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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
I apologize that you are going through a rough time!!! Keep your head up and things will work out.
You can try to do a yard sale, or use sale sights on Facebook to get money faster, you can apply for a credit card (BE CAREFUL!) I attached a line of credit to my debit card, that way if I ever "Overdrafted" It just went to my line of credit and I was not charged an overdraft fee. Just make sure to budget your money better in the future. If you can't afford it and have extra cushion money... you don't need it.
You could also post on Facebook and try to do some jobs for people, mowing lawns, babysitting etc for a little extra cash to get you ahead!
Good luck and let me know if you have any other questions!
-Sami
I love him lot and I can't live without him
Please inbox me your question so that I can better assist you. Thank you
ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice.
I am sorry that you seem to have a little bit of a rough time. I can tell you that you are so young and you'll meet plenty of boys and date plenty of boys... you are so young and most boys will not mature until they are in their late 20's. My advice to you is to have guy friends, but no boyfriends until you are a older. At this point in your life, you aren't going to marry that boy. Chances are even if you were 18 in high school you most likely would not marry that boy. Just have fun. Focus on school. Grades are important, talk to your teachers and see what you can do to get your grades up. A lot of teachers offer extra credit. As far as your friends go, they will come around. Girls fight like cats and dogs. One minute they are the best of friends and the next they hate each other. Just try to not let it affect your mood so much. I know that you have been friends for a while, but, try to find some new friends to be around. Have several different friends. Friends who are different, and like different things. PLEASE PLEASE do not harm yourself. Cutting does not solve your problems and it can be VERY dangerous. Please seek some help, talk to a professional who can help you to be happy. Look in the mirror at least once a day and say something positive like "I am beautiful" "Today is going to be a great day" "I am happy" Continue with positive thoughts and before you know it you'll be happy! Please call this number 1 (800) 273-8255. This is the national suicide hotline and they are so kind and willing to help you! Suicide is not the answer, it won't solve your problems and it will hurt so many people around you, more than you know. If you need anything else, feel free to message me.
BE HAPPY, YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL! :)
so, I have been friends with tracy for 15+ yrs and thought our friendship was a close one. ( she lived with my family for over a year when I was over the road truck driving). her daughter is getting married in july and dress fitting is this week. tracy and I haven't been talking lately and im chalking it up to her boyfriend.
you see, tracys boyfriend jeff wants to go to her daughters wedding. seeing jeff up close and personal and dealing with him for a week at another vacation we had taken. I really don't think this is the guy for her. he is an alcoholic and talks to tracy like crap whenever he drinks too much. I don't like it and wont put up with that at her daughters wedding. I don't know if I even want to go knowing he is going to be there and up tracys ass the whole time. she wants to introduce him to her parents ( dad recovering alcoholic from many moons ago). I don't think this is a smart decision. what to do
This is a tough one! You should definitely go to the wedding to show support and so that you can be there if/when things get out of hand.
If you feel comfortable enough, tell her how you feel about this guy, and that you think she deserves so much better! (Sometimes, women have been through a lot and settle for less than we deserve because we have been hurt or lied to) Even though we may not want to hear it at the time, we will thank you later. She may get upset that you are telling her you don't like this guy, but, it is for her own good.
Maybe even bring up her dad being an alcoholic and the things that her mom probably went through, I am sure that she hated her dad being an alcoholic so maybe that will open her eyes a little bit.
I say, go to the wedding, have fun, and talk to her a day later (so you don't ruin her night) Take her out to lunch, or stop by her house.
The sad thing is, it may take her a while to realize that this guy is a real jerk (or so he seems) but at least you let her know how you feel and can hopefully open her eyes to the situation before it is too late.
Good luck and let me know if you need anything else!
Sami
I have been dating my boyfriend for one and a half years now. He was in the same college, two years elder. Passed out the year we started dating and started working. We haven't ever had major problems except for once when he couldn't clear a major exam and his parents blamed it on his distraction because of me but we eventually got back because he got a good job and he loved me.
We just spent the last ten days together on a holiday with his friends and a couple of mine and then at his place alone for a couple of days.
We got into a petty fight two days back and he told me he really thinks we should see new people. He feels since I'm just 19 and he's 22 there is a lot more in life then getting serious for each other.
I let him be for a day and when we met next to talk this out he said he doesn't want to see new people. He was just saying that to make me angry. But he feels like we should break up because he thinks relationships are restrictive and he feels bound and he can't be himself. He told me he wants to still be with me and do all the things we used to do like go out for dinners, watch movies etc but he can't be physical with me. He feels when we do he gets too emotionally attached to me and he doesn't want that .We are too into each other.
