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Q: I feel like nobody's listening. No one cares about my life. Almost like God wants me to suffer. I just don't want to think about life. I live across the street from a bridge. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I threw myself off the bridge. Why do I have to be tortured?

This is a test in your life.

Now, the result is do it or don't?

That is your choice, and all I can do is make a suggestion!

It may seem like no one cares, but there are more people who care than you think. I have had the same thoughts of taking my life. I looked to God, and realized why give everyone what they want? Why do this now, and then I would never know what my future may have turned out to be.

I have become so much stronger. I have learned from my past and realized God was there the ENTIRE time. He was watching to see what I would do, and I made the right decision because I lot has become good in my life. If I would have taken my life in that time of hardship I would have shown a sign of weakness to the devil.

You're life is worth so much more than you believe. Everyone is brought onto this planet for a reason and many decide to ignore that. FAITH, TRUST, HOPE. It's all there and no one takes the time to BELIEVE. Love your life, learn from your past, and better yourself. GROW! You will find yourself stronger. YOU ARE STRONG.

GOD BLESS YOU.
♥

Q: Ever since I was little I've had the worst experiences in church I was always badly judged because of my past mistakes and because my father made bad mistakes to I tried soo many churches but it was all the same. I've greatly improved and I've devoted my life to God and doing my best to please him but I get so scared I don't want to go near any churchs so I don't know what to really do. Anyone know what I can do?

Each and every person makes mistakes. We aren't perfect. If we didn't make mistakes, God wouldn't exist in our minds.

Every church is different, the messages are the same but the way they are proposed is completely different. You may like one different than another. Keep looking for what catches your attention.

The past is the PAST. You aren't supposed to live in the past, you are supposed to learn from it and GROW. Move foward and realize what had happened is past tense. Leave the past behind and make the future better by bettering yourself and making you who you are. God doesn't judge you by your past, he pushes you to grow foward and makes certain decisions in your life that will take you to a higher level. You may not realize it but God is doing something in your life right now! You may not realize it until it is completey resolved or till you realize you have improved generally.

He will ALWAYS forgive you! BUT, make sure you learn, don't repeat.

You don't have to go to church to stay connected with God. There is music, books, the Bible, religious teaching shows, websites. Wherever you go, you are always going to be connected to his presence some how!

GOD BLESS YOU!
I hope this helps. (: ♥

Q: 23/f, my partner is the same age. I don't usually ask questions in this category...this is a little odd for me...>.>

Tell me something - why is it that guys like "dirty talk" so much?

I'm not inexperienced, here. I've had a few partners, and in the past I just kind of got around it or refused to do the "dirty talk" thing. My new guy's into it, and I want to give it a shot. The problem is it's just so...cliche. It makes me laugh, which totally ruins the moment. I'm an actress - maybe it would help if I thought of it as a kind of role playing?
Even so, though, I never know what to say. "I love the way your **** feels in my *****"? "I love when you do that"? "I'm so wet"? I've seen porn; I get the general idea. I just feel like there's something I'm missing.
What's ridiculous is - as I said - I'm an actress. I can play any role. I'm also a writer. I have a myriad of characters and personalities under my belt and floating around my head, but none of them are comfortable with talking dirty.

What's even worse is that if I start doing that when I'm close, even just saying "I'm coming," or anything like that, my orgasm stops, and then I'm not coming, and he thinks I am, and I don't want that. I'm a lot less shy than I used to be in bed, but this still pushes me a little.

So how do I do this dirty talk thing without making myself laugh, or uncomfortable, while still turning him on?

Tips, tricks, advice? Help a girl out!

Thanks!

Do you talk on the phone or through text? That would definitely make the difference.

Explain to him that at first you are going to be uncomfortable and that it will come to you after a while.

Tell him a scenario starting from when the clothes to come off till the time he would cum. Be very detailed so he can picture exactly what you are thinking. Such as what you are wearing, what color, how your body is reacting, etc.

BE DETAILED! Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with, explain to him you aren't very experienced and rather start through text rather than talk! I still can't do it through talk, text is much better!

