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I want to run a marathon but I am having trouble working out the pacing and figuring out what speed I will have to run to make it in a reasonable time. Has anyone here ever run a marathon or ridden in a long bike race or something where you had to do with kind of computation? (link)
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Congrats on your decision to run a marathon! First of all it would be helpful to figure out what a "reasonable time" is for you, specifically. Ideally you would start out at a pace you can continue through the whole race. Don't overdo it the first half! It's better to run slower than you think you need to and be able to maintain the pace than fizzle the second half.
Here are a couple of helpful links:
http://www.active.com/running/articles/5-tips-for-marathon-pacing
http://www.outsideonline.com/fitness/running/road-running/10-Tips-To-Run-Your-Best-Half-Marathon.html
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OK im a female,and age 13,ok this may sound stupid for someone thats my age but i think i love my current boyfriend,anyways we live in the same town but we go to differnt schools he goes to one across town ,we try to hang but it either one of us is busy ,anyways he said i love you to me n i said it back but i dont know because hes dated a lot of girls n i dont want him to say something he might regret ,and he has a girl best friend,n you know how they always end with the boy falling for his girl bestfriend but i dont know how i can compete with that ,What im really asking that i need advice on what i can do to make him not regret saying i love you to me,and how i can be there with him (link)
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First of all, I don't think you need to worry about him regretting what he said. I would assume that you both felt something when you said that, so treasure that memory!
Here's my advice: Enjoy what you have and take it slow. You can find ways to hang out, I'm sure... you could support each other in your after-school activities, or hang out on the weekends, or text. It's okay to be casual about things at this point. You're 13, so there's no rush to get too serious. Enjoy the relationship you currently have!
And about his friend: don't feel like you need to "compete" with her because best friend and girlfriend don't necessarily have to fill the same slot. If you're mature about it (especially if you and she are nice to each other) things will work out for the best.
Good luck!
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last night I had a dream I was in a movie theater with my exboyfriend. all I saw was me and him and the lights on the wall but it was kind of dark. there was a black man in the room too, someone I don't know. and he and my ex seemed to have a lot of tension between eachother. I think the black man might have been a criminal, I'm not sure. then I remember me and the black man were outside in the hall and I gave him a dirty look because he was annoying me somehow and he grabed me by the shoulders and was yelled at me to spit in his face and was shaking me and I started to scream and cry. I got free and ran outside and then I saw an overview of a movie theater and police cars. I woke up and was scared kind of. then I went back to sleep and my dream continue. this time it was me and my ex and I asked why he didn't come out to help me. he said the black man's friends wouldn't let him but if he could have he wouldn't of let anything happen to me.
What does this all mean? (link)
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I don't put too much faith in what dreams have to say. In my opinion, dreams don't usually mean anything, but when they do, it's because your subconscious has a message for you to notice. I would look at what's important here... how you felt about the black man and how you felt about the ex.
The black man might represent something that's frightening to you, however vague. The future? A relationship with someone or going to a certain place? You felt helpless in this situation and wanted someone (your ex, who couldn't come) to rescue you. My suggestion is to figure out what that situation represents and fix it, so you don't have to be scared anymore. You seem to have a need for people to be around so try and keep your friends a little closer whenever you feel anxious. :)
Good luck with your dreams. I hope they are sweet from now on.
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so all my life i always loved dressing up but i was somehow shy to appear in public looking all dressed up. one of the reasons i love dresses but i don't actually wear them outside. but this winter i want things to change. i just need a bit of help. i want to know how to dress casually but at the same time,looking good. any form of help will be appreciated :P ! thanks. (link)
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You can wear your dresses, but pair them with something casual, like a large cardigan, a beanie or a pair of boots. Subdued colors with patterns that don't exactly match the dress help dress it down. But the best part of this is that you get to experiment! Hit up a couple of thrift stores and see what you can find. :) Good luck, and have fun!
