Hey everyone! Im Millie O'Conner. Im 18, im a Christian, and I live in Chicago. I decided to start giving advice on this page so that people wouldn't make the same mistakes I've made throughout my life. Im willing to answer any questions people ask me about life. My fave quotes are "Life is too short to be anything but happy", and "What is meant to be will find its way." Don't hesitate to ask me advice! :)
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What does this mean: place special emphasis on old friend? (link)
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It could mean to put special attention to an older friendship or and old friend.
- Millie
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i am just fed up with my life...
i want my parter to realise my value and the only way for this is to leave him which is ultimately very difficult for me if i remain alive so tell me what can i do???
the only thing i can think is of suicide. (link)
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Hey, hey. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. What would this world be if everyone who had trouble committed suicide?! You have a bright future ahead of you, don't mess it up. I know you think you can't leave your partner while alive, but if you really want to, you will find the strength. There are many things you can do with your life. Anything you like. So think of your dreams and go pursue them. Don't waste your life. I mean, we all die sooner or later, but it might as well be later. Enjoy your life while it lasts and go out there and have fun. But PLEASE don't do something so drastic. Think of your loved ones. And hey, what's the point of your partner realizing your value if you're dead? Think about it. You're life has a purpose. Good Luck!
- Millie.
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I'm 11,am I to young for my first kiss?I really like my bf but i feel i'll be making a bad choice if we kiss.By the way,i'm a girl! (link)
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You're question kind of gives the answer. You're not ready if you feel like you're making a bad choice. The sooner you give your first kiss the sooner the next one comes, and the next, and the next... what i'm trying to say is don't do something you will regret. The longer you wait... the more special it will be. In High School many guys went after me and I had many guys who wanted to kiss me. I didn't kiss anyone until I found a really good Christian boy and got to know him for a while. I finally kissed him at sixteen and he is the guy I am now engaged to. See what I'm trying to say? Good Luck girl! And remember that true love will always find its way! :)
- Millie :)
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am i too young to give this boy i've met once or twice a handjob im 13 by the way(:? advice is needed.. i have'nt agreed to anything but he has wanked infront of me and 'stuff' before.. i really like him, i've gave a couple handjobs and blowjobs before but they were with bf's.. (link)
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What the heck. You are WAY too young to be doing these things. And I'm not saying it would be right even if you're 30. So don't even think about it because when a guy wants you to do something like this, he is just using you. Respect yourself and let him chase you a bit. 95% of girls that have had sex before marriage regret it. So don't do it.
- Millie.
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I am not sure if this is the right category. But a spider bite me. Its like my meat around it is dead it made a small circle witch is now black. It is very sore. And we are too broke to go to the dr. Any home tips. We cleaned it whit Poroxside. And we clean it every night. HELP PLZ 13/f (link)
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You need to go to the doctor. RIGHT NOW.
Even if you don't think you can afford it it's really not worth the risk, you can get a really bad and deadly disease, so you need to go see a doctor immediately!
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Hi there so I am 18/F
So I have a lot of guy friends and a few girl friends, most of which are short, except my best friend who is 6", I however am 5"9 and I feel soooo tall, I look at my girl friends who are 5"5 or 5"6 and they get a lot of guys, I get guys and everything, but for some reason I look at my girl friends and I feel freakishly tall and weird, I am skinny, I eat a lot but I don't gain weight, I weigh about 130, I just don't understand why I feel so ugly around my friends, is there anything wrong with being this tall, I feel so insecure when I go out with them. Why is it that tall girls aren't as pretty as short girls? (link)
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I feel as if I wrote this myself :)I went exactly what you went through. I was 5'9 at fourteen and had a lot of trouble getting to the point where I loved my height. There is a bunch of advantages to being tall. One of them is when going through the time of growth, it slims you down and you get to eat more than average girls. That's a reason why you're skinny and you should appreciate being able to eat a little more than your friends, specially with all the amazing food there is out there. ;) Here's one thing I read the other day that made me feel amazing. Did you know the average height of a model is 5'11? That is why so many girls strive to grow more, or go around uncomfortably wearing huge heels. You we're blessed with having all this to begin with, and that means you can go around proudly showing off your height. Something else that might help you embrace your height would be finding a hobby that will make you love your height. I started playing volleyball at thirteen and am now the best on my team. All my teammates always tell me how envious they are of my height because I can spike like no one else on the team- and I owe it all to God for making me 5'9. So Good Luck, and remember also that being tall is considered 'sexy' in society.
