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Should I give up?
My ex texted me out of the blue a couple of weeks ago. We were supposed to meet up and then something came up and I texted him to let him know, he seemed fine about it and texted me a few days later. I was busy that day and he told me to text him when I was free, I told him to text me instead because I forget. I haven't heard from him in a week?
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If your forget to text him how interested could you possibly be in him?
Pursue someone you can remember.
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If you and your ex discussed remaining friends after breaking up as a couple, thats fine to visit with him but he will not have a top priority of fitting into your life anymore. If you need to hear from him every couple days or even once a week, then perhaps you are not through with him the the two of you parted over issues that instead of unsolvable were things that could have been conquered. Only you would truly know if that were so.
As for good manners with people you are close to, though you don;t own an explanation to anyone when you say No to something, a great many humans have curiosity like a cat as to why they got a No or a turndown. And most people do not explain their thoughts actions or response, and I have found that more often than not, when I did explain, they admitted to wondering why and thanked me for explaining. I always assume that most people if not at the moment, will have questions in their mind as their mind begins to think about all the scenerios that could possibly have kept you from meeting, including that you are bored with them, upset with them, etc... People always imagine the worst when we lack full information. I know I do it. Everyone I know does it. So do you and your friends.
On the other hand, perhaps he's figured that you have found someone else to date and he doesnt want to intrude and is giving you your space. If the calls always had to be one way, from him to you...thats not a balanced friendship let alone relationship. There is no reason why you should have to wait to talk to him. Just do not call too often. Guys like their private space and 'cave time' which doesnt need to be interrupted by constant calls from someone they dont even date anymore. Keeping in touch can be once or twice a month thing and be enough. But you'd have to ask him how often he'd like to keep in touch and what might be too much for him and respect his wishes.
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In my opinion, if he is an ex, he is an ex for a reason. If you want to fire up the relationship again; that is up to you. Just remember to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. If you think it could work out, try texting him.. If you want any relationship to work friendship or romance you both have to put in some sort of effort. Good luck and inbox me if you have any other questions.
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