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HEY THIS IS HAILEY! I AM 13 AND I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE. I'M ALSO ON THE BETA CLUB, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER HAD STRAIGHT A'S; I GUESS THEY JUST LIKED ME. I HAVE 1DOG, 2CATS, AND 1PARAKEET. I LOVE TO GIVE ADVICE BUT IF I DONT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, OR WHAT U WROTE, THEN U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE ELSE. NOW U KNOW A LITTLE BOUT ME, SO START ASKING AWAY!
~~~~~~~~~HAILEY~~~~~~~~~~

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the guy i like likes me but i dont know if my friend likes him or if i really like him, but i know he likes me and he might like my friend, so should i like him or should i tell my friend who might like him to go after him. or what if he likes her but not me and she says go for it and i cant because he likes her and they fall in love and i become the bridesmaid at their wedding and the day before the wedding i realize that i really like him? and then pounse on her and break her back and then she hates me but he and I get married and live happily ever after what then? please help!!

Wow you think wayy to much. Now my head hurts... Before you start thinking about marrige you should probably think if you really like him after all. And if your friend hasn't said if she liked him yet she probably doesn't. So just hang around him [but not so much it gets annoying] and hint that you would like to go out [and I don't mean saying something about bfs, gfs, dating, or anything envolving you future between you two]. Oh and if your friend says something about you being around him just say you didn't know she liked him.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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whenever a guy likes me or just thinks im hott my friend gets wicked jealous, because one guy that she though was cute asked me out,now whenever she sees someone whos hott she tells me not to steal him from her. its really startin to piss me off and iv tried talkinmg to her about it, and now she wants me to help her get a boyfriend, but its really hard because boys arent that into her because shes a little overweight and not that pretty(o my god i sound so mean), but what should i do?

Take her shopping and buy things to make her look thinner and help her with makeup. Then play matchmaker, get a guy for her, and she should leave you alone. But warning, if it doesn't turn out to well with them she will probably blame you for setting her up with him. So just make sure they like the same things that way they won't get bored with eachother.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~

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Alright, well I know a bunch of unheard of bands and I want them on my ipod, and obviously, since they're not that heard of, Limewire usually doesn't have them available to download. So is there any other way I can download them onto my ipod?

If you have them on a cd then you can put it in your computer and download them.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Ahhh I don't know what's worng with me right now. Lately I've been soo forgetful. Like, school just started a week ago and I've lost my history binder and english notebook. ALREADY. And whenever a friend calls me or something I always forget to call them back. And I'm freaking out about this test I have tomorrow because I can't retain information because I'm forgetting everything! And I always leave my books in other classes. It feels like I'm getting old and having memory problems haha. Idk I'm just really stressed right now and I really don't want to lose anymore things and forget everything. Any idea on what I should do!? thanks.

You could get a bag to hold your books so you don't forget them in the desk or at school (you know like a gym bag or any type of school bag for that matter). For the calling problem maybe you could get a planner and write 'CALL ---- AT 5:30'. And for studying go somewhere quiet (no music, no tv, nothing) and just go over your notes over and over. How I remember hard things, well for me at least, is I'll study with someone and when they make a stupid joke I'll remember it during during the test.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 or 5 months now. And like all my friends say he loves me soooooooooo mcuh, and i feel the same way. He is sooo sweeeeett to me, but like when in 6th hour i have alot of friends in there and he doens't really have nay in that class, except me, and he flirts with me all the time when im with my friends, but like when hes with his friends, he just totally ignores me, like he will look at me then walk away, and i feel like h doesn't wanna be around me. A few ppl said i should get rid of him because i don't deserve to be treated like that, but would talking about it to him help? And if so, what would i say? and like other night i wanted to cry because we went to a football game together, and i only got to talk to him once because he left me for his friends. And like i would feel stuped if i was crying over that, cause what if we did start talking about it and i started to cry....just help me!

Ok you have to talk to him about it, even though it doesn't sound like he deserves a chance. And it's ok if you start to cry, we all do, maybe he'll even notice that he's really hurting you. But if he doesn't change then dump him because he's obviously not worth it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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can you pee with a tampon in?

Yea I've done it before (I forgot I put it in). But pee will literally fly, well it did for me..(yea I know gross) So just take it out before you go and get another. Besides the tampon would expand, and it'll get uncomfortable.
Hope I helped.
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I was talking to my best friend on the phone yesterday. (She's a girl, im a guy.) And she said she liked me. I like her too, and I told her that. It should be easy to figure what to do next but it's not. We want to be more then friends but were afraid of ruining our friendship if something happens. Also, she is afraid it would be too weird but I don't think it would. So I guess Im asking, should I ask her out? Or should we just stay friends even though we want to be more, just so it won't be weird?

If you just stay friends it'll still be weird because you both know you like eachother. And plus she'll start thinking that you didn't like her all that much in the first place. So yes ask her out. Besides there's no reason not to go out, I mean you both like eachother.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~`

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i want to talk louder..at school im quiet, i feel stupid if i talk loud. but i dont want to be known as "the quiet person". i think i might be shy, but im not really, i think?? i dont know, but i want to know how to talk louder and not feel stupid after for thinkin i said somthing stupid. i dont know..

