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alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :)

Girl, relax :) In reality, there is probably only a handful of people who have actually had sex, rather than a bunch of people that claim they have just to feel cool. And to be honest, some of them who have had sex may regret it because it wasn't with someone they actually love.

There is no reason to have sex with a guy you date in high school, especially if you date him simply because he's available and fun for the time being. Enjoy being young, enjoy being innocent. Think about how much less stressful it is to not be sexually active at this age. You won't have to constantly worry if you may have gotten pregnant. You won't have to worry about getting money, supporting a child, missing out on awesome opportunities. You have so much ahead of you in life, much greater things than meaningless sex with a high school boyfriend.

I have nothing against sex what so ever, so I'm not speaking to promote prudence. I support sex in loving relationships. So, if you are in love with someone, and in a comfortable, stable, and loving relationship, AND you feel ready, then sex may only benefit your feelings.

But, if having sex is more like something to do on your How-To-Be-Cool-List, then hold off. The time will come when the time comes. For now, be young, be fun, love. :)

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Boys don't like me. Well i'm pretty sure they don't. None have ever asked me out and friends tell me i'm pretty but then why don't i have a boyfriend? is it because i don't know how to flirt? i've never even had a first kiss or anything. whats wrong with me? i'm 16 .

I'd say a lot of boys just don't have a clue. I have a bunch of friends with this problem. My only suggestion? Start being outgoing! Talk to people, learn to start up conversation and keep it going. Start talking to guys. It doesn't even have to be guys you're interested in, just start talking to a range of people to get your bearings. You can google flirting tips and get hundreds of helpful hints. Pick out a few and test them out on a guy. When you become comfortable with a flirty attitude, go for a guy that you are interested in! If he sees you're interested in him, he's more likely to ask you out. Don't ever be afraid to ask a guy to hang out. Stuff like first kisses don't happen at school, so you've got to get that one-on-one or even group time outside of school with him! The worst a guy can do when you ask him out is say 'no.' Believe me, it'll happen. It happens to everyone. But pick your pride up, smile, and just keep talking to people. Don't rush things just so you can say that you've had your first kiss or your first time or whatever. Take things slow, stay outgoing, and think positive :)

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my friends boyfriend just broke up with her and i want to make a playlist to help her feel better and more empowered. any suggestions??

Avril Lavigne helped me a lot when I dealt with my break up.

"The Day You Slipped Away"
"Hold On"
"I'm With You"
"Losing Grip"
"When You're Gone"
These songs helped with the immediate sadness after the break up. "Better Than Me" by Hinder and "Best of Me" by the Starting Line also assisted along with:
"From Where You Are" Lifehouse
"Calling You" Blue October
"Vulnerable" Secondhand Serenade

Then Avril's louder songs like "Girlfriend" definitely helped when I was just ready to be angry. "Make Damn Sure" by Taking Back Sunday and "So What" by Pink were good songs.

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So, i was out of refills of ocella (birth control) and i had to leave for vacation without it because i didnt have time to see my doctor. Well, i had my period then i didnt start the hormone pills so i missed a week....but i didnt have a pack on me. if you get what im saying.

well, i usually start on sundays, so, i got a new pack today, should i start tomorrow or wait untill i get my period?

When I first got my Yaz birth control, I ended my last period on a Tuesday and didn't get the medicine until Friday. The pharmacist informed me that starting on the UPCOMING Sunday would be good. If I've understood you right, this Sunday would be the Sunday right after your period ended? If so, then go ahead and take it. If you still have concerns, call your pharmacist or doctor. They can help you out further :)

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A few years ago (the last time i was checked) i was diagnosed with 'minor' scoliosis because there's a slight curve in my back. the doctor checked me by looking at my back and noticing that the right shoulder blade is lower than the left. it's only minor and it never hurts unless im walking for hours or am standing and bending standing and bending for an hour while doing laundry. other than that it never hurts and it's never strained. the doctor had told me that in the future it MAY cause problems like being in pain but he said it's my choice whether or not i want to have my back fixed. id like to live my life without a metal rod in my back. has anyone gone thru anything similar and can give me advice? i mean he really didn't stress the whole surgery thing and said that i probably WON'T need it unless it causes me pain, which makes it my choice. can this lead to severe issues in the future? idk what to think at this point. im overweight too, 19f 220 lbs. would losing weight help my back at all? i plan on losing at least 40 lbs by summer.