- Millie :)
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I am thinking about committing suicide. I've made some really bad decisions and feel that it would be best for everyone if I were gone. My family would get insurance money and would be taken care of financially. (link)
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We've all made bad decisions. And I'm sure they would much rather have you then all the money in the world. Don't make them suffer. You just stand strong. Everyone makes mistakes in life and everyone goes through tough times in their lives. Think about it. If everyone who was going through a terrible time commited suicide, the world never would have gotten anywhere. And if your family needs money, get a job and help them out! God has a purpose in life for everyone, so stay strong and remind yourself that God loves you and will never leave you, even in the tough times. No matter how many mistakes you make, he will always forgive you again and again because he loves you more than you will ever know. Remember that when your feeling down. :)
-Millie.
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When I run I lose my breath, If I keep running will I be be able to run without losing my breath?
I want to to be able to run around my park without losing my breath (link)
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There is a certain way you can breathe so that you won't get tired as fast. Take deep breaths. Inhale deeply and then exhale. Keep trying this and with practice you will be able to run as many times around the park as ou want. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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We have been together for a year and a half, things are slowing a bit. We both know it and neither of us want it. I would love some great ideas for nice surprises. I have done flowers and letters and all that jazz but i would like something different. I am going to sneak letters and treats into places she may find them, just to give her a nice thing, but some ideas for days or things.
BTW it can't be something over night as her parents are very strict, have to bare that in mind. (link)
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Aww. You're so thoughtful. Well, to begin with, you should know that us girls just LOVE details. It's nice to know that a guy has been thinking about you and took the time to give you a little surprise that he knew would make you smile. One thing my boyfriend did for me once on my eighteenth birthday was leave little post-it notes everywhere around my room and house telling me sweet little things. I got up, and there were eighteen roses on my desk. Then when I opened my closet, there was a post-it note wishing me a happy birthday and telling me how much he cared for me. Then on my mirror were various other post-it's: one said "I love you!" and the other said "You are beautiful, no matter what you wear :)" and one said "Jesus loves you, and so do I!" and cute thngs like that. I was pretty much the happiest girl alive at the moment. And when I wen't down for breakfast with my parents (they had made an amazing breakfast for me), they told me that he had come at 6 in the morning and even left me a small cake in the fridge. When I looked I almost cried, it even had my name writte on it and hearts all around. You should try these little details! Not necessarily all of them at once, but one day when she goes to the bathroom or something, putone post-it on the inside of her closet. There are so many cute and thoughtful things you can do for her, just use your imagination. Also be creative with the dates, or the relationship with get boring. Try a picnic, waterpark, or cooking! You don't always have to spend a lot of money, but even going to the park is really fun and a nice place fo both of you to relax. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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ive had a huge crush on this guy all year. (i'm 13) his friends all told me to go out with him, and that he liked me a lot. in person we are such good friends, and i can be myself around him. during school we'd hug and be cute to eachother but its summer now and we've barely talked. i feel like if he liked me, he doesnt anymore. i miss him. i text him sometimes and he only answers when i ask him something. is that weird? when i just say hey he wont answer. i'm so confused. someone please tell me whats going on. (link)
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I think it's because you're making it way to easy for him. Guys like mysterious girls because boys like challenges, they want to be able to win a girl's heart. And when a girl chases him around and texts him constantly, its too easy for him because there is no chase. Let him do the pursuing. If he's worth your time, he will. Im not saying you should be cold to him. If he talks to you, you should always be friendly and nice, but let him miss you once in a while. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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Female-15-Australian
It all started with a trip to the movies with my best friends and some guys. I have a boyfriend but this guy "Jake" started coming onto me. I went with it because I was caught in the moment but WE DID NOT KISS as I pulled back just before because I love my boyfriend. A few weeks later we had all gotten over it and my boyfriend knew and we talked about it and we are still together now. But when I was on the bus with my friend "Jackson" I was told that one of my best friends at the movies "Rosie" went up to my boyfriend saying how can you still trust her? "Jackson" told me this. I trust "Jackson" like everyone else I know (I trust people easily.) so I believed him. I was also on my way to a friends house "Kayla." That night at the sleepover I told her what "Jackson" told me and I was really angry because I thought "Rosie" wouldn't ever do that and I started calling her some bad things that I regretted as soon as I said them. I said to "Kayla" to not say anything because I didn't mean it, I was angry and I wanted to talk to "Rosie" about it. The next night I did talk to "Rosie" and my boyfriend about it and I found out "Jackson" was LYING! I then went straight to "Kayla" saying "Please don't say anything I already said I didn't mean it and I still don't, Jackson was lying, I regret what I said." "Kayla" then said "I won't say anything." So the next day I go to school and all my best friends know even "Rosie"! I got really angry at "Kayla" and asked why she told them and she said it was because she was looking out for "Rosie" Well what about me? I was then kicked out the group and another best friend "Libby" had a go at me infront of all of my friends, some randoms and some year 8's/9's. It was so humiliating. I was kicked out of the group and "Kayla" and "Libby" told me that they hate me. "Rosie" told me she understands why I said those things but she wont forget it. I now hang out with my other good friends but I am still upset with what happened. I don't know what to do or say to them because none of them are bothering to talk to me anymore. It's been about 6 weeks but I can't stop remembering all the great times I had with them and how much I miss them. I don't want to go back to the group because I know that nothing will be the same again, I just want them to know that I'm still sorry and upset about how much I hurt "Rosie." (I heard she cried when she found out). I feel so bad still "Rosie" doesn't deserve anything I said she is so beautiful and the most caring person I know.I have tried moving on but it's so hard. Please help me!
