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My name is Danielle and I love to help people. Ask my anything and I will try my best to answer as accurately as I can with personal advice from my expierince or knowledge.. Good luck and God Bless all!
*Keosha*

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I'm 23 and T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-D of going to the gynecologist. I've never been, and I know that's pretty bad. I know I need to go, but I'm so scared. I'm afraid of it hurting and stuff. What can I do to help myself?

If you have never been then you have no idea if it is bad or not. But from my experiences, depending on what you are going for..they will always be gentle and use plenty of lubrication to protect you from being hurt.
If you are terrified, you need to explain to them that you have these feelings. Im sure they will be understanding. Just relax, I know that doctor's appointments can be anxious. Just take a deep breath and be honest with them. Don't ever doom yourself before you even begin.
Good luck.

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does anyone have any tps on how to get the perfect legs i.e. tanninng celulite removing ideas and toning excercises?

Start rollerblading.
Bike ride.
But who is to judge 'perfect' legs?

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14/f

I've been sweating under my arms since July. It won't stop. And I don't even have to be hot or nervous. It's embarressing and all I wear is hoodies and it's going to look a little bit odd in the summertime. It's getting pretty ridiculous and I don't know how to stop it. I've tried everything. Certain Dri, Secret Clinical Strength. Nothing will make it go away so it seems. My mom agreed to take me to the doctor and see what he says about it but I don't think that will be anytime soon.

Has anyone had this problem and found a way to cure it? Please..

You probably have and will be diagnosed with Hyperhydrosis.
Usually it is the armpits, hands and feet.
Go and see the doctor and don't be embarrassed.
I have a couple of friends who have it.

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I think I have it , because i frquently have to go to the restroom , and sometimes what comes out isint even worth going to the bathroom for but it feels like im about to bust or pee in my pants . Im always having to ask to go to the rest room in every class & thats only 50 mins each .

i didnt want to go to the doctor [ at first ] because i thought my parents would be able to find out that iv had sex . because that could be a reason why i might have one .


So if yall would please , can any of yall tell me what they do when you go ?

thanks so much .

If you have a UTI you will have one or more of the following symptoms: Burning/Itching in the vaginal area, Burning sensation while you pee, Constant urge to urinate even if only for a split second, Pain while urinating and possible pain in the lower abdomen/stomach. (And possibly more..)

You can receive a UTI from many things aside from sex. Colored panties, Not wiping correctly, A vaginal infection reaching the urinary tract, It is less than a centimeter apart. ect.

When you go to a doctor to see if you are diagnosed with a UTI (very common in women) all they do is take a sample of your urine. Ask about your symptoms and test it for certain microscopic grades of bacteria that is related to UTI's.

You should be given pills to take for 3-7 days to clear up the infection and you should drink plenty of water. Also Apple cider vinegar possibly mixed in with some tea definately helps to get rid of the pain and you should go to an organic Health store and get D-Mannose. It is a vitamin that adheres to the bacteria in the lining of the bladder and prevents it from growing more while getting rid of the painful symptoms of a UTI. You will feel better immediately. Promise.
All of my answers to you are from expierence as a female. I get these about twice a year. Good luck and I hope that I helped.
-Keosha

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i think that my bestfriend is bi sexual.
im not sure though what are the signs of it?

If she is your best friend then she should be open with you right? Why dont you just ask her instead of waiting for signs. There really arent any besides her favoring girls better than guys in like relationship situations or her making moves on you. But if you have a problem with it, I think you should ask her but do not judge her for it.

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Hi, I was wondering if the Loreal Color Pulse Moose comes out if water hits it -- like with no shampoo?

No it last for like 15 washes I think. When I had it, it stayed i for a long time. :)
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
Keosha

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Is it illegal to listen to an ipod while riding a bike IN YOUR OWN NEIGHBORHOOD (which isn't a busy neighborhood or anything)???

thanks. and im under 18 if that helps.

Depending on where you live, yes and no. I would say don't ride with it very loud or ride with both ear pieces in because you could get easily distracted or you might not realize that a car is behind you, and that can definately be dangerous with the way people drive these days. You should probably ask your city police dept. and see what the law is on that.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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I want to get birth control cause i'm thinking that I want to have sex with my 18 yeaf old boyfriend. I'm 17. But I don't want to ask my mom for that. I don't like to talk to her about that kind of stuff. So is there a way to get it without talkin to her or should I just tell her I want it but not for that reason?

