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So I'm in a lesbian relationship. Me and my girlfriend have been talking about having children. She wants me to carry the child but wants it to be her egg which is totally acceptable. However, I really really hate the name she wants if its a boy. The name is Ta'Ziyah and I HATE it! But she said she had that name picked out since she was a teen. And she won't give it up. I've had the name Christopher picked out since I was 8 but she doesn't like that. So now I feel like I don't want to have a child with her and I have no say in the name because it won't be my egg. What can I do to make her change her mind and change that hideous name? (link)
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I like what the other person said about making it a middle name. Maybe you could buy a book of baby names and pick out one you both like? Or convince her to name the baby after her father or something if you just really don't like the name that she has picked out.
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So I got my first period about a year ago. I've always gotten my period about every other month or every 2 months. It creeps me out because I scare myself into thinking I could've got pregnant somehow. I got my last period around 2 months from this time, and I still haven't got it. Is this normal? (link)
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Your periods are very very irregular like that for the first few years, so don't stress out, it's completely normal.
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What happens if a girl swallow sperm of a girl during blowjob? (link)
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I think that the second "girl" was meant to be "boy" because girls don't have sperm. You can't get pregnant from swallowing sperm but he should wear a condom anyway because you can contract STDs from his sperm even if you spit because it was still in your mouth. It's the same deal when you get a girl's cum in your mouth.
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Hi im only 12 and i have only just started my period i sleep fOr about tewlve hours is it ok if i leave my tampon in for that long im only new to this and have no clue
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You can really only leave a tampon in for 3-4 hours because if you leave it in for too long you'll likely get toxic shock. It'll start leak after a few hours anyway. Don't wear a tampon to bed unless you can wake up to change it every few hours. I reccomed wearing a pad to bed with black underwear and pants (because if your clothes are black you won't be able to tell if some blood starts to leak.
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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I'm in the USA and if you live there then yes it's illegal. I don't know about other places though, so if you're somewhere else then look it up. If your under 18 you may get in a little trouble, but tell the cops anyway.
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14 / F / About 120 pounds / 5 foot 3 inches
When I was younger, I was a little overweight. I do believe I still have weight from back then.
I want to lose the fat in my face and stomach. I don't eat much sodium either, so I know it's not from that. I don't exercise because I'm just too lazy to; But I can. I just don't know which exercises to do. It's also hot outside, so I don't want to go running or anything. I barely leave my house too.
I eat somewhat healthy; I'm a vegetarian, so I eat fake meat that's made out of vegetables and all that. I drink a lot of water, and I count my calories to make sure I don't go over 1200. I'm trying to eat less, because - I admit - I eat when I'm not hungry. But I still count my calories.
What are some exercises or some ways to lose weight quickly? I am SO self concious, and can barely do anything. Sorry if this was long, I just need some advice.
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I'm also a 14 year old girl who's trying to lose a bit of weight. I've heard that crunches, squats, and any type of cardio work wonders. Also drink ALOT of water and try not to eat anything packaged or processed because those things ALWAYS .have hidden sugars. Green tea also aids the loss of belly fat.
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I'm skinny and I don't have anorexia, pr any other eating disorder preventing me for eating, it's just my genetics. I take after my mom's side of the family, wich are small people. So I'm small. I eat a good amount, i eat hamburgers and pizza. I'm a fine weight, I'm 11, I don't really weigh myself but when I went to the eye nose and throat doctor he had to weigh me and I was 62 pounds. It doesn't mean I'm fake. It's gonna be really hard for me at my age to have a fake body. And everyone says that big girls are real, and skinny girls are twigs and pipsqueaks. It's not fair that fat girls who are unhealthy get praised for it and skinny girls who are healthy are shamed for it. Not everybody who isn't overweight is anorexic. And some may be, but you shouldn't make fun of people with eating disorders because it's their own problems they need to fix and they can't help it and they are really sensitive about it so stfu. And it really depends on what your veiws are on a perfect body, in my opinion. Some like big asses, some like abs, others prefer skinny girls. (link)
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Most people prefer thinner bodies, so a lot of the time if you're naturally thin people can get a wee bit jealous
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I am 12 and I watch porn is that a bad thing
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It's totally normal. You're exploring your sexuality, just don't get addicted.
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I am a boy and I am 12 and I like a gril but how do I get her to like me (link)
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You have to talk to her and make friends with her first, girls always like someone who's already their friend. It's good if you're funny too, I always like a guy who can make me laugh.
