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I am open, honest, truthful yet also insightful and understanding. I am a Strong woman with morals, belief, and character. I value life, myself and life of everything, everyone and all. I am mature, caring, giving, straight up and real!
I am not harsh, rude, or disrespectful but I am going to tell you the truth because you are asking for that. If you want a lie or support that you know is invalid because you question it yourself, please don't get mad at me for the truth because that is what sets us ALL free!! Peace, Venom
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My wife and I seperated a year ago. During this time we both have dated other people. She has mentioned several times that she wants to get back together, but every time that I do what she asks and try, she says that I am putting too much preasure on her. She has told me on four seperate occassions that she has broken up with her boyfriend, and we have gone out on dates, but then I catch her on dates with him, and she says that she lied to me. Is there anything that I can do, or should I just give up?
You should just give up. If your wife wanted you, she wouldn't lie to you. She would display that she wants you in action, not just words. Also, here is the thing, if you want her back, step back for a lil' bit. Stop seeing her, stop buying her things, and stop taking her out! Leave her alone and let her do what she wants to do, as you see she is going to do it anyway! I am not sure as to what happened with the two of you, but I will say this, IF you split up b/c of lies, cheating, and deception (and for real I sense a bit of manipulation too- unsure of whose end yet it does exist somewhere in this mess), your relationship will NEVER be the same so why even bother it. Move on.. As soon as you do, she will want you back, and then the ball is in your court. YOU ARE THE MAN, YOU ARE THE LEADER, YOU ARE THE HEAD, So you have to take control of your relationships and where you want it go to in the future. Trust me, step back, get your stuff together, start FOCUSING ON YOU!! B/c u haven't been.. "smile" Yes, I do know... anyway, start focusing on YOU... and then when she tries coming back, TAKE IT SLOWLY, IF U WANT HER, WHICH I WOULDN'T WANT HER.. Remember this, YOU ARE NOT SECONDARY MATERIAL TO ANYBODY OR ANY1! You are FIRST and if she can't appreciate, or see that, then why waste your time continuing to show her? You aren't a dog, and shouldn't be made to do tricks or jump through hoops, ITS TIME FOR HER TO START JUMPING through hoops, you have chased her long enough!! Now move on!! Go to your browser, type in Venomtheonly1 Move ON... and listen to it. or go to reverbnation.com/venomtheonly1 AND listen to Move on. It's my single, and it's me singing, so listen to it and listen closely! Let this be your motivation, and remember to always KEEP IT MOVIN'.. Peace, Venom
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months and it has been very rough. My dad and him used to be very good friends and now they are not and my dad doesnt like him. My boyfriends ex and my dad talk and it just causes a bunch of problems not only with me and my dad but my boyfriend too...any advice? i try to just ignore the stuff being started and said but it puts alot of stress on our relationship. It makes us both afraid because of all of the stuff being said. any advice?
You have omitted information needed to answer you with truthfulness or deepness. Your posting only leaves me to say "Ignore him". I can feel your energy thus far as reaching out for more.
The relationship between you and your father is more valuable that the relationship between you & boyfriend (unless you are at the age to be engaged & this man is your husband). I would first talk with dad one on one, to determine his concerns. (trust your father's instincts, I wish I trusted my father's). Once received, dig into yourself, deeply and start digesting the things your father feels and/or has identified. (think deeply) If these are matters that are of concerned legitimately beyond an opinion (opinions are like a holes, and everyone has one)- then speak with your boyfriend. (as you must mediate maturely). If the concerns of your father makes sense, then perhaps back away a little to find yourself a lil more to see if you want to continue endeavors with your boyfriend.
Now the EX- If your father is pushing your ex on you and you aren't feeling it, then advise your dad that this individual is deceased within you emotionally and you'd appreciate it if he would allow that past relationship to rest peacefully. You have NO CONTROL over his relationship with old due, or the ex- however you do have control of your involvement with it (even indirectly my dear) Good Luck, Peace and Blessings, Unto you...