It is always better to be honest. :) But your local Health Department is completely confidential and will help you with that. They will offer you various options for Birth Control and then you can choose from them and your mom will never know, unless you tell her of course.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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my girlfriend was jacking me off and i came but none got on my hands as far as i know, i didnt feel any and didnt see any. is there a way for the sperm to get on my hands of her hands. i did not touch her hands though. i fingered her afterwards after maybe 1-5 minutes? do u think theres a way for her to get pregnent? this is a very urgent question because me and her have been panicing so please answer as soon as possible

I apologize for the entirety of this answer. I thought from my own knowledge that I was correct about sperm dying when it oxygen hits it. I now know to look it up before I share incorrect information. Again, Im sorry.

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14/f

my cycle has been regular for a long time, but i have issues with tampons. Every time I try to put one in (i'm inserting it correctly) and i get to the point where you have to start pushing the applicator in with your index finger, it will go in like 2/3 of the way and then there are about 3 centimeters of it that i can't push inside the tube and it feels like it's poking against the end of my vagina and it hurts really badly, then i just have to leave it where it is and pull the applicator out.


Is this my hymen? Because I do insertive masturbation a lot so I thought it was already broken. Or is it just that i have a short vagina?

Yeah you could just have a short vagina. Or you may not be inserting it the right way. It may or may not be your hymen, it should have broken and bled if you inserted something far enough. You should just try shorter tampons. Like Tampax Pearl.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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So, there is a girl i like, I dont know if she likes me back(sounds typical). Well im never nervous around girls i mean ive kissed and made out and had GFs and that sort of thing, but this one is weird...im more attracted to her than anyone else previously because i seriously biked 10 miles at 3 in the morning to her house to go see her because she missed me lol. Now the confusion part: ive never had any nervous problems with girls. ive always been very open and not shy at all. the part that confuses me is this girl makes me nervous because im sort of afraid to ask her out and that is not how im like at all. anyway the basic question i guess is should i persue her and ask her out or just be friends? Another twist in the story is she said she liked me...but also said she luvs being single. BY THE WAY...im M, 14

I think that you should ask her out. Its okay to be nervous, it shows that you really like her. Just take it slow. Its better that way, then you really get to know the person. Especially if she likes you then that should boost up your confidence! :)
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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Okay, When im not on my period my face is super clear no breakouts, nothing.
But when im on my period, I have these breakouts on my forehead and there is really no way of getting them to go away.

They go away after my period is over but I would like to go in public and not have breakouts all over my face while on my period.

So, is there any way to treat breakouts when im not on my period so when i am on it, i dont have any?

Btw, I use neutrogena. Is there a good face wash that I could use?

Please helpp.

Yes, I like to use dove. It just works well with the human body. It keeps your face from drying out with a moisturizer but it isnt oily so it wont clog your pores.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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im a 15 yr old female.

Ok so theres this guy I met at my school.
and weve been talking and everything and he seems like a really nice guy and everything, but im scared of liking him to much or giving him a chance cause i dont want to get hurt. With pretty much all my last relationships the guys have fucked me over pretty bad, and im tired of it. I just want to be with a good guy who wont hurt me. But how do I know if this guys any different?
Help please?

At first dont let yourself have strings attached.
Just play by play and see how it goes. Then you can let your self develop feelings for him if you think he is good for you or not. Or maybe you should consider taking a break. Just leave the guys alone and instead of always wanting to have a boyfriend...just chill and hang out with the girls and keep your mind off guys until you think you know what you want. Then write it down on paper. Make a checklist or something and when a guy comes along that you really like, see if he fits all of your qualities.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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So, I have been going out with this guy, for a little over three weeks. He told me that he can't see us in the long-term having a relationship because I'm an atheist and he's a catholic. Like, when we get married - everything will just be screwed up. He said he still wants to be friends with benefits, the thing is. I can't understand why he would want to be that, you know?

What would you do?

