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I want more than a friendship!
Hello.
There is this boy who I've been talking to for about a month or so.He seemed really interested in me and would text and talk to me ALOT.I mean like we'd be texting for like 12 hours.I went on a trip for about 2 weeks and he texted me every single day and i was excited to see him when I got back.When I got back,we talked and hungout and whatnot.He seemed like he liked me.Until recently when he started hanging out with me and my friends as well he told me that he only wanted to be friends and that it would be awkward if we were any more than friends around "everyone else". I think that he just got so comfortable in my group of friends that he started seeing me like a friend! He stopped talking to me as much and began treating me differently(like a friend).
I want to get back to what we were at! Can I get out of the friend zone?
Thank you!
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I'm having the exact same problem right now, and I know it sucks. I don't quite have the guts to follow my own advice at this point, but I hope you might.
Try hanging out with him again one-on-one. This kind of setting can set you up for the more romantic appeal. Take that time to be flirty. Laugh at what he says, touch his arm or hand every once in a while, casually bump into his arm if you want to hold hands, and really listen to what he has to say.
Hopefully, this will restore that more flirty relationship you two seemed to have. At that point, let him know you're interested. Kiss him on the cheek goodnight or just flat out tell him, "I kinda like you as more than a friend," that kind of thing.
Best of luck :)
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Does he know that you like him as more than a friend, if not, tell him that. Be sweet, cute, and honest. If he doesn't like you back then the worst that can happen is you being friends again. There isn't much else you can really do other than talk to him about how you feel.
-Molly
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If he doesn't want to be more than friends, don't pressure him. Don't force him into a relationship or anything that he does not want right now.
The only advice I can give you, is to try talking to him about it (preferably face to face). Let him know that you really like him, and you don't want things to be awkward. Talk to him and then give him some time. Don't ask to hang out every day, and don't text him every second of every day. Back off a little, because sometimes you need to step back in order to go forward.
After that, try flirting a little to see how he reacts. Take it SLOW. Do subtle things, like smile at him, compliment him, and text him good morning texts. The main thing, though, is to take it SLOW and give him TIME.
Do that and you should be fine :)
-Laura (17-f)
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If he only wants to be friends then I would respect that for now until he is ready to be more. It could be a number of things...1. he texted you so much that it wore him out, or maybe he is just not into you in that way. 2. Your group of friends might of gave him the wrong impression (Just guessing here..) but if that's the case in my opinion I would try and talk to him because a guy should like you for who you are not what your friends make you seem you are. 3. He just doesn't want to date right now...or 4. He might have a girlfriend that you just don't know about.. or it could be something eles. If he just wants to be friends don't pressure him, Be his friend maybe he will come around.
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