I'm kinda new at this kind of thing, but here goes.
I enjoy swimming, wrestling, rollerblading, hanging with my friends and boyfriend, now of 2 years. I do not agree with the media and do not follow style, i think it's just stupid.
When I give people advice, i'm usually speaking from my past experiances, if not, i'm just trying to wrack my brain for an answer to your problem.
I have only found one ture friend in my life but have many close friends as well. I'm basically the strong silent type. I hate lables and would wipe them from this earth if it were possible.
My parents are divorced so i know what it is like to have familly problems (and lots of em' belive me) as well.
E-mail: alys1223@hotmail.com
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Location: Saskatchewan
Occupation: grade 12 student
Age: 17
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I know most people would think that it is a bad idea to be friends with your ex right away, but neither me or him want to stop being friends. The thing is that even though I broke up with him, I still have some feelings for him and he still does too. But I'm dealing with them and trying to make them go away. But he told me that he is scared of us hating eachother one day. I would never want that to happen. Does anyone know how we can stay friends without risking ruining the friendship altogether? Thanks. (link)
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i would say take a break for a while, don't really run into each other purposely, but don't avoid each other either. if you still have feelings for the guy, consider this: do you want to get back together with him? if not, like i said, take a break till everthing blows over and you both no longer have feelings, your friendship should not be harmed that way, and it won't be ruined by still having the feelings for each other. with my ex, we still remaind friends, but did just as i described, now we can still talk, visit, or share how our days went like you would with any friend, although, i had no feelings for him, only him me >.<
hope that helps,
~alys
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hey i was wondering im 16 and really good with computers like making flyers and business cards and stuff .. and it hard to find a job but i was thinking of making some business cards for people or making websites or stuff like that..how would i get customers and work..like decent stuff.
thanks
please only answer if your sure. (link)
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you know those bilbored/advertising bords things you see in grocery stores and malls? put up some flyers about what you are offering and what you can do with some prices.
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My girlfriend and i are 13 and we talk about me looking at her boobs and her friend said if she lets u look at them she might let u feel them how should i make the move on her (link)
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first of all, you both are a little young, but you want suggestions so here they are.
while having your arm around her, reach with your hand just that little bit lower so you can feel them,
when making out, slowly go from where your hands usually are to her boobs, if she is comfortable, she will let you go ahead, if she isn't, she will stop you, and you should not push her.
or simply, just ask to feel them, again, if she is ready for you to touch her, and wants to take that next step, she will let you.
all of these while you are alone with her of course.
hope that helps,
~alys
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ok so when me and my boyfriend like start rubbing against each other with our underwear on...either im on top or he is. orr when he fingers me...ohhhh....or licks me. i want to moan and just ohhh....like sooooo badd... but i kinda cant cuz his parents are usually right downstairs. what to do? ohh and can i get pregnant by this? (link)
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depending on what your into, and how well you are conected with your bf, i get him to cover my mouth and nose, then i can moan as loud as i want but no sound comes out! he knows how long i can hold it, and when you cover my mouth and let go again, so it works great for us... ducktape is fun too =P
~alys
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i'm 16.
i've been dating this guy for almost 6 months and i know im in love with him. the thing is, i feel like i can't give him any pleasure without the chances of getting pregnant. if i were to get pregnant my life would pretty much be over. my parents are hardcore catholics and believe in pro-life (as do i) and if i asked for birth control they'd probably flip on me. i don't want to have sex for a long time down the road, but just things like hand job and fingering because im so afraid of getting pregnant...i know theres a really small chance, but its still a chance...is their anything at all i can do to make a 0% chance of pregnancy?
oh and btw: can you get pregnant dry humping? like can sperm swim through clothing? or wet clothing? (link)
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first of all, yes, you can give him lots of pleasure without just sex or something related to it. if all he wants from you is sex, he is not worth it in my opinion. anyway, you can also pleasure him by finding his "sweet spots" you could say, like behind his ears, back of the neck, and so on. i have been together with my bf for almost 2 years now, and we have not had sex, and we are perfectly happy. if you are comfortable with it, you can also pleasure him by letting him explore your body, tease him by wearing a fancy bra or thong, or put on a swim suit fashon show for him (just go to walmart and have fun!). also, for 0% chance of pregnancy, just make sure when ever you two are fooling around that his penis is no where near your v. 0 penetration and cum means 0 pregnancy.