Wow. Sounds to me like he is the one who is all screwed up. He is just using you for sex and making up excuses to keep your feelings from getting hurt. If atheism is your thing then remember that no matter what religion no one should judge you b/c of your preference. Personally I think that you should leave him alone and forget about him. 3 weeks is too soon to be even thinking about marriage anyways.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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i rely need help i was on the phone to my girlfreind and we were sayin good bye here the convo basically

me:cya tommorow , i love you
her:no you dont
me:what?
her:you dont love me and i know you dont
me:ye i do

etc so it went on and in the end she ended up cancellin all of the plans we had getin in a mood with me and sayin tht i didnt love her when i even said i did!! i havent a clue what i wrong wit her she said its her hormones but she said that like 10 days ago im so confused and i realy dont want to loose her because i realy do love her but she cant see that and i know she may split up with me because f it is her hromones she will what can i do?? someone please help me

Just chill. Leave her alone for a lil bit and let her cool down. If she really wants to be with you, no question about it..then she will come back to you. If I am wrong I apologize ahead.
Good luck.
I hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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I'm 22 years old. Pretty much all throughout my teen years I had a flat chest. Around 19 or so, they started to grow a little bit. If each bra cup could be a different size, one cup would probably be a training bra size and the other cup maybe an A. Is it normal for them to be so small and so differently sized? I was also born 3 months early, December instead of March. Could my prematurity have anything to do with it?

Thanks.

it is very well possible that the prematurity had an effect. But I have a similar issue. So dont feel bad. My right breast is so much bigger than the left I feel embarrassed about it. I even asked my doctor, she said it was normal and no 2 breats are perfect in size. The cup size is not bad or anything, your body just doesnt carry a large breast structure.
Hope that I helped.
Good luck.
Keosha

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Well, I am getting braces next week..Ugh, I am so not excited but oh well, I am going to have to suck it up and just get it over with..But my question is I want to get colored ones so if any of yall have ever had braces, can you tell me what color do you think is the best...I have heard yellow makes your teeth look stained and clear isn't good either. I am thinking about hott pink. But I don't know...I have brown hair and blue/green eyes if that makes a difference haha. So, any suggestions would be wonderful. Haha. Thanks in advance.

Definately Pink, Blue and green. They are the best colors.

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Ok well recently I've been feeling sad that all ym friends are like not caring about me anymore and I know this happenes to everyone but I feel so bad!

Recently, I found a person on the internet who i can atleast complain my problems to but now it's like the same thing and he just seem to be really mad at me..

What should I do? I can't feel happy anymore

Honey, You are relying on other people to make you happy. I used to be the same way and it took me 4+ years to get over it because I didnt see it. All your friends are tired of hearing you complain over stuff that you probably have control over. I am not judging you, I have just been there. You have to stop letting other people make you happy because you cant be happy at all until you are happy with yourself first. Find ways to deal with things rather than complain. Evaluate the situation...see if you have control over it, and if you do find something you can do to change it. A lot of times you have to find fault in yourself. Dig deep down in there. If you need someone to talk to holla at me.
*Keosha*
AIM: Keosha15

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** This question is intended for people who have had experience with nail biting for quite awhile. Please do not get an answer from Google that won't help me with my problem. **

13/F

I have a very bad nail biting habit. I have been biting my nails ever since I could bite. My mom has been biting her nails too for a long time, so I guess I just picked it up from her when I was little. I've tried everything. The nasty tasting stuff, putting on gloves, and my aunt even threatened to not take me to Cali with her if I didn't stop biting my nails. I stopped biting my nails after that happened and they looked great. Unfortunately, soon before we were about to leave Cali, I picked up on it again. I've been on again off again with my nails, the maximum amount of time that I have stopped is probably one/two months. I don't know how to stop. It's not even a habit anymore, it's way beyond that. Will going to a doctor help? Are there any pills or medications that he would be able to prescribe to me that will stop the habit?

I have the same darn issue. I have been biting my nails as long as I can remember and so has my mom. I finally quit biting mine. What i do is i put the glue on nails on until i feel comfortable with not biting my nails if i take them off. I havent bit them off in like 2 months. Its hard but when i feel like i am about to bit them i use clippers to get the jagged edges or i file them or even go back to fake nails.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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Ok here's the deal, My friend and my bf can't stand eachother. Now my bf doesn't care if I hang out with my friend he just says while I'm with her he won't be around. My friend doesn't want me going out with him. She told me to dump him because she "Just doesn't like him." Should I try talking to her again or get rid of her or what? i've been friends with her for awhile but I don't know what to do.

You should explore your options.
See whose reasons are legitiment and whose suck.
Think about what will benefit you more in life.
Think about what will mean more to you.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*

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