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okay something has really been bugging me lately. i always, always feel like i'm invisible. it's like this .. whenever i'm hanging with one of my friends and other people come along, i turn invisible. people leave me out of their conversations all the time. i feel like i'm just a substitute person or something; like, i feel that most people hang out with me until someone "better" comes along. and you wouldn't believe how many times people have said to me "omg i'm so sorry i forgot about you!" people i've met either forget my name or forget me altogether and when i say hi they're like "do i know you?" it seems to happen alot. and guys always ignore me, even though people say i'm pretty, and i know i'm really not unattractive. i really don't see what's going on, i'm nice to everyone and i would never do that to anyone, but it seems like the mean people who ditch other people have more people talking to them and everyone wants to hang around with them. and i have a lot of friends, but i wonder why it always seems to happen to me. maybe i'm just not agressive enough, who knows? but i really need help on this one, like advice on how to become more noticed and less invisible. thnx.
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I have the exact same problem. Confidence is all you need. Instead of standing around, listening to everyone else talk, start a conversation yourself. It's alright to make a scene every now & then. You want people to notice you. It's a good thing. [:
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To make more friends and to become a more interesting person you should join a team. There are so many activities you could join, like basketball, volleyball, soccer, cheerleading, sutdent council, etc. This would help because joining a team would introduce you to people who have the same interests as you, which would give you something to talk about.
Another thing you could do is when you are in a conversation with a few people, instead of just letting them all talk, be aggressive and when a topic comes up that you like to talk about, get into it. Even if they are talking about something your not too fond of, you still will have alot to say about it, and you could slowly move the topic towards something you like.
For example, lets say you and about 4 friends are talking, and they are in a conversation about an author that you don't really like. Join in by saying something like, "Oh, you like that author/book?" and then to switch the topic to something you like, say something like, "Well, he/she isn't my favorite author, i actually like this author better."
Also, this might sound artificial, but playing up your appearance makes you seem more interesting. Try starting a new trend, trying new makeup colors, and maybe cut your hair differently. It's better to stand out than in.
Compliment people. When your walking down the hall, and you see someone wearing a hairstyle, clothing item, etc. that you like, tell them. Compliments always lead to conversation in the future.
I hope i helped!
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You should make yourself known. In a good way. When people have conversation contribute to them.Don't let people ignore you. Make sure you make yourself interesting and have conversations that relate to their likes. Or maybe you just need to get better friends.Hope i was helpful
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Well, first of all, there are times when we all feel "invisible" or "ignored". If you don't like it, change it. I know sometimes that's easier said than done, but you can do it. You have to have self confidence. When you are confident (not cocky) and show it/believe it, others will too. This is the perfect time to really open up and become more vocal and outgoing around others. With the new school year quickly approaching, take advantage of becoming active in more groups and clubs at school--run for something. This will allow you to become more well known and involved. (Plus it looks good for college!) Another thing to try: tell stories. When someone brings up a topic about something, try telling a story about it. For example, if someone talks about a banana, you may have a story about one time you slipped and fell. People will laugh. They'll remember. Just be you. Yes, there are some people that blow others off and mistreat people, but I am sure you are start enough to know who your real friends are. People who "ditch" you when something better "comes along" aren't worth your time. Your integrity and who are you are your most price possesions. Be silly, be free, be you. Attract attention to yourself--not negative kind though. Once you do this, people will take notice on their own. Continue being nice. It goes a long way in the long run. And next time you feel down or ignored make a change. If you lack confidence, pamper yourself--and try putting sticky notes with positive messages on your mirrors. :)
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Either ditch the friends or become noticable! When someone forgets your name go " DUH IT'S ME, __________" Shout it like really loud. I am sure they won't forget you. And when people ditch you, but right back in and say " UH! YOU FORGOT ME!!! " ....I thnk they forget you cause you don't talk enough. Talk more, share jokes...talk about girly stuff! Be the best you can be if this advice doesn't work. Mail me privately...
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I know how you feel. And trust me, it effing sucks.
Well, this is what you gotta do:
Speak up...Talk louder. I normally got left out because I was so quiet.
If you want guys to notice you and stop being little faggots and ignoring you then flirt. They'll notice you and you'll probably make friends with a lot of the guys. Maybe they are intimidated. That happens to a lot of the pretty girls...well that's what everyone says. Guys are too nervous to talk to them I guess.
If someone can actually forget your name then screw them. Next time someone asks you that just go, "YO MOTHA!" and run away. They are too selfish for you to waste your time on them.
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