If this didn't answer you, hit me on in my inbox and we will take it from there, according to your wishes.
Venom....
His name is Justin. He's absolutely beautiful. I met him six or more months ago through some friends. We had something for each other, but I had a boyfriend at the time so it went nowhere.
Now I've been single for awhile. For I was dumped for an eighth grader (I'm 19). Anyways. He and I got together and ended up hooking up a few times. Which is fine by me because I'm still a little shaken from my last relationship. Yet, I can't help but fall for him.
He constantly tells me that I'm not making a good choice by falling for him, because he's a 'monster.' He calls himself this because he's unstable. A year ago on his birthday, his girlfriend was shot in front of him outside of the mall in a mugging. He is still absolutely devastated. He thinks that dating someone will be a betrayal of her. I understand this completely. He even said he prefers we no longer have sex because he doesn't want to hurt me, or have me change for him.
I'm completely confused and torn in two. Do I continue to follow? I know him a lot better then he thinks. Or do I just.. drop it? And how? I don't think I've ever been so stuck in my life.
I am not going to start by pointing fingers at anyone regarding any of the matters at hand.
I want to first say that the person you are involved with isn't a "monster", he has monster events that have happened to him in his life, as do all of us (regardless of sex,age,race,religion, etc.) So, with this being said, He should be respected, as his wishes.
He has identified that he has some matters at hand which prevent him from actually opening up to you or anyone else at this time. He too needs time to heal, as you did. Now, the question at hand is are you completely healed from the (8th Grade incident)? I am asking because you have made mention to this. There must be internal healing on both behalves before prosperous aspirations emerge within your relation/friendship. you feel me? He is reaching out for help- due to the emotional attachment that YOU seem to have, you are automatically and internally charging yourself with a responsibility that isn't yours. If you want to honestly be a good friend or partner, ASK him what he wants you to do to help and if he wants your help. He needs to seek counseling with a professional counselor, as he needs to talk. He must release first before he can release to you. If he sees sex as a staggering block, stop putting it on him, dear heart and park the breaks.
Focus on YOU and allow him to focus on HIM so that you two can focus on UNITING as a WHOLE in completion (sexually, mentally, physically, spiritually, etc). If you wish to speak with me, in addition to this response, feel free to contact me directly...
Good Luck & KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, FOCUSED, AND Stabilized... Venom
Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?
Yes you are right not to let your daughter move in with her mom.
I do believe that it is important for the two to bond together as there is most likely no bond, however, it must be done in steps. Allow 1 weekend visit for 3 months observe how things go. then increase it to two weekends per month.
Before that happens have a legalized document drafted. There has to be a conversation advising your ex that if she bashes your fiance these visits will not happen or will cease. She has no right to judge anyone by way of starting rumors. Judge ye not least you be judged. Now with that being said, it also means that you can't judge her either. If she has been clean then give her credit where credit is due. Trust me it's hard out there, especially to have gotten off of drugs. I have been there and done that.
If she is claiming to be a woman now as she wasn't when she walked away then allow her to be a woman and make sure she knows that it starts by not talking childishly about another woman as a result of jealousy, rage, hurt or anger. She has no one to be upset with but herself for the terrible decision(s) that she made!
I am praying for you and your family. I am very proud of you for being the man that you are and God is going to bless you, just trust in him. If you have not a relationship with him, I am asking that you please seek him for you and your family as you are the man and head of household and soon to be a husband. If God isn't first and the center of it, it will surely fail!