I used "fake names" because I don't want to share their real names. (link)
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Talk to Rosie. If she is so hurt, it's probably because she cares about you a lot and it hurt her feelings when she heard that you said such mean stuff about her. Ask her if you two can talk, and then tell her everything that happened. Be completely honest and tell her how you feel and that you really didn't mean any of what you said, and that you just said it because of the heat of the moment. Let her know you understand if she still doesn't want to hang out with you, but you just hope she can forgive you. You should also consider talking to the others, too. It might be better to talk with them one-on-one, because many people say stuff whe they have their friends there than the would if they were by themselves. And work on forgiving Jackson, Kayla, and Libby, even though it might be hard, it always important to forgive. That way you can put all this behind you and move on. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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i dont know how to tell them.. the only person i was thinking of telling was my grandma .. but now idk i think i shouldnt . this will kill them how will the rest of my family will look at me.. but i know they wont take me to get help .. my little brother has cancer they dont need this on top of everything.. im scared to death to tell them .. ill be okay right ? im just so scared why did i have to do this to myself why me ... why.. i dont understand why i cant be like a kid and dont have to do this... (link)
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First of all, i am so very sorry about what your family is going through. I understand how hard this must be for you. I have met some people who cut themselves because of all the pain and suffering they are going through. They said that cutting themselves gives them some sort of relief... at least for a while. It's as if as the blood is coming out of you, so is the pain and the troubles. To begin with, this is completely wrong. It might make you feel better for a minute or two, but after that, it only makes you feel worse. Before telling anyone anything, you have to figure this whole mess out by yourself. To begin with, you have to stop hurting yourself. Cutting won't fix anything! It will only make you feel worse and worse and eventually enter a severe depression. Some people end up commiting suicide! You dont want that, do you? Cause that would be a completely selfish act, judging by how your family is going through a terrible time already. Once you have all this straightened out, ask your parents if they have time to talk, and tell them how much this whole thing has really affected you and how you have been cutting yourself but managed to pull through. This way they will realize that you are also going to a tough time, and this will help you grow closer to your family every day. Everyone goes through trouble, so no one will look down on you. You are not alone. I will make a point to pray for your brother and family, and remember that if God brought you to it, he will bring you through it. Good Luck.
-Millie :)
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if you have afree week and you can do what ever you want, what would you do? (link)
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I would go on a trip with my family. Somehwre near and affordable, but where I can just chill and have fun... say Six Flags. :)
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i am 13 and everyone i know (including girls younger than me) have bigger breasts than me. is there anyway to help stimulate their growth? big boobs run in my family ( my sister has DD's!) but apparently not me. am i normal? (link)
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Yes, you're normal. I know how you feel, I don't have very big boobs myself. You are probably just a late bloomer, and while you may not be able to make your boobs that much bigger naturally, here are some tips you can try.
1. To make them appear bigger, you can get a tan on your cleavage, and that way it will make an illusion that you have more cleavage than you actually do.
2. Doing exercises to enhance your breast not only firms them up, exercising also contribute to your health as well. Doing push ups is a great way to get you started on your way.
3. Make sure when you excercise to use a good and firm sports bra, because boobs dont like to bounce around, and this causes them to get all lopsided... you dont want that!
4.You can increase the blood flow in your chest by massaging them the right way. This helps to enlarge and give your breasts firmness.
