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Texting to Relationship
There is a guy who accidentally texted me as a wrong number. I told him it was wrong, but he continued texting me on multiple occasions, knowing I was someone he didn't know. We had some nice conversations and flirted a bit. He lives about three hours away from me and is 16. He wants to come visit me, but he can't drive. I'm 17 and can drive, but not that far - my parents wouldn't let me. I wouldn't want to either because I don't really know him. One day he got very intense with the flirting and asked if he were to ask me out what I would say. I told him maybe, clearly stressing that we don't each other and would have to get to know each other in order for me to date him. He then asked that if we dated if we would make out a lot. This kind of creeped me out. He also asked if we were now dating, I told him no because we have never met. I haven't texted him since that time and have just ignored his texts, but I feel bad. I don't know what to do and my friends tell me just to continue ignoring him, but I don't want to hurt him. Help! He also asked for a picture, but i refused to send one saying my phone was broken. He wanted to friend me on Facebook but I never told him my last name and he never asked for it.
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This person may have said that they are 16, but with the fact you don't know this person there is a possibility his age may not be 16. Don't talk to him anymore and if he comes anymore of a bother you must report this to the police. The fact he asked you for a "picture" is illegal with the fact you are a minor. I suggest you don't meet up with him for safety reasons. Stop talking to him, and again if he becomes a bother talk to your parents and the police!
Be careful with the decision you decide to make.
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if i were you i would be careful because its really weird he get your ipod number he may be a dangerous guy and he is younger and maybe he worth it but you dont know if you can trust him
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is this creepy?.. yeah.
how do you really know if its a 16 year old boy? not a 50 year old pervert man who wants to rape you?? always think about the consequences.
It doens't make sense to me because if he lives 3 hours away.. how can he get your number and just start texting you like that?? Its just so random and strange.
Let me just tell you 1 thing.. sometimes you just can't trust everyone. Trust is a valuable thing. It comes with loyalty and friendship. Don't give out your trust to random people, only give it to people who deserve it. This guy doesn't deserve your trust because you barely know him or met him. If you knew him and were close friends, then yeah you could trust him. but I just have a bad feeling about this kid.
Ignore him and find better guys out there who won't stalk you :)
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I do not know if this includes the state you are in but they just passed a law that sexting is illegal. Just thought I'd let ya know..
Don't you find it weird at all that some random guy would continue to text you when he doesn't know you? You have never seen a picture of him? etc. I don't care if I get rated a 4, I'm going to be honest with you.
I would be very careful of who you flirt with especially someone you know nothing about, never met or seen a picture of. This guy could of sent you a picture that he pulled off the internet there are a lot of weird people out there and I can't tell you how many stories I've heard that involved texting. If your friend are telling you to ignore him then maybe you should listen too them. The whole thing sounds a little creepy and suspicious. If someone wanted to meet somebody you'd think they would go about it another way rather than sending someone text messages to a stranger. Your best bet is to ignore it, Change your number and don't text him again. You've now got yourself a creepy stalker......
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Well if you are creeped out by it then yea maybe you should just keep ignoring him.. maybe tell your parents you need your number changed... I dont think you could have a relationship with someone you have never seen or even seen a picture of. But if you want to let him know what going on just text him and say hey, I am sorry but this just isnt going to work out.. And leave it at that. good luck
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Just keep on not responding.
There's a large part of me that said if this guy was serious about having a relationship - he would have tried to contact you via Facebook. He's probably just getting off on the flirty texting, and hoping it will lead to sexually charged conversations and photos.
Which makes him all sorts of bad news.
If you want to be polite, you can tell him you don't want to speak to him anymore, then block and ignore him.
You are well within your rights to block his number.
Don't stress out too much about it. He's a young guy who is doing something kinda dumb and rude - as young guys often do. But just because someone is probably just dumb, not evil, doesn't mean you need to put up with it. You aren't happy and you aren't comfortable - that means you are perfectly entitled to end all contact. Don't let your worry about hurting him, turn you into his victim. If you want to be kind, tell him why you are putting an end to it before you block him. If he is an otherwise decent guy, it might be a good lesson for him in how not to creep a person out and get your ass blocked and ignored. That's all he deserves from you - he's been rude and intrusive and isn't taking a hint.
Your right to be comfortable and respected is more important than him having his feelings hurt because his behaviour has made you uncomfortable. You don't have to be miserable and feel vulnerable just to save him from feeling rejected based on his own choices. That's not right or fair.
He behaved badly. You don’t have to suffer for it.
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