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Our moms object, but we wanna be together.
I'm 14 year old gurl. okay to my question..I like my moms bestfriends son, my mom and his mom have been friends since highschool and there now around 40 years old. Anyways I like her son and he likes me too..we have discussed dating eachother, and really want to but our parents won't let us because their afraid if we break up that it will destroy their friendship, I just really want to date and be with him but dont want my mom and his to hatte me for it.
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I think you and the guy should sit down and have a serious talk with both your moms, let them know how you really truly feel. Once they realize how much you want this, they will understand, or they should understand. You also need to understand where they are coming from. They have been friends for a long time, and they do not want to lose each other. If you truly want to date this guy, then you need to make your moms understand. I can't guarantee anything, but once they know, seriously, how you feel...they might come around.
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You and your moms bestfriends son should try dating.. just go with what you want to do. You two shouldn't have to suffer just because your moms want to be friends forever. So there has to be a way for you two to date..and your moms to still be together. So here it is, don't tell them anything about your relationship..just only like how much you two get along. If your fighting, don't let her know because that can bring some tension between the two moms. When/if it comes time to breaking up..just tell the parents that you two would much rather be friends...even if it was like someone cheated on someone, or you two got in a fight because moms will always pick sides. I had this happen with my brother and his girlfriend..my mom and her mom are good friends..and my brother and her daughter were dating..and the moms were just like "we don't care if you break up and hate eachother leave us out of it" ..because they wanted to be friends and not come apart from eachother. Try telling your mom how much you like this guy..and how its not fair how you can't date him just because the moms don't want their friendship destroyed.
Good luck!!!
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Your mom makes a good point. None the less, a harmless relationship shouldn't ruin years of them being friends. Most ex`s go back to being friends after they have a little time to re-cooperate. Let your mom know, that if something happens between you and the boy, you're both willing to try your hardest to keep the friendship alive. :)
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ok i would clamly tell your mom that she is being unfair, and that if you wanna date him, it should up to you and not your mom. and that if you break up with him that it should effect his mom and your mom's friendship. hoped i help
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First of all I think your mom is being unfair. If they have this great friendship then why can't it withstand if you and the son breakup. I guess you should think about what you would do in your moms place. But if I were in this situation and I really liked a guy and he liked me back, and I thought it was more than just a fling, like it could actually be something than I would probably go for it. That might be helpful or not helpful advice. Family comes first to me, but your mom and his mom have been friends since highschool, they should be able to handle it if you and her son breakup. I mean I'm sure they have been through a lot of fights and if they are still friends than I'm sure they figured out how to work things out. I hope I helped at all. Good luck! I love feedback good and bad!
Love,
Molly
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it has nothing to do with your mom its the same as a crush at school it just happens your moms are friends
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Date the kid. Parents are so self centered. Screw them just date him who cares if you break up? That's between you and him not your parents. Go ahead and date him
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I think you should talk to your mom about dating him. Tell her how much you like him and maybe she will understand. If she still says no you should beg and plead to her. Tell her that her friendship with his mom will not get ruined!!! I know that if I were you I would be really upset if my mom didn't let me go out with a boy I really like just because she is being a worry wort. Tell her to take chances. I hope you get to go out with him. good luck!!
Alli
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I think you need to talk to your mom about this.Tell her how you really like him,and so does the son.Try to convince her that if you guys do break up,the friendship won't be ruined.Sounds really obvious,but just try it!
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