But hey, if with time you still don't get bigger boobs, learn to love them. Many girls wish their boobs were smaller and many wish they were bigger. Big or small boobs, God made you the way you are for a purpose, and he thinks you are absolutely gorgeous that way. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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Well i am a virgen and My boy friend is one too and he always talks about how he wants to lose it well I said soon and he said how soon and i said whenever (Dumb answer) And he wants to do it in about 4 days Help!!Idont no what to do So plz leave a comment telling me what i should do !! (link)
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Stay a virgin. Don't let him pressure you into losing your virginity. EVER. Because, what happens when you two break up? (If you have sex, you probably will break up, due to the emotional wreck that comes after sex. I, for example, am going to stay a virgin until the day I marry. There is no better wedding gift than looking a guy in the eyes on your wedding night and being able to say you waited for him. And yes, God has a future husband for you out there. And a future wife for your boyfriend. Think about it, would you wan't your future hisband doing what your boyfriend is doing right now? Probably not. And neither would his wife. Besides all the emotional wreck that comes after giving your everything to a guy, there is also a bunch of physical consequences, Pregnancy, for one thing. Then STD's, 1 in every 4 girls who have sex end up with an STD. And when you are having sex with a guy, you are also having sex with all the girls that guy has had sex with, and that increases the STD possibilities even more. Imagine looking at your husband on your wedding night and telling him you have an STD? This will lower your chances of getting married A BUNCH. And if youre not sure ou are ready, YOU'RE NOT. When you are, you will know it. So tell your boyfriend you don't want to have sex with him. If he understands, hey, this might be your future husband someday. If he leaves you, hes a complete jerk and you should thank God he saved you from a guy like that. Remember to stand your ground and do not give in. There is nothing more unique and beautiful than a pure, virgin, girl. So don't fall into the crowd of those used, impure girls. Stay a virgin. You will eb happy you did it. P.S- 90% of girls who had sex before marriage regretted it and wish they had waited. Be strong. Good Luck!
-Millie :)
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I have a really big crush on this guy I know,
but the problem is one of my really close friends has a huge crush on him too.
She says she has liked him ever since she first saw him
but i have only started liking him two,three maybe four months ago.
Recently i have told her i like him too after telling her to go for it as a good friend
should do but she was upset that i liked him
so instead of saying i liked him a lot i only said i like him a little bit to comfort her,
she does not know i like him a big amount
and will be upset if i tell her this.
He and i are close friends and hang out alot but i am not sure if he has feelings for me.
If she knows i like him this much and i tell him how i feel and he like me back,
she will hate me and think i am stealing him, if he ever asks me out
i would say yes before asking her because i dont like to be mean by turning people down,
but then she would surely hate me but i would tell her he asked me
and see if she was ok.
She says before i ask him out or tell him how i feel i should consult with her
but she wouldn't consult with me because she thinks she likes him more then i do. (link)
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I know how you feel. I've been through this before, and it's a horrible feeling. This whole thing must seem very complicated to you, but it's actually a very simple question you have to ask yourself, which one mens more to you, your friend or your crush? Yeah, it's really that simple. Say the guy asks you out and you say yes. Even if your friend acts all strong and as if it doesn't matter (which is pretty rare), she will always feel jealous and betrayed and will eventually pull away. Besides, you wouldn't want one of your friends doing this to you, right? So here's my advice: forget the guy. Friend's will last you a lifetime, and if you and this guy get together, odds are you will eventually break up. And when this happens, who will be there for you? Your friend will probably not be your friend anymore, and when other girls see how you stole her crush, they probably wont be there for you either. So drop the guy. I know it's hard. I really do. But time will heal, and trust me, you will be glad you chose your sisters over misters. And hey, if your friend eventually ends up with the guy, they probably won't last forever either. And maybe someday, once she forgives him and moves on, you two can start dating, with your friend's approval of course. And this is very different than dating him now, because at least she will have already got her chance and seen it didn't work out. And that is completely different than never being able to have her chance because of you. And she will see that she can trust you, as will everybody else. So encourage her and let her know you are there for her and if she really does like him, he's all hers. After all, she saw him first, right? Wouldn't you want a friend acting like that for you? And remember than boys are like seasons, they come and go, while friends always remain. Good luck!
-Millie. :)
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21 female. Boyfriend is 19
I'm not used to being in a relationship. I just recently got my first real boyfriend. I'm an independent person but he treats me like a princess.
The only thing that bothers me is how he ALWAYS has to be by me, touching me, holding me, etc. Sometimes I just want to be like STOP give me space!! I feel like it makes both of us look bad when we're around other people. I absolutely hate people who are all over each other. Plus it makes people feel awkward sometimes and it annoys them not to mention it annoys me also.