Q: Hey in 16 yr old female about to turn 17 in a few months.. I'm with this guy who I love with all my heart and he just turned 22 about a month ago we are basically 5 years apart I don't find it weird at all and neither does he.. he does not pressure me to do anything sexually that is not y he is with me.. do u think I'm to young bc some ppl say I am

In my opinion I find him way to old for you. First of all anything sexual between the two of you is illegal. I wouldn't think of anyone that much older than you until you are about 20. When you're 20 it's not really that weird. I am 18, and my boyfriend is 21, and that is the furthest in age difference I will go.

When you find someone closer to your age, the easier it is to relate to eachother. Yes, you may love him but think twice about it. You're too young..

You have your entire life ahead of you. His age? Might old you back, and dating him might hold you back. Don't let it. Good luck!

Q: Ok so, I'm a fifteen year old High school Student, I've been having some really conflicting issues, and I realized that I always look at questions around here for fun, so when I had an issue, why not come here. Well Like I said I'm a male high school student, and I don't really know what I am. I'm going to 10th grade, throughout my 9th grade school year I had a friend (we'll call him Clyde lol) that asked be to do sexual stuff, and an experimenting sense, so two times we exchanged oral sex, once in a bathroom, and once in the woods next to our school. Now there was another Guy I know that aksed me the same thing (call him Greg) and he just wouldnt leave me alone, askeing for naked pictures, asking to have sex, he was pathetic and extremely annoying, so Yesterday I told him it's never going to happen and to just leave me alone. Now my third friend is an open Bi-Sexual we will call him (Aaron) I met him when he was dating one of my female friends, we would text and talk all the time, we became really close friends, one day I heard "Aaron's" girlfriend saying how she didnt like to kiss him and all, so me being the idiot that I am, I told him, and he said thanks, I guess over the next 48 hours they talked and she denied this, he accused me of lying, and we didnt talke for two months. In a plot to take revenge I tried to break them up, he confronted me in a texting conversation, everything was laid on the table and we moved on to become friends again. He confessed to liking me, I considered my self as straight at the time (I hadnt had oral sex with Clyde yet) was shocked, so I waved it off and claimed i was still figuring out who I am. Meanwhile I met a girl one year younger than me, we started talking and flirting, it was just a very flirtatious friendship. this was November, when Aaron started asking me if I wanted to have Sex with him Oral. We joked about it all the time but I knew he was serious. I kept saying maybe. My relationship with the girl..(Lily i guess) was moving along, but at Christmas it ended, it started again this past June and ended again, we're now STRICT friends. So not much happened except once in February that was the first time Clyde and I had Oral and then once again in May, Now yesterday...August, I brutally ended my friendship with Greg, after his annoying requests of naked pictures and sex. Lately I've been texting Aaron a lot, and I really want to be friend with him, like good friends, and we were playing the question game and he asked me if Id ever have sex with a guy, I said I was curious, especially about anal sex. He said I should let him top me, and I could top him back, hes already had EVERY version of sex with both girls and guys hes only a year older (16) but he's a really cool guy. Also yesterday Clyde texted me and said he'd gotten his license he's in my grade but has an early birthday so he's 16. He asked if I wanted to experiment like last year, only this time we could drive to my house, and do it. So far I haven't had a relationship feelings about guys, only sexual, what do you guys think of this? Oh and before 9th grade when most of this happened I was in a long term 3 year relationship with a Girl (Alice)
What do you guys think of my situation? All advice is welcome and I'd really appreciate it ! Thanks in advance ! :)

From the sounds of it, you are definitely bi-sexual. You are curious, and if you are so curious then why not try it out? It happens, to all of us, sometimes?

Just be careful with what you are doing, use a condom definitely. You don't want no diseases, that would be terrible, especially with the fact you were just curious.

Don't tell other guys about this, because a lot of guys are assholes about that type of situation. So be careful with who you tell. It's highschool, it will get around by just telling one person. Be careful with who you trust.

