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Making friends/overcoming shyness
I'm going to be a freshman in high school, but I'm really shy. I have 2 best friends that I can be my complete self around and tell anything to, but in high school, we're probably not going to see each other as much.. Plus one of these two friends I have is mad at the other claiming that she hates hanging out with her and always feels like she's the one left out.. But that's a whole different story. I feel like high school is going to change our friendship and kind of like deteriorate it. I have a few other friends too but it's not the same as with my other two friends.. So next year, how can I overcome my shyness and make new friends? Don't tell me to just be myself or anything because that's so hard to just NOT be shy. Around people I just meet I hardly talk and when I do it's only a few words, so they get the wrong impression. But with my good friends and family, I'm loud, funny.. like a whole different person. But I want people to see that person instead of someone who hardly talks. How can I do that? Thank you
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Talk to people in as casual friend. You have to be a friend to get a friend (seriously, it is true). Or you could do something really outrageous, like dye your hair pink and green (I do not reccomend that)
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An easy way to get to know someone is to ask them little questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. This way, people don't get the wrong impression and you don't have to completely change the way you are. Slowly work just outside your comfort level, and slowly you will be a little less shy. Hope I helped!
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Just make conversation with people you would like to know better.Talk about the weather or that school is out.Walk right up to the person,and just start chatting with them.
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Extracurriculars.
If you get involved in clubs, sports or Theater at your school you will instantly meet new people, and have a naturally easy way to communicate with these people daily. Especially in sports and theater. If you don't communicate, you lose/look like an idiot. That being said, you meet so many incredible people, and it's well worth the time spent after school. So, in conclusion, participating in after school clubs/activities will help you overcome shyness. That is all.
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Hello! Most people will be shy to a certain extent. Me inclusive. I understand how you feel when you want people to see that outgoing and fun side of you but my dear, you have to take things slowly.=)
You see, if you immediately show them your crazy and fun side, they might not know how to react to you.
They might think you're wierd because they dun really know you that well.
The reason why you can be your fun self when you're with your friends is because you are confident that you can entertain them and you know that they'll love your crazy outbursts and so on. You tend to by shy around new people because you dun know how they will react to your loud character. Likewise, if your new classmates were to behave crazily and outgoing and fun, you'd feel a bit wierd around them cos you might not know how to react to them.
You can slowly get to know them more by talking bout a little bit of personal stuff. Dun be too intrusive though, but show a little personal side of you so that they'd feel more comfortable around you. (For eg when you're having lunch with them, you can say "hey,the chef looks like brad pitt! He;s hot right?" blah blah and so on. ok i know this sounds lame but you should rougly get wat i mean)Then, try small jokes and show a little fun and crazy side of you and see how they react. If they laugh, you'll naturally start to expose the real you. If they don't laugh, then show a little more serious side of you. Different people have different characters and hence will have to be treated differently.
Observe and fine-tune how much craziness to shower upon your new frens. This fine-tuning thing will come to you naturally, so dun worry.
Why worry bout something which hasnt even happen yet?Just go to school the next day and be friendly and smiley. You dun sound like an introvert to me so dun worry, you'll fit in just fine =)
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