as far as i'm aware, no, you can not get pregnant by dry humping, there is no way sperm will live long enough to make it threw clothing, probably 2 layers, and somehow make it all the way up your v with everything in there wanting to kill it. so just have fun ^^
if you would like to talk more, or need some more ideas, just message me and i'll give you my email,
hope this helps,
~kaze
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so i've been thinking about having anal sex and im just wondering how bad it hurts, how to do it and some friends who've done it tell me stories about how sometimes when the guy pulls out they have poop on them and im just wondering how much of this is fiction or fact (link)
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it hurts for some, but not for others. for me, it does not hurt at all, i felt a little pressure when he frist entered me, but that was it, then it was pleasurable. the key things are:
a) don't push yourself into it, if you are not ready, it will hurt like hell,
b)you have to be relaxed, and relax your butt muscles
c) use a condom to help prevent infections and accidental pregnacy
d) use A LOT of lubricant, like KY or something, lotions work too if you know you are both clean, but the oil can render the condom useless, so storebought lubs are recomended. i also read that vasiline is safe to use, but i personally would not recomend it.
and an extra tip, i did a bit of reading and found out that if you want to try, the easyest positions for him to enter are you on your stomach and in the spooning position, bot facing the same way. those positions do unfortunetly reduce the amout of movment that can be made
~kaze
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Does anyone know what word is it when someone tries to tell you something when they talk to you mimicking your voice. doesn't anyone find that very insulting. (link)
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umm...is it being sarcastic? (sp?)
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okay so i know how dumb and unhealthy this is but i need to lose at least 5 pounds by friday: i am going to stick to fruit and then slim fast drinks for meal supplemts...and like lean chicken and tuna do you think this will work? i know its only a 4 day thing but i have to do it (link)
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besides the food thing, start running with sweatpants, and a couple of sweaters on, it really helps, i know cause i'm in the middle of doing it! also, whatever you do, do not skip breakfast! have something small so you start your matabolism (sp?) otherwise it is twice as hard to loose the weight. and if you don't mind me asking, why are you trying to loose 5 pounds so fast?
Alyssa
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if my boyfriend tries to put his arm around me at the movies, how do i react? do i put my arm around his shoulder or do i just sit there or do i look at him? ahhh, im so scared. (link)
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Just relax, and if you want to, leen in to him a bit. depending on what type of guy he is, he may just go for your hand, but just relax, honestly. Also, if he does put his arm around you, if you enjoy it, smile at him, you could even blush a bit if you want to or can. He is going to be just as nervous as you are and is probably just happy that you chose to go out with him!
Alyssa
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How well does Proactive Solution work? (link)
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i suppose it depends on the person, but for me, it's just a pain in the butt, sorry to say. the only product out of the system that helps me is the refining mask, and so thats the only thing i use, once used enough it keeps almost all of em' away, but after a while you have to give your skin a break cause it drys it out a little. i use the mask day and night.
sorry i can't help more,
Alyssa
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when i get home from school at 230, all i can think about is eating. i regularly eat a bagel and drink a glass of orange juice for breakfast, and i have a balanced lunch. i know im not hungry when i get home, but i make myself feel like if i eat something its not a big deal. but when i do, i just wanna cry cuz i feel so bad about it. there have been a few days where im been able to not eat until dinner, and when i do i'm so proud. what could i do to make me get my mind off eating?! :[ (link)
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try doing something that will keep your mind ocupied (sorry, bad spelling), i use video games if i'm having a bad craving for chocolate (i stopped eating chocolate, chips, pop, and candy for three years now) and i found that it worked quite well. or if you really can't get your mind off of it, eat and then do some crunches or pushup's. then you can still eat, but you are working if off, so you don't have to feel bad! i can also get my mind off food by blasting music in my ears, find a cd you really like and play it, sing along, befor you know it, you won't be thinking of food!
i hope this helps!
alyssa
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what if i skiped a period can i not be pregnat? (link)
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a little more info would help on this one! if you had sex, then you could be pregnant, but you may not be, untill you are (i belive) 18 a period cycle can be ireguliar, you can skip numerous periods and not be pregnant!
