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Hey there!I'm Meg(or Megan).I'm 13 yrs old.I live on beautiful Cape Cod(except when it's the summer,and the tourists come,LOL!).I love to give advice,and my friends say I'm really good at it.My friends came up with this crazy idea that I should go to this site and give other people advice.Whaddya know?I love it!I also think it's good practice,because I want to be a child phycologist someday(I know,isn't that wierd?I'm already starting to think about the future!)I also love music.I mostly listen to Country music like Kenny Chesney(isn't he so hott?),Big&Rich,Gretchen Wilson,and Rascal Flatts.I also listen to some alternative like Weezer,Hoobastank,Jack's Mannequin,and Simple Plan.I know,those are two totally diverse genres!Remember:If you need some good advice,just ask.I will usually get back to you in a day.
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ok well my boyfiend dont talk to me! Its kind of sad really! We have been going out for almost 8 or 9 months..i just dont know if hes scared to talk to me for some reason...how do i make him talk to me...i mean i really like this guy and i met him in school..and now that schools out we talk on the internet...he dont even call me!! please help me i dont know how to handle this!!... im a very shy girl but if he started to talk to me i would talk to him though..
Instead of waiting for him to call,why don't you call him?Just call him up,and start a small conversation(like,"How's your summer going?").Or,invite him to go somewhere with you.Chances are,he's probably shy too.Give it some time,and he should open up and start talking more.Hope I helped!
I really need some advise. Anything would be good. Please help me. I'm 16 years and I dated this guy about a year ago. Me and him were together for a long time. He was my most longest and serious relationship ever. Things got really rough in my family and just over all and I just didnt want a boyfriend at the time so i broke things off with him. It's been a year now and he is with another girl and I have never been more in love with him. I hate myself for breaking up with him and I wish I never did that. I told him how i felt but all he could say was that i hurt him way too much and that he is happy with his current girlfriend. I cry all the time, i miss him so much. I would do anything to be with him again. He is so mean to me. I think he hates me, even though he says he doesn't. It's been a year now that i have been going through this pain and i just cant take it anymore. How do i get over him. I've waited a year now for him. He just doesn't want me back. It hurts so much and I dont know what to do. Someone please help me!
I'm really sorry.Well,you could try talking to him.Tell him that your sorry,and that you wish you never broke up with him.Maybe you both can still be friends.Then,try to move on.This might seem harsh,but it really isn't.
my best friend and i used to date for about a month cuz we liked eachother.. and now that im over him, i keep thinking that i have to like someone.. what does this mean??!(16 F)
You don't have to move on to someone else as soon as you get over the other guy.It doesn't really mean anything.Just,try not to think about it.It's actually kind of silly for someone to go from one guy,get over him,and then immedeatly get another guy!
My boyfriend tends to lie to me about stupid things..like money. If he has 100 bucks he tells me he only has 50 and such. And I have caught him in his lies so many times. He told me that he woul d stop because he didn't know that i cared that he lied about stupid stuff like that.But in my opinion if he lies to me about small things than he's lied to me about more important things.What should I do to get it through his head that I don't appreciate him lying to me all the time.
You need to straight out ask him what is up.What he lies about is stupid,I know,but you should still ask him what is up.It's not right for him to be lying to you like that.
ok my friend and her boyfriend have on & off for about a year, and they both lost ther verginity to each other. But after they started having sex he only talk to her when he wants to have sex. And when she tells him that she loves him he never say it back. Hdoesn't even call her his girlfriend and everytime she brings up love or anything like that he gets pissed at her. the only time he is not mad at her is when she is not around or when there having sex. I don't have the heart to tell her this but I think he might be useing ehr for sex. What do you think, any help i would really love!
I see why your so worried about your friend.This guy is definatly using your friend for sex.The best thing to do would be to tell your friend.Bring up the topic of her "boyfriend",and ask how it's going.Then,tell her that you think the guy is using her,and give reasons why(like,"he doesn't even call you his girlfriend!").That should get her to think about it.I hope she drops this guy.Hope I helped!
Okay so my boyfriend and I had this big thing well I may of over-reacted but I feel as if I was in the place to just because of the situation.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10monthes. When we first met he did all that chewing tobacco also know as *dip*, well I told him I didnt like it an stuff an he quit it. Thing is before like his friends would do it around him an he never let it bug him he would just go get some sunflower seeds or ya know so he wouldnt have to think about wanting to dip.