Reminds me of one of my friends from school. Except her voice is just really soft. Anyways.. If you're school is anything like mine than if you say something stupid they'll just laugh thinking it was a joke. Yea some (correction: a lot) of the people at my school aren't very smart. Just talk a little bit more each day and don't be afraid of sounding stupid. And cracking a few jokes now and then won't hurt either.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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14/m
There's a girl in 2 of my classes that looks at me and stares at me a lot. It doesn't bother me, it's not like she just stares at me constantly. Girls do this a lot, and girls tell me that I'm cute. This one girl that I notice, who I think is attractive, looks at me during class. I will be looking around during class and I will see her looking at me and then look away. We've talked before, but we're not friends. I have known her since 6th grade (11 or 12). People don't think I'm weird or anything, so they're not looking at me beacuse of that. Sorry if I worded it wrong, but it was hard to explain it, and sorry that it's long. But, do you think that she likes me?

Yes she does like you. So start talking to her, not that immature crap I know a lot of guys do. Oh yea and that was not long, actually it was really short compared to most.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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hello, well today was my first day of freshman year. i had a reasonable day except for one thing: i am the only girl in one of my classes. there's atleast 24 guys in the class, which is not only awkward, but it's a bit embarassing, because the class is computer programming. i really like computers and html and webdesign and stuff, so i thought i'd take the course. i really + honestly dont care if people make fun of me for being the only girl. it's just that a room full of guys is a bit different from what i'm used to, and it's just weird. the guys are all goofing off and i feel like im being stared at. the teacher is a girl, so i don't feel that bad about it...but i just kinda wanted someones opinion +/or reassurance that my class won't be so bad i guess ;} thankies!

Wow, I'd be freaking out too! But you like that class so don't quit, make some new friends, and quit thinking they're staring at you (I'd be the one staring, whew a room full of guys lucky you.. lol).
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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13/f

I like this guy named James. i have heard from everybody that he likes me. and then everyone knows that i like him and also ppl keep saying that he is going to ask me to be his gf. and then today he finaly asked me. and i said yes. and then now this other cute guy that is new came to my school today/ he is a major hottie! but im still thinking of wether i should stay with james or go with the new kid Jake. everone and all of my friends think that i should stay with with James. im not sure who to choose. should i stay with james sinse he already asked me to be his gf and use jake as a back up?

Thanks!! :)

You should stay with James, hello you both like eachother. But don't use Jake as a back up! First thing is that usually hott guys are jerks because they know they're hott and know they can get anyone they want. Second do you really want to dump James who you like, and he likes you back, to go out with a new guy you don't know anything about and crush James? Third it's never good to use someone as a back up. When people say 'back up' to me it sounds like they're not sure about the current relationship their in (which you don't sound like), or they just want to have a bf/gf for all the wrong reasons. So stay with James and if it doesn't work out between you two in the future spend a little time with Jake (if he's single) become friends, see if you still feel the same way about him when you learn some things about him, and maybe later on you'll be gf and bf.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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hi iam thirteen and i am a female i use to like this boy name pete. we did like each for a while until our class got into it he told me he didnt like me any more. I was devastated thats when this year i respected that he didnt like me but every time i turned around he would stare at me for a long time. then he would look at my butt. to tell you the truth i dont know what i am feelling for him i cant tell my best friend because each year this goes on and were in the same class. This love triangle been going on since the six grade. Can you tell me if he likes me or not i can usually could tell but i am just trap i need some advice and sorry for writting this so long.

Ok who's in the love triangle? Pete, you, and your friend? Or Pete, you, and your butt? From what I can tell there's a part of you he likes, but you probably won't like him liking it. Your butt.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~hailey~~~~~
P.S. Trust me I've seen longer questions, but that's because people try to explain everything.
P.S.S. Write normally it's hard to follow you when you say things like 'we did like each for a while until our class got into it'.

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am 14 am my girlfriend said she want sex at this age but am too young what shall i do. shall i do it or not

If you have to ask don't do it! If you do you'll regret it big time. So tell her you are just not ready for this and if she can't take no for an answer, leave her because she isn't worth it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~

Why'd you give me a three and not even rate anyone else?! Was it because I said 'if she can't take no for an answer, leave her'? Because to me out of what you've said (which wasn't much to go by) is that she wants you to do it. And if that's all she cares about then why should you? Straight out: You're not ready.
How most girls see it there is a Mr. Right, and a Mr. Right Now. To her you're most likely Mr. Right Now! Usually girls don't go very far with Mr. Right Now's, but this one wants to go all the way. You know what? Never mind! What the hell go all the way and see if she stays with you. Good luck with that..

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So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.