Good luck :D

Q: When Me And My Bf Fuck His Dick Always Goes To The Side (With Boner) And Not Straight Like Its Suppose To.... I Told My Friends About This And They Said It Was Beacause He Has Sex Alot Or Cause He Had Sex The Day Before..... I Dont Know What It Is Can Someone Tell Me What's Sup With That??? :/

First of all, your friends are stupid. They have no idea what they are talking about. That is completely normal. NOT every dick goes straight, they aren't perfect. ITS NORMAL.

Q: Okay i know this is going to sound bad but it happens. Ok i liked this dude but he didst know about it or me really so we decided to hang out wit some close friends and we had sex! I wanted to but after i didn't hear from him so i kind of started to feel bad. I continue to hang with his friends and i started liking one of them and this time he likes me back but im afraid to talk to him like that because i don't want to seem like a hoe. I don't know if the friend knows but i also don't know what to do and this guy is really cool. Ugh i messed up bad

Personally I don't think you sound like hoe. The other guy obviously was an ass. He used you, and the fact this other guy has to be one of his friends means nothing and shouldn't mean anything. If you like eachother then go for it, take chances because if you don't then you will never realize what could have happened. Don't think like so, think highly of yourself. What happened, happened and now it's time for a new start. (:

Q: well i started cutting myself my 8th grade year [im now a senior] and ive been clean of cuts for about a year. inever did deep cuts right across my wrist, ionly did slight ones throughout my arms. lately ihave had alot going on and im trying my hardest not to but icant help but to think about starting back cutting. HELP? any substitutions for cutting?

I did the same things, except I started the summer before my junior year because of an abusive boyfriend. My all means, cutting is not the answer and can be very dangerous because you never know how deep you are cutting and whether or not you are going to hit a vein or nerve. I stopped once I realized all I was doing was hurting myself and that I rather worry about my future instead. The cops ended up at my house along with medics. I met a police officer who is one of my bestfriends, I was actually with her the other night and she is a good person to talk to. I say find someone that you can talk to and someone that is capable of understanding you as a person and your situation. I want to be a police officer so I usually do things that involve cops like volunteer work, and riding with them. Find something that you love and once you continue to do it its hard to think about cutting because you are wayyyy too busy to think about it. I also coach my favorite sport (soccer) and that helps a lot too because I love working with the kids. I just find things to keep me busy, or pray to God. I made a promise to God that I would never cut again and I haven't since I made that promise. Find what you love and follow your dreams because no cut is worth ruining or losing your life over. Just be careful, and STOP cutting. It's not worth it and I learned that a long time ago because now I worry about people seeing my scars when i rather start over on a clean slate, and start over in life. (: good luck!

Q: ok im gonna make this really short. i am a 13 year old girl and sometimes, when my mom is screaming at me and grabbing my face and pulling my hair and all that fun s*it, my mom will scream at me "i will wreck you". other times, she will say it jokingly. is it ok for her to say that in a joking situation or in a yelling situation or none at all? please answer. kisses!

No your mother is not allowed to do that. Since you are in fact a minor, your mother can be arrested for child endangerment or abuse if reported to the police, or child protective services. If you are scared and you don't think this is normal and feel it may get out of control then tell a neighbor or another family member about what your mother is doing. Good luck hun, and BE CAREFUL.

Q: I'm 19 and i met this guy a year ago. from the very start i was'nt attracted to him but he forced things out. i gave in because I'd just broken up and wanted to show that 'thing' that i was doing well. I have never loved him and always wish if got a nice guy,i would slip out.I hate him yet he loves me dearly. what should i do?

If he is becoming super obsessive, give him a few warnings to leave you alone. If he doesn't leave you alone the police should take that case. Usually they will give him warnings to leave you alone and if he disobeys he can be arrested for stalking. Don't consider his feelings right now because you have enough and now it's getting to out of control and you should worry about yourself rather than him. Good Luck.