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I just got my hair colored today at a salon. i was wondering what shampoo and conditioner are best for that..thanks. (link)
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my mom colors her hair and she used Herbal Essances (spelling?), just get the one that is especially for color treated hair. plus, it's not real expencive!
hope that helps,
Alyssa
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i heard somewhere that if u brush your hair while its wet it doesnt help prevent split ends. is this true? bcoz im geting my hair cut 2day and after that i need to really take good care of my hair.
thanks a lot
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well, from what my hairdresser has told me, do not use a brush in your hair when it is wet, use a pick. my hairdresser is constantly nagging on me because i use a brush.
Alyssa
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Why would a cat start pooping next to the litter box instead of inside of it. I have two cats, but just the female is doing this. (link)
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is the litter box kept clean? if i don't do the litter box regularly my cat does the same thing.
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im 14/f.
i used to get headachs all the time and i couldnt do anything they kept me out for hours. my mom would get so mad when i would ask for advil. i dont kno wyh tho. i hide when i get hurt and i try to handle things on my own becuase she always gets mad. if the hurt was my fault or not. something is worng with me now. not physicl but mental. i dont know how to tell her this and ask for help. i tried once by atempting suicide but my friend stoped me and she blew it off as teenage hormons. now i cut myslef but i cant control it. she doent notice and i dont want to die but when i get in my moods thre's no telling what i will do. how can i show her what i am going threw and ask her to please help me, without her screaming her head off. any hintS? (link)
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Well, you could try writing her a letter. Parents tend to listen to letters rather than there teen's talking. some parents just don't know how to handle it. you could also get persay your bestfriend to phone and talk to your mom when you are not home. maybe it will open her eyes.
as a side note: she should not be getting mad at you for asking for a pain killer! its just not right! if you are hurt you have every right to ask for help.
i hope this helps,
Alyssa
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im 15/f and i weight 137 and i amm like 5'3 or 5'2 and i wanna get down to 110-115 ppounds before bathing suit season and i wanna get a flat stomach so if anyone can think of a good diet or w.e thatd be greatt..thankyouuuu ! (link)
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for a flater stomach, i would suggest crunches, i'm also 15/f and started doing crunches a few weeks ago, and i see a major difference in my stomach. i was 140 and have dropped 10 pounds already, and i'm 5'4.
for the diet thing, do not try and skip meals! it slows down your matabalism aka you loose less weight. just eat more vegtables and stay away from fryed foods. P.S. breakfast is the most important meal to eat because it starts your matabolism, so if you do have to miss a meal, miss supper.
i hope this helps,
Alyssa
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like topics and stuff to start a convo (link)
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it would help if you were more spacific, but here goes: music, playing an instrument (eg: do you play and insrtument?), how much of a pain siblings are, what you ate for brekfast, books (eg: do you read much?), what you got your family for Christmas, ask how their day was-then ask why, complain about school, ect.
hope that helps,
alyssa
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ok i kinda like just started goin out with my bf, but yea what could i get him, i dont wanna get him like any of those fragrence things cuz that seems too..idk. but what should i get him??
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a sweater maybe? or a bunnyhug (hoodie)? if you know what kind of music he likes, burn him a cd. age would help on this question! umm...maybe a guys chain? well, there are a few idea's hope they help!
alyssa
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What age should you start going to a gynocologist? I just turned 13 and i have had my period for about 1 3/4 years. And how would i aproach the subject with my dad since i live with him and not my mother. (link)
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well, from what i have heard, as long as you are not sexually active, and you are having no problems down there, you can wait till your 18. if you become sexually active you should start going, otherwise i would wait, why go when you really dont need to?
hope that helps,
alyssa
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