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My boyfriend always calls me very sweet things like beautiful and gorgeous. I am just wondering about some ideas of things to say back to him. I don't want to give him mixted signals when I do say anything back. I need some advice on how to respond to those things and what to say back. (link)
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You could react with an "Awww..you are so sweet baby" or you could smile shyly (but naturally). You could compliment him back on his looks too but it would be good if it's truly from the bottom of your heart.
In times when you can't find anything to say, you don't necessarily have to always go with a tit for tat. You could give him a hug, kiss on the neck/cheek, or kiss him on the lips to show your appreciation too.
You could also be the first to initiate all these sweet talk too and these could be a form of return to the fact that he has been so sweet in complimenting you all these while.
Sometimes, when he tells you such things, it doesn't mean that he wants to get a compliment back in return too. Sometimes when your bf tells you such things, he just wants to see you smile sweetly/shyly, and he just wants to see you happy with him.
I used to react quite badly to such things bcos Im in general an extremely shy person. When my bf kept telling me those things , I kept blushing and looking down (I totally had no idea what to say) and once I even told him to shut up bcos I don't know how to react at all bcos i felt so red and shhy and he just kept staring at me cheekily. And even though i had nothing to say in return, he simpy laughed gently and told me that he loved seeing my reaction.
So, just be yourself. If you dun have a sincere compliment to return, just reciprocate with gestures. Sometimes, a simple stroke of his hair, or a kiss of the cheek is a sweet enough response for you two to soak in the ambience.
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Okay so theirs this guy , we met 3 years ago were the same age 14 and well the day we met he asked me out ;o but me not knowing anything about him I rejected him I felt this was right plus I didn't like him at the time . But after that he suddenly stopped going where I would see him and a few months passed and I saw him again he kept staring and staring he would give me all these signs that he likes me but he wouldn't talk to me and when I told someone to ask him if he knew who I was he said no o.O but he started going again we didn't talk but his friends would always stare at me and they would kinda like give him a little push as a signal I was their and when I pass by they would start saying his name and he would start blushing and when we had these games he would show off a lot infront of me this one time we were playing soccer and I had the ball and he saw and he went straight for it and chased me but we still didn't talk but he makes a lot of eye conact with me and now last Friday he texted me :o and he wanted me to go to his house but I couldn't since it was 3 in the morning and he also asked me if I had a boyfriend ;o and he kept winking faceing me and then on Saturday it turns out I had to go to a party where he lives and when he saw me get outta the car he went up to his immediatley to change cus he was wearing the same shirt he had on Friday and he came back down and he kept staring and staring but didn't do anything and where I'm confused is he stopped texting outta nowhere on Friday but my question is does he like me ? I want to know since I'm starting to fall for him /:
ay and hasn't texted back /: but my question is does he like me (link)
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I think what he needs from you is some sort of affirmation that you are into him too. From what I understand in your writing, I see that you have not given him some form of affirmation such as you rejecting him to go to his house 3 in the morning.
I mean of cos you aren't obliged to go to his house at 3 in the morning, but don't just stop short at telling him you're not going to go to his house, you could tell him something like "3 is a litte late, how bout tomorrow morning at 10? I'd like that :)". Good luck!
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So...I have a guy-friend who I've developed feelings for...(I'm putting this in the "friendship" category because he is taken, and I've made it clear to him that I have no intention of trying to break them up, I just think me liking him might be relevant in some way)
Anyways...after he asked me whether or not I liked him, he told me it was okay and that he understood and that we would still be friends...we talked, texted, hung out quite a bit...and then he just stopped. He vaguely told me he was upset about something, but nothing more...I've tried to break the ice a few times, but I have not been badgering him or making him feel like he is obligated to me or anything...I DID tell him he could talk to me about it if he wanted, but has said nothing to me at all ever since.
What the heck?! We were getting along so well. It just sort of...happened. One day we were hanging out, and then he just stopped all contact with me. I really miss him. =( I never put any "moves" on him unless we were jokingly flirting with each other...but I do that with a lot of my platonic guy friends...I honestly don't think there was anything I did wrong, but perhaps some of you might have experienced something similar? Please tell me what would cause this kind of behavior... (link)
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Hi,
I assumed that when you said "Anyways...after he asked me whether or not I liked him, he told me it was okay and that he understood and that we would still be friends", it meant that he is aware that you do like him.
