such as losing both guys. Usually what happens is that when there are two guys that are really into a girl and the girl fliers with both, the guys get confused and confusion is definitely not good for them so they forget about the girl. You have to make up your mind and really think of which guy actually makes you happy. Regarding your ex, I do not know why you guys broke up, but if you had a bad experience, you should remember what he has done to you. Also, I do not think if your boyfriend is a such a good guy or not, but I do think that no one deserves to be cheated on. Imagine if you were your boyfriend and vice-versa, how would you feel? We as humans are very selfish and do not think about others, but ourselves. I understand you are a teenager, but life is about making correct decisions or at least try to and learning about our own mistakes. Good luck and I hope you wil make the correct decision!
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Hi! Well I'm 13 and I've never really OFFICIALLY have had a boyfriend :P there is this REALLY sweet,funny,cute,and kind boy that I like and I know he likes me back, and he's gonna ask me out this friday I know for a fact but I don't know what to say back. I mean I know I will say yes but I don't wanna say something casual like "sure" or "okay"or even "yes" or "yea", I'd personally like to kiss him (on the lips lol) and be like "does that answer your question?" but I'm afraid he might now want me to kiss him(oh and I've never kissed a boy :P :P) :P I'd really like advice on what to say and if I should kiss him or not. Please don't call me dumb etc because I don't know what to do, also I will reply to your comment honestly! Oh and I'd like if you could reply ASAP because he's asking me in 3 days!!!! Thanks for reading and please reply! -Tabitha (link)
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Dear Tabitha,
Do what you have to do. This might seem lame, but just follow your heart. Don't assume things, just do whatever you have to do. Of course you are not dumb, but definitely anxious. Love is love and very spontaneous! Good luck!
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Hey so I'm a freshman in college. I play on my school's volleyball team- D3. I really love volleyball. Its a great sport and i've been playing since I was 6 years old. The past 5 years were horrible for me. I got on really good teams (in high school i was on varsity as a sophomore. played for one of the top clubs in the nation) but I rarely got any playing time. i was always the bench warmer. I slowly began to lose my self confidence in my playing..
well I thought coming to this college that things would change. I had meetings with the coach and she seemed really great. But... the season just ended and we are doing post-season workouts. I didn't get to play at all this season. I'm just kinda wondering if its even worth it anymore. Should i quit next year? I feel like i've been working towards this practically my whole life, and its not worth it if I dont even get to play at all.. I've tried talking to my coach about what i can do to improve and get more playing time but she always says the same thing and nothing ever changes. It feels like i'm working so hard, but i still get that feeling that i'm not good enough.
Here's a catch though.. the girl who "took my spot" and is playing instead of me, well she's from out of state and recently she has been complaining about how much she hates it here and how badly she wants to go home. so maybe she's leaving next year? she has mentioned transferring colleges.
so what should i do? keep working hard and hopefully the other girl will leave and then I get to play? or should I just end it now because i honestly dont think its worth my time if I dont play. (link)
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You should keep working hard and possibly the girl might leave and you might have an opportunity to play. Just keep showing your coach that you are number one and that you are a good player. I do not know you, but I could tell by your writing that volleyball is your passion and that you are trying so hard to not lose your confidence. Please do not lose your confidence and know that hard work does pay off maybe not now, but in the course of your lifetime you will get something.
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I kind of have a crush on a guy, even though I'm in a relationship right now. I am very happy with my boyfriend and don't intend to leave him for this guy.
This isn't the only time that I've had a work crush before when I was dating someone. I tend to find a cute guy who seems awesome, the kind of guy that I'd go for if I was single.
I'm feeling kind of guilty though, because my boyfriend always tells me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. I love him because he is the most sweetest, caring guy that I've ever been with, and he treats me amazingly, among other reasons.
Is it okay to have a work crush if you're in a relationship with someone else?
-20/F (link)
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I do not think it is okay, but it is definitely normal. I know how you feel, but sometimes when one is in a relationship and has a crush on another guy then the crush may grow into something else. What I would do if I were you is to put myself in your boyfriend's shoes and try to imagine how he would feel if he knew what you were feeling. No likes to feel cheated or unloved. What if your boyfriend had a crush on another girl, would you care? If you like another guy then your boyfriend lacks something or your crush is just infatuation or lust and possibly would go away.
