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my friend needs help
i love my best friend to death and I REALLY dont want to disobey her trust. see a while ago she told me all this stuff about how she has another world she can escape 2 and sometimes she feels like she doesnt know who she is. she sometimes even, she says, forgets her name. shes already tried talking to her parents and a therapist, and her parents have tried giving her pills. all of it, she says, just make her feel worse, like shes insane. she has a lot of friends, gets good grades, in whole leads a very normal life and acts perfectly normal. we didn't mention this for a while, but over the weekend i went down with her family to the beach. saturday night she started randomly dancing in the sand, running and spazzing randomly all over the place, inchined way to close to the firework display just so, as she put it, she could be close to the sea, and wrote the name's of random people we no in the sand. all of this is very unlike her, and i at the time half-jokingly asked her "if she was here as herself" she wudnt answer me for a while and then very quietly said "who else would i be" and then wouldnt answer any more questions. later that night i asked what was going on and she wouldnt tell me. one of our other friends was there, who doesnt no everything i no and said shes fine stop overreacting. iasked her if she "promised" she was fine (promise is our trust word) and she wouldnt promise. i tried talking her into talking to me cuz i just wanted to help, I didnt want her to go through whatever it was alone. she wouldnt say anything. the next morning everything was back to normal. i dont know what to do and i cant tell anyone because i REALLY REALLY REALLY cant betray her trust like that. please help.
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As much as I know you want to help her and still keep quiet about her behavior you just can't. It isn't helping her at all and that is just way to much responsibility for you to carry around on your shoulders.
You cannot be her keeper. You can't babysit her 24/7. She needs help you aren't able to provide.
Tell whoever will listen. Hopefully she will get the professional help she desperately needs.
And don't feel guilty. She may get mad at first but in the long run she will see you helped her. :)
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yes you guys may "trust" eachother very well but if she is having problems like that you should really talk to there parents first of all and see if her parents know anything about it. but do it like when shes not around or anything cause you dont want her to know about it cause she will find out that she cant trust you anymore. and make sure you tell her parents not to tell anyone not even your bestfriend. & yes your bestfriend might eventualy found out that you told someone and she might get mad at you. but trust me she will get over it. and it will be just for the best because it could make her life a 100 times better and that would be all because of you. that would be the best friend ever. good luck
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Lauraa
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I dont want to give out any information to you that is n otaccurate but there is a slight chance of personality disorder or schizophrenia there from what i hear of her actions and the way she talks about her issues...i would look up some stuff online at www.google.com or www.ask.com to find out the symptoms and causes/effects for the diagnoses
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Based on the information that you have shared w/us I don't think you have anything to worry about. I think your friend is a free spirit. Someone who perceives and enjoys life differently than most of us. She doesn't know how to express this well and she knows people will find it strange. When she goes into her free spirit mode just enjoy and observe her zest for life. I know it's different and you feel awkward with it, but there's nothing wrong with it. Now here's something for you to keep to yourself while observing your friend. If, however, your friend ever experiences lapses in time and expresses it freely to you... (That's when a person can't remember what they did between, lets say, 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (for example) then no matter what promises you have made you need to let her parents know (pills or not)). You don't want to tell her or allude to the fact that you are looking for this symptom because you don't want her to add this to her symptoms just for the fun of it. You want to know if in fact it is a true symptom. Don't ask her all the time if she remembers what time it was because this will arouse her curiosity. Just observe if she ever mentions it. I'll bet she won't though. It really sounds like she just wants to be different at times and because it is different she has to explain it so that it is acceptable to you. I wouldn't worry about her. It's her way of enjoying life.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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okay hun, if it's affecting you this much, and it obviously is. you know what i would do? speak to your school councellor. they are not allowed to tell ANYBODY, ANYTHING unless they think YOU are in trouble. so they will listen offer advice and if you want they can help your friend. they can offer her doctors to see, to talk to. they can offer her parents people to talk to. and most importantly you. she needs help and she will thankyou one day. <3 jes
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in my opinion I know its a hard situation but you as being her best friend you should sit down talk to her and tell her that its not that you want to lose her trust by telling someone her problem but that you care alot for her and you really want to take her to a therapist or a doctor to find out whats going on with her because your afraid that something dangerous its going on with her.
the whole point is telling her how you feel and why you want to take her somewhere where they could help her.
I hope I helped
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You are not betraying your friend's trust if your trying to help her.Talk you your parents...maybe they can tell her parents.She needs help,and she will thank you one day...if you tell.
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This isn't looking good for her. I think it's time to get her into a doctor, and maybe seek some other professional help as well. How often is this happening to her?
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