I have had such experience b4; with me being in your position, and also with me being in the position of your guy friend.
From my personal experience. I feel that he is avoiding you because of a few possibilities
1) His gf doesn't like the idea of you two hanging out together. Athough you may tell him that you have no intention of breaking them up, but sometimes, such words do not provide assurance to his gf. Put yourself in his gf's shoes: would you like it if your bf had a friend who was like you?
2) He doesnt want to risk falling in love with you because with more time spent together, the deeper and more complicated a relationship goes. It may be possible for him to be okay with it now, but he might've felt that he doesn't want to risk losing his current relationship or that he doesn't want to risk being stranded in a situation where he has to choose between two girls.
I would think that its best if you let him think through it and leave him be for now first. If he is ready to contact you, he will do so. After a while has passed and if you still have not heard from him since, you could drop him a friendly hi and ask him wats' up, and see how he reacts and you go with the flow from there on.
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17/f. I am "talking to"/dating this great guy. We're not official yet because we're getting to know each other better. Anyway, he is so freaking nice to me. We went on a date, and he picked me up, opened every door for me (car doors included), paid for everything, met my parents, and he even insisted on programming my home address into his GPS so I wouldn't have to sit there and tell him where to go (so we would have more time to actually talk). He's just such an outstanding guy... and I feel like he's doing all the giving and I'm doing all the taking. I want to show him that I'm as interested in him as he is in me. Any suggestions? Nothing sexual please. (link)
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You can start by giving him a lot of attention. Be interested (genuinely) in what he has to say and always welcome his phone calls or text msges. When you're talking to him, you can pretend tt the surrounding is really noisy, go near him and speak into his ear. Or you could lightly touch his arm when you're laughing, or when he's walking in the wrong direction, you can guide him by hooking his arm or just holding it with your hands.
Alternatively, if you're daring enough, you could hint to him. Because sometimes, guys like you, but they just don't dare to tell it to you because he isnt getting any positive signals yet.But from my experience, hinting is really good because it is sort of like a stepping stone and it gives guys the courage to tell you bout their feelings.
Just a little side point: Dress up a little more to get his attention. Dress a little more, but not too revealing, yet don't look like you're trying too hard. Dun spend the whole day thinking bout whether your hair is messy or not. Wear wat I'd call hassle-free clothes: clothes that doesn't require you to constantly adjust.
Most importantly, just relax and be how you are around him. He apparently likes the way you are now so don't go changing tt. Lastly, Smile! Guys like girls to smile and be naturally cheerful. Just have a great time around him, and be yourself =)
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okay soooooo, i dated this guy for about 2 years. i was in lovee with him. for about the last 3 months of our relationship he broke up with me like 3 times! but he would always come back to me within a week or what not. the last time he broke up with me he didnt come back.. i tried really hard to make it work and be with him but he said it wasnt like that anymore. so for about a month we still talked and i told him i still loved him and i always would, but then i realized that he really only thought of me as a friend and that only being friends with him would be too hard for me.
so i stopped contact with him and for the next month we didnt talk at all! i ended up seeing him at this get together and i didnt speak to him at all. the next day he ended up texting me? and was like ohh thanks for saying hi to me at the party! i was just like haha ok. and then he was like haha! and i didnt text him back. a week later he texted me telling me he was going off to college. i dont know why he was telling me this considering we didnt talk and he even removed me from his myspace friends list? anyways i just responded like ya thats cool.
about 3 days later he called me and we actually talked for about an hour, he told me that he wanted me to visit him and i just told him that it wouldnt be a good idea.
the next day he called me again saying i should really come up that weekend and i just said idk. and he was like i miss you, i think i really do love you and all this stuff, and it made me of course miss him again.. so that weekend i went up to see him and it was really good! he kept holding me and kissing me and calling me babe and stuff but when i left he told me "you know we're not dating tho okay?" like why the heck would he even say that? i know we're not dating..? and i didnt even say anything about us dating? it just kind of confused me like idk.