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My friends are good to me but i feel like they dont like me.When i message them,they won't reply.So i just thought that they don't have credit and leave it but my heart always feel suspicious and telling that they dont like you.I sometimes hurt them but i always ask sorry if i did.None of my friends actually understand me.They think what am i doing is just to show off or pretending.Sometimes i will be sad,they dont understand the situation but think that im pretending or im too arogant.I dont know what to do???? I want care but none close to me.I couldn't find a friend who really understand me and and always be honest to me.What should i do? i always feel lonely.. (link)
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A good relationship comes with mutual trust and respect in each other. It sounds like you're having a hard time trusting your friends. My suggestion: Be the kind of friend you want to have yourself, and someone great will come along. Good luck to you.
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i am a fourteen year old girl. So theres this guy in my class that i really like named corey and he likes me too. But i asked him why he wouldnt go out with me he said that every time a girl has said she liked him it was a bet or a joke.Its not though and when i told him that he said that he didnt know if he could beleive me. Like i said i really like this guy and i ned help to get him to trust me. (link)
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You should show him you like him! Get to know him a little bit, and when he sees you're willing to put time into a relationship with him, hopefully he'll know you're being honest.
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whats wrong with me? im 14 and ive never had a boyfriend or even a friend which is a boy, i dont get any attention eventhough iseek for them sometimes. about 3 people have asked me out through 'facebook' but i somehow dont trust it becuase its not safe and why is it that i get asked oout socially through the internet but just not in reality? help pleasee (link)
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It's okay! Nothing is wrong with you, it's perfectly normal to not date until you're even out of high school.
If you're seriously worried about dating, you could always ask someone else out. But your self-confidence does not have to depend on what other people think of you. You are a special person with your own unique talents and quirks, and there is a great person out there for you.
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Hi, I'm a senior in high school from BC, Canada. I am looking to press charges for being assaulted by a peer at a school event. Does anyone know how this works? I will be in touch with the police shortly. What makes a successful case? Thanks for the insight. (link)
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Uuuuhh... You'd have to be a little more specific about what happened, but I would suggest going in there as a mature and responsible young adult. Clean up, dress up a little, don't slouch, address people as sir or ma'am, don't interrupt and don't let your emotions get hold of you. I'm sure you've heard all these sorts of things before. Tell what happened in your experience in a calm manner, and refrain from getting angry or throwing any names out towards the other person. If you can get the respect of the officials, things are more likely to go well for you. Good luck!
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I am trying to eat better to lessen my risk of cancer (my mom had breast cancer and I had a teacher who had cancer too) and I was told that eating organic and natural foods were healthier. I went to the store to buy some organic foods (brands like from Kashi, Nature's Path, Horizon, Morningstar Farms, Stonyfield Farms, Organic Valley, etc.) and noticed that they cost a lot more than other food brands!
Why is organic more expensive? I don't understand why organic foods cost so much more than regular foods!
If organic is always this expensive, how does anyone afford to live on organic foods? Do people actually do that or did I get bad information about organic foods being healthier for me? I'd at least like to know why organic foods cost more before I start putting my money in organic companies. (link)
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Organic food is so much better for you in so many ways!
First of all, those other, cheaper foods are made with chemicals and things that can be mass-produced and have a long shelf life in stores. Unfortunately, the preservatives that give them this shelf life are really bad for your body. Same with the pesticides that they put on some foods- very bad for you. Some foods even have special sweeteners/ chemicals that make our bodies crave them. And lots of cheap foods that you can buy at the store are rid of any nutrients they might have held because of the growing process (like with beef or grains, I think).
Organic food may not last as long on a store shelf, but it has no unhealthy pesticides, no habit-forming substances, and no preservatives. Organic foods, however, are harder to get a good product that will sell (if you don't inject the cow with steroids, how will you know it will get big and tasty?). It usually takes more work and time to get organic food, so that's probably part of why it's more expensive.
Some people do live off organic foods, but I do admit it is more expensive than other food you might see in the grocery store. I would encourage you to switch over as much as you can, however: it's just plain better for you. Good luck with your organic foods searching!
