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Dirty talk?
23/f, my partner is the same age. I don't usually ask questions in this category...this is a little odd for me...>.>
Tell me something - why is it that guys like "dirty talk" so much?
I'm not inexperienced, here. I've had a few partners, and in the past I just kind of got around it or refused to do the "dirty talk" thing. My new guy's into it, and I want to give it a shot. The problem is it's just so...cliche. It makes me laugh, which totally ruins the moment. I'm an actress - maybe it would help if I thought of it as a kind of role playing?
Even so, though, I never know what to say. "I love the way your **** feels in my *****"? "I love when you do that"? "I'm so wet"? I've seen porn; I get the general idea. I just feel like there's something I'm missing.
What's ridiculous is - as I said - I'm an actress. I can play any role. I'm also a writer. I have a myriad of characters and personalities under my belt and floating around my head, but none of them are comfortable with talking dirty.
What's even worse is that if I start doing that when I'm close, even just saying "I'm coming," or anything like that, my orgasm stops, and then I'm not coming, and he thinks I am, and I don't want that. I'm a lot less shy than I used to be in bed, but this still pushes me a little.
So how do I do this dirty talk thing without making myself laugh, or uncomfortable, while still turning him on?
Tips, tricks, advice? Help a girl out!
Thanks!
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Most guys don't want it every time but once in a while should suffice. Try being a little dominate toward him and order him to do things. Smack his ass and tell him to go faster. You don't have to tell him when you're cumming and make sure you get your orgasm before you continue with getting him off. You can try telling him some fantasies you have during sex. If none of these things work, tell him you're thinking about some cute guy you saw at the mall and he'll probably want you to stop. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Do you talk on the phone or through text? That would definitely make the difference.
Explain to him that at first you are going to be uncomfortable and that it will come to you after a while.
Tell him a scenario starting from when the clothes to come off till the time he would cum. Be very detailed so he can picture exactly what you are thinking. Such as what you are wearing, what color, how your body is reacting, etc.
BE DETAILED! Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with, explain to him you aren't very experienced and rather start through text rather than talk! I still can't do it through talk, text is much better!
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