He accepted that he still loves me and will because I'm a huge part of his life and he doesn't want to feel this way for any other girl. But right now he feels like he isn't fit for relationships and he can't see himself in one ever, even in the future. He knows i'd wait for this to work out but he said he didnt want to give me false hopes. He would try to make this work out too but right now he cant.
He feels now that we are bound by a relationship he would be able to express his feelings better in front of me. He loves me as much as he loves him mom and best friends and he wants me to be there but he said he can live without the sex.
We agreed on neither breaking up or dating. And I couldn't accept calling this a friendship so we just agreed on not defining it till he clears his head. But I can't stop feeling hurt and insecure.
I love him. But I can't understand what happened to him suddenly. What am I supposed to do? I'm in a delimma because I want him and this relationship back. Is there a chance ? Is this just a phase and should I just play along by giving him time?
It seems to me that he has commitment issues. This can be very hard for the other person in the relationship (you.) Ultimately the decision is up to you. If you are okay with being in a relationship without the label then stick around and see what happens. But if you can see yourself wanting to be married and have kids one day, then maybe it's time you should date other people and devote your time to someone who is willing to give you their full attention. It sounds to me that he is not ready to be tied down and that he is wanting to have your attention along with other female attention. This is something that I personally would not be okay with. Especially when you have been in a relationship with him for that long. It would be all or nothing but I would not be okay with watching someone that I love date someone else. This, like I said, is completely up to you. I am telling you from the outside that you deserve better and someone one day, will want to spend time with you and call you their own. But, you're young. So if you want to run wild and free and date a variety of people; more power to you! It really is just your preference and an unfortunate necessity to growing up. Just try to not let it break your heart. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else.
'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant?
No, precum on your finger would not impregnante her. You would have to ejaculate inside of her.
I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do
Ahh, over protective parents... I have lived through this one! Well... you can always try to talk to them, be honest about you wanting one and let them see who you are talking to and what you are posting and who your friends are (this may or may not work depending on how your parents are..) Or you could get them and then later tell your parents about them... No matter what you decide I suggest letting one of your parents know (if you are closer with one than the other). 90% of the time if you hide it, they will find out later down the line and it will be a much bigger issue than asking to get the accounts in the first place. Hope this helped. If you need anything else, feel free to ask.
Hi, I'm in 11th grade, I have a lot going on lately. For starters I have two more years and I have no clue what I want to go to college for, or if I even want to go to college. I have a lot of pressure on me from everybody and it's really getting to me. I currently I have a 4.3 GPA which every one says is good, but I feel like it's not enough. All my life I've tried to make my dad proud, but no matter what I do I feel like he's never proud of me. Everything that I've thought of going to school for he said it would be a let down due to my high grades. Everything I've ever done is to make him proud, but I feel like giving up its a lot of pressure on me and for what? Any advice would be great thanks guys. There's a lot more but character limit.
For starters, a lot of people don't know what they want to go into. Even if they think they do, a few years into college they change your mind. You are still young and have a while to decide. Just try to enjoy school now while it's easy and fun! Yes, you should still do your best in school but remember to have fun as well. As far as your dad goes, my dad was always that way (and still is) One day I finally realized that no matter what I do, it will never be good enough. So, I started doing things for me. As long as I was happy and I knew that I was putting my all into whatever I decided to do, that's all that matters. You can't please everyone; and that is a hard lesson to learn. Just make sure that you are keeping yourself happy in the process! If you would like some direction go and talk to one of your school counselors about options for college! They can be really helpful. They can give you ideas for colleges and give you information for financial aid! I wish you the best of luck and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me!
My ex texted me out of the blue a couple of weeks ago. We were supposed to meet up and then something came up and I texted him to let him know, he seemed fine about it and texted me a few days later. I was busy that day and he told me to text him when I was free, I told him to text me instead because I forget. I haven't heard from him in a week?
In my opinion, if he is an ex, he is an ex for a reason. If you want to fire up the relationship again; that is up to you. Just remember to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. If you think it could work out, try texting him.. If you want any relationship to work friendship or romance you both have to put in some sort of effort. Good luck and inbox me if you have any other questions.
I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
Well, this all depends on your age. If you are a minor you and him would both be charged for child pornography. Unfortunately, there is not much that you can do to stop him other than talk to him and ask him not to. If he is a stranger; most likely he is not going to care or listen to what you say. I am sorry and I hope that these do not end up on the internet. My advice for the future would be to not send nudes to anyone, especially for money. You never know where they are going to end up and who is going to see them. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else!
