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Girls and Guys rate the situation please :-)
Just as a survey, how would you guys rate/handle a situation with:
A girl and guy (18 years both almost 19)
Guy doesnt pay for girl, girl always drives guy around because the guy doesnt have a car. They both say they love each other, talk about marriage, and kids. Guy doesnt have a job yet but aspires to have one; girl is going away to college, guy is going to a community college and they both plan to stay together.
What if you were the boy or girl, would you guys say this is a good realtionship?
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It sort of sound like the guy is using the girl for her car, and doesn't care to pay for her. When everyone knows that a gentleman pays for his girl. This is definitely not a healthy relationship. My ex never paid for my stuff. We were in the drive thru and he said "you know I'm not paying for that."
The girl deserves so much better. Especially if she is going off to college she deserves to live her life and continue forward with her dreams. The guy seems to say he wants to job but doesn't potentially plan on looking for one, or looking for a car. If you don't have a job, you don't have a car. Add up?
On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the worst! This relationship is crap, I'd rate it a -2. Good luck!
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I say you are the girl in this relationship and you are sensing trouble.
I think smart and capable young ladies should listen to their guts - not popular votes - when it comes to their own love life.
Is it a good relationship? Your explanation here doesn't really let us know anything but that you aren't as certain about this boy as you would like to be. He's a lot of talk and little action - but most people are like that at 18.
No one here can give you certain answers. You are both as huge turning points in your lives - the changes you are about to face might confirm that this IS a good relationship, or it might bring to light the true reasons it is not a good relationships - reasons that run far deeper than him not having a car or going to community college.
Trust your gut and take a look at the path you are on. You aren't a dummy. If your relationship is no longer a good one for you, let it end.
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There are definitely some great aspects to the relationship, however it seems as though the guy is reaping the benefits from the relationship more than the girl. I'm sure the guy is insecure about the girl having her stuff together more than he does, but it is a very positive thing that he is at least going to college. In my opinion, the girl should gently push her boyfriend in the right direction (helping him get a job and a car ect.) if that is how she wants to go with this. It all depends on if the guy is worth all the trouble of helping him get on his feet. This girl deserves her boyfriend to take her out and pay for her, so she shouldn't settle for less. I would say stay together for sure if they really love each other and if the relationship is worth the effort. Good luck and hope I helped!
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