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i cant ask her anything.
im 14/f.
i used to get headachs all the time and i couldnt do anything they kept me out for hours. my mom would get so mad when i would ask for advil. i dont kno wyh tho. i hide when i get hurt and i try to handle things on my own becuase she always gets mad. if the hurt was my fault or not. something is worng with me now. not physicl but mental. i dont know how to tell her this and ask for help. i tried once by atempting suicide but my friend stoped me and she blew it off as teenage hormons. now i cut myslef but i cant control it. she doent notice and i dont want to die but when i get in my moods thre's no telling what i will do. how can i show her what i am going threw and ask her to please help me, without her screaming her head off. any hintS?
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Hello - so sorry to hear what you are going through. Have you spoken with a school counselor yet? They might be able to help you as well as talk with your mother. Also, at age 14, you are old enough to seek counseling on your own - just call your local community mental health agency. By all means - don't quit trying or talking to someone. Make an agreement with your friend to talk once a day. We'll all be pulling for you!
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first of all..cutting will not help you whatsoever..i know it may be hard but if you could just try as hard as you can to stop..thats a step right there.overcoming things will bring you so much happiness and you should never hurt yourself. okay as for your mom..you need to talk to her IMMEDIATELY..tell her that you need her to listen to you and what you're going through is serious..shes not going to yell at you when things are this serious..hopefully she can get you help..just stay strong and remember that lots of people out there care for you! youve got so much life ahead of you! tell her you really want to get help..shes your mom so obviously she loves you and wants to see you be happy and so does everyone else around you! even if the talk starts out rough..keep going..getting help will be the best thing for you for you right now. everythings going to be fine just stay strong..let me know how the talk goes!
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Yeah growing up is hard. I know how you feel. I can't say anything to my mom and i recently went for help in school and when she found out she flipped. Im glad your friend stopped you. You are probably depressed well most likely. I advise you not to go to your school counselor because when i did that thay suspended me from school and shit happened. Ive never cut but my closest friends do and/or did. I know from wat they told me you can't contol it you're addicted. If you tell your mom she might cry and maybe get you some help. Or have your friend tell her mother. You clearly want help and need it because like you said you don't wanna die. there are many ways to get help. Have your friend tell her mom and maybe some way her mom could get you help or she could help you or she could tell your mom and take it from there. Growing up is tough and can and will (sometimes) bring you into depression. If you get help for it you might be cured after a while. I just advise you NOt 2 go to your school for help because well i know from experience wat will happen. But it is after all your choice do as you please but i beg you get help before you do something really bad.
Hope I helped :)
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Make sure your calm, and in a good mood, and make sure she is in a good mood. When shes sitting down watching tv or relaxing or something sit down with her and say "mom .....theres something we need to talk about" tell her that you dont want her to get mad at you, because this is serious and you need help. If she gets mad at you, you need to talk to another family memeber because this is very serious, and you NEED to get help ASAP!!!
-jess
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Well, you could try writing her a letter. Parents tend to listen to letters rather than there teen's talking. some parents just don't know how to handle it. you could also get persay your bestfriend to phone and talk to your mom when you are not home. maybe it will open her eyes.
as a side note: she should not be getting mad at you for asking for a pain killer! its just not right! if you are hurt you have every right to ask for help.
i hope this helps,
Alyssa
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