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why the competition?
me and my group of friends about 9 of us always hang out together. theres 5 girls and they are each different. i noticed that they are competitive. because 1 of them im really good friends with and she tells me everything. she tells me about what the other girls say about her and how they said things to make her feel bad, because 2 of them liked my other friend rob.
it's a big mess, but now the other girls started to tell me stuff too. you kno what they all said? not to tell any1 anything they told me. so now almost all of them tell me things about how they dont like 1 or 2 of them because of things they said to them or said to other people. its confusing and they are trying to out-do the other just for my friend, and just to make sure that 1 girl doesnt get more attention than the other.
2 questions: why all this competition, i mean are girls always like this? and two, what should i do, stay out of it or help them? i've known them for a long time and i like all of them as friends, but they dont seem to get along. please help me
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I had a similar problem. It's hard when you have ALOT of friends, rather than just one or two. You just need to remember I'm sure you have your own set of problems, you never have to listen to them explain there issues, or talk about your other friends. I think the reason they compete is because they all like you and they probably know that other people are talking about them and they think if they get alot of attention from you than they look like your favorite. It seems like your pretty popular but that is no reason to have to listen to other people talking about your friends.If I were in your situation which I was, I would probably explain to them when they came up to me and started talking about my friend I would be like, I have to go, I will talk to you later or something. You don't need to come out and be like I don't want to talk about her. You just need to find a reason to leave the conversation. It's important that you don't talk about your friends alot. It is just asking for trouble. I kept going with the talking about other people, I ended up loosing all my friends including the girl who was talking about people. I hope I helped at all! Good Luck. Keep your chin up! I love feedback good and bad! :)
Love,
Molly
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Let me enlighten you from what I have found out. It is universal truth:
All women secretly hate each other(or one another--which goes your language perferance) .
And I know what thats like to know a bunch of junk like that. What you can do is contradict all the bad points they give you about the person with good ones. Or completely ignore the conversation. Better yet as soon as they start something like "know what I hate" or even "I hate" interupt them saying "well if your anything like me, you dont hate anything but really dislike when people talk behind other peoples backs."
You could just let them vent to you. Some people need to get things out while others dont. Just be there and let them get it out. (but thats annoying and I like my first idea better.)
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Girls naturally tend to be competitive(not all of them).I think you should stay out of it.Joining in will just make you more confused.
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i definately know what you're talking about. my friend is extremely competitive & everyone notices & no one says anything. why?? she's nice & they don't want her offended, but she overdoes it at times & it can become really annoying. girls aren't always like this, but yes it's really common. you shouldn't tell the other girls what a girl told you. why?? because if they wanted the girls to know, they wouldn't of told you not to. you should probably talk to each of them seperately & explain how you feel about their situation. you could stay out've it for some time, but you'll eventually need to help anyway. juss talk to each & see what you can do.
-hope that helped!♥
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