and then after i left he didnt text / call me or anything. so the next night i texted him and he didnt text me back. so i texted him later and said "thanks for texting me back!" and he texted me and said "you'reee annoying" like wtf? so i called him and i was like "whats your problem?" and hes like "nothing you keep texting mee and im busy. your crazy" like what the hell is his problem? and i was like "why are you acting so weird all of a sudden just yesterday you were telling me how much you loved me, now im annoying?" and hes like "i gotta go i have to write a paper ill call you later" and i was like ok.. and we hung up. he didnt call me that night or the next day. im soo confused like whys he being like this? we dated for 2 years, he put me threw so much pain of breaking up with me and coming back to me, all i wanted was to be with him, and i finally started to get over him and now hes coming back to me, is he breaking it off again or is he just having a bad time, what do you think. i really love him again, and i want to make it work again, but i cant if i dont know how he feels. but i dont want to straight out say "how do you feel tell me how you feel, what do you think about me" cause that sounds weird. but what do you think? does he still have love me? or whatts going on with him and what should i do (link)
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Your ex is being an inconsiderate bastard. Pardon me for saying that.
There could be a few reasons why he's picking you up and then dropping you off again. (1) He still likes you, but feels that it is difficult to continue a relationship with you maybe because he feels you two aren't compatible in ways that I don't know what it is.
(2) He does not have those feelings you have for him, and he texts you when he feels the need for companionship, since he knows that you still like him and you'll respond to his needs.
In both cases, it'll hurt you if you continue talking to him. I understand that you still like him, but sometimes, we have to move on when the other party does not have mutual feelings towards you. There is nothing wrong with moving on. If you were to think carefully, will you be happy if you carry on talking to him?
I hope you'll realise what is the right thing to do.
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my bf does't speak to his ex gf or anything anymore so i wouldn't really class them as mates, but she got beat up by her current bf the other day and my boyfriend went to see her =S When i asked him why he was going he said because she is his mate :S but they never talk so they can't really be that good mates can they. I have been with my bf for 10 months so it isn't as if he has just finished with his ex...he hasn't been with her for years. Do u think i should be bothered about this ? =\ I kinda am but i dont know if i should say anything to him... ? Please help ... would you be bothered ? Thanks x (link)
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You shouldnt be asking if we are bothered, because different people will react differently. If I told you I will not be bothered, does it make you feel any better? It might influence you to not be bothered, but you won't be happy because that's not how you would usually react.
That aside, get some assurance from him. He went to see her because she needed someone's support and encouragement right now. Most girls will not be happy when her bf still have connections with his ex. But you should talk to him and if he tells you he's just being there as a friend for her, then trust him for that. If you feel that he gives you a rather shady response, tell him your honest opinion that he isn't sparing a thought for your feelings.
Position yourself in his shoes. Imagine it was you who went to see an ex of yours. How would you feel if your bf accused you if you simply went there as a mate? But then again, whether he is there as a mate or not is really hard to tell simply based on what you told us. I suggest you talk to him, and don't keep your feelings bottled up.
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I’m very confused about this guy in my math class. I’m seriously not sure whether he likes me or hates me. My mom
He never talks to me unless I talk to him (which is not very often) and whenever I do talk to him, he never looks at me. I sit next to him in math class, and whenever I’m around him, there is always some kind of awkward tension. Generally, though, he seems to avoid me like the plague. But today, when it was time to start doing classwork, I got out my notebook from my backpack, and he tore me out a sheet of binder paper without me asking him.
Oddly, he’s usually very friendly and open around other kids, except for me. My mom told me that when guys like girls, sometimes they behave the exact opposite. Is this true? Does it sound like this is the case in this situation?
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Your mum does have a point. But you must understand that for a given reaction, there can be many possibilties for giving the reaction he gives to you. What your mum pointed out is just one of the possibilities.
