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Hum.His Ex-girlfriend?

I don't know what to think. My boyfriend broke up with his Ex-girlfriend a few weeks ago..but they are still friends and they are going to Germany for 3 weeks together in about a few days[They planned the trip ahead of time]. They went out for a year and a half. The other night he dropped me off and went over to her house to hangout with her at like 11pm??And they are basically best friends i guess.I don't know what to think. DO you think he still has feelings for her. And he still wears the rings that they had together.[They symbolized promise to get married one day]??
Help please.

P.S he ended their 1year and a half relationship because he wanted to go out with me so I would think that he'd be over her by now.

Anyone?

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little more than a week. He has all his trust in me, (about flirting,etc.)but the thing is, I don't have many guy friends. And I'm guessing that's why he's not worried about me. Now on the other hand, he has a bunch of female friends, and he went out with like, more than half of them, and because we don't go to the same school, it kind of makes me a little paranoid. We got into an argument yesterday about the whole trust issue, and he keeps telling me I'm paranoid. I do trust him, I really do, but I'm normally paranoid about these kinds of things anyway. Is there any way that anyone could help me out on this whole thing? Thanks in advance.

Ok, for one thing trust is not something that you can just have for someone. You have to build trust. And I'm pretty sure that it takes more than a week. So don't worry about it. You probably are paranoid and you have reason to be. You've only been going out for a week. Just keep it to yourself and you won't fight as much about the whol trust issue.

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Hey Guys!
I really need a homecomeing fress under 75 dollars.
If you could answer before tamrrow night that would be great.
I really eith want a cute black dress that goes past my knees or one that fairly light colored like light pink or blue. What do you guys think any suggestions.
I'm going shopping tomarrow night.
Here a picture of me if it helps:http://i11.tinypic.com/33o45g3.jpg

Also, i kind of a large tummy and thighs so anything that covers that would be best.

Thanks so much!

I got my homecoming dress from JCPenny and it was only 40 dollars. It's really cute. Maybe you should try JCpenny or Dillars

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13/f
ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..

me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--

im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do??

Don't worry about it, he was probably in a bad mood. Plus your'e like 13 no need to get all flustered over this. Go read a book or something.

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i was just wondering...
this might be awkward, but do guys prefer a girl with a shaved pussy or unshaved pussy
thanks

So many guys have different opinions. If you are going steady with a guy then you should ask him what he likes. If you aren't steady then do whatever feels comfortable to you.

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ok me and my bf have been goin out for some time now and like he wants to finger me but ive never had that done before i mean i want to but im a lil nerveous like what do guys do when they are fingering you? and like should i shave down there or no? do i like wipe myself before he does it? i need all the help i can get
thanks

When a guy fingers you he just puts his finger in your hole repeatedly. Some guys prefer different things when it comes to shaved or not shaved. Perhaps you should ask your boyfriend what he wants. You might not have time to wipe down there if he decides to do something while in foreplay or something.

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i have itunes right now and im spending so much money

i wanted to download limewire instead...but im scared about getting a virus from it!
idk what to do

a really long time ago i downloaded something like limewire called KAAZA or something, and i got soo much spyware from that

any suggestions???? THANKS!!

Make sure you have good virus scanners and such. My computer has Antivir, Spybot and Ad- Aware . I didn't have it before and I downloaded something that crashed my computer. So please make sure your computer is protected before you use limewire.

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back in april me and my boyfriend of a year and 3months went on a break for personal issues, we decided to be fully back togehter in teh summer. plans changed and one day he told me he didnt love me and had a girlfriend, who lived in LA (we live in Sanjose). It broke my heart and we parted ways and i pleaded for a second chance. we both left with alot of hatred towards eachother, and just recently, he contacted me. He texted me and asked if i wanted to hang out, i plan on seeing him this thursday night when he drives me home from SAT class. He said he texted me becuase he missed me, and wasnt sure exactly why he suddenly missed me. He says there is ' just something about me'. Now whether that is BS i dont know. I dont want to fall again for false hope. But it is odd that he asks to hang out, considering he refuses to be friends with any of his ex-girlfriends.

I'm not sure what to do. I know i shouldnt expect anything, but his contacting me out of the blue has really confused me. I wonder if hes just calling me up becuase hes lonely and things didnt work out with other girls he liked. I need help. I am not sure if i should never go back to him, or to see where this may go, and just take it a day at a time. I have no idea what to do..please help.