You have full custody for a reason, and that reason is because you are more responsible and you know what is best for your children. I would not let her move in with mom, but I would allow visitation on a temporary basis until you are comfortable with the care and welfare of your daughter. You have the power to determine the terms and conditions of the visitation, ensure that they are documented by an attorney legally, and that she signs them as well. It will need to be notarized. One of these terms must include: no mental anguish or tampering with your daughter. By talking about you and your fiance is very unhealthy to your daughter. Also NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL is allowed around your dauther either. "I'll take a hell no for 5 thousand Alex"
Good luck dearheart, and remember: You are a man, a strong man.. and your fiance has found a great man. Take care of your family and follow your senses and spirit within your manhood. It has led you in the right way and path thus far! You are absolutely correct in NOT letting your daughter move in with her mom.
I am 36 years old, the youngest of 4 siblings (ages 44 - 50). Our father passed away 13 months ago, our mother 15 years ago. When our father died, he left us all an inheritance of IRAs, etc, and also a house, which he intended be sold and the profit split evenly between us. However, we are all emotionally attached to the house, and my sister "C" said she wanted to buy it from us. At the time we were very happy about this, since we would've all loved to keep the house in the family. She moved into the house Dec 08, and has supposedly been trying to get approved for a loan to purchase the property. We are all getting impatient about how long it's taking and also how she doesn't seem to be motivated to buy when she ha been living in it rent free for a year. My other sister "L" wants to buy a house as well, but she can't do so until she gets her share of the sale of the family home. How do I, my brother, and my sister "L" handle this situation? Sister "C" gets defensive when she feels ganged up on, so we are anticipating that any inquiry into her loan status etc. will reult in a blow up of anger & defensiveness. We are all quite close, and want to stay that way, but we also need the emotional and financial stress of this issue to be finished.
Thank you,
"J"
Hi J. I went through a similar situation when my grandmother passed away.
The first thing to do is to pray about the whole situation before anyone approaches your sister, "C". Next, the rest of the siblings including yourself, need to sit down together (excluding C) and discuss your intent, your plans and what it is that you want to accomplish.
I understand that C feels gained upon when she is approached, however this is business not pleasure and if she is that childish then you and your siblings must take the grown up approach. My suggestion is to meet with your sister with an older relative there who knows what is going on (they will act as the mediator and peace keeper). It isn't about words that are said, but the emotions involved with saying the words.
I am sorry to say this but yet it is true, your sister has no intent of selling, moving, or doing things according to law because she is benefitting from residing there rent free and with the way economy is,that confirms her intent.
1. Try the family meeting with the older relative's presence should that not work, I am encouraging you to contact an attorney so that you can discuss legal matters and how to resolve this legally. Since your sister is residing there, who is going to pay the taxes involved with the home? Who is going to maintain the insurance on the home? It could also be a matter of requiring a cease and desist. There are several factors that are going to come into play legally with this house. I am not sure if this helps but listen, it is now a matter of separating emotion from business.. it's a hard thing to do but when we fail to do this, we are the ones who get screwed over by someone with lack of emotion because if there was emotion on your sister's part, this issue would be of no factor or going on either.
It doesn't mean that you all don't love her, I am sure you do, however right is right and wrong is wrong. She is disrespecting you all in addition to your parents as this wasn't their intent. Please feel free to email me at Sophia_Pettus@yahoo.com at anytime.. I will always answer.
GOD bless and I am praying for the best interest of your family and the best resolution for peace yet fairness.
I recently straightened my hair permanently. And now, I am getting hair loss and my hair is thinning! what should i do??? please dont say "go to a doctor" because i am not going to go to a doctor. any other advices??
Your hair type plays a major role in this. First when you shampoo your hair from a perm, use a shampoo that is a neutralizer. It is imperative to rinse ALL perm out of your hair or it will damage it. Try some Dr.Miracle products, and anti-breakage products. I use Motions. Use plenty of conditioners also, and based on your hair type - you may even try a hot oil treatment.
Also hair mayonaise stops breakage and grows the hair back that broke. Start taking vitamin E to strengthen your hair. Try to keep heat off of it and chemicals off of it for a while. It's weak right now from the chemical. Start massaging the scalp where the breakage has occured, and you will notice a difference. If you are more comfortable see a beautician instead of a doctor. They are specially licensed to deal and treat this type of condition.
