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I'm 18 and my parents kicked me out
I turned 18 a couple months ago and my parents have decided to kick me out and remove all my financial support. They said that they’ve covered my ass as long as they should have to and it’s time I learned how to be a part of the real world. What do I do? I have no friends, no relatives that I can live with at all. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I’ve submitted my resume to too many supermarkets, retail stores and frozen yogurt parlors to count over the summer and I was only been able to get 6 interviews for part-time work. And I didn’t get hired from any of them. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I can’t join the military either, it wouldn’t be a compatible job for me at all. They’d send me packing within a week. How can I go to college if I can’t even get money to live on?
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A similar thing happened to me when I turned 18. I am very sorry that you we're put into this position! You should sit down and try to talk to them and let them know that you are doing what you can to find a job and you haven't heard anything else. Possibly see if you are working full time, or part-time and going to school if you could live there and buy groceries? Or pay a small amount of rent. The real world is a lot more difficult than a lot of people perceive it to be. You don't realize how much salt and pepper cost, soap, toothpaste, shampoo, the basics are very expensive. You're whole life they have probably been there for you so you never notice until you have to do it on your own. If your parents cannot reason with you I would try looking through your local newspaper and check for people that are renting out rooms in their house/apartment and find one with decent roommates and one that is not too expensive. I am not sure where you live, but in my state we have a site called KSL where people can list local classifieds. If you have something similar, check that for cheap apartments or places to rent. I wish you the best of luck! Try to keep your head high; I know that is difficult at this confusing time in your life. Everything will turn out okay! If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.
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Unfortunately your parents are right; they are no longer legally required to care for you.
I would remind them that this legality works both ways. That right now they are able to care for themselves and that while they may be one of the lucky ones able to retire now; nothing saps a retirement savings like an illness. Then they are going to want you to care for them. There is nothing legally requiring you to do so. No court can order you to do so.
Just because the law says you're an adult does not make you one not today. You need to go to college and get a better education. A high school diploma won't even get you a job right now flipping hamburgers for the people with the college degrees are taking those jobs as the once better jobs they would get have not yet returned to the economy.
I don't know how a parent can do this to a child it is certainly not something I even considered with mine. Yea I would joke with them about it but it was never more than a joke and my sons comeback always has been to remember he will be the one choosing my nursing home.
You need to explain the facts of life to our parents as I laid them out above. Todays world is nothing like the world they entered at 18. You would be eligible for welfare assistance. In some states given that your parents are capable of helping you the welfare you receive would be charged back to them. If need be their social security income could be attached.
Remind dad his retirement income is still taxable and you are still a deduction if living at home and going to school. Even if you are away at school if more than 50% of your support comes from him you are still a deduction plus he can deduct whatever he pay for school.
Explain to mom and dad that just because you are legally an adult there is still a financial upside to you remaining under his roof while you go to school. It may be too late for to apply for a 4 year school starting in September but you can enroll in your local community college fro the next two years and get the basics done then switch and complete your degree at the college of your choice.
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I totally agree with all of missunderstyck or whatever her name is ideas. You could also ask them if you could just stay for another month or two while you search for work? Just take ANY job because you really need one at the moment.
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Ok, this is tough one but ill give you a few ideas maybe you can try.
I realize that you may have already tried this but have you told them that you've actively been trying and that you havnt been able to find a job at all? and that one day when they are sickly and want someone familiar to help care for them, that they wont have you if they want to act this way??
Just because your legally 18 doesnt mean that your mentally capable of being able to totally care for yourself yet and the tough love stuff isnt always the way to go. I understand that more then you know but you are all family and one day when one of them dies off someone will have to help take care of them, and if they want to abandon you like this then maybe they make sure to not try to call you when that day comes when they realize they are alone and old and need help but dont want to go into a cold bras tacks "old folks home".
The only thing you can do here is maybe ask friends you know what DO have jobs if they can help you get hired where they work, try over night stocking at a walmart maybe, or a home depot. Try to step outside the box a little on what you might be comfortable with when it comes to jobs because it sounds like with how uncaring and cold your parents are that this living on the streets thing is GOING to happen unless you can get them to see your side of things.
Im really sorry that you have parents who are so uncaring and cold hearted to you. Your still blood and there should ALWAYS be a way to work things out so that you can all "make things work" so everyone is happy.
good luck.
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