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Cutting my arms
well i started cutting myself my 8th grade year [im now a senior] and ive been clean of cuts for about a year. inever did deep cuts right across my wrist, ionly did slight ones throughout my arms. lately ihave had alot going on and im trying my hardest not to but icant help but to think about starting back cutting. HELP? any substitutions for cutting?
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I'm going to give you the same exact advice I gave someone else on here earlier yesterday. I've been there and I've cut before. And ouch that hurts, but at least you have something to feel other than numb right??? Wrong :)There's plenty of other things you can do that are constructive towards your health rather than degrading. Quick short story.....The first time I cut was two years ago. At the time I didn't know why I was doing it, but when I looked hard enough I knew. Cutting myself made me get even more down, angry and depressed. I decided I didn't want to live like that anymore and figured everyone would be better without me. So, after I was done cutting I took some pills to permanently end myself. And my little sister out of all people saved me. When I woke up I was in my bed. She was there. I felt terrible for the examlpes I was letting her grow up with. It made me feel selfish and somehow even more misunderstood. But, she's much stronger than me. She took out my stash of books I'd been writing and working on for years. She took out my drawings and my books. She opened one of the books to an unfinished page, handed me a pen and said, "Write." From that day on, everytime I feel intensely depressed or down and sorrowful I pick up my paper and pen and write a story, true or fale, about anything anywhere. I've slipped up a few times and went back to relying on cutting but when I did I remembered that I have something to live for and something to offer the world through my words on paper. I don't know what kind of hobbies you're into that you love to do, but I'm sure there's something. Think only about things that make you truely happy and use those as a substitute for cutting. For me that was writing and drawing. If I'm sad I'll listen to music too. One thing about that though...don't listen to songs with lyrics involving unpleasant things while you're upset. It does nothing to help you out it only makes your mood worse...but then again everyone's different. Please try something more constructive though. And if you really can't find anything better to help with your problems then I'd suggest talking to someone you trust with your heart. Or if there really is no one you can trust maybe talk to a councilor. But, if you can....find somewhere that makes you feel safe ( bedroom with a lock, the park, the zoo, your car, the bathroom, ANYWHERE that makes you feel welcome and comforted...) and do what you love to do other than cutting. Read a book, create cartoons, learn to play a new instrument, sing, make lyrics to songs*constructive lyrics no depressing stuff*, cook, make mini models of larger objects, take apart machines and rebuild them into something new, make your own website, start a blog, take photos and videos of things you love, scrapbooking, collecting rocks or different varieties of plants, style and cut hair(not wrists) paint and design nails, draw new clothes designs for fashion models on a runway, build bird houses, re-arrange your room, volunteer at the animal shelter, volunteer at the zoo or childrens care area. I hope my story and some of these ideas helped you out at least a little bit :) you may right me back with any other questions you have if you want *stay hopeful. There's always something you can do to stay hopeful.
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Well i have had problems with anger managment and i went to group theoraphy and met a girl who was cutting. She said that doing something positive when you are down is a great coping startegy. Try doing something you like to do wheter its playing a sport or listening to music. Try that because this is a really serious problem if u dont quit it now. I hope this advice works.
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I was also a "cutter." I first started cutting during my first year of university. I was able to stop on my own, but it was extremely difficult. I began cutting again during my third year of university. I was having a very difficult time, indulging in other forms of self-harm, and finally sought help.
A substitution that worked well for me was sticking my hand in a bucket of ice water. It hurts, but leaves no scars, and is much safer. If you feel like cutting, do this until your urge to cut has passed
Although, with that said, I encourage you to seek help. I wish you the best.
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I did the same things, except I started the summer before my junior year because of an abusive boyfriend. My all means, cutting is not the answer and can be very dangerous because you never know how deep you are cutting and whether or not you are going to hit a vein or nerve. I stopped once I realized all I was doing was hurting myself and that I rather worry about my future instead. The cops ended up at my house along with medics. I met a police officer who is one of my bestfriends, I was actually with her the other night and she is a good person to talk to. I say find someone that you can talk to and someone that is capable of understanding you as a person and your situation. I want to be a police officer so I usually do things that involve cops like volunteer work, and riding with them. Find something that you love and once you continue to do it its hard to think about cutting because you are wayyyy too busy to think about it. I also coach my favorite sport (soccer) and that helps a lot too because I love working with the kids. I just find things to keep me busy, or pray to God. I made a promise to God that I would never cut again and I haven't since I made that promise. Find what you love and follow your dreams because no cut is worth ruining or losing your life over. Just be careful, and STOP cutting. It's not worth it and I learned that a long time ago because now I worry about people seeing my scars when i rather start over on a clean slate, and start over in life. (: good luck!
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Please do not cut yourself. Cutting is dangerous no matter where on your arm or anywhere else you cut yourself.
There are substitutions for cutting yourself. One is to put a rubber band loosely around your wrist and when you feel like cutting you snap the rubber band instead. It may sound strange but has worked well for many people with anxiety problems. This is a substitution for cutting but not a solution to the underlying problem.
While I realize you are not truly looking to harm yourself or commit suicide, I am going to suggest you call the National Suicide hotline anyway. They can offer you help for the underlying problem that is causing you to want to cut yourself. Whatever is going on in your life that is causing you to want to cut needs to be addressed with the help of professionals. The volunteers at the suicide hotline can put you in touch with professionals near you who can help you. The number is 1-800-273-Talk.
Below is a link to their crisis center locator page. Just type in your zip code to find a center near you. You can either call the center or go there to talk with someone. While the name may say one thing the goal of this organization is to help people in crisis. When you get the urge to cut you are in crisis. Please either call or locate a crisis center near you and visit them. You do not have to hurt yourself to feel better.
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Well I had the same problem ,but not as long.. uhm.. well first off it can kill you. I suggest what I did I take it out on a wall and screaming.. it actually works... or crying yourself. Surround yourself around things that make you actually happy , there has to be something. Also, you cant stop thinking about it because your so use to cutting your arms your mind is programmed to it. Make a goal for yourself since you haven't cut yourself for a year keep going and make a goal for yourself when you reach a point each time and celebrate it, but most of all I think like the other person said... talk to someone.
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First of all hurting yourself is not the answer and because that's how you delt with your problems and going ons before it is only natural for you to think of turning back to that.
First thing i suggest doing is if things are really starting to feel that bad,. Please do talk to someone,. and iknow this might sound like oh that won't work what so ever,. I'll tell you it depends on the person. Some theropists(yes i didn't spell it right Lawl! ) Don't help,. some help a little, and then there are those others that actually do make a difference,.
I've seen 3 or 4 different ones and only one of them actually made a difference and helped.
If that seems a bit much,. or your not ready to talk to some one,. try having a tight elastic band on your wrist and pulling the elastic away from your wrist and letting it snap on your wrist,. I'm not sure how this is supposed to help,. But that is one way to help it that i have heard about.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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