Hi, I was just wondering are there any remedies to make my hair grow faster. Maybe some vitamins or shampoos. Anything that worked for you, I am open to new ideas.
Thanks a lot. GOD Bless!!1
Vitamin E, also hair mayo grows hair too. Brushing your hair and stimulating your roots cause hair growth too. There are oils and root stimulators that grow hair too. Just visit a local hair supply store. They have it. I use many organic products on my hair for growth. It works.
Wash your hair and always use conditioners. Cholestrol conditioners also grow hair. I have recently cut all my hair off just for a new look, but it is already growing back. Good luck and TRUST ME these things really do work.
15, Chick, Sophmore
There's this guy who I met last year on Facebook, but we went to school together, same grade. We started texting then finally met in school after a few months cause I tried to avoid him, I was afraid of meeting him because over the time of texting he fell for me.
Me, never being in a dead on serious relationship, just little ones, was frightened of the commitment.
We met, but at this point we had kinda stopped talking.
But then I realize I've started to really like him. I loved how he talked to me and how he called me beautiful every hour. But, the chance was gone. So was he.
New school year, we see eachother.
It's like he refuses to talk to me because I somewhat rejected him.
He.got.so.GORGEOUS. over the summer.
We make eye contact, he contuines to stare at me when we pass in the halls.
Last week he just started Facebooking my best friend and he asked her to go to the movies with him this Friday, of course I got jealous and told her I wasnt comfortable with it.
She told me she was sorry, she would have said no if she knew. Throught the week after he asked her out Sunday, they didn;t talk AT ALL.
Just the other day, he kept staring while I kept flicking my eyes to his, then infront of me, his, front, his, front. He would NOT break the eye contact. Please refer to part - and this was around Thursday, I was with the girl he asked to the movies, he didn't even look at her.
But, Friday comes along, he cancels due to 'sports' - you-d think he knew he had a game/practice that week, right?
So I started thinking, maybe he's trying to make me jealous?
We have class across from eachother one period, he sometimes stares at me from his room.
My friends catch him staring when I don't.
Only he just like flat out refuses to talk to me! Even I Facebook.
I'd like to confront him about this, but I don't wanna make things akward when we see eachother in school if it turns out bad.
Yes, I do like him. I'd like to get back to the way we used to be, maybe a bit more.
But, what do you think? Your opinions on the matter?
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Should I Facebook confront him? - In person is out of the question.
Do you think he might have been trying to make me jealous?
What to you think about the staring? - Not to sound conceided, but I know I have gotten alot prettier over the summer, though, so has he. Lol.
This subject has been bothering me for quite awhile. And I'd really like to get it settled.
Forgive the spelling mistakes.
Girl, just ask him what's up. If he is feeling rejected, why would he approach you first? No one likes rejection. Also, about asking your friend out - yes I think that was a jealous move to upset you and get your attention. If you don't wanna talk face to face - write a note - or make a song on a cd that relates to your feelings or the actions.
If you choose to write him - explain everything you have said in your question here because ultimately he is the one who can answer with fact - we are only answering from thought. If you like him, let him know you like him. Be sure to discuss it with your friend.. never let a guy come in between your friendships. Good luck
Im an 18 year old girl. I met a guy at a club one night we were both drunk and i didnt give him the time of day. I saw him multiple times at the club before we started talking. He was always telling me he wants a gf. When we were talking he started to tell me he'd love waking up to my face everyday, i got scared because i had gotten out fo a 2 year relationship 6 months before and he had been out of one for 4 months. I pushed him away becasue i could bare the idea of getting close to a guy i barely knew. After a while he started hanging with his ex becasue she is best friends with his sister whos realy close with him. I never brought it to his attention that I was confused. We started talking again i slept in the same bed with him 6 times without doin anything with him. He would tell me he wants me to be his gf i hadnt had sex in 8 months so finally out of no where it happened then he told me he wanted to be my bf but i didnt take him seriously becasue he still slept with his ex and hung out with her all the time. I saw his sister the other night she said hes obcessed with me and never stops talkign about me. I feel like shes just tryin to get him lucky becasue i dont know why she would say that when shes best friends with his ex all three of them were at the club when she said this. I dont know what to do I like when guys chase me I dont want to be caught up in that but I like him.