Q: I have some video files which record many happy days about me.Recently,I want to make them together as one file,so that I can save them much more easier.Do you have used some video joiner tools?Does the boilsoft video joiner for Mac works well? Share with me your advice,thanks.

Your computer should already have a program!
Mine does and it's called window movie maker, and you can join/blend videos and pictures together.

Q: i want a nice speech for farewell party to my friends at institute, please.

Like the other person had said. Make it something EVERYONE will remember, but make sure that it comes from your heart and isn't something that is made up and posed. Make sure that it is something that you truly mean. Let them all know how you really felt about the experience with them. Whether it was good or bad. Just be HONEST.(:

Q: ok im a sophomore this year and i dated this jerk in 7th grade and he was awful to me and dumped me repeatedly and cheated on me so much and i dumped him the last time and totally refuse to talk to him. i seriously hate him like everytime hes around or i hear about him i got instantly heated and angry. its been like 4 years and im still not over him even though i make it seem like i am. what can i do?

Well it's obvious that the feelings that you had formed for him were real and that you actually let your heart go and you gave it to him. You still think about the good times correct? Well that is because you gave your heart out on the person that treated you right, in the first place. If you still think about it and it happens continuously I would suggest talking to a counselor about how you are feeling and finally let go of him. You will be happier once you let go of what once was. Good luck sweetie.

Q: M/18. I suffer from deep depression everyday of my life, nothing makes me happy and everyday I think about suicide. What should I do about this?

I am also 18 and have thought about suicide one too many times. Suicide is definitely not the answers by any means. I began to realize that when I fell more in love with the thought of pursuing the future that I want. Find something in your life that is worth while. That is all I worry about. I stepped away from the drama, hate, and past occurences. I would constantly get down and think that my life was worth nothing when it is truly priceless. You can't put a price on life, because it's worth more than that and GOD loves you. You are here for a reason, and I know that if you wait it out you will find that God was holding onto your life to prove you have something in your future and that if you find it you will be so happy with yourself. Only worry about yourself and not others for the time being. Look back into your past and analyze what was making you feel this way. Did something happen? Was something said? Etc. Once you find the reason you are feeling so down you can come to a conclusion with it and START OVER. That is what I did, I am worrying about my future and moving foward on a new leave! Good luck. xoxo

Q: There is a guy who accidentally texted me as a wrong number. I told him it was wrong, but he continued texting me on multiple occasions, knowing I was someone he didn't know. We had some nice conversations and flirted a bit. He lives about three hours away from me and is 16. He wants to come visit me, but he can't drive. I'm 17 and can drive, but not that far - my parents wouldn't let me. I wouldn't want to either because I don't really know him. One day he got very intense with the flirting and asked if he were to ask me out what I would say. I told him maybe, clearly stressing that we don't each other and would have to get to know each other in order for me to date him. He then asked that if we dated if we would make out a lot. This kind of creeped me out. He also asked if we were now dating, I told him no because we have never met. I haven't texted him since that time and have just ignored his texts, but I feel bad. I don't know what to do and my friends tell me just to continue ignoring him, but I don't want to hurt him. Help! He also asked for a picture, but i refused to send one saying my phone was broken. He wanted to friend me on Facebook but I never told him my last name and he never asked for it.

This person may have said that they are 16, but with the fact you don't know this person there is a possibility his age may not be 16. Don't talk to him anymore and if he comes anymore of a bother you must report this to the police. The fact he asked you for a "picture" is illegal with the fact you are a minor. I suggest you don't meet up with him for safety reasons. Stop talking to him, and again if he becomes a bother talk to your parents and the police!

Be careful with the decision you decide to make.

Q: Ok,so i know asking this probably isn't going to get me anywhere as people feel too morally obliged not to answer a question like this but i'll give it a go nonetheless. The thing is,i am considering the possibility of claiming my own life very serious as of late and would like to know what would be the most efficient way to go about it.I'm not going to try and justify my considering this but i would really appreciate an honest answer.I realise asking this puts anyone who reads this in a very awkward position and i am very sorry for that,all i need are just a few simple suggestions.