Hello there, I can help.
I'm 17, and at age 12 I was diagnosed with scoliosis. I had two fairly severe curves in my spine, but they said it was too late to fix them with a brace. Surgery is very, very rare. If you have a minor curve, you're doctor SHOULD NOT be recommending spine surgery. Millions of complications will follow.

Today, I have Spondyliosis as well as Scoliosis. My spine is cracked in 6 places, and I'm not longer allowed to exercise. My doctors STILL DON'T recommend surgery. I'm telling you this so you will understand that surgery isn't a quick fix. Having back surgery to fix back pain WILL create new back pain. Once the rod is in, it will never come out. If something goes wrong during surgery, you could become paralyzed and never walk again. Things are not automatically wonderful after back surgery, it can take years to fully recover.

I do highly, highly recommend you lose weight. I'm 135lbs, (5'4") and my doctor even recommends that I keep as little weight on my body as possible. Any excess weight just adds pressure to your spine, which in turn can worsen Scoliosis. So please, make the healthy choice.

To help ease back pain, strengthen your core! I thought this was a stupid idea when I first started my recovery from having a fractured spine, but I've found its the only thing that helps. (I take heavy narcotics, physical therapy, and massage therapy, none of which have benefited me as much as strengthening my core.) When you have a strong core, your spine is stabilized, which will only benefit you.

Hope this gives you some insight.

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16/f
so if i want to dress more like these girls...
http://fuckyeahindiegirls.tumblr.com

where do I shop?
Are there any stores that arent secondhand or thrift stores that would be good?

There isn't going to be one store that sells only Indie style clothing that is magically going to transform your wardrobe. You're going to need to visit many stores, look at many pieces, and build up your new style that way.
Thrift stores will help, you can find old fitted tees and cute cardigans.
Try stores like Charlotte Russe or Forever 21. Keep in mind, these stores cater to many different styles, but they carry specific pieces that you can make all your own. Look at pictures of girls you want to dress like, get ideas from them. Then go to these stores and start looking for individual items that look similar to the pictures you saw earlier.

To get you started, look for:
Simple dresses with whatever pattern strikes your attention, perhaps small, dainty flowers for a vintage feel.
Cardigans: plain gray or white
Jeans: Skinny or boyfriend cut
Knitted caps
Plaid button up tops
Leggings
Ankle boots
Cute sneakers (Vans, low top Converse etc)
Belts to sinch dresses and tops under the bust line
Long tops to be worn with just leggings
Headbands

Now find patterns on these items that make your style all your own! You will find your own comfort zone in your new appearance.

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15/f
I masturbate like twice a week and watch porn sometimes. I feel really bad about it tho. My friends probably don't do it at all but I can't help it. Sometimes I'm just so horny I need to, or sometimes I can't fall asleep. I also get really turned on by lesbian porn more than any other porn. Is this normal? I like guys but sometimes I fantasize about girls am I a lesbian?
thanks

You're perfectly normal :) We all go through this, it happens to the best of us. The only time masturbation becomes a problem is when it takes over your life, as in you avoid hanging out with your friends, ignore your homework, or skip practice to pleasure yourself instead. And pretty much whatever turns you on is fine as well as long its not some illegal kiddy porn stuff. Different things stimulate different people. This does not make you a lesbian. In fact, I'd guess about 2/3 of girls get horny from girl-on-girl pornography.

Just relax, you're 15 and this is very normal.
Kymmy :)

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13 almost 14f
i get REALLY turned on when i smell dudes clone. is this normal or strange?

thanks(:

Normal, it happens to the best of us :)
Mmm.

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17/f
so ive never done anything further than making out before but my boyfriend fingered me for the first time last night. it felt alright at first but then it started to hurt. he told me if it hurt that bad, we prob shouldnt have sex but ive always heard that it hurts the first time. was this a bad sign or is it normal ?

Mhm, that's normal. In fact it hurt for me several times when my boyfriend started fingering me. Its the same thing when you have sex for the first time: Most likely it will hurt because your vagina is not used to be stretched like that. Of course with practice it will become looser and the pain will subside.

However, for your safety make sure your guy has short fingernails if he is fingering you. You don't want to get a scratch inside your vagina that could lead to an infection. Also, if he has a cut on his finger or hand .. hold off on the fingering. You don't want his open wounds near your private areas for both of yall's sake.

It just takes practice. Start with a less amount of fingers and work your way up until it feels right.

