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is he doing it for me?
nineteen, female (:
okay so everytime me and this guy hang out he always triese to go down my pants.
i've never been fingered before, but i have heard that when a guy fingers you, its for YOUR pleasure, not the guys.
does this mean that he cares about me? i mean he NEVER has asked me to give him a blow job or hand job or anything of that sort.
he just always tries to do things, to me. is this a good sign?
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He might just want u to return the favor later.
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mostly its because guys like to play with things. its fun. its like dora the explorer, except dora's my hands, or tongue, and whatever she's exploring is a snatch. or he's just trying to warm you up for some sex. thats why its called foreplay.
-gunner
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When a guy fingers you, it can mean a couple of different things.
Yes, it can mean he's doing it simply for your pleasure. Guys typically don't get any pleasure from fingering a girl, so some guys do it simply for the girl's benefit.
But, guys can also do it to expect something back. Instead of a guy asking you, "Hey, wanna give me a hand job?" he might finger her first hoping she'll return the favor.
Other guys do it simply to brag, but I highly doubt a guy around the age of 19 would do that. It seems like more of a middle school thing.
Good luck <3
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You didn't mention if your with him or not, but it shouldn't matter if you think he is "caring" for you, only let him if you want to. He may be a giver yes, lucky you if so! But He probably wants to turn you on, so you're easier to sleep with. I'm guessing you're a virgin, and you've waited; so don't give in too easily to any nobhead! Make him work for it! I think you should be in a relationship first, then at least you know where you stand. And get some experience :)
Love Sugar xxx
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No one here has said that maybe he keeps waiting for you to return the favor. =
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He cares about you so he has to show you that by trying to push his luck and touch you?
Are you even in a relationship with him?
How do YOU feel about it? If he does it, would you feel used?
You shouldn't care what we think, it's all about you.
but from alot of experience, I wouldn't say it's a good sign from the information you've given.. "everytime me and this guy hang out he always tries to go down my pants" to me, that just says he wants some action. Yeah, you might be getting the pleasure from it, but I'm sure he will have fun telling his mates, etc etc, if you get what I'm saying.
You're 19 and I think it's good you haven't done that before, but don't be naive and just give it to anyone. Think it through and think how YOU will feel when it happens.
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He doesn't like you, and he doesn't like your vagina.
He likes all vagina. You're just the one that's most likely to allow him access. Ditch this asshole.
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I'm going to agree with Kendra.
Just because a guy wants to put his hands down there does NOT mean he cares about you. Don't ever let that fool you. I don't know the situation because you didn't exsplain it but it could be he just wants to get in your pants and have sex with you. :/
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Yes, it could be that he just wants to pleasure you, but it would also be another notch under his belt. It would just give him something to brag about to his buddies, how far he got with yet another girl. If you've been going out for a few months and you're comfortable with it, I'd let him, but if you kinda just met him, I'd wait on it til at least a few months have passed. If he thinks you're worth it, he'll still be around.
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It doesn't mean he cares about you. It means he wants to have sex with you. One way of getting you to have sex is to make you feel pleasure so that you'll really want to do it. He may also become very aroused by touching your genitals. Most men find that arousing. So he could be doing it for his own gratification. I had a boyfriend like that once.
Yes, it is for your pleasure, as in that should be the reason you do it, as opposed to doing it to make him happy. However, making you happy is not the only reason (or main reason) a male may want to finger you, particularly if he's not your boyfriend or someone who's made his interest in you as a person clear (ie, wanting you to be his girlfriend and enjoying conversations and going out and having fun).
Do not make the mistake that since he wants to finger you it must mean he cares. I'd be more inclined to think that he doesn't if that's all he seems to want to do.
See, if he cared, he'd not rush things. Guys who rush things are just trying to get what they can out of you. The guys who care take their time because they intend to be around a much longer time. You do want him to find you attractive, but more importantly you want him to ALSO enjoy your company in a non-sexual way as well.
Beware of any man who is always trying to make things sexual. They are the type who once they get what they want either stop calling you OR only call your or see you if they want to do sexual things.
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