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I dont wanna hear about how selfish i am, or how I shouldnt do this bla bla. I dont want to be here anymore. I'm not going anywhere. I have no future. I have been depressed for years. Ive tried everything. The little family that I have hates me, I've been bullied my whole life, I was diagnosed with psychosis a year ago. I'm homeless now. I don't want to be here anymore. I feel like a burden and it would be easier for everyone if I died. Sometimes I wish I could just die in a fast car accident (link)
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I'm only 13 but I'll try to help you. I've had my troubled, I'm alright compared to you. Please don't kill yourself. There really is no painless way to go. I know that you don't want to kill yourself but just listen, okay? What if you go to the doctors and explain your situation and you get help? And therefore you can get a job and pay for a house and even better help until you're completely better or at least almost all better. A year later you get a girlfriend. After that, your beautiful girlfriend becomes your wife. You have kids, you make a family. You have a little girl who calls you daddy and a little boy who wants to be just like you when he grows up. You get into bed every night after tucking in the kids to share some time with a beautiful wife. Fast forward 30 years and your kids are grown up. You and your wife sit on your porch drinking coffee, holding hands, and celebrating your 30th anniversery. Come back to reality now and think: Do you want that or suicide?
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I want to have sex but I don't want to get pregnant. I'm only 13 almost 14. If there is anyone that will do this with me secretly please do. Parents cannot find out. (link)
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Okay, I'm 14 too so I'll try to give you some advice. You really shouldn't be asking for sex on the internet because you'll get raped, you'll get STDs, etc., and it's just wrong. When you do have sex eventually (and if I were you if wait at least until I was 15, preferably 17 or 18) please use a condom. And don't use two condoms, because that does not make you super safe, the friction between the two causes both condoms to rip. You should also consider birth control just in case. In conclusion, have sex with someone you love when you're ready.
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I turned 18 a couple months ago and my parents have decided to kick me out and remove all my financial support. They said that they’ve covered my ass as long as they should have to and it’s time I learned how to be a part of the real world. What do I do? I have no friends, no relatives that I can live with at all. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I’ve submitted my resume to too many supermarkets, retail stores and frozen yogurt parlors to count over the summer and I was only been able to get 6 interviews for part-time work. And I didn’t get hired from any of them. It seems impossible to get a full-time job with no references or work experience. I can’t join the military either, it wouldn’t be a compatible job for me at all. They’d send me packing within a week. How can I go to college if I can’t even get money to live on?
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I totally agree with all of missunderstyck or whatever her name is ideas. You could also ask them if you could just stay for another month or two while you search for work? Just take ANY job because you really need one at the moment.
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I'm a 15 year old girl and I feel like I don't eat enough food. When I eat, I eat healthy non-processed food (my mom has a fruit and veggie garden) it's just that my portions are so small. I usually skip breakfast so I can make my bus that comes at 6:30 (I don't want to get up any earlier than I already do to get breakfast, so I don't). Then around lunch time I'm not really hungry so I'll have some carrot sticks and maybe a sandwich. Then when I get home my mom makes me eat dinner, but I sort of have a loss of appetite sometimes and only have about half of my plate. Part of the problem could be that I drink a lot of water and it sort if suppresses the urge to eat. And most of my time after school is spent on homework (all of the teachers say "this worksheet will only take half an hour", but if we have half an hour of homework in all of our classes.....) for the record, I'm not anorexic, I love my body. How to I get a better appetite and how can my habits effect me in the future? (link)
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By the way, I'm 5'1 and my daily calorie intake usually ends up being between 200-1000, it varies depending on my schedule.
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My natural hair is really thick, frizzy, and puffy (not curly) making it really hard for it to "look good." It takes me a long time to straighten my hair, even with having had the keratin treatment and when I wear it natural it just looks messy and tangled. If I had really curly hair I could just wear it curly but it's not curly at all. What's a way if can wear my hair or products I can use that's easier to do than straightening? (link)
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Go to a store and find an anti-friz spray or cream, I have the same issue and that usually works for me. Try braiding your hair as well and use a good conditioner.
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Hi! I'm asking this question for a friend but do u think this is good for a 12 year old to get (link)
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I can't see anything wrong with it as long as she has parental permission and she's not doing it for a guy (you're still too young to have guys down there). Be warned though, it stings quite a bit.
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I'm Worried I might be depressed. I have numerous problems in my life and a few people suggested that the level to which I am depressed is not normal.
