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My Bipolar Girlfriend now Ex Again keeps coming back to me
I met my girlfriend a year ago at school and we both had a crush on each other, one time around the end of the year we dated for two weeks then she left me. Then about a month or two later she came back to me and we started dating again, and she left me again. I went through depression twice now, and me and this girl are really in love, but I'm not sure if she's leaving me because of her bipolar disorder, she isn't on medication but if she came back to me again I was gonna talk to her about going on medication with her parents. I'm not sure though if she is leaving me because her bipolar disorder or what I need help to know what I should do and why she's really leaving me and if it is because her bipolar how can I make the relationship last where she doesn't keep leaving me because we both like each other.
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you should talk to her parents because if she keeps on doing that it could end very badly. And just to be sure you should be extremely good to her so that you know that it wasn't any thing you did. But yes defenitly talk to her parents to also be sure that she is safe and stable any little thing could set her off
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This can definitely be a tough one. I have a best friend that is bipolar, not medicated, and she goes through men like shirts. She has a good heart but thinks with her emotions too much like a lot of teens and young people tend to do, and not rationally and logically.
I definitely like the idea of sitting her down and asking her what the reasons were for her breaking up with you before. You need to hear what she claims those reasons were because you need them to gauge weather or not shes thinking logically.
If her reasons are not logical after youve spoken with her then i suggest not getting back together because she may NEED meds to balance her out and if she refuses to take them then theres not really anyway to have a stable long term relationship with someone who cant think logically. Life for you two will basically be up and down from one moment to the next and youll be walking on eggshells just to make sure shes ok and wont go nuts over the slightest thing. I go through this with my friend and although i love her to death i just cannot be around her in large doses.
She can love you all she wants but if she cant think logically half the time then i just cant see this working out.
good luck and try to really really think about the answers she gives you once youve gotten them (if they even ARE answers) i hope you get what your looking for from her.
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Sit her down and talk with her. Ask her the reasons why she has left you in the past and see what you can both work on together to make it last. Also, make sure that she wants to make it last. Let her know that you can't handle the break-up, make-up game and you can only make this work if she is serious. Bringing up her bipolar disorder may be a touchy subject. Most of the time people are not on medication because they do not want to admit that they have the disorder. If you do, bring it up gently and lightly. Let her know how you feel. Think about yourself and your feelings first. You can only handle so much! Good luck :)
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