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Do normal, not-creepy guys even like fat chicks?
High school girl, sophomore and I weigh 253lbs. I'm told all the time that I look far older than I am and that my weight balances out pretty well and that I don't look as big as I actually am. Gym class this last year was torture for me because most of the guys were making fun of me the whole period for being fat. I've been made fun of since kindergarten. No one's really ever liked me. I've been in a new school for two years now and no one here likes me too much. Most guys avoid talking to me at all costs. So I wanna hear it from the guys, does anyone even like big chicks??? In the last three years, I've gone from being outgoing and bubbly to being too afraid to walk to the other end of the cafeteria just to dump my freaking tray because I'm paranoid and feel like everyone is watching me. Just wondering. Thanks in advance!
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Yes they do. I know a couple who is your age. The girl is big, but it means nothing to them, to their friends, or to most other people. They are so happy and even though they're young, they're probably my favorite couple ever. The guy is really smart, really sweet, and really good to her. Being your size does make things difficult because there are guys out there who are not okay with it, but don't think of yourself as being much different from anybody else. There are guys out there that don't like small boobs, that don't like brown eyes, that don't like girls who don't wear makeup, that don't like athletic girls, that don't like African American girls...there's something about everyone that they're worried about. It's easy to think that everyone's watching and judging you, but few really are. It may be hard to believe, but many girls your age are going through the exact same thing as you are, even (and perhaps especially) the ones who are thin and dating all the time. Stay confident and positive. You seem like a great person that your future husband is going to be very happy to have. Why waste your time trying to date guys that aren't good enough for you? You'll find someone with an amazing heart that will love everything about you.
The poem below sums up my experience with high school. Nobody wanted to date me and the only guys that seemed interested were really creepy. I thought I was doomed, but then I found someone in college. Some people get lucky early on and some don't. The guys around you will mature eventually and like I said, you could end up with a better one with a better heart if you wait.
“Girls are like apples...the best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think there is something wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.”
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My first piece of advice is beYOUtiful! You are beautiful and it is all about what is on the inside and not always the outside. Let people stare, but have enough confidence in yourself to not let it get to you. I had confidence issues for a long time and it takes a lot of work with yourself.
Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are beautiful and pretty. Do your hair differently or your make-up. Just things that make you feel better! I found that for me running helped me. It got released all of my frustrations and made me feel accomplished. Try to not care so much about what other people think. To be honest in a couple of years you won't see or talk to 90%of them and who are they to tell you that you aren't beautiful? You will find a guy, the right non-creepy kind of guy one day. Just be patient. Smile because you're you and there is no one else like you!
Good luck :)
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Do normal, not-creepy guys even like fat chicks?
Yes.
Do normal, not-creepy guys like fat chicks while they are in high school?
Probably not.
There are guys who are particularly into larger girls. However, most of them aren't able to admit that, or act on in, when they are younger. Guys get a lot of pressure to date the 'right kind of girl' and a lot of bullshit if they don't.
Most guys can't get past that in high school or even in college.
So yes, it's very possible in the world, but very unlikely that guys who particularity prefer larger girls, will act on that while they are still in school and feeling all those peer and social pressures.
It sucks, but I'm trying to just tell you the truth. Being a bigger girl is hard, but it's way harder in high school than pretty much at any other point in your life. Don't think just because all the boys you met now are cowards and/or bullies means they are always will be - or that it's about you.
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