Leave his sister out of it. You are 18 years old and capable of making your own decisions. You seem confused in that you like him, then again you don't want to be involved. You have also identified the ex a couple of times too and that you like being chased. So, first have a real heart to heart with yourself and find out what it is you want.
Make sure you aren't interested as a sense of competition with the ex. Make sure you like him before approaching him. If and when you do approach him be real with him. Tell him how you feel. Don't say things his sister told you - stay away from the he said she said mess... Let him know that you would like to get to know him better and more.(stay friends) and take it from there. Good luck, and remember to keep it real! IF YOU TWO do hook up - let him know up front that you aren't going to be played (sexually or with the ex) if he still has feelings for her, cancel that thought! so that you don't end up hurt and played - so I am saying this do not up the cookies anymore until you both know what you want, what direction you are going, and are on the same page. Good luck Miss Lady!
Venom
I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.
Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.
And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.
Yes, it's wrong. I am going to say it from a different point than what all you have read. Whenever you have to question something in being right or wrong - it's normally wrong. It's like a dress code- should I wear this to church or school? If you are questioning it then it's best not to do it.
I don't know if he just wants sex or not, but I will say that he is immature mentally. I am not saying he's crazy, but I am saying that a 15, and 28 year old have nothing in common. If his interests are the same as yours, he is immature. If your interests are the same as his then you are growing up too fast. I think you are attracted to the risk factor, it's exciting, it seems fun and adventurous but it's more so dangerous than all. You are feeling infactuation. Girls do mature faster than boys, this is a studied fact; however you are a young lady and he is an older man. If you care for him, you will end your contact with him to prevent him any legal action. I am sure your parents aren't aware of this. Key Rule: If someone is willing to date you, without consent of your parents, he will possibly do things to you and with you without consent of you.
Since he is so interested in you, why not ask him to meet your parents, and see where that goes. "No where", so do not waste anymore of your precious time. This man has a thing for young girls, and he needs help and counseling. This road is leading to no where or somewhere you will regret in your future.
Good luck dearheart, and do what is best for you, your life and your future.
Friends, I am in desperate need of help, I am 40 happily married and a lovely family but recently on a long haul work related trip I badly rather we badly fell for each other that is me and my friend/colleague since the past 20 years. He has always been been my close friend, very trusted and we would share our worries and actually grew our families on each others experiences. But this new feeling is devastating, I know I am deadly in love with him and he too is. The attraction is so obvious that we would be lying if we deny it. I do not want to leave my family neither does he, but we love each other as well. It was a damned moment when we argued on something simple and he apologised and we felt how anything we do and say reaches our hearts. Later on we even talked about it, held each other and realised there is no future, and we do not want our families to hurt, but we do not know what to do.
Help
You said you are happily married and you seem to love your family being that you care for their feelings.
I have been there and done that. The grass is never greener on the other side. I think that you are longing to feel the feeling of newness, and freshness; therefore I encourage you to do something new and fresh in your marriage that you have. Also being that this thing with the other guy was years ago, you could also be reaching back for some of your youth too. I noticed you mentioned "like a 20 year old". As we get older, we do need some type of rejuvination, but find it in yourself, your family, and your husband. Please stop communicating with that other man, because if your husband did it, you would go off, now keep it real. Do some statiscal research girl, most affairs start at work and you know it is not even worth it. I know it too. So be strong, true, real and faithful to not only your husband but your family. Good luck and leave that man alone girl. Hey, watch the movie a family that preys...
