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I want to start a new school year with a new mind set
How do you revamp yourself? Last year I made a bad decision and I was friends with a mean girl and fell into that group though eventually I left and one person from the group wants to still be friends which is great but al so with her which is okay but me and the mean girl had a major falling out. I'm scared when I go back that I will be alone or that she will turn everyone I try to befriend against me because that's what she did at the end of last year. I'm tired of all this fighting. But I refuse to give in for her to step all over me and give the satisfaction. I want to change my reputation and possibly find a new group of friends. In school I was shy but loud and spastic and funny with the people I knew and always made them laugh. How do I find the balance? How do I walk in on the first day and be nice to everyone but also look for a new group? At my school I'm in all enriched classes so I'm mainly always with the same people.
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Learn to be the better person. Always. In your life.
That when you start this new year, what you should do, is be diplomatic with that mean girl you had a fall out with, in order not to cause future problems for yourself. I'm not telling you to be friends with her again, I'm not tell you that at all. I'm telling you BE DIPLOMATIC. That if she steps up and talks to you, you talk politely and smile, and just walk away,but don't ignore her if she comes to talk to you, and don't be mean to her, don't start a fight.
And actually, if it happens that she leaves you completely alone and doesn't talk to you or doesn't turn people against you, and it happens that there comes a situation where you cross path, you can be the better person by smiling or saying something nice. Let her see how better you are, and mature you are, and you might even find her trying to be friends with you again, but don't go back being friends with her, just be diplomatic from a distance. You don't want to win enemies, no one does. Just learn to never make enemies, even with the people you have a fallout with.
And about making new friends, when you grow up more, you'll understand, and always remember that, that you don't just walk into schools and make new friends, friends don't come that way. You don't have to secure a new group of friends on your very first day, and if you're lonely on your first day, it doesn't mean that you'll be lonely for the rest of the year. Friends come when they come, out of the blue, you meet them randomly, sometimes when least expected. You just have to learn to be your friendly self, your funny self, get along with everyone, be nice to everyone, don't get into any fights even if someone gets you mad or angry, don't fight back, just smile politely and be diplomatic. And after some time, you'll find people coming to YOU, wanting your friendship, asking for it indirectly. This is how to make friends. It's never about having one group that you're with all the time, it's about making everyone fall inlove with your personality, and attracted to being friends with you. And then later on, maybe a few of those people you would feel that you are the closest to, and those are who you can call your 'group' of friends.
Let me know how the first day of school went, feel free to inbox me if you would like to talk some more.
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Doesnt sound like its about revamping yourself but how to make new friends, a better group of friends. Did you have anything in common with the other kids?
No one can turn anyone against you who is a person who thinks for themselves and makes their own decisions. I remember my first day at a new school and all the popular girls approached me and told me to not associate with Twila. She happened to live next door to where we'd moved. I did not listen to them but checked her out myself to see if I had anything in common with her. I didn't. But there was nothing wrong with her. Eventually I found my own friends that thought and acted more like me and liked doing the same stuff. Think on what some of your favorite things are. Do you like a certain sport. If you were on volleyball or girls basketball for example, you'd try to make friends with someone who likes the same sport. If you are taking drama, then make friends with kids who are into drama, see this way you already have something in common with them. I am not sure what enriched classes are but if these are advanced studies for the faster learners with the higher IQ's then you already have that in common, start conversations by complimenting someone on their grades, their outfit or choice of music if you happen to hear that and then ask a question perhaps related to a topic around what you complemented or made a comment on and then share with them how you have the same in common if that is the case. Theres some skill to knowing how to navigate socially. But lots of it is basic and all you need to do is practice it to get better at it.
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