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My ex and I want to be friends.
I know most people would think that it is a bad idea to be friends with your ex right away, but neither me or him want to stop being friends. The thing is that even though I broke up with him, I still have some feelings for him and he still does too. But I'm dealing with them and trying to make them go away. But he told me that he is scared of us hating eachother one day. I would never want that to happen. Does anyone know how we can stay friends without risking ruining the friendship altogether? Thanks.
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It is really hard to do but dont hang out with him for a long time until your feelings are gone. I mean say hey in the halls or whatever and you can even text him, but dont be with him 24/7 i promise it will only make you miss him a lot! Then when your feelings are gone it will be like you guys are best friends, if your not dating you have no reason to fight so there is a very small chance of hating eachother. Hope i helped =]
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i would say take a break for a while, don't really run into each other purposely, but don't avoid each other either. if you still have feelings for the guy, consider this: do you want to get back together with him? if not, like i said, take a break till everthing blows over and you both no longer have feelings, your friendship should not be harmed that way, and it won't be ruined by still having the feelings for each other. with my ex, we still remaind friends, but did just as i described, now we can still talk, visit, or share how our days went like you would with any friend, although, i had no feelings for him, only him me >.<
hope that helps,
~alys
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That's a good thing that you want to stay friends. It sounds like the both of you need to try and put your focus on a different interest. If you want to be friends, avoid talking about how you care about each other for a while and be a buddy to him. Helping each other find hot guys/girls could be a fun friend thing to do if you want those feelings to go away. Instead of spending a bunch of time alone with him, do group things together that way you won't feel like the relationship is intimate. If the both of you have feelings for each other and don't want to end up hating each other than chances are you won't. Eventually you guys will either find that you can be great friends or that you have the potential to be something more.
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