I'm thinkin that things probably didn't go as well as he thought they were gonna go with the other girl.You should still hang out with him..it's worth a shot. But be cautious. It's likely that he's looking for someone to fall back on because he is lonely. I think you should go with ur intuition. If you feel that he is playing you than break it off or ask him what his motives are all of the sudden. Best of luck with it.

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I am 21 and just recently lost my virginity. About ten minutes after we had sex I started my period. Is this normal? I normally start the first of each month and I already had my period for this month, I had sex on the 24th.

Many girls bleed after having sex but having their period after may just be triggered by sex itself. I would suggest going to the doctor.

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At this point in my life, I'm in love with a man living in another country, actually, an other continent. I probably shouldn't call him a man, since we're both just 17, but I hope you'll still take this question seriously.

We met once, and he was completely into me. He took all the initiative, he was the one calling and e-mailing, and sending gifts when we parted. Basically, he seemed far more interested of me than I was of him. But then -- we met once more. And suddenly it all changed. This time, when we parted, he had "no time" at all. E-mails, which were at first coming frequently, now only come once a month. He's stopped calling completely. And now I'm the one chasing him. What changed? Why does this ALWAYS happen to me? I always get admirers who would do ANYTHING (seriously) to get me, but after a while..I become the chaser. I become the bunny-boiler (not really, but you get the picture..I become the one obsessing and trying to make things happen)

I'm seriously sick of always getting to the first stage of a relationship, but never actually getting one. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem.

Answers will be appreciated.
Thank you.

From what I a reading it seems like you play "Hard to get". Eventually your lover is going to get fed up with the game. And when you are finally tired of keeping up the "act", you have all ready lost them.You should return the favor sometime and show them how much you like them also. That way both of you are on the same track!!
Hope I helped.

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My situation is quite confusing. I'll start from the beginning. I'm 17 years old...and will be 18 in 13 days. I developed feelings for a guy at work over this past summer. He is 24. Keep in mind, I am a virgin and plan on staying that way for a long, long time...and he knows this.

He always treats me with kindess and respect...and has the ability to put a smile on my face no matter what. He is the ideal guy for me. Well, I am terrible at keeping things a secret. Apparently, I made my crush a little too obvious.

When he found out that I like him, he completely shut me out. I can't even go near him. It's as if I'm invisible. I thought he was mad at me. I asked someone if he was, and they said that I flustered him. That isn't exactly a good thing. Basically, he's going to stay away until he's comfortable around me...especially because he's afraid to lead me on.

What do I do? What does this mean? How do I fix this? Even if I don't have a chance romantically, I need to know how to fix our friendship. I've known him for over a year and for him to completely shut me out like this...it's killing me.

I'm in desperate need of help. Please, any advice you have means the world to me. Thank you in advance

I would suggest that you steer clear of him as well. Let him have his space or things will get worse.He obviously cares about you enough if he is making an effort to not lead you on. Just give him some time to clear his thoughts. In the mean time you can focus your thoughts on something different...Cakecheckers if you want to talk.

Hope I helped. :D

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So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.

Ok here's my brilliant answer.. You shoudn't stay with him.

Don't let him blame it on Alcohol. The fact is that he was fingering some other chick and making out with her. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and he gets drunk almost every weekend, but in his conscious he would never do anything.If he really loved you he wouldn't have gone that far. And another fact is that he didn't get so "drunk" that he completely forgot you.. he chose to forget you.And in the case that it was true that he did get so drunk, he would probably be in the hospital right now.I think that you should definately break it off.If you forgive him it will happen again and again. But if you do chose to stick with him, keep a close eye on him. And try to make sure you are there with him. BTW is this the first time he's done it. Because maybe if he notices how mad you are and disappointed you are from this incident he won't do it again. Then you will know that he truley does love you, because he is making the effort.

I hope I helped

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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?

Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you?

You should kiss him if you really want to. LOL it took me two months to kiss me current boyfriend. So go for it!!!

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hi...ive recently jus started goin out with this guy, and i realli love him.
the problem is .. he isnt the type of guy (looks wise) i wudda gone for .. the only reason im goin out with him is because of his personality and caring side...is this stupid?

You should go out with whoever you want.You should be going out with him for his personality anyways :/..Maybe you are just suprising yourself for not being shallow.

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Whenever I shave my legs I always get cuts. So I tried using shaving cream but that only irritated them, and now I have little red dots everywhere! So what are some good razors that I can use, that aren't exspensive, to have smooth legs? And nair is out of the question. Thanks in advance.