Well seems like I was at a ball game with him an his sister was like *how do you feel about travis dipping* i was like umm last I checked he didnt do that he quit when we met. And by the way his sister is like 35, so like his sister was like well i dont know I seen it in his pocket today an askd him what it was an told him that its not good for him. And I was like i dont know ill have to talk to him then. SO yeah we were in his truck after the game and I was kinda silent so he knew something was wrong! And he asked me an I told him what I heard from his sister an he was like * you dont understands its a bad habit to break blah blah* so like idk why its such a BAD habit to break if he hadnt did it in all the monthes we have been together? Like what makes him change his mind now? And like i dont know I got real upset and was crying because he lied like we made a promise NOT to do that, an he always avoided dipping when his frineds had it or offered it. But am I in the wrong? Like i dont know I was so upset and crying because I feel as if he lied to me and broke some trust!? So am I in the wrong and would you in my position feel the same way as I did?
Thanks for the advice!
First of all,you are doing a good thing by helping him quit chewing tobacco,no matter what anyone says!It's okay to feel upset,he betrayed your trust and started chewing tobacco again.You need to talk to him.Tell him how you feel.You should google,"Chewing Tobacco" on the internet,and get some facts.Then,you could give them to your boyfriend,and then maybe he'll think twice before chewing again.
okayy .. well call my boyfriend frankie. me and frankie have been together for 5 months. and we have our problems. but we cant stay apart. we broke up once for 2 days and then we both coodnt stand it. and last night we did again .. for 15 minutes .. and we hated it .. we talked about it and we wanna be together.
but frankie's friend tom, likes me. so tom has been telling me all this stuff that supposedly frankie sayin/gonna do (he's goina cheat on me, he wouldn't care if me and tom hooked up) but he's like you cant tell frankie about this ..
could tom just be tryin to get me to break up with franki cuz he likes me. because there was a RUMOR that i liked someone else and franki got pissed. and he got pissed off one day when tom wouldn't stop lookin down my shirt. doesn't that seem like the opposite of not caring if i hook up with tom ..? i think soo ..
that was question #1, is tom possibly makin that stuff up?
and question #2:
me and franki arent perfect. we argue alot. he doesnt always call when he cant keep his plans, and he works alot. and all my friends say i shoodnt take his shit .. but i cant help it .. im miserable w/o him .. ive never liked anyone as much as him .. is it wrong to stay with someone who doesnt' treat you the best, but still can make you feel better than anyone else .. because everyone's makin me feel like it is ...
sorry for lengthh! please help me ..
Tom obviously made up those lies so that you would dump Frankie and go out with him.
No one's relationship is perfect.There's bound to be arguing and fights.I think you should stay with Frankie,no matter what anyone else says.You really like him,and that's what matters.
I'm 14 year old gurl. okay to my question..I like my moms bestfriends son, my mom and his mom have been friends since highschool and there now around 40 years old. Anyways I like her son and he likes me too..we have discussed dating eachother, and really want to but our parents won't let us because their afraid if we break up that it will destroy their friendship, I just really want to date and be with him but dont want my mom and his to hatte me for it.
I think you need to talk to your mom about this.Tell her how you really like him,and so does the son.Try to convince her that if you guys do break up,the friendship won't be ruined.Sounds really obvious,but just try it!
My dad pasted away from leukemia 4 months and 10 days ago (March 1st). Well right now, we're (my mom, brother, and I) in Ireland visiting family. We've been here for about 3 weeks. Well for then past 2 weeks my mom has been acting very different and forgetful. When she goes to do the dishes or something, when she's done, she'll come and sit down then get up and say that she needs to do the dishes. When she gets into the kitchen and sees that there are no dishes (because she already did them) she'll ask "Who did the dishes? I was about to do them!" It's so weird. She'll also repeats herself all the time and never wants to go out or do anything.
We're all so worried about her but we don't know what to do. My family members want us to get her to see a specialist here in Ireland but my brother and I want to cut our trip short and deal with it once we get back to the states. We don't know which is better.
At first we thought she's like this because of the loss of my dad but she's gone over 4 months without anything weird like this so why now? Any help?