OK, so im obviously in college.. I just recently took into being a full-time student, but im still taking the first classes of college, such as Computers, Speech, Comp102, And algebra...Anyways i have this semester left to think about what should i major in..Im kinda undecided..What are really good paying jobs that i can take up on?.. I love to travel, help others ppls in getting help or advice, the outdoors, working at a office,& love animals. I HATE math, so nothing under that. when reading about what i like to do, what can be a good major for me to study?..thanks!
I would encourage you to seek your major under undecided for now. From the courses you have listed, you will have time to seek what career choice interest you more, and then you can choose your major accordingly. Right, now you should focus on getting your general education credits OUT OF THE WAY. Today, the way things are going, no job is guaranteed great pay. The reason I say this is because it is better to work in a field you enjoy and appreciate beyond the money.
I also recommend that you talk with your academic advisor at college. Mine helped me alot because I had the same problem when I first started college. You can also do a web search on various careers, read the salary, read the job requirements and definition of the job description. Also make sure to read the degree requirement,then do some research at college to see how many credits or classes are needed to obtain that specific degree..
Great JOB in going to college! I wish you the best of luck. I am positive that you will do well in all you have set out for yourself.
I wanna cook a nice desert for my boyfriend. with strawberry. Can someone give me a good recipe? thanks
Strawberry Pie
Get some strawberry gel glaze (normally in the section with the strawberries, grahm cracker pie shell or crust, pour the gel glaze in it, cut some strawberries up over it, top it with whipcream. It's easy to make, it takes NO baking.. chill it in the refrigerator for a couple of hours, and serve. Its great!
Ok this is going to sound really weird but like im 17 female and like since summer started i have been sweating a lot. I mean a lot. I put on a shirt and within 1 hour the armpit part of my shirt is wet. I'm a skiny girl and I dont no why this happens to me! Sometimes it makes my shirts by the armpits turn like yellowish brown and its disguesting. Ive tried wearing different kinds of deodorants but nothing works! Any advice?
Yes, you will have to go to the doctor. You have a gland problem. You can also try putting alcohol under your arms before using deo. I also recommend you to buy the secret clinical deo. It helps. Also being skinny or fat has nothing to do with gland and sweating issues,even though I understand why you would think so. Also, try mixing baby powder with the clinical strength deo. I would do all of those things first before going to the doctor. I think they will work. I have a friend with the same problem, so it happens to normal people all the time. Nothing to worry about dearheart.
Good Luck!
I have this discharge. Its yellow white. Sometimes it changes to brown a little. And it smells here and there. Need help asap! "/
I am sorry. I just was able to log in or I would have answered you sooner. I am sure you have gone to the doctor by now but just incase you haven't, you have an infection. I think its a STD, it could also be a really BAD bacteria infection, but more than likely its from having unprotected sex. If you haven't gone to the doctor yet, please go and DO NOT have sex until you have been treated. They will prescribe you some flagyl or some other type of antibiotic to take. Also if you are sexual,use protection.
Good Luck
I will start off by saying thanks for the advice. I understand how you feel and why you feel the way you do. I also feel this way sometimes, and I stress SOMETIMES. I do know that she fell out of love with me before she cheated, and I also know why she fell out of love with me. I know that it wasn’t my fault. Her expectations of marriage were different than mine. She believed that marriage was supposed to always be like it is in the beginning of the relationship; with the butterflies and sparks, etc. She also is the type of person that never wanted to talk about problems she was having. She would just keep things bottled inside and act like everything was ok. She is very non confrontational. So when she started having problems with the marriage, she never talked to me about it to try and fix it. All I was saying is that even though I know it wasn’t my fault, I still am hard on myself. It’s just the type of person I am. I am a perfectionist. Whatever I do, I must be the absolute best at. Now I thought I was the best husband (because I never heard any complaints from her) She used to brag to me to all of her friends, so I always was very proud to be who I was. Now after I discovered the affair we talked about where things went wrong and why she did it, I realized that I wasn’t perfect. There were some things that I should have done different. I am not condoning what she did, and I’m not placing the blame on only myself. I’m just saying I know that I can be a better husband than I was before. She also doesn’t blame me AT ALL. She realizes that she is the one who was unfaithful and hates herself for it.