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my name is Gina and I am 15 years old. this is kind of a dumb question but i am just wondering what the cause of this is. I always mark on my calendar when I have my period so that I'm ready when i have the next one and most of the time, its right on that day or a day after it. well this week my period is 5 days late! it has never been this late before and i have NEVER had sex. i've had all the signs of a period coming but my question is..are periods normally this late or is there something wrong with me? (link)
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Dear Gina,
I don't believe you have a thing to worry about! I understand that your periods generally come at regular intervals, but it's also normal for a girl your age not to be very regular for a couple of years. If you're really concerned about it, I would suggest talking to someone like your mom or the school nurse. Best wishes, and good luck!
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I always get my homework in on time at school, except I am always awake till 11:00pm finishing it, which is too late for me. I also do more than I am expected to do, which is why I often get good grades. I still want to maintain these good marks, but I want to get my work done faster, go to bed earlier and have some free time in between.
Any ideas?
Please Help! (link)
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Well, That's great that you have a good habit of doing your best work! You, like many others, may just need the know-how to manage your time a little better and get a good amount of sleep at night. Now, first of all- what do you do when you get home from school? Do you relax for a while? Get a snack? Well, that is a good time to be doing some of your homework. Just find times throughout the day when you could be doing homework (in the morning before school, between any extracurricular activities, and even in the car) and do it then! Then you will be able to have your free time before you sleep. This is a good thing in that your mind can have some time to unwind before you go to sleep. Who knows- maybe the quality of your sleep will even improve! Also, I would highly suggest writing out a list of the things you need to do. This will help you see which things you should do right away and which can wait for a little while. You will also not feel like you have as much to do if it's written down. I wish you luck!
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"as these children that you spit on as they try to change their worlds are immune to your consulations they're quite aware f what heir going throught"
what song is that quote from? (i know it's by david bowie) (link)
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It's actually just called "Changes", and it happens to be on the Shrek 2 soundtrack. Good luck finding what you needed!
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hi i have this friend who is in my class(we are in grade 7) and for some reason all of the girls like him i don't know why cause he is a show off a big one and yet he still has nearly every girl in our grade falling for him. hes got a girlfriend and all but its just annoying how all of them like him and follow him around at lunch there is like 10 of the girls following him but it still seems like alot of girls to me. i just want to know why they all like him hes not that hot or nice and he can be a bit of a d#ck head sumtimes and i also want to know a way to stop my jealousy. (link)
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Hey, don't worry about it!! I know that you see him with all of those girls and get jealous, but here's the deal: You will be much happier with quality than quantity. By this, I mean that you can find someone that means a lot to you, that cares for you in the same way that you care for her, someone who you can talk to and don't have to hide anything from, and then it won't even matter how many girls that other jerk has. There's one of these guys in every school, and he continues to puzzle all of us. Just find your own special someone and ignore him. Do NOT try to get more girls following you around than him... you don't want to be a part of that sort of thing. It could get you into a lot of trouble. Good luck with your friend!
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ok. well i weigh about 120-125. and im 5 foot 5. bu ti still have a little tummy and UGH! it bugs me so much and i wanna loose weight, so now i started only eating salads and not eating anything for dinner. i also eat breakfast. lets just say i stay off the junk now for a week. and i run and do exercises i saw in magazine with weights. when should that help me? in a month? 2 weeks? i really wanna loose 10 pounds in about 2-3 weeks. will that work? and if so, what can i do to loose that many pounds..im TOO FATTT! (link)
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Well, it sounds like you have a better plan than most to lose that little tummy... But I would advise you to NEVER skip a meal- period. It's much better for you to eat small meals and nibble on something nutritious whenever you get hungry, like nuts, yoghurt, or fruit. And you're absolutely right- excercise is going to help you lose that little bit of weight and feel better with yourself. Good luck with that!
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I found out today that guys dont like talkative girls. The radio had a disucussion on it, and my class had a discussion on it too. Guys find that "unattrcative" in some cases. I talk alot, im known for that. I dont want to change the person i am to impress guys, but im hearing that guys really dont like that. I have heared it before and im still hearing it. I dont know what to do, i dont like being quiet, i have the larger then life personality. What should I do? Thanks :) (link)
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I think you don't have to change who you are, just maybe be careful to see how they are feeling and be sure to ask questions about their life. It's a proven fact: people like to talk about themselves. If you let them talk a little and listen, you may learn something useful or interesting. But by all means don't try to change into the quiet, shady type if you're not. Good luck with that!