When guys really love girls they do things for them. They'll buy gifts for you occasionly to show they're thinking about you, they'll hold open doors, they'll wait intill they know your ready to do things with them because they don't want to loose you, they don't look at other girls because all they can think about is you, and they talk to you daily because they're crazy about you and can't stand to go a day without hearing your voice. If he doesn't do even two of these things he doesn't really love you like he says he does, so leave him. But talk to him before you do anything and ask him if he really does love you, why he did that, and if he knew that girl he did that to.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

A lot of girls I know like hot guys (because hello they're hot). But hot guys are usually jerks, so I like cute guys better. Well inless a cute guy is younger than me, then I mean cute as in sweet.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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Alright my situation is kind of long.
and I'm going to start from the beginning.

Me and my boyfriend tyler were dating for about 6 mnths, and me being 15 and him being my first boyfriend I got scared of being tied down and broke things off with him. he took it pretty bad and was crying, and asking why. But after a few weeks he acted like he had a better grasp on it, but I knew it was still killing him inside. Well about 3 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend, and that triggered something inside of me. I basically told him I wanted him back, and he just said he didn't know what to do, but he wanted me. Well, he, at this point in time, is my boyfriend.
But I think I saw something I shouldnt've. Cut marks. I guess throughout this whole situation he's been cutting, I got him to kind of talk to me about it but he wouldn't go that far into detail. Now I used to cut, and I know what he's going through,
but my question is how do I approach him about it, what do I say, and how do I tell him to stop?

Just ask if he wants to go for a walk one day. Go somewhere like a park and tell him you are going to talk about somethings he may not want to discuss but he needs to hear. Then tell him everything! Tell him you broke up with him before because you were afraid of being tied down, and that you'll never do that again. Tell him how you felt when he was going out with that other girl. Tell him how you feel about him cutting himself. Tell him that you will never hurt him again. Tell him while he's hurting himself, it's killing you. And finally tell him you know what it's like to be a cutter, and you will be there for him while he gets help.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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I really like this girl but am to afrain to ask her out or talk to her from fear of rejection. I really like her and want a relationship but i dunno what to do. Any advice?

Well you can't stand on the sidelines forever. Just talk to her every now and then, become friends, and then after awhile ask her out to a movie or something. For the talking part see if there are pictures in her locker, or binder, and ask about them. Or ask her a question about schoolwork. Don't be afraid of rejection, because if a person knows you (and I don't personally mean you) then they don't won't their friend to feel bad.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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2 guys asked me out yesterday and I don't know which one to say yes to. I like them both the same and they both have really good things about them and some things arn't so good.

Guy 1 Good things :
hes really funny
hes super cute
he really loves me
hes got a nice personality
we have so much in common
hes only 1 year older then me
hes like an older version of me
hes a virgin
he lives near me

Guy 1 bad things -
he wants sex i'm not ready
he tries to act gangster but hes white
he used to smoke i dont know if he still does
sometimes i feel like he uses me
he invites me to his house every day and it gets annoying
alot of people hate him they say hes a poser
he gets pissed off easily and starts cussing me out

Guy 2 good things :
hes really sweet
hes romantic like me
he likes to kiss
hes really hott
he tried to finger me but i said stop and he listened
he respects me

Guy 2 Bad things -
everyone says hes litarrly special ed in 1 class but he says he isnt
he stayed back 3 times
hes 3 years older then me
hes not a virgin
he smokes
he stutters a little when he talks

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I really like them both in different ways. Guy 1 is more like me but Guy 2 respects how far I'll go sexually. But Guy 1 is closer to my age. I really don't know who to pick. If you had to choose 1 according to those facts, who would you choose?

Pick guy #2!! Who cares about the age difference! If guy #1 loved you so much he wouldn't do half that stuff. Sorry this is all I have but I'm half asleep.
Hope I helped.
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Does anybody know some really good jokes??? Im known for good jokes but I'm all out. I'm talking about the story jokes that are about 30 seconds long. Please tell me your good joke.
Thanks

Go to bored.com
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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OK. So my girlfriend is a little younger than me and I am really hot...literally. I know that she loves me but when we kiss I have to ask her for a kiss. I am also the one that has to try to start the romance. I am only 14 but I am really attracted to her.. I am going into the 8th and she is going into the 6th. But what I am afraid of is when she starts school at the end of the month is that she is gonna find another boy.. See she has already broken up with me once. but had to have my sister tell me that it was over then about 1week later she came wanting me back. I took her back but I am not sure if I broke up with her and things didn't work out with a girl I like if she would take me back. I think that this girl that is my age and is only 1grade below me is straight out cute. her name is morgan and she is cute.. I know she likes me and I like her.. I know she likes me because we like to play basketball every sunday before church. also I was at my youth ministers last night and she was there. we were sitting right next to each other and playing all the games with each other. The only thing is I think my girlfriend was jealous because she was there and so was my sister.. What should I do.. Should I express my feelings to morgan and see what she thinks or should I just see what happens between me and my girlfriend? Please ADVICENATORS!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

Do you have stronger feelings for Morgan? If so than date her already! Whenever you feel something more for someone else its wrong to not go for it. (Besides you shouldn't have to ask your current gf for a kiss, she should want to.) Hope I helped.
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