Suicide is definitely not the answer for anyone. You should never want to claim your life. You may have hit some rough patches in your life, but life can never be so hard that you actually consider doing such an awful thing. I have had the same thing thoughts, but I have found something in life that is keeping me here. I want to pursue my dream of the career that I love every aspect of. You need to find something or someone that will make it all worth while. Analyze the problems in your life and then go back and find a way to fix them, or break yourself away from them. You can always find a way to make yourself happier, but you have to find what is making you feel this way. Once you find the cause of your thoughts, then get rid of it and break away from it and pursue something else in life. You have potential in life, everyone does and everyone has a reason to live and they have their own person to continue walking the face of the earth. Find God if that is a belief in your judgement. Maybe go to a trusted counselor. Find someone to talk to, it is never the choice to take your life, because then you will never know what you could have had out of life. You take away all hope and faith. Think about the people that you may be hurting. Once you are gone, the people that truly cared about you and loved you are going to have a rough time coping with the fact you were so unhappy with the way you were living. Don't do this, because life has many things to offer, and you have the potential to pursue new things. Don't miss the good things life has to offer.

Make the right decision, and be happy.
xoxo

Q: So..

I've been writing this book..that I love writing..but when people comment on my work saying I have a good topic, and it's a good story..yet I need to work on my grammar. It's the simple things that I'm not doing right..like putting the comma's in the right place..and there, their and they're.

>.< I'm going to be in advanced English and I don't want to lose even more of my self esteem x.x

Please, and thank yah. :3

If you love writing, then you will obviously do anything to become better at what you love to do. Maybe take an out of school english course. Ask advanced teachers for help and they can tutor you. The more practice you get, the better you will be at writing. Just make sure to ask a ton of questions and take the time to study the concepts of grammar. Good luck! (:

Q: My girlfriend and me whenever we hang out she always just reaches her hands down my pants and she says she wants to give me a handjob...weve been dating for 7 months and i dont think that she will notice that im small since its her first handjob...i really want one but im afraid she will think im too small....what should i do?

Don't be scared that you are too small. Explain to your girlfriend that you are just feeling a little self concious and that you feel she may judge you. Just talk to her about if first, since I'm sure you two are comfortable with eachother. Be honest with her and let her have her own opinion! She'll love you no matter what if she is a TRUE girlfriend. (: Good luck!

Q: Just as a survey, how would you guys rate/handle a situation with:
A girl and guy (18 years both almost 19)
Guy doesnt pay for girl, girl always drives guy around because the guy doesnt have a car. They both say they love each other, talk about marriage, and kids. Guy doesnt have a job yet but aspires to have one; girl is going away to college, guy is going to a community college and they both plan to stay together.
What if you were the boy or girl, would you guys say this is a good realtionship?

It sort of sound like the guy is using the girl for her car, and doesn't care to pay for her. When everyone knows that a gentleman pays for his girl. This is definitely not a healthy relationship. My ex never paid for my stuff. We were in the drive thru and he said "you know I'm not paying for that."

The girl deserves so much better. Especially if she is going off to college she deserves to live her life and continue forward with her dreams. The guy seems to say he wants to job but doesn't potentially plan on looking for one, or looking for a car. If you don't have a job, you don't have a car. Add up?

On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the worst! This relationship is crap, I'd rate it a -2. Good luck!

Q: ok im only 13 and ever since i have turned 13 i noticed that i have like stretch mark sorta things causin me not wearin my swimsuit bottoms
when i was younger i never had these problems i had a perfect body my doctor even said i did
well how do i get rid of them????? i want to have fun again and not be scared to show off my body anymore :(
thnx _dont be judgin me

Hunny im 18 and i have stretch marks. I have them on my legs and I don't let them bother me and they shouldn't bother you. I was told I got them because I grew too fast so I'm sure its the same for you. You are getting older and growing and I'm sure its because you are getting bigger (in a good way) and forming into you adult body. Don't worry. (: Don't be so self-concious otherwise tell your mom you are scared to show them!

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