Good luck :)

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hey

mm i was just wondering what scents do guys like on girls??I know odd question but i just wonder what would my bf like lol thanks!

I wear Fantasy by Britney Spears and guys are always giving me compliments on it. It smells a little sweet, so try not to over do it if you decide to try it out! :)

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Well, I where makeup most of the time, I wonder if my bf likes it or not? Do you guys like your girl friends with or without makeup? Or wat? He never told me not to wear it, so i dont think he minds it. thankss

I think everyone's answer to this will be the same. Guys like girls with a more natural make up look. Go for suttle shadows, liners, and a little mascara to make your eyes pop. Throw in some pretty lip gloss and you have a natural day-look that will have the guy focusing on your beauty, not your caked on face powder.

However, if you're going out at night it doesn't hurt so go for a dramatic look. Like the advicer before me said, DON'T over do it. A darker lip color can add drama to your face or a dark, smokey eye can do it. (Its been in several magazines that guys love the dark smokey eye at night!)

Just keep it light and natural in the day and play it up at night. Don't cake on layers of face powder, ridiculous amounts of too-dark lip color, or eye make up that makes you look like the brooding-I-hate-the-sun-and-happiness type.

Good luck! :)

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heyy 14/f


I have no clue what i should do my make up like? This week I'm having a Halloween dance at my school. Any tips on how to do my make up real nice? (It's not a formal or costume dance) I might have my first kiss this Friday, and i want to look good haha plus i do need some new tips.
the make up i have is:
-black mascara
-brown eyeliner

I'm not a big makeup expert, so I'm going to give you a link that has changed my life.

http://www.youtube.com/user/juicystar07

Go to her YouTube channel and select whatever makeup style you like. She goes through step-by-step of each look, and its so simple!

Instead on answering the question myself, I gave you her link because she can explain it better than I can.

I hope it all turns out great :)
I highly recommend watching her videos!

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my boyfriend was hurt in the past by his ex girlfriend he was in love with her and thought that she felt the same way until she had sex with another guy,: how do i convince and get him to realize i won't do that to him i won't hurt him?

It'll probably take a while to get the message through to him- so be patient :)

Show him your trusting by not being flirtatious around other men. Some girls, I'm guilty of it as well, flirt with men we see in public such as a cashier, waiter etc. just out of habit. Try to watch that, I've had boyfriends pay attention to that & it caused many arguments.

Listen to what he has to say, keep his secrets, and be loyal to him. Really, its small things that, over time, will show him that you are indeed not the same as the girl he used to date. Remind him now and again that he's the only man in your life. Be open and honest with him about everything you can be just to help that bond build even stronger.

Good luck! :)

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I walked about 3 hours and 30 minutes today at a normal pace--no running, jogging, etc. Can I lose weight by walking this much or do I need to run or jog or something to get my heart rate up more to produce weight loss?

My mom walked daily for 45 minutes to an hour at a swift pace and lost nearly 95 pounds in less then a year. It was actually quite miraculous. I go to the gym daily for about an hour and don't experience any weight fluctuation. So absolutely you can lose weight from walking, its all about getting your body moving. Running and jogging are also great, but walking will still do just fine :)

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I had my period in April, I skipped my period in May. It's an irregular cycle. I'm not pregnant. Is it normal? Will I have a regular period this month? Becuase of the irregular cycle/skip of period; Do a woman have to go to the doctor?

How old are you? When did you first start your period? Mine was regular for 2 years before it just started going crazy. It got so bad that I finally went to the doctors and got birth control. However, I wouldn't worry about it yet. Just wait and see how it goes and be sure to track your periods whenever they may come. If your cycle does not jump back into a normal cycle after a couple of months, then make an appointment with your doctor to make sure everythings okay.

Good luck :)

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ok so i really like this boy and he wants to do stuff with me and i dont know what to do...i mean i want to do stuff with him but the furthest ive gone is makeout and i dont know what to do....PLEASE HELP!!!!

Know what you're getting into before you get in too deep. I'm not sure how old you are, how old this boy is etc. I'm just telling you make sure this guy is actually into you for you and not just to hook up unless its understood by both of you that its a no-strings-attached deal.