You could try cutting your legs more carefully. Or Maybe you are allergic to shaving cream you are using. Also sometimes if you go to the beach right after shaving red bumps will appear on your legs. Because of the salt water...

Hope I helped.

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i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd.

You should cherish being pure.Don't be in a rush to get a real boyfriend.I'm 17 and I didn't get a real boyfriend until i turned 16 and I'm happy for it because I love him. Waiting for the right guy is the best thing you should do. Please don't be in a rush for disappointment!

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okay something has really been bugging me lately. i always, always feel like i'm invisible. it's like this .. whenever i'm hanging with one of my friends and other people come along, i turn invisible. people leave me out of their conversations all the time. i feel like i'm just a substitute person or something; like, i feel that most people hang out with me until someone "better" comes along. and you wouldn't believe how many times people have said to me "omg i'm so sorry i forgot about you!" people i've met either forget my name or forget me altogether and when i say hi they're like "do i know you?" it seems to happen alot. and guys always ignore me, even though people say i'm pretty, and i know i'm really not unattractive. i really don't see what's going on, i'm nice to everyone and i would never do that to anyone, but it seems like the mean people who ditch other people have more people talking to them and everyone wants to hang around with them. and i have a lot of friends, but i wonder why it always seems to happen to me. maybe i'm just not agressive enough, who knows? but i really need help on this one, like advice on how to become more noticed and less invisible. thnx.

You should make yourself known. In a good way. When people have conversation contribute to them.Don't let people ignore you. Make sure you make yourself interesting and have conversations that relate to their likes. Or maybe you just need to get better friends.Hope i was helpful

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ok... so im confused... well i've been treated like pure shit when it comes to boyfriends... they all start out amazing but end terribly... i no alot of relationships end badly but this is pretty ridiculous... my last one we were dating for like 5 months... the day he left for vacation he told me he loved me... 9 days later when he got back from mexico he broke up w/ me... he really didnt have a reason... and i havent done anything to make him all of the sudden want to break up.... the only thing he said is he was going into highschool (i already go to the highschool) and it is going to be cross country season (which i thought was a poor excuse becasue i play tennis)... well i know you dont want to read alot.... but seriously i want to talk to some people (ill tell you about myself so maybe you can help me understand y this keeps happening) but basically i really dont understand and im confused becasue i dont know y some guys are like this.. i told myself that they were just stupid and made a mistake... hopfully u can tell me... but before you do i think you need to know about me.... so please respond and ill tell you about me

Hey yeah you sound really confused. I'll help you if I can. Does seem like your ex's are kinda dull in the brain.

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I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I suppose to everyone else he's a dog- thats just what I've been told, but it was never the most important thing to me. He has the best personality and he's hilarious. My problem is, I've started fantasizing a lot, and I know its ok to do sometimes, that its normal and all, but I can't stop. I can't stop wishing he had a hot body like some of our friends. When those friends are around, I find myself flirting shamelessly because I'm just overcome with lust! He's said he's going to start working out and that he wants to get fit, be more attractive physically, but he's not very motivated. I want to stop fantasizing- it makes me feel so guilty! I'm starting to pull away from his affection because I can't help but notice his love handles or spare tire or whatever. My body is less than perfect, but its not that bad because I work out and take care of it. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? How do people deal with these feelings???

If you loved him you would love him for everything he is...even his love handles or spare tire. If you have been in a relationship with him for 3 years now you really should have gotten past this fantasizing point. But i don't see what harm it can do as long as you don't actual act upon your fantasy's[whatever they may be]..unless they include him. Hope I helped

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Hi, I have this best friend that told me he was gay when I was 10. It like really freaked me out. But it's been 4 years and I'm cool with it then all of a sudden just out of the blue he tries to kiss me while we are riding the ferris wheel. I really need advice on what to tell him. I like him but I like him only as a brother and I just found out that he had got into a fight with my boyfriend just the other day. I really really need some help. I'm desperate. I want him as a friend but I don't want to hurt his feelings of being let down. Please.

Maybe he's just bisexual!!!!...I was being sincere in saying that. There's nothing wrong. Just approach him and tell him how you feel about your friendship. tell him that you don't want to ruin it and you would like to be just friends[if you want to keep it that way].If he is a good friend he should understand that you are only trying to save the relationship that you too have as friends.

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