I suggest you interact with him more before jumping to conclusions because right now, there's too little info for us to conclude whether or not he likes you. It is also better that you don't straight away jump to thinking bout whether he likes you right now, because you both hardly know each other, and what's more, thinking that he likes you will get your hopes higher.
Talk to him more, then see how it goes.
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All of my life I would eat sugary stuff in mass quantities. Everything was fine until recently. I think that now my body is unable to control this extreme amount of sugar that has piled up inside of me because I suffer from incontinence - even if I take in small quantities of sugar.
The thing is I can't resist sugar; Like, I can finish a freezer full of icecream or a whole cake or a whole jar of jam in a few hours. This has caused me to suffer from incontinence an uncountless number of times ...I've even had public embarrasments.
So now I try to not eat any sugar for several days and then on my days off, I go overboard (on sugar) to make up for what I missed out on.
The problem is that when I don't take any sugar, I don't have any energy and wind up sleeping most of the day, unable to accomplish anything. And on the days that I do take sugar, I suffer from incontinence.
So , my questions are:
1. How do I resist sugar?
2. How do I gain energy naturally without eating sugar? (link)
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Hey, You could go for artificially sweetened things. Look out for the ingredient "aspartame". It will not contribute any calories cos it's something like a lying agent that will "trick" your taste buds into thinking that you are tasting smthing sweet, but aspartame isn't sugar so no worries there.
You can't gain energy naturally without eating sugar. Glucose is our metabolic fuel. Fats are also our metabolic fuel. But i doubt you'd wan to stock up on fats cos it's unhealthy to do so. You have to consume carbohydrates and of cos proteins and fats in the right amounts. You can't stay away from sugar. Your body needs it.
Exercise makes you more refreshed. I'm referring to light exercises such as jogging, hoola-hooping etc and not those strenous exercises such as swimming and badminton. Strenous exercises make you more tired. Each time you feel like sleeping, snack on artificially sweetened snacks, or suck on a sweet or chew a gum or drink water.
It also takes will power and determination to tell urself to keep awake without relying on sugar.
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do guys really get boners every 90 minutes? (link)
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No, they may most likely have a higher sex drive than girls, but that doesn't mean they're THAT horny to the extent of boning every 90 min
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i was friends with benefits with this guy for a year and just recently he got back together with his ex. they've been going out for 2 weeks and he wants to have phone sex with me already. for me its tempting but i dont want to be the girl he cheats with because i consider phone sex as cheating but he thinks that as long as we're not physical then its not cheating. what do you guys think? (link)
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Its not physical cheating but its emotional cheating. He's doing things behind his gf's back; if that's not cheating then wat would u call it?
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ok well I'm about to move in a school with a uniform and this girl told me to roll up my skirt or else..yeah.
I don't want to look slutty or anything but you know, there's always a good way of dresing, and then there's a BETTER way of dressing. I just want to fit in a little with the girls and not be so..nooby with the clothing thing.
How high is the skirt supposed to reach to? and when you roll it, do you roll it outwards or inwards?
If you don't understand what I'm going through, think of it as the girl in the Grudge 2, only if i remember how she did it I wouldn't be asking this question.
Thank you sooo much for taking your time answering this! (link)
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We normally roll our skirts outwards. But make sure your blouse overlaps the rolls and make sure it also overlaps the creases that appear as a result of rolling.
One impt thing to note: don't let the others see thru the fact tt you rolled your skirt. It's supposed to look as though its perfect for you, you get wat I mean?
I'd use a draw string in my blouse. So instead of tucking in my blouse, I tighten the draw string to create an effect which looks as though I did tuck in my blouse but at the same time, my blouse doesn't look too short.
Hope you get what i mean, cos i dun quite understand wat i'm trying to say :S
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Ok, so there's these DC shoes that I am totally in love with, but I'm not sure which color to get them in. I like them all but I want ones that will match with mostly anything. I would much rather the black ones, dark brown and light blue, or black and pink but I just can't decide which ones! I know this isn't too important, but I need new shoes and I need your help! Thanks!
