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Forgive or not forgive
So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.
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Ok here's my brilliant answer.. You shoudn't stay with him.
Don't let him blame it on Alcohol. The fact is that he was fingering some other chick and making out with her. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and he gets drunk almost every weekend, but in his conscious he would never do anything.If he really loved you he wouldn't have gone that far. And another fact is that he didn't get so "drunk" that he completely forgot you.. he chose to forget you.And in the case that it was true that he did get so drunk, he would probably be in the hospital right now.I think that you should definately break it off.If you forgive him it will happen again and again. But if you do chose to stick with him, keep a close eye on him. And try to make sure you are there with him. BTW is this the first time he's done it. Because maybe if he notices how mad you are and disappointed you are from this incident he won't do it again. Then you will know that he truley does love you, because he is making the effort.
I hope I helped
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I wouldn't forgive him, and I'd dump him. Cheating is cheating to me. I agree with you. I don't think you can be so trashed you can completely forget someone, let alone your girlfriend. If he really loved you, he wouldn't be able to forget about you in two seconds. And he might've not even been that drunk for all you know - it could just be an excuse. Cause he should just think. What if you cheated on him and was like,"Oh. I was drunk. Sorry." Yeah, I think he'd be mad. So. Dump his cheating butt. I hope I helped.
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If this was my boyfriend, and this was the first time it happend I would forgive him. But I would make it very clear to him that if it ever happened again our relationship would be over. You should talk to him and explain that even though he is sorry, it still really hurts and that now it will take sometime for you to bulid up trust again. So give him another chance and give him the chance to make things right again.
Love,
Kate
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oh man.. well i really don't think being drunk is an excuse for that.. i mean yeah you forget things but if he really wanted to he could control himself. you could give him another chance but idk i think he might have just gotten drunk to hanve an excuse.. guess do that. its really up to you.. <3
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When guys really love girls they do things for them. They'll buy gifts for you occasionly to show they're thinking about you, they'll hold open doors, they'll wait intill they know your ready to do things with them because they don't want to loose you, they don't look at other girls because all they can think about is you, and they talk to you daily because they're crazy about you and can't stand to go a day without hearing your voice. If he doesn't do even two of these things he doesn't really love you like he says he does, so leave him. But talk to him before you do anything and ask him if he really does love you, why he did that, and if he knew that girl he did that to.
Hope I helped.
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Wow this is a really tough problem that you have. I forgive people a lot, but in situations like this I don't think I could go out with someone knowing that he cheated on me. And the fact that he got so drunk and he didn't know what he was doing shows he has no self control and I think a guy needs self control because I wouldn't want my boyfriend at parties without me drinking and doing stuff with other girls. I would definitely talk to him about it. You should probably forgive him if you're a forgiving person but you have 2 options. 1. You could give him a second chance. If this is the first time hes ever cheated on you give him 1 more chance to redeem himself but if he does it one more time you should dump his ass. or choice 2. If you feel that hes just going to keep doing this to you and cheating then theres no purpose of a second chance you could just dump him now. I'm a nice person I would give him a 2nd chance but I only give people one more chance if he even kissed another girl then he would be gone in my book. But if hes the type of guy that has cheated on ALL of his past girlfriend then you should dump him now. I don't know him so I'm not sure if hes a good guy. If hes known for cheating on girls then please get him out of your life now he'll only cause trouble. But if hes a really good guy that has a good reputation and he has a goal in life and doesnt do drugs or bad stuff, then maybe it was just a mistake. You have to make the right descision, and don't be afriad to dump him because theres plenty more guys that would treat you better. Best of luck to you.
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So did you go to the party with him? I'm kind of confused. Did you watch that happen or did you hear it from him?
I guess it depends on how much alcohol he can take.
You could forgive him, but next time.. you keep an eye on him in a party and only let him have one drink. If he cheats again, then he's not worth being with. He should control his actions and how much alcohol he has.
If you don't feel right being with him then break up.
But maybe you should forgive him and see how things go from there. When a party comes up, that's his real test. If you're not going to go then ask a friend to, to watch what he's up to.
It's really your decision and how you feel being with him.
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Talk it out with him. I would forgive him, but as far as going out with him, ehh...that's your call. I wouldn't. You can still be friends, but it seems like he might need some time to think about what happend. Who is to say it won't happen again? Let him go for a bit. If after a while you feel things will get better or already have, then give it another go. So yes, forgive him, but (unless you really don't want to) call things off. By the way, what he did doesn't sound like loving you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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