As far as trust is concerned, of course I do not trust her right now, and she doesn’t expect me to. We both know that it will take a very long time for that to come back, and she knows that she is going to have to earn it. I won’t continue to stay in this marriage if I sense things are either getting worse, or not improving at all. I won’t be walked on, and my wife knows this. The reason that I have stayed so far, is because I love my wife with all of my heart. Despite all of this, I know she is genuinely a good person. She is going through a time of her life where she is really discovering who she is and what she wants in life. We were married very young, and she has changed a lot in the last year or so. I haven’t changed because my goals and expectations are still the same. I still want the same things I have always wanted. And I have all of those things right now, which is why I am not giving up on our marriage. My wife made a mistake. Yeah it was a HUGE one, but I do believe in second chances, and if she really wants this to work, and give me a second chance on being a better husband, than I will give her another chance also.
Now the only problem is this, I am not exactly sure what she wants. And that’s mainly because I don’t think even she knows what she wants, since she is changing and becoming more independent and growing up so to speak. (We are both 25) When she cheated on me, she immediately thought that our marriage was over. I told her it would be if she ever cheated on me and vice versa. She never in a million years expected me to forgive her. This threw her way off guard and really messed with her head, because she had already given up on the marriage. She thinks that there is no recovering from this. AND THIS IS WHY SHE WON’T COMMIT 100% YET. She doesn’t want to go through life miserable trying her hardest every day to make this work. Now I don’t believe this. I think it can get better, and she can love me again, and we can get back to the way things used to be; maybe even better since we would have gone through a crisis together and survived. These are the things I have been telling her, and why I came to you for advice. How do I become the man she once loved, and get her to fall back in love with me? I do believe that people fall in and out of love. There are no guarantees. Tomorrow I might meet another woman and fall in love. I could change. All I know is that right now, I love my wife very much, and I am not going to lose her without a fight. I will exhaust all options before I say it’s over. She is a great woman, and a very important part of my life. She just became week, and this guy took advantage of her. BTW, I know this guy is a complete lowlife for doing what he did. And I didn’t mean I think he is superman. I was using that as a metaphor for what she seen in him. Since the relationship between them was very new and fresh, she hadn’t yet seen any of his flaws, or bad qualities. He was perfect. Hence, Superman. So I hope that cleared some things up. If you have any more questions feel free to ask. I am willing to hear whatever you have to say.
I don't have any other questions.. I did see this question earier this week and I didn't answer it because I feel like many of the subjects you have addressed have been previously discussed.. After you told me you had already been trying, I came to the conclusion that she just does not want this anymore... I understood the superman metaphor which is why I said he is in a wheelchair now.. what I was saying to you is this, she may not see his flaws now but eventually she will see his flaws as he develops new ones... if you have the energy to fight, do it. I wouldn't personally... I wouldn't keep stretching out my hand to be slapped and not held. To each it's own. I wish you the best of luck and I do encourage counseling...
So I recently went on the depo provera birth control shot and I was supposed to get my period on may 30th and it's june 20th.. could it be the birth control?
Look, you have to make an appointment with a doctor. It could be deprovera or it could be pregnancy. I have a friend in the same situation right now.. she took a pregnancy test and it came out positive.. So,I would first take a test to see if you are pregnant (if it's possible) and make an appointment with the doctor to see what's going on for FACT.. Make sure that shot is agreeing with you,because It didn't for me. I ended up having a hysterectomy in later years!!!
Good Luck and please consult your doctor that issued the shot dearheart.
