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how to not be jealous?
hi i have this friend who is in my class(we are in grade 7) and for some reason all of the girls like him i don't know why cause he is a show off a big one and yet he still has nearly every girl in our grade falling for him. hes got a girlfriend and all but its just annoying how all of them like him and follow him around at lunch there is like 10 of the girls following him but it still seems like alot of girls to me. i just want to know why they all like him hes not that hot or nice and he can be a bit of a d#ck head sumtimes and i also want to know a way to stop my jealousy.
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First, do you have a girlfriend? I am asking becase I have never heard of someone not liking the fact that someone else has girls following them, unless they are single and hating on the fact that the friend isn't-
How to stop the jealousy - ask yourself what you are actually jealous of and work on it. You said you are jealous b/c people like him and follow him around, it sounds like you don't have many friends and feel left out at times. Is that the case? If so, start making friends. just talk to people and see what their interests are. Ask your parents if you can have a small party or get together- Do some cool invitations yourself and invite people including him and the people who hang with him.
There's no reason for the jealousy, it's childish and you are becoming a young adult which means jealousy has to no longer be a factor.
Start focusing more on you, your life, your school, your friends, your happiness, fun and family instead of worrying about what he does or who hangs with him or around him. If you aren't involved in any school activities, do so- find something that interests you like different social clubs, organizations, band, sports, etc., things that promote growth within yourself so that this jealousy doesn't turn into a self confidence thing or anger or depression.
I really hope this helps you see that you have bigger things to deal with in life than the friend in your class. Also, if he is a friend, then there should be NO jealousy-maybe you are just curious to know and understand why these girls are falling for him.
stay cool, calm and collective, focused, happy and goal oriented... and just do you.
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Some girls, especially young girls fall for the "bad boys". You know the saying "nice guys finish last"? That's not true at all though, and those bad boys..and girls trying to compete and figure out what makes him tick, will be very unhappy someday if they keep this up. So actually, while it looks appealing now, several years from now you are the one who is going to be ahead. The tables will turn and he will be the one jealous of you! You don't have to do anything, but be your self and it will happen!
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Hey, don't worry about it!! I know that you see him with all of those girls and get jealous, but here's the deal: You will be much happier with quality than quantity. By this, I mean that you can find someone that means a lot to you, that cares for you in the same way that you care for her, someone who you can talk to and don't have to hide anything from, and then it won't even matter how many girls that other jerk has. There's one of these guys in every school, and he continues to puzzle all of us. Just find your own special someone and ignore him. Do NOT try to get more girls following you around than him... you don't want to be a part of that sort of thing. It could get you into a lot of trouble. Good luck with your friend!
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