Oh, and here's the link;
http://www.amazon.com/DC-Shoes-Womens-Pixie-Emerald/dp/B000JLA4FG/ref=pd_bbs_2/102-9906456-5812130?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1185228818&sr=8-2 (link)
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Wow I quite like those shoes. The white ones are all nice. But I personally like the white/ocean one the best. If you want your shoes to really stand out, then pick the white/dark pink one.
Don't pick the black one cos the design isn't as bold and obvious as the rest.
If you wanna pick a dark coloured shoe, choose the dark chocolate/blue one. It's the nicest dark coloured shoe in my opinion.
Have fun =)
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I found a kitten the other day at work, I think it was dropped off there. It is infested with fleas they are all over him. I have given him the treatments that you squirt stuff behond there necks, I have given him a flea bath but they are still all over him. What else can I do to get rid of the fleas. I feel bad because I am leaving him in a rabbut cage thats pretty big in the garage, because I don't want to bring him in the house and get all my other animals infested, so what else can I do to eliminate all these little critters? Any help would be very appriciated! Fast Too! (link)
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I would say, the best thing is to bring him to a vet and get the right medication. He might need oral medication. You'll never know. Bring him to a vet immediately.
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I dyed my hair blue and it fades everytime I wash it and is always still a little green for the times i dyed it because my hair was a platinum blonde and then 2 or 3 weeks later i dyed it again and it turned out exactly the way i wanted and then I washed my hair and it went back to fading green and grey. and I don't want to go bald but I don't think my hair is that damaged but i dyed it about 4 days ago so how long do I have to wait to dye it again? and I'm going brown this time.
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You should give yourself a month's break after your previous dying stint. Also, dying your hair blue is the worst colour you can ever choose becos
1) You have to bleach your hair for the blue to seep in
2) The colour breakdown is horrible. And the blue usually doesn't stay for long.
You should go to a salon and get a treatment cream. There are some self heating treatment creams then doesn't require you to have a huge steamer or hot towel. The cream heats up naturally when applied and allows nutrients to penetrate your scalp.
Go get a treatment cream/shampoo or ask for advice from your hairdresser. It's worth the money.
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how should i feel when i see some1 who broke my heart after 3yrs? When i saw him today i wanted to throw up and cry. should i feel that way? it's just that after seein him maid me mad and sad it's a hard to see him it makes me really angry. he didn't even give me a reason when he broke up with me. it really fuckin sucks. i hurts like hell too. some1 tell me how i should deal with this. PLEASE. THKS (link)
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If seeing him makes you feel so uncomfortable, then do whatever you can to bring him out of your life. It's not a matter bout whether you should feel this way, cos you can't control it.
If I were you, I'd choose not to ask him bout the reason for the breakup. Becos I'm alr as sad as it is and I don't wish to linger too long on this broken relationship. But it's really up to you, you could try asking him why he broke up with you, cos you have every right to know.
The best way to deal with this is to stop thinking bout it and get out of your grieving state. Do the things that you really wanted to do but did not have the chance to. Make full use of the time that you have instead of brooding over and burying in self pity.
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In the movie, American Pie (the first one), when Jim (the main guy in the movie) and Nadia are on his bed and she's looking at his porn magazines and they start to get close and shes like naked under a robe and he starts stripping and has his boxers on, what happens? I watched it all but she kept getting all dissapointed and all the guys from school watching on his webcam kept saying, NOT AGAIN JIM? what happened? cause i dont understand. thankss (link)
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Because he sprayed his shorts. And when guys do that, their penis become flaccid. So he can't 'satisfy' Nadia.
Hmm, at least that's wat i think it is. I may be wrong.
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You know the drill, a family members making cake, or bacon, the smell is so powerful its almost impossible to not smell.
So you take a deep breath inhaling the fantastic smell right before you ask "whats cookin'?"
Anyways, is it possible that when you took that deep breath that you've inhaled calories?
I know the amounts are insignificant if any, but is it possible? (link)
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Hey Clara,
I got an huge issue now.. I talked to him via msn and he said:
Mona says: what did I do to lose that trust?
