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I have a crush on my best friends major crush!!!!
I have a really big crush on this guy I know,
but the problem is one of my really close friends has a huge crush on him too.
She says she has liked him ever since she first saw him
but i have only started liking him two,three maybe four months ago.
Recently i have told her i like him too after telling her to go for it as a good friend
should do but she was upset that i liked him
so instead of saying i liked him a lot i only said i like him a little bit to comfort her,
she does not know i like him a big amount
and will be upset if i tell her this.
He and i are close friends and hang out alot but i am not sure if he has feelings for me.
If she knows i like him this much and i tell him how i feel and he like me back,
she will hate me and think i am stealing him, if he ever asks me out
i would say yes before asking her because i dont like to be mean by turning people down,
but then she would surely hate me but i would tell her he asked me
and see if she was ok.
She says before i ask him out or tell him how i feel i should consult with her
but she wouldn't consult with me because she thinks she likes him more then i do.
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I think that a lot of girls can relate to that, and honestly, if your friend is going to hate you over a guy, then she's not really a good friend. If the guy you like asks you out, then go for it, but don't let your friend's attitude ruin it. If he asks your friend out, then you should support her like any true friend would do. Show her that it's ok to like the same guy, even if one of them is going out with him. Good luck!
- Kaylie
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I ve gone through the samething. i regret what I did.right now it may not sound good but later in life at some point you will realize.friends over guys anyday girl.there are many guys going to come and go in and out of your life.hurting your friend or spoiling your friendship with her because of this guy who is someday not going to be there for you is stupid.your friend will be there for you always.friends are forever.I liked this guy my bestfriend liked and the guy liked me back.my friend killed her feelings and never showed me how bad she felt watching us together and i was with the guy always.after sometime this guy stops liking me because you know we grew up had our own things to do.so he left me dated another chick.and when I looked behind I saw I left my friend far behind with no care.I so regret it.its just a crush.not your prince charming.n if he's d one for you then you will be with him someday.right now just be a nice person and think about how is it going to affect your friend and you after he gets out of your life.:) there are many other guys..be happy and keep people around who matter to you happy.
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I know how you feel. I've been through this before, and it's a horrible feeling. This whole thing must seem very complicated to you, but it's actually a very simple question you have to ask yourself, which one mens more to you, your friend or your crush? Yeah, it's really that simple. Say the guy asks you out and you say yes. Even if your friend acts all strong and as if it doesn't matter (which is pretty rare), she will always feel jealous and betrayed and will eventually pull away. Besides, you wouldn't want one of your friends doing this to you, right? So here's my advice: forget the guy. Friend's will last you a lifetime, and if you and this guy get together, odds are you will eventually break up. And when this happens, who will be there for you? Your friend will probably not be your friend anymore, and when other girls see how you stole her crush, they probably wont be there for you either. So drop the guy. I know it's hard. I really do. But time will heal, and trust me, you will be glad you chose your sisters over misters. And hey, if your friend eventually ends up with the guy, they probably won't last forever either. And maybe someday, once she forgives him and moves on, you two can start dating, with your friend's approval of course. And this is very different than dating him now, because at least she will have already got her chance and seen it didn't work out. And that is completely different than never being able to have her chance because of you. And she will see that she can trust you, as will everybody else. So encourage her and let her know you are there for her and if she really does like him, he's all hers. After all, she saw him first, right? Wouldn't you want a friend acting like that for you? And remember than boys are like seasons, they come and go, while friends always remain. Good luck!
-Millie. :)
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