I turned 18 a couple months ago and my parents have decided to kick me out and remove all my financial support. They said that they’ve covered my ass as long as they should have to and it’s time I learned how to be a part of the real world. What do I do? I have no friends, no relatives that I can live with at all. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I’ve submitted my resume to too many supermarkets, retail stores and frozen yogurt parlors to count over the summer and I was only been able to get 6 interviews for part-time work. And I didn’t get hired from any of them. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I can’t join the military either, it wouldn’t be a compatible job for me at all. They’d send me packing within a week. How can I go to college if I can’t even get money to live on?
A similar thing happened to me when I turned 18. I am very sorry that you we're put into this position! You should sit down and try to talk to them and let them know that you are doing what you can to find a job and you haven't heard anything else. Possibly see if you are working full time, or part-time and going to school if you could live there and buy groceries? Or pay a small amount of rent. The real world is a lot more difficult than a lot of people perceive it to be. You don't realize how much salt and pepper cost, soap, toothpaste, shampoo, the basics are very expensive. You're whole life they have probably been there for you so you never notice until you have to do it on your own. If your parents cannot reason with you I would try looking through your local newspaper and check for people that are renting out rooms in their house/apartment and find one with decent roommates and one that is not too expensive. I am not sure where you live, but in my state we have a site called KSL where people can list local classifieds. If you have something similar, check that for cheap apartments or places to rent. I wish you the best of luck! Try to keep your head high; I know that is difficult at this confusing time in your life. Everything will turn out okay! If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.
You may want to change your background picture. It clashes with your font. I can't read anything without highlighting it. - K3587
Thank you! I will fix it :)
I am 20 years old girl.I am from Bnagladesh. 2 years ago I met a boy on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I liked him. I felt bad about it, how I fall in love with someone on internet!. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.But still I used to message him and he replied me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. After that I didn't knock him. After one day he knocked me and told me that he added me on his new facebook id.In which he refused me to add before, he told me that this account was for his family.one day i called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it. There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it. I came to know from someone. And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replied. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person tried to insult me. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I ended the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't international. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replied. She also deleted the messages but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One night he called me we talked for so long. And after next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad. Its been 6 months. We don't talk like before. He doesn't reply like before. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me. But still he doesn't reply every time. I also don't knock him like before. I come to know that the girl comes back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are friend. He never tell me anything about the girl ever. I found it out from another source. I still miss him. Want to talk to him. But when I remember about the girl I stepped back. And didn't knock him. Don't know what to do.Should I contact him?Should I try to fix things? And I still think did he ever care for me? and still does? but unable to show it or I am just a fool???
Based on what you have told me, it seems that he may be playing games with you. If he isn't telling you about personal things in his life and he only talks to him when it is convenient for him. I know this may be hard to hear, and this might also not be the case. I would just be careful; you don't want to end up broken-hearted over someone you have never even met. You have not ever met him in person and people can be very deceiving over social media. The fact that he did not want to add you on Facebook seems to me like he wants to keep you a secret and no one should have to feel that way. I would say that you two should stay friends and talk occasionally; but you should not always start the conversation. Wait for him to start the conversation. Don't write him back immediately; make him wait a little while. If he cares, he might have a reaction and wonder why you are not messaging him back fast and why you haven't been starting the conversations. A lot of men like a challenge. They don't like when you're always messaging them or trying to get a hold of them. It makes it boring for them,. Play hard to get and if he still acts the same I would say that it is time to move on.You deserve someone who cares about you and who is going to want you in all parts of his life. You deserve to be shown off and loved. If you think that it could work and you both really like each other... maybe try to meet in person. Go on a date. See how you get a long in person. Carrying a conversation on over a phone or in messaging apps there is no emotion and you don't really get to know the person. I wish you the best of luck and let me know if you need anything else!
I met my girlfriend a year ago at school and we both had a crush on each other, one time around the end of the year we dated for two weeks then she left me. Then about a month or two later she came back to me and we started dating again, and she left me again. I went through depression twice now, and me and this girl are really in love, but I'm not sure if she's leaving me because of her bipolar disorder, she isn't on medication but if she came back to me again I was gonna talk to her about going on medication with her parents. I'm not sure though if she is leaving me because her bipolar disorder or what I need help to know what I should do and why she's really leaving me and if it is because her bipolar how can I make the relationship last where she doesn't keep leaving me because we both like each other.