N Sharma says: i dont think i ever did
N Sharma says: when i walked into that coffee shop
N Sharma says: saw you
N Sharma says: i thought this girl can be the one
N Sharma says: by the end of the night
N Sharma says: i didnt feel the same
I asked him if I cud meet him in person to clear any missunderstandings he said I'll try.. he said tonite he is seeing some friends and tomarrow too and saturday hes going to a wedding I said how about tomarrow before you go see your friends he said i'l try. I said well I would appreciate it if yoiu can try.. he said Ok.. like I dont get it.. maybe I gave in too easily SEX wise or the fact that I was really shy while with him. I dunno. He wont give me a proper response and I dunno wat to do. im going crazy here.. arrrrghh help me plssss.. can I call you and talk to u about this.. plsss
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I'm so sorrie I didnt get to reply you instantly. I was sleeping. You can talk to me via msn. It's clarayow@hotmail.com.
If he feels you are easy, then isn't he being easy too? Isn't he going on a one night stand then? He sounds like a rather stubborn person.
Since he feels this way then let it be. You drive yourself nuts over this issue but it's not going to help matters. For now, leave him be and if he seems so reluctant to meet up with you, then drop him. Nothing is going into his head. His mindset is already fixed at that.
Tell me more in msn.
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How can I make rice taste more interesting?
I like to eat it with sugar on it, but I
know thats probably not very healthy! (link)
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Have you heard of fried rice? Fry it with egg, corn, onions, soya sauce and prawns/ham/any
meat you like in a frying pan.
Pineapple rice is when you add pineapple cubes to the above fried rice combination.
You can also add seaweed to rice or pour melted cheese over rice. Yummy.
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HI Clara,
I have asked him before he came down if he thinks we can have something.. he said AFTER we meet yes its possible. and Im sure he wants to have a relationship.. cause I beleive he is looking for that as well. He said he liked me and that I looked much more prettier in person than I did in my pics so I took that as a good sign and I had mentioned to him during the date that I would like to see him again before he leaves.. he said yah.. so I dunno why all this.. He didnt beleive me at first that I didnt have sex before and when I said if you dont wanna beleive me thats your choice.. and he said afterwards that he was sorry.. I said dont be its okay..I asked him on Monday if he wants to do something on tuesday.. he said he doesnt think he has anything but he will let me know. which he didnt and I asked him via txt and msn do you still wanna do something he didnt respond..but he still talked to me normally the last nite when I talked to him he was tired and said that he is exhausted cause he drove to the border on monday to get something renewed.. and it took 7 hrs and that he came back at 4 in the morning.. I said he shud go to sleep then later a few mins later I asked him to stay.. I said stay pls for a few mins.. he said thats my biggest pet peeve im sorry and went offline.. I guess maybe I annoyed him.. I dunno Clara.. I so want for him to like but the right way. not cause he thinks im easy.. I guess he asked me that qusetion cause I am 26 and I still havent given it up to anyone before.. I was about to cry when he didnt beleive me.. I was like oh my gawd.. I cant beleive hes saying that.. (link)
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Hey, don't be sad. Sometimes we can't blame people for the way they see things. If he doesn't seem to believe you, then don't strangle yourself over trying to make him do so. You know it yourself and time will show. Be patient. I know it's hard and frustrating when people don't get you, girl, it happens to everyone and anyone.
You didnt annoy him. You happen to catch him at a bad time. He was just feeling really tired and when people are tired, they tend to type whatever is in their head at the moment. Don't keep repeating and insisting that he was your first. IT'll make him doubt you rather than believe you. You did good in telling him that it's his choice to believe you or not. You've done your part in making your stand and it's up to him to believe you. Right now, it's not that he doesn't trust you, it's just that he wants to know the truth.
Meanwhile, go and do other things so that you don't let this situation drive you insane. Give yourself a breather. Set a date with him and if he can't seem to find a time out for you, then there's nothing you can do. Even if you try persistantly to get him out, and let's say he agrees to go out with you, the date will not turn out to be a good and happy one because you are going out with an unreluctant partner.
SO, ask him for a free day and tell him it would be nice if you could have some confirmation. If he doesn't wanna set a date yet, then leave it. Sometimes, people will hanker after you only when you start leaving them alone.
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