Sometimes I'll push him away but then he thinks I'm mad at him or something and he'll be like what's wrong? Or I'll just be like "Don't do that" and he listens for a sec but then starts doing it again.
I don't really know how to bring this up. I don't know how to tell him nicely that I need space sometimes and that I don't want him by me, on me, touching me ALL THE TIME. I'm fine with holding hands if we're walking somewhere or kissing him goodbye but I don't want him to be all over me all the time. And when I try to say it subtle to him he always says like "I can't help it, your too beautiful"
I feel like I can't win. What should I do or say? Any suggestions!!? (link)
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I know it's hard to bring up subjects like these, but maybe you should try this. Whenever he tries this, just tell him right away when you are upset. Let him know how you feel and that you don't like it when he is all over you. Tell him that you dont mind contact unless it all the time and that it makes you look bad in front of other people. If he acts all sorry and then does it again, give him only one more chance. If it is in public, say firmly "can i talk to you?" and go and tell him why he keeps doing it when you specifically asked him not to. If he still just does not understand, break up with him asap. This is super unhealthy! He might be a good guy or whatever, but even if it starts subtly, this might someday lead to sexual abuse. Scary, huh? Well leave him before it's to late. After all, what are you in relationship for if it's not to be happy? Life is too short to be anything but happy! Well, good luck!
-Millie :)
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Im 21 and I have not gotten a period yet and im also having sex, what can I do to make me get my frist period help please........ (link)
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Okay, one of the reason many girls can't menstruate is because they are way too skinny. When you are too skinny, your body can't produce what is needed to have a period. When you don't have a period you can't have babies. Talk to a doctor about this.
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Hi there. I could really use some input from people who don't know me or my Girlfriend and won't tell me just what i want to hear.
To begin with, my girlfriend is 18, and I am 20, she's finishing high school this year and will be moving away.
We've been together for 3 months now, and things have been going fantastic, we spend as much time together as possible and just have a lot of fun together, we really care about each other.
Recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about her. The thing is, she is by nature a girl that gets along with guys really easily, and I know that every guy likes to flirt with girls - so when she gets along with a guy he starts to openly flirt with her, which kinda sucks to see happening, but i don't let it get to me.
For her recent birthday, I cooked her a fabulous roast lamb meal, and gave her a white gold necklace with a heart pendant on it, which cost me $260ish. while having this romantic evening, she had a couple of drinks, and thought it would be hilarious to talk to her friends on my facebook account, which was fine. while we were chatting there, she was saying about a party she had the night before, on her friends birthday (also hers) which i was not invited to. basically a few of her friends and some boys all got down to their underwear and got in a bath tub together, (she was not in it) but was making (what i assumed to be) jokes about how they should have invited her. this was kinda the first thing that bit me about that. also she kept telling me about how funny this particular guy was, and she was cooking hilarious things in the kitchen with him (they had all been drinking) and of course the natural thing for a guy to do is get a teency weency bit jealous.
after I was going to take her home that night(back to present time), I noticed she had taken her necklace off to have a shower, but hadn't put it back on, pretending not to see I tried to not let it get to me when she looked at it on the bench and didnt say anything about it. basically she went home without taking it with her.
When i told her today she had forgotten it, and i found it at home, she avoided it completely and talked about something else. after this, i saw she had made her facebook profile picture a photo of her and this other guy in the kitchen, cooking an omelette, and her hand was holding onto his arm.
Am I over reacting to this?
Pease help, I'm quite down in the dumps. (link)
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Aww. You are just to cute. I should start by saying that a bunch of girls would love to have you as a boyfriend, and she should be very thankful to have you. And yes, it is normal to feel hurt about how your girlfriend wanted to be invited into that bathtub. But hey, when people have a few drinks, they tend to say stuff they normally woul never say when sober. So maybe she was just talking nonsense and didnt know what she was saying, but the most probale thing is, when you are drunk you tend to tell the truth without realizing it. It is important for you to have a girlfriend you can trust. If you don't really trust her I know it is hard to think that she might be cheating on you. Talk to her about this, and let her know that you care deeply for her, but aren't sure she feels the same way. Judging about how it goes, you should decide whether its healthy to keep going with this relationship. If she is sorry, give her a chance. As far as the necklace thing, don't give it back unless she asks for it and seems to want it, or she may lose it or something, and that would be tragic. GOOD LUCK!
-Millie :)
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I was making out with this guy and afterwards my upper lip had a small bruise
Is this normal ? (link)
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If he bit you yes. If not, it might be a small case of herpes or something else, Get yourself checked before it gets worse.
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