Sit her down and talk with her. Ask her the reasons why she has left you in the past and see what you can both work on together to make it last. Also, make sure that she wants to make it last. Let her know that you can't handle the break-up, make-up game and you can only make this work if she is serious. Bringing up her bipolar disorder may be a touchy subject. Most of the time people are not on medication because they do not want to admit that they have the disorder. If you do, bring it up gently and lightly. Let her know how you feel. Think about yourself and your feelings first. You can only handle so much! Good luck :)
i finally got nomintated for the ice bucket challenge and the thing is I recently found out that als tests on animals. and i heard from someone i can do it for ccals.org which is compassionate care and they dont test on animals or anything. im really against testing on animals and i have a little over 12 hours to do my challenge. how can i word it to make others also aware that they are testing on animals and is ccals.org the actual other thing that will support the same cause just minus the testing on animals. any advice would be extremely greatful thankyou so much in advance to anyone who replies
One thing that you could do is donate to the charity of your choice and say that the people nominated can also donate to the charity of their choice. I have seen a lot of my friends do this and I think it is great! You could even let them know why you don't want to donate to ALS, or you could keep that to yourself. Good luck! :)
High school girl, sophomore and I weigh 253lbs. I'm told all the time that I look far older than I am and that my weight balances out pretty well and that I don't look as big as I actually am. Gym class this last year was torture for me because most of the guys were making fun of me the whole period for being fat. I've been made fun of since kindergarten. No one's really ever liked me. I've been in a new school for two years now and no one here likes me too much. Most guys avoid talking to me at all costs. So I wanna hear it from the guys, does anyone even like big chicks??? In the last three years, I've gone from being outgoing and bubbly to being too afraid to walk to the other end of the cafeteria just to dump my freaking tray because I'm paranoid and feel like everyone is watching me. Just wondering. Thanks in advance!
My first piece of advice is beYOUtiful! You are beautiful and it is all about what is on the inside and not always the outside. Let people stare, but have enough confidence in yourself to not let it get to you. I had confidence issues for a long time and it takes a lot of work with yourself.
Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are beautiful and pretty. Do your hair differently or your make-up. Just things that make you feel better! I found that for me running helped me. It got released all of my frustrations and made me feel accomplished. Try to not care so much about what other people think. To be honest in a couple of years you won't see or talk to 90%of them and who are they to tell you that you aren't beautiful? You will find a guy, the right non-creepy kind of guy one day. Just be patient. Smile because you're you and there is no one else like you!
Good luck :)
So...my 8th grade boyfriend who I haven't spoken to in three years randomly messaged me on Facebook last night. He wasn't even on my friends list. He just popped up in my messages. He wants to hang out on Sunday and said that he wish we never broke up and wants to start over again. Since I've never had a true, genuine relationship before, I don't know what to do. I really like him all over again. What should we do starting Sunday?
Was it a healthy relationship? Think about why you two split in the first place. If you got a long and were truly happy during the relationship; I would say see how it goes. If it was an un-healthy relationship where you were fighting all the time and you we're un-happy you have already had time to heal and I wouldn't open an old wound... Good luck! :)
I need help, I like my best friend, I've been liking him for awhile but I haven't told him cause I don't wanna ruin anything I know that if I tell him I will ruin everything but I really like him and I don't know what to do :(
You should talk to him and see what his feelings are towards you. If he has mutual feelings; it could turn out to be something great! If he would like to stay friends... Keep the friendship. I have lost one too many friendships because I wanted to stay friends and they wanted more.. I would rather keep the friendship! Good luck! :)
Hi! I have lots of ingrown hairs in my inner thigh because I chafe, how can I get rid of them and prevent them. Please help!
I have found that putting deodorant on the area helps. Also, baby powder works really well! I hope this helps and good luck! :)
Hi, Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. I was pregnant and was having a tubal pregnancy so they removed it this Sunday. Before my pregnancy we weren't together but once i got pregnant with him he came back. I told him the only reason he got back with me was because of the baby. he keeps telling me thats a lie. well anyways yesterday i told him to go to my house. He couldn't because he was at a party, so he told me he would come the day after. so I called him today and he was sleeping almost the whole day. I go on Facebook and i see hes at the movie theater with his friends and a girl that's likes him a lot. im so dissapointed. After I told him to meet me at my place he does something else. I keep texting him but no reply because hew in the movie theaters. I have a bad feeling specially with this girl at the movies. i don't know what to do anymore. I feel like im the only one fighting to keep the relationship going. What should I tell him or do? please help me out . Sorry this is long :(
If he is lying to you and ignoring you and going out with another girl you deserve so much better! I know that you probably care about him a lot but that doesnt mean you should sit back and have to deal with this. He needs to grow up and get his priorities straight! The best thing for you to do is go out and have fun! Don't let him see that it is bothering you. Maybe he will realize what you guys had and straighten up... if not then you need to find someone who will treat you right! I hope this helps(: