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SAME TOWN but Different schools
OK im a female,and age 13,ok this may sound stupid for someone thats my age but i think i love my current boyfriend,anyways we live in the same town but we go to differnt schools he goes to one across town ,we try to hang but it either one of us is busy ,anyways he said i love you to me n i said it back but i dont know because hes dated a lot of girls n i dont want him to say something he might regret ,and he has a girl best friend,n you know how they always end with the boy falling for his girl bestfriend but i dont know how i can compete with that ,What im really asking that i need advice on what i can do to make him not regret saying i love you to me,and how i can be there with him
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This could be a case of semantics, how the word "love" is being interpreted.
When people say, "I love..." it kinda depends on the situation and may take a little extra effort to determine what meaning the speaker is giving the word versus what the hearer thinks it means.
My personal belief is that when most females hear the words "I love you" from a guy, they assume he is professing that he is heart, soul and mind in love with her, the kind of love that has people end up in a relationship together and married in the future.
But we all use the word "love" to describe how we feel about anything ranging from an outfit on the rack at Forever 21, the flavor of our favorite icecream, or a person's particular brand of humor or their laugh for a couple examples. If you had to describe in words why you love the sound of a girlfriends laugh, could you? Sometimes when its hard to describe how strongly you like one thing over others, like you like all icecream but absolutely love chocolate chip mint! Um...thats my favorite and I really can't put in words why I like it other than mint is refreshing and the chocolate is small enough bits to not be too overpowering. But other flavors may be refreshing and not too overpowering either. Its much easier to just say "I love..."
So..when many males use the words "I love you" it could have either meaning. They could simply be meaning that there is something about your personality that they really love that they don't find often in other people and thats what makes you stand out to him. A male can really love your friendship, love your company and love many things about you but not have a 'heart' commitment yet and not be "in love" with you.
So next time he says I love you, just ask the question, "Tell me, what it is about me that makes you say that."
Good luck and blessings to you.
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First of all, I don't think you need to worry about him regretting what he said. I would assume that you both felt something when you said that, so treasure that memory!
Here's my advice: Enjoy what you have and take it slow. You can find ways to hang out, I'm sure... you could support each other in your after-school activities, or hang out on the weekends, or text. It's okay to be casual about things at this point. You're 13, so there's no rush to get too serious. Enjoy the relationship you currently have!
And about his friend: don't feel like you need to "compete" with her because best friend and girlfriend don't necessarily have to fill the same slot. If you're mature about it (especially if you and she are nice to each other) things will work out for the best.
Good luck!
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