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What to do if you start liking your bestfriend
I need help, I like my best friend, I've been liking him for awhile but I haven't told him cause I don't wanna ruin anything I know that if I tell him I will ruin everything but I really like him and I don't know what to do :(
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You should talk to him and see what his feelings are towards you. If he has mutual feelings; it could turn out to be something great! If he would like to stay friends... Keep the friendship. I have lost one too many friendships because I wanted to stay friends and they wanted more.. I would rather keep the friendship! Good luck! :)
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ok first you should try to know about his feelings.May be he also feels the same for you but afraid to tell you.You should give him hints that you like him not directly.Like tell him 'if you have a twins brother i would love him or propose him'.sometimes flirts with him.See how he reacts.hope you will understand how he feels about you.good luck.. :)
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Ok heres what i DO when i want to let a good guy friend know that i like him but that i DONT wanna ruin things between us.
When and if you can get him to talk to you to about other girls he likes, you can try to casually slip in there that "well i like you to but id rather not jeopardize our awesome friendship if its gonna ruin things" and just see how he reacts! ;) say that his friendship means more to you then a short lived relationship ever could.
but i should also mention that GOOD long lasting relationships are BUILT on friendship first! if the communication is already there it will make things a TON easier because your both already really comfortable with telling each other your wants and needs and the other not taking it wrong or feeling defensive over it because they know you and will know you "dont mean it like that" see??
so first what you can do it like the other poster said try to guage how he acts around YOU and how he acts around other girls that you KNOW he likes when your all in a group setting, because if YOUR in a relationship with him, you will most likely get treated the way he treats them. secondly does he talk to you about girls he likes? does he ask you for your advice on them and what you should do about any given female he might be lusting for??
you can also kinda of work your way into his heart by giving him "pointers" when he plans on going out on "dates" with other girls, like "hey make sure you take a shower and put on clean clothes before you go out on a date, no girl like a stinky smelly guy!" and JOKE about it, thats a huge ice breaker and he will see that your trying to help even if its with him dating someone ELSE. he will see that your trying to take care of him as a woman and his eye will start to look more and more toward you. (((ive had this happen many times)) getting him to joke with you about things like this will make him even more comfortable with you and get him to come to you more and more for things of this nature. good luck. ; )
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There could be a chance that he likes you too...Unless there is something preventing you from being together (like him being in a relationship), the only way you'll know is if you make your feelings known. You can try to gauge his feelings to the best of your ability or see how he treats you or acts around other girls. But ultimately, the best way to know for sure is to ask. Ask him how he feels about you and that you think you might like him more than a friend. Good luck!
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