I understand you are very worried about your mother.You should talk to her and tell her what is worrying you.Maybe she will agree to go to get help.It would probably be better to cut the trip short and then get help.
My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks
The best thing for you to do would be to stay out of it.Don't talk about him with your best friend,or help them.This might sound a little rude,but it will help you move on.Hope I helped!
Okay I was with the guy for over a year. On and off. And this is our third try. I'm pretty sure he liked some other chick.. but couldn't get with her and then asked me out. I feel stupid and yeah.. I don't know what to do.. because he doesn't really call me. He talks to his other friends on the phone and puts me on hold. :\ And he doesn't really show or tell me that he likes me or that he's happy with me.. or anything like that. So i really don't know what's going on. It's just.. "BYE" and I feel like he likes the other girl...and not me anymore. I don't know what to do because I'm not really sure I'm right.
I would talk to him about it.Tell him how you feel about this.If he assures you that everything is fine,then it is.He just may be one of those guys who just doesn't show affection very much.Just talk to him,he should know it's bugging you.
I'm going to be a freshman in high school, but I'm really shy. I have 2 best friends that I can be my complete self around and tell anything to, but in high school, we're probably not going to see each other as much.. Plus one of these two friends I have is mad at the other claiming that she hates hanging out with her and always feels like she's the one left out.. But that's a whole different story. I feel like high school is going to change our friendship and kind of like deteriorate it. I have a few other friends too but it's not the same as with my other two friends.. So next year, how can I overcome my shyness and make new friends? Don't tell me to just be myself or anything because that's so hard to just NOT be shy. Around people I just meet I hardly talk and when I do it's only a few words, so they get the wrong impression. But with my good friends and family, I'm loud, funny.. like a whole different person. But I want people to see that person instead of someone who hardly talks. How can I do that? Thank you
Just make conversation with people you would like to know better.Talk about the weather or that school is out.Walk right up to the person,and just start chatting with them.
hi,
i hav 3 friends that were my best lets say friend 1,2 and,3. i overheard them talkin about some one i assume is me. friend 1 said my name n then started whispering, friend 2 then said- i know with a dirty look and friend 3 kept on looking at me and then said- i don't like her either. i got upset and really really really really angry! i even start crying. my other friends were comforting me but im stressing over it, if i made a mistake because i stopped sitting next to them and talking to them.
about 2 days later(today) i was sitting next to friend 1(the closest) because i wasn't allowed to move and i passed her a note asking her wahat it was they didn't like about me and that i heard them talking about me. she just pushed it away . now i always hear them talking about me. it really hurts because i do care for friend 1 alot(not bothered too much about the 2 though).
they've started ignoring me completely.
i want to talk to them again but i don't want to
seem like a suck-up...help me please.
i kind of miss them...
yours stressingly
sad sad girl
They are not your friends!I kind of know how you feel,because this has happened to me.Just don't talk to them.It's their problem that they want to lose a good friend.
Right after I met Kate she was my very best friend. Now, Kate is moving. When I asked her parents why they had to leave, they had such stupid answers, and I'm going to miss her like crazy! I'm so upset that she's leaving me, it feels like the whole world is crashing down. Now what? How will I deal without her?
Friends moving is hard.You can still keep in touch with Kate.You can e-mail,call eachother,or IM.If she's just moving a few towns over,you could ask her parents if she could come visit you on the weekends(or you could visit her).You could have your parents ask Kate's parents why their moving,if their not giving you good answers.
hey im jackie and im 14. and this question is for my friend. she just turned 15 and her ex boyfriend is 14 and they've been going out since october,(8 months) and they have gone pretty far. hes gotten her to give him a hand job and let him finger her, for the first time. before she went out with him, she hadnt even had her first kiss. anyway, he broke upw ith her 2 days ago and she is miserable! he siad it was b/c he wanted to move on. I ;d like to know how to help her get over him. help pleasee
♥ Jackie
That must've really hurt her.Just help her get her mind off the breakup.Go to the movies together,or to the beach.Be sure to let her know that if she does want to talk about it,you'll be there for her.Hope this helps!
ok
im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!
awww,hun.I'm going into 8th grade too.I've only had 1 boyfriend(he turned out to be a total jerk!).Having a boyfriend means nothing.The only way to get a boyfriend is to be yourself.Flirt a little.Most girls don't even get a boyfriend till' highschool.It's completely normal.Just try to focus on having a great time in 8th grade,and less on having a boyfriend.