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17, female. I know this guy, he can be D, who is working his way to the top trying to get famous. He has a record deal and an agent and a manager, he does concerts and he's working on a tour as we speak. Now, my best guy friend, he can be N, loves singing, he is putting on a benefit for his friend who has cancer. It's at a bowling alley, so he will be singing for all the bowlers and stuff. It's gonna be fun no matter how lame I am making it out to be right now. I had gotten D to agree to come and perform with N because he has wanted to work with D ever since I showed N the D's videos on YouTube. D said that it would be awesome and he would love to do it. He would pay the 25 dollars to give to the friend of N's for her medical expenses and he would sing with N and bowl with me and it was supposed to be a great time. My mom talked to D a few days ago and he played completely stupid and asked when it was, he already knew, and when my mom told him the date, "his light bulb came on" and he realized he needed to be in LA to record for his CD for 15 days. I want to know how you can just magically forget a 15 day trip to your favorite place to work on your first ever CD that will promote your first ever tour... it seems fishy to me. It also seems fishy to me that my friend asked D if he could perform at her birthday and he said he will but it will cost her money. He is charging that girl to perform, yet he didn't charge me. I know that there is a difference between a birthday and a fundraiser event but for the fundraiser, he was paying money to perform and for the birthday he is charging to perform. To me, a performance is a performance because he has to plan set lists and practice and take time out to meet with the event planner.I know D from church and Sunday at church, he sat in the row in front of me and I counted that he turned around 11 times to look at me, he would act like he was looking at the back doors but every time, he peeked out of his peripheral vision to see me. Now, D knows that I am mad at him so he messaged me and said that if it was possible, he would fly across the country to come back and perform only if it is three hours because he knows how happy it would make me. I find that to be total bullshit.
My mom is adding all of this stuff up to magically believe that he has a crush on me. He bailed on the benefit because he was told that my best friend who is running it, likes me. Him looking at me all of church. Him saying what he did.
But, the fundraiser is not about me, it's about the poor friend that has cancer and I thought being the Christian man he is, would cancel all things to be there for her and do this for my friend.
I don't know what to think and I am so confused. If anybody can read between the lines or think of anything, any help would be appreciated in trying to figure out what's behind all of this craziness. Thanks! (link)
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Your mom might be right and I think you should consider all the possible signs that he gives you like staring at you a lot, being super nice to you, and other crush stuff. You can also try to ask him or ask him to explain things that he says or does to you that you do not understand.
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21/f. so... i'm the first person who gives the advice "he/she is just not that into you..," but this guy is confusing. he isn't very easy to read. i had that mentality for a long time when guys just didn't really give me the response I was waiting for to show me that he liked me. but, one of my cousins taught me a lesson. he's been in love with this girl for a long time. but, he's extremely shy. he use to be even worst! now that he left town for medical school, he's a little bit more assertive. but, he's never even had his first kiss... and he's 25. i know that this is a little extreme and this guy is not like that. But, it made me realize that there are guys who are extremely shy and need a little bit of a push.
so... this guy and i are in a club together. he's very cute and not too tall, which is nice because i'm very petite. but, he does little things that hint at me that he likes me. like, he knows what i like to drink and brings it to me when we're somewhere. he always gives me a hug when he sees me. during sorority recruitment at the beginning of the semester, he kept asking me every day how it went and wanted to know if I was happy with the sororities I was seeing so far. the other night, he and i went to the movies, with other people from our club. it was a scary movie so we ended up holding hands and all of that. i could tell that he was so happy. he didn't even try to let go of my hand that quick when we were leaving the theatre. but, since there were other people there, it would have been a little awkward if we would have stayed holding hands. it was only like 3 other people and trust me, it would have been awkward. but he was walking next to me the whole time and before i left, he hugged me again.
thinking about it, he reminds me SO much of my cousn... just not to that extreme. i know he's dated before. but, it seems like when he likes someone, he needs like a push... a reassurance of some sort. like, he grabbed my hand after i grabbed his arm. he needs like a green light. i can understand that. i just don't know how to give it to him because i'm not a very assertive girl. i don't think that's what he needs either. he just needs a little bit of a push, like I said. But, I'm very traditional and I've always let guys make the first move and all of that. but, i know i'm dealing with a shyer one here, and that's ok :)
Suggestions? (link)
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Yes, you have the whole idea or perspective on the guy needing a little push. I guess guys who really like someone are shy because they are scared of getting rejected or had bad experiences before. Maybe you need to boost his confidence a little like make him feel more comfortable by doing things that would interest him. Let's say the guy likes to go bowling, then go to a bowling alley and have fun. Every guy is complex and has a way of being himself, but that is what makes him different from everyone else.
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I am a 20 year old female enrolled in northern illinois university. I met my boyfriend here freshmen year and we have been dating for two years. He has been an athlete on the golf team here at school, but was cut from the team last week. He wants to golf professionally, so he is going to try to find another college to play golf at. His parents live in south carolina. He said he might go back there to go to school.
I feel like this could hurt our relationship greatly. I do not know what I should do. I thought about transferring schools to be closer to him, but there is so much to think about when doing that. What should I do? Please help. (link)
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You are in a tough situation. I could only say that you should let it be like if your boyfriend is thinking of moving to South Carolina to go to a college to play golf then you do not need to go with him. I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about all the possibilities that he could have in Illinois or a college closer to Illinois. There should be some colleges that have golf as a sport. If that doesn't work out then support him all the way. Things happen for a reason.
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