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Talkative unattractive?
15/F
I found out today that guys dont like talkative girls. The radio had a disucussion on it, and my class had a discussion on it too. Guys find that "unattrcative" in some cases. I talk alot, im known for that. I dont want to change the person i am to impress guys, but im hearing that guys really dont like that. I have heared it before and im still hearing it. I dont know what to do, i dont like being quiet, i have the larger then life personality. What should I do? Thanks :)
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You see, I tend to babble. Its okay to talk alot. My guyfriends find it kinda cute. Just be sure not to get so loud as it can come off as obnoxious. Use good grammar, work on your vocab, and its okay to ask onceinawhile if youre running your mouth. Most important::keep the conversation cool, dont let him be bored!!!
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you should just be yourself. and ofcouse some guys will like you, and others will not. sometimes the radio says those things to just entertain people. pretty much like how gossip entertains people. so just be yourself. and a true guy will like you for you. not just what the radio is saying.
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I feel like I need to put this into context for you.
What you found was not that 'all guys dislike talkative girls' what you found out today was that 'A classroom of teenage guys will agree with the statement that they dislike talkative girls when it is suggested to them.'
So what is the trouble with being talkative? Nothing. What people, guys included, don't like, are other people who ignore them, don't listen to what they have to say and aren't interested in listening. The trick to be 'attractive' is often to be attentive. Listen to what another person is saying, ask questions that let them know you are interested in thier perspective and don't talk over them.
You don't have to change yourself or your personality, just take special care to listen with other people have something to say.
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I don't think it's just being "talkative" that guys don't like... I think it depends on what the girl is talking about, and how she's saying it.
For instance, some girls like to talk constantly with their boyfriends about their relationship... their feelings, what the guy's doing wrong, whether he still likes her or not, etc. Any little problem requires a two hour, in-depth discussion about the relationship. And that's a major whip for most guys.
And then there's the "know-it-all" types; they have to always be right, and they don't stop talking until they've made their point. Or they take over conversations and don't let anyone else get a word in. Or they talk non-stop about themselves in an effort to impress people. That can be annoying to anyone, guys AND girls.
On the other hand, most guys love to have meaningful discussions or friendly debates with girls. And if a girl can talk for hours with a guy about something that interests him, he'll definitely find that attractive.
So I wouldn't worry about it. Like you said, it's only unattractive in "some" cases (and only to "some" guys). In most cases, being talkative gives guys the impression that you're a friendly, approachable, likeable person.
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you will find a guy that likes you for exactly who you are and you will not have to change a thing. the guys who want you to change are not worth it.
who knows, you might find a talkative guy that likes you...lol
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I think you don't have to change who you are, just maybe be careful to see how they are feeling and be sure to ask questions about their life. It's a proven fact: people like to talk about themselves. If you let them talk a little and listen, you may learn something useful or interesting. But by all means don't try to change into the quiet, shady type if you're not. Good luck with that!
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The only reason guys don't like talkative girls is when they talk all the time, every second and twenty four hours. Some guys just want one of those comfortable silences where you don't talk and just chill. you don't have to change yourself because guys like girls who can keep a conversation going but not when they feel they feel they have to talk at all times. Just remember that and you'll be fine:)
hope i helped.
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actuallly all the guys ive dated really like talkative girls bc they dont have to start all the conversations and its easier for them to be theirselves around you. just stay yourself and if guys dont like that you talk a lot then forget about them and move on to something better! good luck :)
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