ive been friends with lisa sinc freshman year. she moved lasts umemr but we were together like everyday last summer. we chilled a couple times over the year but still remained close. she started going out with this kid. he seemed really nice but he was really creepy. he hit on me and christina (lisas bestfriends) multiple times. hes over in texas right now for training and hes just such an asshole to her, i know he must be nervous but hes so mean. hes parranoid and always calls her names and assumes shes cheating but she doesnt even give any hints that she is. he called my phone over 9 times one night and i didnt answer cuz i dont want to deal with him shit to her. he left a voice mail saying mean stuff about lisa. first off.. no one messes with my friends. they broke up but now shes like talking to him and it just pisses me off. i cant talk to her if she talks to him, he was trying to send me mean messages on myspace, he called me fuckin fat and that hurts, even tho i know im not its still annoying. what can i do, i dont want her to have anything to do with him. oh yeah he told her he had a gf wen they were goin out and she replied"i never even cheated on u " and he goes i was kidden i justw anted to try to get it out of u. i hate him like all her friends hate him
You definatly need to tell your friend about this.first off,he shouldn't call you "f***in' fat".Second,he shouldn't accuse someone of cheating just so he can find out if he did.Third,he shouldn't be talking to you and harrassing you on Myspace.This guy is a total jerk!I don't even know why your friend is still talking to him!Just tell your friend what happened.
me and my group of friends about 9 of us always hang out together. theres 5 girls and they are each different. i noticed that they are competitive. because 1 of them im really good friends with and she tells me everything. she tells me about what the other girls say about her and how they said things to make her feel bad, because 2 of them liked my other friend rob.
it's a big mess, but now the other girls started to tell me stuff too. you kno what they all said? not to tell any1 anything they told me. so now almost all of them tell me things about how they dont like 1 or 2 of them because of things they said to them or said to other people. its confusing and they are trying to out-do the other just for my friend, and just to make sure that 1 girl doesnt get more attention than the other.
2 questions: why all this competition, i mean are girls always like this? and two, what should i do, stay out of it or help them? i've known them for a long time and i like all of them as friends, but they dont seem to get along. please help me
Girls naturally tend to be competitive(not all of them).I think you should stay out of it.Joining in will just make you more confused.
i'm thinkin aboout being a foreign exchange student but i don't know anything about it! i need all of anything you know about it! please help i'm desperate. i also was wondering if you knew if the programs you go through will check out the family you are going to see and see if they are ok if you know wat i mean?
I don't know very much about being a foreign exchange student.But here's what I know:
*You stay at someone's house,and you take in their culture
*You usually attend their school
Yes,the program you go through will check the family.Their are alot of tests the family has to go through so they can host a foreign exchange student.
I hope I helped!
i love my best friend to death and I REALLY dont want to disobey her trust. see a while ago she told me all this stuff about how she has another world she can escape 2 and sometimes she feels like she doesnt know who she is. she sometimes even, she says, forgets her name. shes already tried talking to her parents and a therapist, and her parents have tried giving her pills. all of it, she says, just make her feel worse, like shes insane. she has a lot of friends, gets good grades, in whole leads a very normal life and acts perfectly normal. we didn't mention this for a while, but over the weekend i went down with her family to the beach. saturday night she started randomly dancing in the sand, running and spazzing randomly all over the place, inchined way to close to the firework display just so, as she put it, she could be close to the sea, and wrote the name's of random people we no in the sand. all of this is very unlike her, and i at the time half-jokingly asked her "if she was here as herself" she wudnt answer me for a while and then very quietly said "who else would i be" and then wouldnt answer any more questions. later that night i asked what was going on and she wouldnt tell me. one of our other friends was there, who doesnt no everything i no and said shes fine stop overreacting. iasked her if she "promised" she was fine (promise is our trust word) and she wouldnt promise. i tried talking her into talking to me cuz i just wanted to help, I didnt want her to go through whatever it was alone. she wouldnt say anything. the next morning everything was back to normal. i dont know what to do and i cant tell anyone because i REALLY REALLY REALLY cant betray her trust like that. please help.
You are not betraying your friend's trust if your trying to help her.Talk you your parents...maybe they can tell her parents.She needs help,and she will thank you one day...if you tell.