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I would really like a list of what someone should be able to do, know, have already experienced, inappropriate behavior for that age (things they already grew out of and shouldn't be doing anymore), etc by age 13. Lets make the list for 13 year-old boys.
It can be completely random.
Thank you. =) (link)
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Well, I think that there are many things that 13-yr old boys shouldn't do, but they do anyway - mostly inappropriate things that most sane people wouldn't do. These include cussing, talking in a rude way about sexual things, being pruposefully violent, picking on people, whining like toddlers, and being loud enough to burst someone's eardrums. (LOL!) I think most of them have outgrown throwing temper tantrums, particularly about things like brushing their teeth or taking showers. 13 year old boys also lose their... uhh, savor, when they try to be too old, like wearing enough cologne to choke a horse or looking at pictures of women. This just makes them look like idiots. A word of advice to the 13 year old boy: don't do stupid stuff. Hope I helped!
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I'm so bored. i'm on spring break right now and I was so excited for spring break and now that i'm here, i'm soo bored. my mom tells me at like 9 o clock to get ready because we're leaving like RIGHT NOW. she tells me this every day. righ now is always 3 in the afternoon. I try to keep myself occupied but I can only do that for so long. i go work out, which is about two hours. That's all I have to do. I don't have anything else to do and it's so annoying. I'm getting my liscence hopefully next week or during the summer, but most likely soon. but, i don't know how to ride a bike, i can't just walk out of my house, as nice as that would be, miami is no place to go take a walk outside your house. my mother spends the day cleaning the house, and believe me, i've tried everything to help her. but, i don't know what else to do. the house is perfectly fine. she wakes up early in the morning, disorganizes it, so she has to clean it again. as much as i try to help her, she will never be finished cleaning. the house can be sparkling and in her eyes, it is filthy. i'm an only child. i have like 2 friends who are always either on a trip or somehow, the most different people always want to be around me. Their parents don't let them do ANYTHING, which i don't think is fair. One of them, i understand. The other girl's mother is just a snob. Anywho, friends are not an option, neither are siblings, or going out hiking... can someone please help me before i go crazy?? (link)
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Well, why don't you pick up a good book and start reading? Drawing is also a good option, or you could write poetry or short stories just for fun. It's really good that you are spending some of your time making your body healthier- you just need to get a small hobby. Good luck!
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I am about to apply to colleges and I want to do a Liberal Arts major, but I am not sure if that is the name of the major? Can I just major in Liberal Arts? If so, what is my degree called if I major in Liberal Arts? I was also considering a dual-major in Liberal Arts and English, is that possible? Thanks so much! (link)
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Yes, you can just major in Liberal arts. look here for a little more info...
http://www.worldwidelearn.com/online-education-guide/arts-humanities/liberal-arts-major.htm
You can do a dual major in english and liberal arts, but you can also study english within your liberal arts degree. Hope I helped!
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I'm about 5' 8" and only in the eighth grade! I know being tall should be a good thing and all that crap, but i just need something to raise my self esteem. Being the tallest in the grade (even above the guys) is never comforting. is there anything you can say to cheer me up? :( (link)
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Have you ever heard the term 'early bloomer'? It's a good thing that you have grown so fast, but It can be awkward. Here's a secret: All the guys will be catching up to, and passing, your height in no time at all! Don't worry... your height is something special and unique to you. Have fun with it while it lasts! Hope I helped!
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Hi guys how are ya'll doing? I just wanted to ask if ya'll thought that I was freaky. So I'm a tomboy and a bounch of girls have been teasing me. I never wear my hair down, I play football and basketball, all of my friends are boys and the girls at school wont stop teasing me because of it! They call me lesbian, stupid, and one of them said "Who are you going to the dance with...oh wait no one would want a mud coverd bitch as a dance partner". So what should I do about this they are really hurting my feelings? Please help I really apreciate it if anyone answers thanks. (link)
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You most certainly are NOT freaky. That's great that you are such an athletic girl and you know what you like. You're not afraid to show it! Don't listen to what those girls are saying. They have no idea what they're talking about -Chances are they're just jealous because you get attention from the guys. Keep up the good work!
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