I just need someone else I guess to help me plan ahead on what I can do to help my family. I'll try to summarize as best as possible.
- My father lost a trial and is now serving 5 years.
- My mother has been sick since I was 9 with various things (pancreatic cancer, plus more.)
- I have five other brothers and sisters, two younger sisters still living at home and one younger brother is as well.
I came home after I heard my father was going into jail to help out, however, I wasn't given power over accounts or to pay bills or anything. My mother wanted to do it.
My father left a generous sum of money for my family to live off of, and then there was additional money in another account he wanted to roll over after his birthday so the taxes wouldn't be too heavy and use that to help support the big house my mother and my siblings are living in.
While I have been working and trying to just help clean up the house, my sisters stole my mother's debit card and has used it to buy $400 cell phones, a trip to Florida one weekend, fixing a friend's car, etc. They spent nearly $20,000 in about two months. (Again, my mother is sick and doesn't keep up with financial statements too well.)
When I found out, I and another sibling put a stop to it but all we could do is get the card canceled. (I couldn't get a hold of my mom at that second and we wanted to stop it before they spent any more.) Nothing they bought is really returnable. They broke the cell phone, and other things were from places where things it couldn't be returned, or like hotel room stays, etc.
My parents were told, but little was done. My sisters were told to get jobs and they would pay back the money, but it has been a month since then. My sisters are hanging out with friends and not working. I even offered to help them get jobs, and it's like pulling teeth.
My brother living here is working hard and paying for things with his own money to help support the house, as I am. If my father ends up staying for the full five years, I don't think even with us both working full time and the money pulled from my dad's savings that we could afford to keep the house running on our own for the next five years.
My questions are:
- What could I do to help maybe lower house payments or raise more money to help out?
- What can I do about my sisters that spent the money? My mom won't kick them out of the house or do much more than yell at them.
- How does parole work and what is the likelihood of it happening? (I live in Louisiana if that's needed.)
- My mother thinks she can get on disability, and it would help if she could, but I was wondering with so much money in her account from the stock, would the government say she has too much to take in disability?
We can't sell the house, not in the current condition and with no one buying, we'd be paying mortgage and rent if we were to move someplace smaller.
Anyone have some ideas? I really appreciate any thoughts.
FIRST: If you did do something legal regarding your sisters taking money in the way that they did, Nothing would happen unless your mother pressed charges and sought legal action; UNLESS you are power of attorney over the money, and assets.
Second,Disability isn't income based.. it's based on your mom's ability to work or not due to medical reasons. So, she can apply for it and hire an attorney before she does apply in effort of avoiding red tape.
THIRD: I take my hat off to you and your brother for working to help your mom take care of the house. In regards to saving the house, there is nothing you can do legally on that unless your name is on the house. However, if your mom applies to disability then, her assigned caseworker can step in and help her with additional assistance available for her. Be sure she seeks legal advice and representation before applying for disability!!!
Good Luck and I am praying for you. I encourage your mom to apply for disability!!
My boyfriend and I have an age differences, I really didn't worry about it because I didn't think it was that big until my brother said something.
I was born:
March 20th 1994
He was born:
Oct 31st 1992
There is NOTHING wrong with the age of you and your boyfriend at all!!! Your brother has another issue and it has nothing to do with you and your boyfriend.. ask your brother what the real issues is..I will tell you what it is: You have a boyfriend, period!!!
Ok I was at a party and I was kind of fliritng with this girl. We were both sober. Later that night we sat next to each other on the couch and she let me put my arm around her. Then the two of us made out in the rain. When I left the party I texted her later that day and asked what her favorite part of the party was. She replied it was meeting me. Is there more to this or is this just like a party hookup kinda.
Hard to say right now.. call her and ask her out! tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better and see where that goes. Make sure she is single first, hell don't get caught up in some triangle cross type of crap.. if she is single, go for it. Make the first approach. I think she just may like you too! She may be waiting on you to let her know what's up! Good Luck