I have a genetic predisposition to be depressed as both of my parents suffered from it. I also have many symptoms such as difficulty concentrating and making decisions, fatigue and decreased energy, feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, and pessimism, excessive sleeping, irritability, loss of interest in hobbies, and sad, anxious, and empty feelings.
What really concerns me is how much I didn't know that Robin Williams and I have in common. Someone suggested that he used humor to mask his depression and I've felt many times that I do the same thing. I don't want people to know I'm depressed, so I act silly and make jokes to hide it.
I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm open to counseling,but I don't want medication and I'm just scared. I dont think I'm the kind of person who would kill myself, but there have been times when I've wished I was dead. What can I do to prevent resorting to something like suicide? (link)
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None of us are doctors, counselors, etc. so I would go see your school counselor if you're young or if you're older get a therapist/counselor to talk with.
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Hi everyone I am a 22 year old female and live at home with my parents. I recently got engaged a few months back to a guy my family loves. I am an only child and have always been very close to my family, especially my mom. My fiancé lives 2 hours away and works offshore so we do not see each other often. After long thought and talking with my fiancé I have decided that I am ready to move in with him now. When I told my mom this she completely freaked out saying "you will not move". Every conversation we have had about it since then only leads to us fighting and her being totally against me moving. What do I do?! I love my mom but also want to be happy with my fiancé. How do I not hurt her? (link)
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You're 22, she can't stop you. Just move out, it might take a while, but she'll get use to it. She's probably just not ready forget baby to move out yet.
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a man i thought i knew is playing games with me and im pregnate with his child he wanted and i moved into a house he dnt want to be there he rather leave and now im pregnate he dnt want to spend no time he tells me we will be together 1 day i call his mom she lie an says he sleep he call when he miss me too many mixed signals tired of crying and being alone (link)
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Ok this is hard to follow so you may consider writing it better and resubmitting, but from what I can understand, you have two choices: getting an abortion or becoming a mother. As for the guy, if you two can't get along, I'd just totally move on from him or try to get on speaking terms for child support.
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Hi,
So I have a boyfriend, and I know that he talks to another girl late at night. One time i found out that he talked to her until 3 am... I don't know how to feel about this. Like I don't want to restraint him from being friends with other people, but I feel that in this kind of situation, wouldn't he want to talk to me late at night ?? What do you think ? Would you mind if your significant other did that to you ? (link)
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I have a guy friend that I talk to until 3 am, but he's my "gay best friend", could this be a similar situation? It's tempting to have homosexual friends because there can never be romance between you and the friend. But if this girl is straight, is look into it a little more...,.
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Hi I'm gabi, I'm 19 years old and a fairly healthy young adult. the only problem I have is ulcerative colitis.. if you don't know what that is, I basically have to restrict dairy and white flour because those are my "irritants." which basically means if I eat food containing milk or white flour I will poop JUST blood. it makes me VERY faintish so I try to avoid those foods as much as possible.. but I'm kinda scared because sometimes I'll give in and eat something that I know will cause me bleeding (it's sooo hard to resist foods that contain these things because so many yummy things contain them) and instead of dealing with the bloody consequence I've made myself get sick. now I'm not bulimic and I actually think I'm too thin now but like I make myself vomit only lonce a week or once every two weeks and it's been happening since May... depending on when I binge into the foods that contain milk and white flour. it's just that the consequence (bloody stool) is THAT disturbing that id rather make myself vomit than have bright red blood spew out of my sphincter. I'm worried I'm gonna develop a heart problem? is that possible for the amount of times I've made myself sick ? I'm so mad at myself. I don't want to die and I'm scared I won't wake up one morning. idk I think I read too many things on the internet. whenever I google the dangers of vomitting it always says "heart problems." like I don't want that!? I have a history of anxiety and I feel like ever since I read the frightening information on the internet about how vomitting causes heart problems I've been starting to give myself ACTUAL palpitations & symptoms of heart problems which I think are from the anxiety.. the only thing that gets me is that what if I'm thinking it's "just my anxiety" when in fact I actually gave myself heart problems..? btw I got an EKG in March after suffering bad palpitations for this same reason ( I was making myself vomit bc of my milk and white flour contaminated food binges) and everything turned out 100% fine even though I felt like I was dying. the vomitting died down in April and some of May but picked up again towards the end of May til now. I already made a promise with myself that I won't do it again but do you think I could have given myself a heart problem that wasn't there in march? PLEASE help. (link)
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It can cause heart problems, tooth decay, infertility, and many more side affects. Yet finding gluten free, dairy free (vegan) versions of the foods that you like. And don't bit the foods so that you don't have to resist them in your own home
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