Basically .. this is hooking up.
You'll hang out and things will be a bit awkward because you'll both know whats going to happen. You'll probably watch a movie or something. Talking will happen and some playful argument. Some where in there he will start to kiss you and you two will makeout. From here, he will probably start feeling you up from outside of your clothes until he makes his way under your shirt and into your bra. There's a good chance now he'll take off your shirt & bra if you two plan on going this far. You can take of his shirt if you want. Next of course, the pants come off. Mutual masturbation, *hand jobs & fingering* can take place. I'm not sure how much further things will go because, like I said, I do not have much information on you. But, oral sex can occur next then finally intercourse. Usually after, you'll get dressed, clean up, make out a little more then one of you will leave until the next time.

I'm not sure what you're question is, so I basically laid out a typical situation so you know what to expect. If you have any more specific questions, just inbox me.

Good luck :)

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Hello.
There is this boy who I've been talking to for about a month or so.He seemed really interested in me and would text and talk to me ALOT.I mean like we'd be texting for like 12 hours.I went on a trip for about 2 weeks and he texted me every single day and i was excited to see him when I got back.When I got back,we talked and hungout and whatnot.He seemed like he liked me.Until recently when he started hanging out with me and my friends as well he told me that he only wanted to be friends and that it would be awkward if we were any more than friends around "everyone else". I think that he just got so comfortable in my group of friends that he started seeing me like a friend! He stopped talking to me as much and began treating me differently(like a friend).
I want to get back to what we were at! Can I get out of the friend zone?
Thank you!

I'm having the exact same problem right now, and I know it sucks. I don't quite have the guts to follow my own advice at this point, but I hope you might.

Try hanging out with him again one-on-one. This kind of setting can set you up for the more romantic appeal. Take that time to be flirty. Laugh at what he says, touch his arm or hand every once in a while, casually bump into his arm if you want to hold hands, and really listen to what he has to say.

Hopefully, this will restore that more flirty relationship you two seemed to have. At that point, let him know you're interested. Kiss him on the cheek goodnight or just flat out tell him, "I kinda like you as more than a friend," that kind of thing.

Best of luck :)

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nineteen, female (:

okay so everytime me and this guy hang out he always triese to go down my pants.

i've never been fingered before, but i have heard that when a guy fingers you, its for YOUR pleasure, not the guys.

does this mean that he cares about me? i mean he NEVER has asked me to give him a blow job or hand job or anything of that sort.

he just always tries to do things, to me. is this a good sign?

When a guy fingers you, it can mean a couple of different things.

Yes, it can mean he's doing it simply for your pleasure. Guys typically don't get any pleasure from fingering a girl, so some guys do it simply for the girl's benefit.

But, guys can also do it to expect something back. Instead of a guy asking you, "Hey, wanna give me a hand job?" he might finger her first hoping she'll return the favor.

Other guys do it simply to brag, but I highly doubt a guy around the age of 19 would do that. It seems like more of a middle school thing.

Good luck

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Does it feel pressure on ur teeth or does it hurt wen u get braces tighttend.

Yup, mine usually hurt for 2-5 days. Ibuprofen made it all better :)

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So last night I had a small get together with me my best friend the guy I like and a few other friends, we were playing truth or dare and I got dared to kiss the guy I like, later one of my friends told the guy I really enjoyed the kiss(he knows I like him) and then I found out the guy I like likes my best friend....I talked to them both and they both told me they were sorry it happend, and after my bff left this morning I've been crying over this, I talked to my friend and after I told her I couldn't talk to her cuz I didn't want her to feel bad(she said she did last night) she said she had to go an think about some things. And I can't help but blame myself for all of this and I don't kno what to do, so idk just any advice on how to fix this or get my mind off of it would be great.

I'm slightly confused by your question.
But I'm going to answer if by how I understood it.
I apologize if I don't get everything right.

You like this guy, we'll name him Mike.
You kissed him last night as a dare, but he likes your best friend, we'll call her Sarah. But now, you're upset because 1. Mike likes Sarah and 2. Sarah is upset because you like him too.

My advice would be to talk to Sarah. Let her know how you feel- but be honest. Don't tell her "Oh, I'm okay with you guys dating" if you're not. That's just going to mess things up in the future. Tell her how you feel, and talk to her about how you guys can solve this. If she's truly your best friend, she'll respect your feelings.

In the meantime, try to focus on other guys. I'm sure there are others that can be just as great as Mike. Time heals all wounds. And maybe when those wounds are healed, you can tell Sarah, & maybe things will work out between her and Mike, even if they didn't work out with you and him.

Good luck,
Kymmy

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